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Hi everyone,
im so frustrated and sad. I can't stand my mom anymore. she treats me like a little girl. Like i cant take care of myself. My mom doesnt trust me. she never wants to let me go out. I have a boyfriend. She thinks im just going to go out and have sex. Im so sick and tired of it. Im not stupid I know what the concequences would be. Its all because my sister got pregnat when she was 17. Im 16. How can i make her understant. I cant talk to her anymore. All we do is fight. PLEASE HELP. I TRIED TALKING TO HER BUT DIDNT WORK =(
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I absolutely understand. My mother is the same way. My cousin had a baby at 16, & even though he's the love of my life [and not my child], my mom thinks I'll end up the same, even though I told her I wouldn't.
I would love to tell you to rebel against your mother & do what makes you happy, but that could probably get me & you into trouble. Me with advicenators, & you with your mother, so that's not my goal.
However, even if you've tried talking to her, was it calm & collected or was it chaotic & arguing? The way you talk to your mother depends on the answer & outcome of the problem. I found that if I talked to my mother about things calmly instead of letting my temper get the best of me, I'd end up getting what I wanted, not to mention a happy mother who has no complaints. ;]
If your mother doesn't loosen up, you may just have to accept her rules & follow them. I realize you're not your sister, but your mother is still worrying, and do you blame her? It's not fair to you, yes, but you'll have to deal if talking in a new way doesn't work out. If it does work out, keep discussing things that way. I hope things work, so let me know how it goes. Good luck.
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Your Mum is just being over-protective because she doesn't want you to end up pregnant like your sister. From her point of view it is completely understandable, from your side, however, it is unfair. Your Mum is only doing what she thinks is in your best interests and as a Mum I know how difficult it is to let go and trust your children. Just for the moment it might be wise to accept her limitations but do continue to point out that you are not your sister. The more your Mum can see you have a mind of your own, the more she will relent and loosen the reigns. You will not be 15 forever and things change all the time. Try to understand your Mum and rather than shout to make yourself heard, try talking in a mature, level voice if discussing the issues of boyfriends/sex/dating etc. Continue to reassure her that you are not looking to get pregnant because you want a different future for yourself. She will get there eventually as long as you remain true to yourself. Good luck.
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My mom is exactly the same. My brother got so depressed from the internet and now my mom won't trsut me. Unfortunetaly there's nothing you can do but wiat till you 17 and prove her wrong! Tell her your not your sister and if she doesn't trust you then she'll just have to worry because your not breaking up with your boyfriend just because she thinks your not sensible enough to learn from other peoples mistakes! I hope I helped I understand where your coming from. =)
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