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Hello advicenators,
I am going to be buying a "new used" car pretty soon. I got a new job recently and I will be able to afford the payments. Im looking to spend somewhere in the $18-25,000 range. I don't want to buy something I'll regret with that amount of money. I have never bought from a dealership before.
What are some tips? What are some things I should look out for (Any salesmen tricks I should be wary of, or extra things that I shouldn't be paying for?) I'm a girl in my 20s that knows pretty much nothing about cars (other than how to fill up oil and change a tire-the basics) and I totally expect to be taken advantage of when it comes to cars. I'm not stupid but there's a lot of car stuff I don't know.
So anything helps, really. I'm going to do some test drives this weekend. I've researched and decided on a couple of different makes and models based on extensive internet searches and reviews. I would like to be prepared before I go.
Thank you!
There are a few things you should do before you go to a dealership to buy a car.
The computer age has made car buying a lot easier for everyone. You can look at every car that you are interested in, get the facts on the car such as EPA mileage rating and other things that may interest you before setting foot in a dealership.
Then when you have narrowed your choices you can use their website to build the car you want on the computer. This will give you the manufacturers suggested retail price for the car you want. Then going to another website such as Edmunds new car buyers guide you can come up with what a reasonable price for that car would be. Here is a link to Edmunds website:http://www.carpricesecrets.com/?mkwid=YCUoYV1I&pcrid=3826612528&pmt=e&pkw=edmunds%20new%20car%20prices&pse=bing
Print out the car that you built on the web along with the pricing you came up with from the pricing list from Edmonds to take with you. You're now ready to go to a dealership and make a deal. It may help to take your father or a boy friend with you though you can do this yourself.
The dealers wants to sell you a car they have on the lot. Most of those cars will be fully loaded with all the accessories for that models. They may or may not be what you want so stick to your guns when they try to price you into something with more than what you are looking for. The dealer makes most of their profit of the accessories. This also means they can deal more on a car that has more accessories.
Most important is not to seem to anxious to get a car. Remember there are other dealers you can go to so if they don't have the car you want or if they won't mark down the car to a price you think is reasonable based on your research. Say thank you for their time and get up and walk to the door.
When I purchased my first car I did so in this manner. At the first dealership they would not make a deal for the price I wanted to pay so I got up to leave. The salesman followed me to the door. Between his desk and the door he came down an additional $1,000. I left anyway even though he was now where I was comfortable paying for that car. My reason; he should have made his best offer at his desk not waited until the deal was walking out the door.
I did buy a car that day at a dealership down the street. It was not the same manufacturer it was a second choice. Their salesman gave me the respect I felt I deserved and worked with me to get a price I was comfortable with.
One other thing you should do before you head out to the dealership. If you intend to finance the car which you appear to want to do. Go to your bank and get pre approved for the financing. Tell the salesman you have pre approved financing with your bank, just don't tell the salesman how much you're approved for at the beginning as they will work to that number.
The dealer will want to finance the car for you and that is fine. Let them try if they offer you a better interest rate which will give you a lower payment then you finance through the dealer. Having financing in hand makes you a qualified buyer and they will be more interested from the start to make you a customer.
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I'm straight but I love masturbating with lesbian porn. Ive always wanted to do things with a girl but idk if its normal and idk if any girls my age feel.this way.
Relax your normal. At your present age it is totally normal to have these fantasies. IF you were a lesbian you would have been born that way and would have known and had lesbian feelings long before you hit puberty. No one just wakes up one morning and says "Hey I'm gay," it just doesn't work that way.
What is happening you and millions of other girls (and boys too) just like you are exploring their sexuality. Many boys and girls your age have their first sexual experience with someone of the same sex; why? Because it is safer and who knows your body better than someone who has a body just like yours.
IT's sex with training wheels. No intercourse of any type takes place. It is more touchy feely to see what it is like to be touched by someone else. Like I said relax your normal enjoy finding out about your sexuality. Just hold off on the real thing until your much older and more mature.
So i just cant stand my boyfriends sister she is a huge bitch and always tries to break us up every chance she gets
She is always getting into our business and always calls him with her stupid problems when me and him are hanging out
I love my bf but i can not stand when he mentions her name or picks up her call when we are doing something
I cant say specifically why i hate her because its too long of a story but she is an evil bitch and i just need advice on what to do cause she is the reason me and my bf argue alot
Boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives are a package deal. They come with mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers and a host of extended family that you have to interact with.
Even if I knew this young lady I would be hard pressed to tell you why she is the way she is. It may not be you per say but the fact that you monopolize time that would otherwise be spent with her. There is a lot of needed information missing from your question to even hazard a guess as to the why but the one I gave is the most popular of the reasons.
If his is a close knit family and she has become use to doing things with her brother than you are the interloper. Depending on how much younger she is what you have said is how younger siblings react when the older siblings no longer make time for them.
What can you do about this. Try to get to know her. If this guy looks like husband material then I suggest you make time for one on one with just you and her. Take her shopping or so something together that she likes. Let her know you are not trying to take her brother away from her. That it is just possible you will become part of the family and you want to be her big sister as well as her friend. Someone else that she can come to when she needs to besides her big brother.
One other thing you and your boyfriend can do is make time to do things as a threesome. You him and the little sister. Doing something she would enjoy.
Doing these things should help her see you in a whole new light. The biggest thing is to communicate both in words and actions that you are not a threat to the relationship she has with her brother.
My best friend thinks she's fat and ugly and I don't know how to tell her that she's not. Sure, she's a bit overweight and she's not the prettiest person I know, but I wouldn't call her ugly. She always asks me for the truth if she's ugly or not and I say she's not, but she doesn't believe me. Please give me a way to tell her properly about her looks without hurting her feelings!
The hardest thing to do is to answer the question you are being asked. In general terms you are either going to be accused of lying or being hurtful. This is a no win situation for you.
Without knowing your friend; I would say her biggest problem is one of low self-esteem. We are what we are. We can make it better by accepting who and what we are, to a certain extent. Meaning there are some things we cannot change and there are some things we can improve upon such as our education and work habits.
When it comes to our looks. We can control weight through proper diet and exercise. For women more than men there looks can be accentuated with proper clothing, hair styles and makeup.
In reality though our looks are just an outer wrapper to the package of our body. This wrapping in no way truly reflects who we are. Guys, especially young guys, look at the package, hoping to latch on to someone that looks like a cover girl thinking he is going to get a sex fiend. Fact is this usually not true and they end up disappointed or they get what they want and they are still disappointed because she has nothing between her ears.
There is though a happy medium and it starts with, especially women, having a good self-esteem. This is where I would start with answering your friends question.
I would say something to the effect like: "Shelly you are really a beautiful person. If you just had more inner beauty, more confidence in who you are. The outer beauty you have would come through. "Yes you could stand to lose a few pounds but that has to be up to you to do for yourself and will come easier when you feel better about yourself.
Now this is the part where you know her better than I could possibly know her. Though if she has low self-esteem then I would guess she does not take many pains with her appearance. Suggest to her that a new hair style and more stylish clothing would go a long way in improving her appearance. Stylish clothing does not have to be expensive designer brands. They can come for Wall-Mat or Kohl's as long as they fit good fit good are clean and well kept.
As I said not knowing your friend but if asked this question this is the approach I would most likely take if asked this question. I hope this helps.
Has anyone here had any luck with Aetna as far as getting claims paid and just dealing with them in general? I am having some issues and I want to change insurance companies but I don't know how, and they aren't likely to help me. Thanks if you can help!
Dealing with insurance companies in general is or can be a problem. Changing insurance companies should not be a problem unless you are considered a risk for some reason. I would need to know more about the problem you're having with both the claim being paid and why you are having a hard time changing insurance companies.
I have Erie insurance for both my home and car insurance. They have been absolutely fantastic. Two years ago I loaned my son my car as his needed some repairs. He was stopped on the highway while a wreck further up the road was being cleared. Some young lady was paying more attention to her IPhone then her driving and ran into the back of him. Fortunately he was not seriously hurt. My car though was totaled.
That happened on a Saturday night. On Sunday morning I started the insurance claim on Erie website figuring I would hear from them on Monday. Within the hour of completing the claim for someone from Erie called me wanting to know what help I needed and if my son was okay or if he needed further medical help. Being Sunday a rental car was not available I was told to use taxis and save the receipts if I need to go any place. Bright and early Monday morning a rental car was at my door. The Wednesday I had a check for the full value of my car plus the new tires I had just put on, the full tank of gas and the taxes on the value of the car.
To say I was surprised at the speed of the claim service would be an understatement. If you're looking for a new insurance company I highly recommend you find an agent for Erie to speak with.
I have never had a job before and I've filled out many job applications, but no one has given me a call. I prefer to have a job thats close to where I live, but I think I'm not getting hired because I have no experience. I don't know what to put down for "work experience". Do I need a resume even though I don't have experience?
It cost employers a lot of money to train someone to work for them. This is why they want to see some type of work experience, even if it does not fit the job you are applying for.
Volunteer work is work experience. On most job applications there is usually room include this information. Even if you do not have work experience using a resume to hand out is helpful. The resume is a professional piece that even when lacking in information on experience says a lot about you and your professionalism. MS word has a number of templates for different resume or you can use a resume service.
Whatever you do not lie about work experience for you will be found out and that lie will follow you for a very long time. Employers beyond anything else are looking for honesty. Once caught in a lie or deceptive practice it will be hard to shake that lie in the future.
On your resume make sure to list any and all volunteer or community service work you have done along with a very short description of that work. Brevity is important. Remember the employer is going to be looking at hundreds of applications for every job.
hello! sometimes i hear people talk about having a bachelors degree and i know it has something to do with school but i thought a bachelor was a guy who doesnt get a wife? can someone explain since the google just made me more confused than before. :(
This is a good question. You are correct in what you have written in that Bachelor means someone who is single. The same holds true in college degrees.
If you graduate from a community college with a two year degree you receive an:
"Associates Degree"
Graduating from a four year college or university
You receive an undergraduate:
"Bachelors Degree: A singular degree
IF you go on to a Graduate Schools you can receive both a
"Masters Degree" and or a PHD (known as a doctorate degree)
What does it mean when you have a real achy pain in your back, about in the middle? Anyone ever have this before?
We are not doctors so we cannot make a diagnoses for you. Even if we were doctors without diagnostic x-rays, a CT or MRI and the ability to palpate the area it is impossible to make a diagnoses.
The problem could range from anything like a pulled muscle to a slipped or crushed disc in your spine. For a pulled muscle the treatment is generally, depending on how bad the injury, an anti-inflammatory such as Motrin and a Muscle relaxer. Possibly physical therapy as well. For a slipped disc the same medications plus a painkiller and physical therapy in hopes to reposition the slip disc. For the crushed disc and possibly the slipped disc surgical repair is also a possible.
IF you're in great pain then I recommend you see your doctor or go to one of the walk-in clinics for medical advice.
I have been crossdressing for a number of years now. Two years ago I started going out dressed female for the sole purpose of finding a guy that I could give oral sex to. This was and still is something that turns me on so much. Since that first time out I have given 6 guys oral sex. Four of these six guys were just a one time thing and the other two I did it for them multiple times. It dawned on me one day that while I love giving the guys oral sex while I was dressed female that there would be no way I could do that dressed as a guy. I have no idea why this is but a girl I know thinks that I may unknowingly want to be a female full time and that I should try to find a steady guy in my life and transition to a full time female.
I don't know enough about the subject to give you any really good advice. What I think is you know what you want but are unsure because of the labels that might be affixed.
The little I know about the subject says you do not have to dress as a women to be gay. But to be transgender you would be more comfortable in the clothing of the opposite sex. Being transgendered does not mean your gay. It means you feel like you're of one sex trapped in the body of the opposite sex.
That's about all I know on this subject. Do you have to put a label on yourself. Only if it makes you feel better; I don't see any real reason other than that for labels.
I am going to suggest that since you seem a bit confused that you seek out a psychologist who is current in this subject. Possibly one that works with those who seek gender reassignment. You could also seek the help of a sexologist which is a psychologist who practices in sexual problems. Either one should be able to help you understand your sexuality.
For what it is worth I think your are transgender. In the end though whatever label you decide to put on yourself that is who you are and you should enjoy your sexuality and who you are. For this is the way your were born not something you woke up one day and decided to be. You're not ill or weird, strange or anything else. You are you and you should enjoy being you.
So I'm 15 and I want to be pregnant... I don't know what to do...btw I'm single. For the past couple months I've wanted to have a baby... I need some advice! Please help!!!
I don't think you will find anyone who will support your desire or give you advice on having a baby at your present age. I also think we all understand your desire as a normal hormonal desire of a young girls your age. Fact is while your hormones may be screaming at you one thing. Reality is telling you just the opposite.
There was a time when a woman 15 was having babies and considered a spinster if not married by 16. At that time 15 years of age is todays 30 or 40 years of age. Modern medicine keeps us healthy and alive much longer than our ancestors lived and those times where very much different than today.
At your present age you have not finished high school and college is still a distant dream. Today a high school diploma might get you a job at a fast food restaurant or waiting tables at some greasy spoon restaurant. You would be hard pressed to support yourself let alone you and a child working those kinds of jobs.
Actuarially speaking, which is your statistical life span, you should live well into your eighties or early nineties. Women today are able to conceive children well into their forties and some into their fifties. Meaning you have many years to have a child.
Having a baby is truly a bundle of joy. Though that bundle of joy is totally dependent on you for all of its needs and those needs grow expediently as grows from infant to child to teenager and finally to an adult.
Think about what your parent provide for you and what you demand of your parents. Yes demand for children unknowingly make many demands on their parents that are the parents responsibility to provide them. Think about this long and hard; then ask yourself is it right for you to bring a child into this world just because you want to be pregnant and for no other reason than that?
22, female, UK living in a flat.
I cannot sleep in the same bed as my partner and he isn't happy about it. He doesn't want us to sleep separately and I have been using ear plugs for a long time but the noise manages to sneak through. I fear that if I do not find something that makes me practically deaf during the night my relationship is over. Any advice?
If his snoring is that bad he may be suffering from something called sleep apnea. This is a serious medical condition that needs to be addressed as it could lead to respiratory arrest during the night.
Someone that suffers from sleep apnea may snore in a manner that sounds like they are gulping for air though not always. Sleep apnea is diagnosed in a sleep lab where he will be asked to go to sleep and be observed, then woken and then asked to go to sleep again. This will be done several time all while he is being observed and is wired for electronic readings.
If sleep apnea is diagnosed the most common method of control is to provide the patient with a CPAP device. Which is a machine that provides a positive pressure through a mask worn whenever the patient sleeps, even when taking a nap. The CPAP machine is very quiet, even soothing and should not cause either one of you a problem when it is in use..
hi im male 16 can any 1 tell me how to masterbate and waht happens when i it my male orgazam
Try typing the following into a search engine; "how do men masturbate." It will return a number of sites you can go to that should answer your question.
can anyone suggest a good plot from my next story please ?
solidadvice4teens is correct in what was replied to you. You have written a very open ended question for which there is no way for anyone to respond not knowing what it is you like to write about.
What have you written about in the past? Do you like mysteries or science fiction? What was the plot of your last story? Could you take one of the central characters from that story and develop a sequel to the last story or develop an new plot for that character?
Without answers to questions like this it is impossible to give you a direct answer to your question. My best advice would be to look at the characters in your last story and to build a plot around one of them possibly based on the plot of the last story.
My mother's last boyfriend was a bit unstable. He drank excessively, smoked marijuana, and couldn't manage his money, instead spending it on everything and anything. He recently lost his job, and out of pity my mother let him move back in with us. It's all ready been 4 months and though he's found a job he isn't leaving. He makes everyone uncomfortable. He plays really loud music so that the neighbours complain and drinks and smokes in the house. He hit my brother when he told him to stop. My mother's tried confronting him but he just twists her words around and says 'are you going to throw me on the streets?' and yesterday, I was alone in the house with him, and he was worse than usual and started screaming at me to undress because im such a whore. I don't feel safe in the house, and I'm just a bit scared and worried. Advice?
I agree with everything solidadvice4teens has written. I will add the following.
If you are alone in the house with this man and feel unsafe, at any time even if mom is at home, pick up a phone and dial 911. Regardless of your age you do not need parental permission to call 911 if you are scared and do not feel safe in your own home. What will happen is depending on what you tell the call taker; the call taker will stay on the line with you until a police officer arrives at your home.
The officer will talk to you and your mother's boyfriend. If the officer smells alcohol or marijuana on him he will be removed from the house. The officer also has the right to notify child protective services for intervention. They at the very least could serve him with a restraining order to keep him from returning to your home.
If you have been hit or hurt by this man the fire department will also be dispatched to care for you while paramedics are sent to evaluate your injuries if any.
When this man tells you to take off your clothes call 911 for this is sexual harassment of a minor. After talking to you the officer will most likely arrest this man.
You have every right to feel safe in your own home. If you do not feel safe you have every right to call 911 and no one can stop you. If you cannot safely call 911 from your own home leave the house and go to a neighbor's home to call 911 or the nearest fire or police station and ask for help. Your neighborhood fire stations are safe havens for children.
My mother is abusive. She hits me and calls me stupid and worthless. My father never stops her. I've moved away from my home twice. My grandma, one of the only people to ever make me feel appreciated is dead. My little sister is dead. I have suffered through attempted rape three times. My grandfather is an alcoholic who disowned my family and I haven't seen him or my grandma in years. I was ridiculed and called a slut my entire childhood even though I've never even had sex. A boy broke my heart after making me open up and be myself for the first time in years. I am completely broken. No one cares about me. I haven't felt anything in years. I am emotionless to avoid being broken again. My question is: Where do I even begin to go from here? Can I love again if I try really hard?
It would help to know your age in answering your question for there are specific places you can turn to for help based on your age.
Let's start with your PTSD. PTSD can be overcome it takes time and effort and the help of a professional psychologist trained in this area to help you.
Next let's talk about the attempted rapes'. You didn't say much about this, though this is something that needs professional help as well to get past. Also rape and sexual harassment has a statute of limitations which is generally 5 years. Closure may come by prosecuting who ever attempted to rape you. If the person who did this to you was an adult and you were a minor at the time; then there may not be a statute of limitation as this is considered pedophilia. What I would like you to do is call an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Incest, Abuse, National Network. Their number is 1-800-656-HELP.
This Online Hotline provides live, secure, anonymous crisis support for victims of sexual violence, their friends, and families. The Online Hotline is free of charge and is available 24 hours per day, 7 days per week!
After you have spoken with one of their trained volunteers they will work with you to find the help you need in your home town. You can discuss with them not only the rape but the abuse you have been getting from your mother.
If you are still in school you can also speak to a trusted teacher or your school principal about the abuse, and the raped. There are procedures they must follow mandated by the state when a student comes to them with these type problems. Your teachers and principal are responsible for your well-being as well as your education. You can also tell them about your PTSD and they will get you help for that as well.
To answer your question: Can you ever love again? The answer is yes; it will take some time and some hard work on your part with the right professionals. With their help you will learn to trust again and with trust you will learn to love again.
The biggest step you need to take is asking for help from the right people. That help is as close as your phone and calling RAINN or talking with a trusted teacher.
I am Male mid 20's
She is female mid 20's
Her friend is Male 30's I think???
First of all I am not a guy that is getting jealous about my girl texting other guys. It is just a very strange scenario. I will explain it a little bit.
1. She usually hangs out with the guy, his wife and kids. They are basically family friends, all good I get it.
2. When the wife and kids leave town and he stays because of work, she goes over there because he does not like to be alone.
3. Whenever we hang out, they usually text frequently unless we are on a date out of respect. Totally fine with it.
4. However, when she is over there. Especially on those weekends when the wife and kids leave town. Her replies to me are virtually none at all. Maybe 1 every 2-3 hours if any at all. (again totally fine but kinda of sketchy when looking at number 2&3.
Again, I totally love her and am not super jealous easily. I really have not gotten paranoid about this at all. She is super open about. She is the one who tells me she is going to hang out with him because he is home alone, when she could totally lie about it. I don't get pissy or mopey and try to make her feel bad about going over there because I trust her.
However it is slightly concerning to me, I just want other peoples feed back.
Am I just being paranoid and should not worry?
Or should I lay some rules down about this whole thing with her going over there alone with just those two. I would honestly say the most concerning thing to me is how she texts him when we hang and texts me when she is over there and the family is all there, but does not reply when it is just him and her there alone. I don't know, I don't want to start assuming anything but it is a strange situation. Any help would be awesome!
Ever here the expression; "where there is smoke there is fire." This is one of these scenarios that the expression fits. She is 20; he is 30 not much of an age difference between them. His wife is out of town and they have the house to themselves. This definitely gives the opportunity for some friction to cause some smoke to happen. Once the smoke starts fire is not far behind.
To be more direct I think you might just be a little too trusting a little bit too naïve about what could be happening especially given #4.
Laying down rules with her is not the way to go. What you need to do is to tell her that it is not proper for her to be alone with a married man in his home when his wife is a way. It just doesn't look right. It just starts people's tongues wagging and before she knows it she has a reputation she does not want or need. He also gets a reputation he does not need and this gossip gets back to his wife. Gossip true or false will hurt his marriage and their friendship.
What I've just written is not 100% the reason you are talking to her about what is going on with her friends. It is better than confronting her with what you believe might be going on. If she is having an affair with him she might defend her relationship to vehemently and that will be your key to know if this is anything more than a platonic relationship. Where you go from there is up to you.
i'm 15 years old girl from malaysia. i'm searching for suitable career for me when i grow up. but, when i think back about that plan, i realized that i'm too young for doing that.
Being 15 does not mean you are too young to start thinking about where you want to be in life. A term for this is goal planning.
When I was 15 I was a sophomore in High School which meant I had two more years of primary education and I would be off to College or University. These last two years of primary education are important for they are the years that set you up for what you want to study in college or university. This being so 15 is not too young to start thinking and talking with your parents and what you want from life and how you want to get there.
Goal planning is like planning a road trip. You sit down and decide where it is you want to get to. Then you get out a map and figure out how to get from where you are to where you want to be.
Goal planning is no different. Whether you want to be a doctor or a Police Officer or if you want a career as an Officer in the Navy or a Ferry Boat Captain; now is the time to think about what it is in life you want to do. Find out what you need as far as education for the career you want and make sure that in these last two years of primary education you have the required courses and grades to apply to college or university to be educated for that career.
Now nothing we do is ever carved in stone, meaning we can't change our minds once we start our trip to our goal. If it were life would be very frustrating for us. Say for example you decide to become a Police Officer. Many Police Officers are quite happy spending their careers riding in a patrol car which is an important part of police work. Many of us humans need challenges and sometimes those challenges cause us to take detours along the way; especially when an opportunity comes are way we never thought of. It is okay to change direction just as long as you keep a goal in front of you.
If you start planning now and looking at what opportunities our out there. You will be better prepared than the majority of your friends who are not preparing for the future. You will also be more successful.
hi I'm 19 and my boyfriend said he wanted to try anal sex... The thing is that I never tried it before and I think it will hurt like reallllllly bad. I want to make him happy but at the same time I think that it could be painful :/ I don't know what to do because I love him so much and don't want to disappoint him. We have been dating for a year now. If you know what I could say to him, or any advice in general I would love it! By the way I love your column!
Thank you :)
Anal sex can be painful especially at first. I will say that there are some women who say they truly enjoy anal sex once they get use to it.
I think once we all reach adult age we experience an adult physical which for both men and women include an anal penetration as part of the exam to exam different interior organs. Penetration even by the doctors finger is generally painful for most of us.
One reason for this is the anus is a one way valve, so to speak. It is designed to allow waste out or to open from the inside out. Not the outside in.
One reason men & boys are infatuated with anal sex is the sphincter muscle is much tighter than the vagina muscles and most women have better control over this muscle as well. Anal sex provides a much firmer grip on their penis.
Normally I advice that any sex between adults must be consenting by both parties. In the case of anal sex the person being penetrated has the final say for this sex act. So if you say no that is it anal sex is not going to happen.
Should you decide you want to try here are some things to think of and to do.
1. The larger in girth your boyfriends penis is the harder it is going to be for him to penetrate you, and possibly the more painful it will be. So it is very important that you use plenty of anal lube.
2. You have to be relaxed. If you are nervous or uptight it is going to hurt as it will be harder to get past your sphincter muscle.
3. Do not allow anal sex without a condom.
4. Even with a condom do not allow him to go from you anus to your vagina without first stopping and thoroughly washing his entire groin area.
5. Your boyfriend has to agree and understand that if you say stop, no or pull out and he does not or tries to continue it is now rape.
One thing you might want to think about is this. When I give advice on sex one thing I always say is what happens in the bedroom between consenting adults is fair game. Nothing is off limits, strange or weird if you both consent to it.
Now anal sex can work both ways. If he wants to have anal sex with you he could be agreeable to you having anal sex with him first. This does not make him gay, remember what I just said. It is just you and him with as strap on dildo. If it means so much to him to have anal sex then he should be willing to share the pain.
My thought is he will quickly forget about wanting anal sex if he first has to allow you to have it with him. When it comes to pain we men can be real wimps.
can anyone tell me why the fuck is it everytime i cook it ends up on fire or blown up in my face i mean oce i even set my poptart on fire wtf?
Your probably cooking at to high a temperature. Experienced cooks and chefs can cook over high heat though it requires their constant attention.
Cooking is not something we are naturally born too, it is a learned experience. When we cook, even if it is putting a Pop Tart in a toaster you are playing with fire. Be it a gas or electric stove the heating elements are hot enough to ignite things and cause a fire so you must keep a constant eye on what is cooking.
Try cooking at lower temperatures, use meat thermometers to judge when meats are done. As for the Pop Tart use a lower setting on the Toaster. If the tart is not done when it pops out put it back in again and monitor it. You can manually pop it from the toaster if you think it is going to start burning.
Food cooks better at lower temperatures. Higher heat is generally used to sear meats so as to retain juices. Once the meat is seared you reduce the flame under the pan or put the meat in an oven safe dish and roast it in the oven.
When I first started cooking I burned a lot of food as I tried to copy the chefs on TV. Today I can cook like the chefs on TV but it has taken many years to prefect my techniques. When I am cooking, especially on the stove top, I never leave the stove unattended.
There are two reasons for this. First I have learned why not too. Second: as a firefighter I have had to extinguish more kitchen fires than I can count. Each and every kitchen fire has been the result of unattended food cooking on the stove.
The moral of this is: If your going to cook something, even if it is a Pop Tart. Make sure you have the time to be in the kitchen and watch what is cooking.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and have an 8 month old son together. Up until a month before our son was born we had a good sex life and were having sex a lot. After our son was born we started bearly having sex about once a month. Now he gets all mad when I try to have sex with him and tells me no. He doesn't even want me to see him naked or touch his private area. I feel like we are little kids. Please tell me why you think he doesn't wanna have sex with me. It is really hurting me.
I cannot think of any valid reason he is this way with you now. The one absurd reason I can think of is he fears making another baby with you if I'm right he may also be getting ready to run for he is not ready for the responsibilities of fatherhood.
My thoughts and fears aside; the fact that you two are still living together does not negate what you need to do to protect you and your son. To insure that your boyfriend lives up to his legal responsibilities as the child's father. He is responsible for his son until he reaches the age of 18. That means reasonable child support as determined by the courts. This support not only includes monetary but health insurance as well. The courts can also order him to purchase term life insurance to cover these costs in the event of his death.
I know you are sitting there saying you don't need to have legal papers served on him for he is there and being a good father. Fact; You two are not married and until you are he can leave at any time. His responsibility does not leave with him it just makes it harder to enforce and to serve him with court orders if he doesn't want to be found.
My Advice is to see a lawyer on Monday and have the appropriate court order dawn up and approved by the courts. Then have the papers served on him. This is the only way to insure the security for your child and that your boyfriend lives up to his responsibilities.
I cannot think of any reason a man would not want to have sex with a women; especially a women who is making herself available for sex with him. The only valid reason in your case that I can think of is he is getting ready to run or at the very least thinking of it.
So do the right thing and see a lawyer and have the proper papers drawn up.