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My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
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Hun, if you do not want to do that, then just don't do it. If your boyfriend is caring enough (which I hope he is) then he will deffinatly understand. You shouldn't be pressured into having sex, if you do tell him your not ready for that yet. I'm sure he'll still be there afterwards. Don't worry hun, you'll be fine. Tell me how it works out. =]
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i think if he's a good boyfriend.. he would respect if you did/didn't want to have sex.
tell him how YOU feel.
don't let him hear what you don't want.
if he loves you and what not..
he wouldn't pressure you
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Talk to him about this. If you don't want to have sex, or if you're not ready to, tell him that. If he still keeps pushing the idea on you, dump him. If he loved you, he'd respect you & your decisions.
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Simply put, if he loved you, it wouldn't matter if you had sex with him or not. He'll respect your decision no matter what if he's a worthy boyfriend.
It doesn't seem like your 100% sure you're ready for it since you didn't explain that in your question. So yeah. Trust me, sex is worth waiting for.
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If you're not ready for sex and he is, then you need to talk to him about it, and explain to him why you're not ready and that he should respect your wishes. If he doesn't, then you don't need him in your life. You should wait until you are comfortable with who your having sex with and you shouldn't give him to him just because you don't want to lose him. You're better then that I'm sure, you shouldn't have to have sex with someone just so they stay with you. If that's the case.. all he's looking for is "some". If you are comfortable with him and you don't have to question yourself then you know you're ready to have sex with him, but if you have to double ask yourself (basicly like you are now) then that should be a sign right there, that having sex with him is a wrong idea (at this time) and you should hold out and until you are really ready and comfortable. Good luck, hope this helped.
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Wait for the one who will wait for you.
If he loved you he'd wait. If he pressures you leave him. Even if you "love" him. If you're not ready don't do it. If he's right for you he'll understand.
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Plain and simple, if your boyfriend TRUELY loves you he's not going to pressure you into sex and he will wait until YOU are ready. If he says well if you don't have sex with me then you don't love me DON'T YOU DARE FALL FOR THAT SHIT! It's allll bullshit.
If he loves you, he will wait for you and not pressure you. If he does, you know he's just in it for the sex, and I can bet you if he's in it just for that he will dump you. It's happened to me plenty of times.
But please, do not let him force you or guilt you in anyway into having sex with him.
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If you'll have sex with him just because you don't want to lose him, that's a BAD IDEA. If you're ready, that's perfectly fine. But if you're doing it just because, not a good foundation for the relationship.
If he can't like/love you for who you are without trying to get in your pants, that's not the type of guy you want. Because it is possible to lose him either way. Consider this:
You give it up, he dumps you.
You don't give it up, he dumps you.
If you can honestly put your trust in him, go for it.
But believe me, I've been put in this situation before. And yes, I do realize that this puts a TON of pressure on you. But you can't let him (or your body!) make the decisions for you.
Also, you don't list your age. So, ESPECIALLY if you're under 16, I wouldn't even be considering ANYTHING.
(And I'm not condoning pre-marital sex)
I hope this puts things into perspective,
Jess♥
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you should maybe talk to him about it because your not ready for sex and you shouldn't have it just because he wants to and he should understand beucase other wise he wouldn't be a very good boyfriend to you and if he is going to break up with you for that you have to think...
does he want love or sex?
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Do you want to have sex with him? You sort of sound like a virgin from the way you put that. Explain to him your situation and how much you care about him. If he's decent enough to be your boyfriend, he'll understand.
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do what you want to.
if you dont want to
dont do it.
and if you think youre going to lose him by saying no... hes not worth it.
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