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The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Im a 24yr old female and I've been married for 2 years now. me and my husband are trying to conceive for a few months now but nothing. My question is are there certain things we have to do to conceive faster? We have sex about every other day
Is there anything we could do to conceive faster ? Vitamins maybe ? More sex? Anything?

You could be having too much sex which is lowering your husband's sperm count and the quality of his sperm. Getting an Ovulation kit will help you better know when to have sex with a better chance of getting pregnant.

Now if you have been on birth control medication it is going to take time for the medication to completely leave your system and everything returns to normal. Two to three months would be in the range of normal for this to happen especially if you have been on birth control medication for a long time.

While there is no scientific proof to this; it is know that when you try too hard to conceive, conception sometimes doesn't happen. It is believed that the tension of trying to conceive at all costs, so to speak, causes of some type of disruption. As I said this is more of an old wives tale than scientific reason but does have a modicum of truth to it. When you are meant to conceive it will happen.

Unfortunately making a baby is not as simple as two loving people having sex. If you have tracked you ovulation cycle made sure to reframe from sex three days before you are most fertile and still after several attempts no conception. Then it may be time for medical intervention. You will need to see your Gynecologist for a complete reproductive work up. Your husband needs to see his doctor for a complete physical including a check for low "T" and a sperm count and study.

If after visiting your doctors everything checks out, then you and your husband may want to consider seeing a fertility specialist. Either of your doctors can refer you if you ask.

Frankly I think it may be a combination of trying too hard and waiting for any birth control medication to wear off. When my wife and I first attempted we were told it would be two to three months before conception would occur. We nailed it in the third month.

My advice is to relax it will happen.

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The Europeans hate them, Romans, Germans, Chinese, Indians. Hitler and the Nazi especially. I mean,WTF? I read number the stars, and was shocked at the Nazi. But that's nothing compared to the Diary of Ann Frank! What did the Jews ever do? Why are they hated so badly and horribly for there religion? I know they don't believe in God, but is that a reason to go all psycho-crazy-harm-kill-restrict-and-make-the-Jews-suffer? I'd like to know why people are racist in general. I live in a country with no segregation, but some people are really nasty in those areas. Like a boy called a girl from a south America a “dumb immigrant" and I know some children who say they'll only marry people in there culture. Laws in country's are really unfair, if God made us all, why is everyone shunned and humiliated for stuff like religion, race, sex, lesbian/gay/strait,etc.?

If you ever come up with the answer for this question you are a shoe in for the Nobel Peace Prize.

It wasn't just the Jews that Hitler hated. Hitler hated anyone who was not a blond blue eyed German. He wanted to create the Arian race a one race world, all other races were inferior.

You ask a good question; "if God made us all, why is everyone shunned and humiliated for stuff like religion, race, sex, lesbian/gay/straight, etc?"

If everyone thought as you are thinking the world would be a better place. Why are we sending soldiers off to a far of land that means nothing to us to fight the Taliban? It wasn't the Taliban that flew the planes into the world trade center and the pentagon. In fact it wasn't long before that event this country supported the Taliban in their fight against the Russians. What changed things?

It was great as long as they were fighting the Russians we looked the other way at what they were doing at home. When we started chasing alcada then the Taliban started fighting us as they supported the ideals of alcada.

My personal feelings are that a lot of this has less to do with religion or a religious way of life than it has to do with jealousy and laziness. They want what the western world has but are not willing to work for it.

As for the sex, lesbian, gay, strait this is mostly fear of someone or something that is different that is not understood.

I wish I had a better answer for you. The question you have asked at the moment has no answer if it did you would not have had to ask it. Thanks for asking it hopefully others will read it and at least think about it.

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I'm In middle school and I just got my progress report and I have a D in that class. The end of the marking period is in 3 days. I barely understand the class and my friends are really distracting even when I try to listen. I want to talk to my teacher about it but he isn't the nicest of teachers. He'll probably just ignore me. I have kno idea what to do or how to do it in only 3 days :(

Btw I only have one missing paper the rest are bad quiz and class work grades

You have three choices as to what you can do. You may not be able to bring your grade up in the short time left but you can try.

1. Meet with your teacher and explain to him what you do not understand. Ask for extra help and if there is anything in the way of an extra credit report you can do to bring up your grade. It is possible that in the remaining days of the marking period and extra credit assignment may not be possible. Your request for extra help to understand the class assignments is something that should not be refused. If it is then...

2. Tell your parents the teacher has refused your request for extra help. That you would like their help in having a meeting with the teacher or the Science department chairperson.

If your parents are refused this meeting or you come away from the meeting without the extra help that you need then...

3) Your parents can request a meeting with your school principal or the superintendent of Education for your school district.

The school system works for you and your parents. There job is to provide you with an education not just deliver the material. Some teachers suffer from burn out and just deliver the material and forget to teach. This is when you need to go over their heads and this takes parental assistance.

The process starts with you asking for help. Even if he turns you down you have to be able to say that on this date at this time in this classroom # I spoke to Mr. ____ and asked for help. He refused.

Now it is up to your parents and Mr. ______ has to defend his reason for refusing to help you. So ask for his help if he refuses, thank him for his time and say no more. Then go home and talk with your parents.

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Hey! So I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 23!
So my boyfriend if about 5 and a half years decided to join the navy. This is amazing news and I am very happy for him! He went to normal bootcamp about 2 weeks ago and I've really missed him. I know I have a long road ahead though because his scores actually qualified him to continue after bootcamp and go to California for BUDS, which if he completes will further him on his way to become a navy SEAL.

I'm really happy for him and think this is awesome! Plus I'm just finishing up my senior year in college and will be applying to PA school in December so I've definitely been busy! We've done long distance so I'm used to the not seeing for a bit at some points but am a little scared of not knowing the process.

Has anyone known someone whose gone through this and can tell me if during BUDS they have weekends off? It's 7 months long and I'm wanting to maybe visit! I know I can ask him all of this in a letter but I'm still waiting for my first one. And I also don't want to stress him out too much cause he has so much on his plate.

I wouldn't trade him for the world and I know that this process is just beginning but I thought the support from y'all would help :) I'm really lucky to have such a good family and friends and that I'm a fairly independent person.

Any kind of advice/support will help! Thank y'all for reading and responding!

My advice is not to stress yourself out over this. He is only in his first two weeks of Basic Training. The Military stresses that letters to Mom are a priority, I know because I did not write home and I was summoned to the commanders office during the second week of basic to write to my mother, I also was given 5 minutes to call home. The first three lines of my letter home were dictated to me by the commander then I was allowed to finish the letter. Having not received a letter my mom called my recruiter. He called someone who called the General and it went down the chain of the command and in less than 8 hours to me. You will get a letter as soon as he has time. Moms scare the heck out of 4 star generals. They will do just about anything for a mom.

As for when you will see him. There is no visitation, generally, during basic training. Most likely he will get a short leave between basic and Buds school. Once he is in Buds he will have the answer to your questions about visiting and leave time not before.

Also be aware that less than 1% of those that actually make it to buds school graduate. Navy Seals are the best of the best and Seal Team 6 is the Best of the Seals. Be prepared to be supportive should he be part of the 99% that washout. It is not a reflection on him if he does, it is a reflection on the Seals and what it takes to become one.

BUDS training is the hardest of all training I know of. It has to be because their lives depend on it as does the success of the missions asked of them. So be prepared and should he make it through he will be just a bit different than the man you sent off to training so be prepared for that too.

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Hi i am a 19 year old guy with no where to go , and I am here because i need advice.... My fiance wants us to get her brand new car,that her parents gave to her, after we get married (with payments left) ......i will practically be paying for the whole car since its brand new and i think ill end up being in debt....what do i do ??

If her parents gave her the car then I would think her parents would be paying for the car. Meaning the car is a gift from her parents to her. If her parents only supplied the down payment for the car and she is paying for the car on the installment plan through a bank then the car is not a gift from her parents, she is purchasing the car. This is what you need to know for it makes a difference.

When two people marry, regardless of age, it is a package deal. Whatever baggage they have in their lives as a single person comes into the marriage as joint property unless agreed to differently prior to being married. This is usually done in some type of prenuptial agreement.

Meaning in this instance; if your fiancé's car was not a true gift. That her parents only provided the down payment and she is paying off the remainder of the cost of the car. Upon your marrying that financial liability becomes a joint liability.

This is why it is important to find out if it was truly a gift. If so then you have every right to ask your future in-laws to pay off the car. If it was just the gift of the down payment. Then you have every right to ask you fiancé to give up the car for something more affordable rather than enter married life with such a large liability hanging over your head.

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I am a virgin and am considering having sex with my boyftiend. Can someone tell me what to expect painwise. How long will it hurt. Will iy hurt the whole time. Will i bleed?

You have not given your age so answering your question is not going to be very definitive. The reason for wanting to know your age is as simple as it is somewhat a bit disturbing.

There are two reasons your parents ask or tell you not to have sex when you are young. Young meaning while you're still in school or even waiting until you're married. Which to be truthful is a bit hypocritical as most of todays parents were not virgins when they married. Still the reasons behind their requests are valid.

Of course the most valid of the reasons are accidental pregnancy. Regardless of what someone may have told you it is possible to get pregnant the first time you have sex. I don't know how old that line is but I have reason to believe it was some guy that made it up so his girl would give him her virginity.

Now as to the age thing, and this is where the pain and bleeding come in. Some girls start to develop at very early ages. some as young as preteens. While there is nothing out of the ordinary with early development it is mostly an external development. You develop the curves and breast of a mature woman. Internally you are still underdeveloped or underdevelopment.

In the case of sexual intercourse your vagina is still that of a young girl. The hormones needed, produced by puberty, to allow your vagina to stretch and accommodate a males penis have not yet been released. Yes you may be getting your period this comes long before the hormones needed to unlock the muscles of your vagina are released. If you cannot comfortably insert a Tampon while sitting on the toilet you're not ready for intercourse. It is really that simple.

will intercourse hurt the whole time depends on the above.

The bleeding, if you bleed generally is from the tearing of your Hymen. Now you may or may not still have your Hyman. You may have torn it while trying to insert a Tampon, or during physical activity like bike riding or Ballet. You could even dislodge your Hymen during masturbation.

since you have not given your age my advice is to wait until you are at least closer to graduation if not in college to have sexual intercourse. There are other ways to satisfy both yours and your boyfriends sexual urges. There is mutual masturbation where you give him a hand job and he fingers you. Then their is oral sex. Neither of these acts will produce a pregnancy as long as you make sure his sperm does not come anywhere near your vagina.

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I have a paper due in five weeks for my Globalization and Development class. The object of the paper is to talk about a group in a developing country and describe the struggles they face. Such as.. The Hutus and the Tutsis.. Women in Arab countries that have to cover every inch of skin. I wrote about child brides and talked about the struggles these girls face and how they are being stripped of their lives at a young age. However, when she gave me back my first draft, she told me that I was talking about a social problem and not a group. So, if any of you could help me out in picking a group to write about that would fall into three of these nine categories: of gender, ageism, marxist, modernization, dependency, imperialism, nationalism, economic development or globalization... that would be stellar.

Thank you so much!

I think your teacher is wrong. The problem of child brides covers several areas of the nine categories she has given you. The would be gender, ageism(though not by true definition), modernization, and to a lesser extent economic development or globalization.

In the countries where child brides is a problem it is mainly a problem of rural tribes. This problem has caused somewhat of a Geopolitical problem for these countries as the try to modernize and join the western world.

I suggest you speak with your teacher and point out to her where the problem of child brides does enter into the categories she has given you. I believe with the proper research on your part you will be able to prove your point.

Now depending on how much you support your thinking. Should, after talking with your teacher she refuses to accept you paper on this subject you can always appeal her decision to her boss the department chair or the school principal.

Before doing so I suggest you speak to your parents and gain their support. For going this route while it is the proper way to do something you believe in. Most school administrators may not like you doing so and try to punish you for doing so. They, in my eyes would be wrong, for this is definitely how we learn and grow and they would be missing a wonderful teaching moment.

Unfortunately they would teachers and school administrators are more prone to see someone doing something as I am suggesting as being a square peg in a round hole. So talk with mom and dad before taking this route.

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I am a high school senior and I cannot imagine any more of this hell. Sitting in a classroom being lectured about irrelevant information is not in any way fulfilling or satisfying to me. The idea that I am stuck going to class every day for the next portion of my life is almost too much for me to handle. The "core curriculum" sounds like death and I do not want to spend the entirety of my young life being lectured and assigned readings over western civilization in the precolombian times.
I thought this feeling would end once I graduated HS but I know now that is not going to be the case.
I want to go out and make a difference in someone's life. I want to travel, photograph, listen to music, meet people, and just make something of my life. I cannot handle irrelevant classes and busy work for 4 more years without going insane and becoming clinically depressed.

Not going to college is not an option so don't suggest that.

College is not like High School; in fact it is quite the opposite of high school.

First no one is mandating specifically what course you are going to take. You mention photograph as a passion. Maybe photo journalism is a course of study for you to follow. If so you would chose courses based on that course of study. YEs there will be some prerequisite course you will need to take in Math and English. Though even in these prerequisite course there are going to be choices and you can chose when to take them. There is no "Core Curriculum" as it is being used in the primary education grades.

Next you will not be taking the same classes 5 days a week. Most classed meet 2 or maybe 3 days a week for an hour and a half to three hours. You will not be forced to take irrelevant course. By choosing your major course of study even your prerequisite courses will have relevance to your major course of study.

Depending on how heavy a course load you take you will or should have time for a social life. College wants you to have a social life for this two is all part of the college experience. It is all part of what makes someone who has gone to college a more rounded individual than someone who has not.

Now if your goals in life call are that of a tradesman; then you should be looking at a Technical Trades school. Schools in this realm range from culinary arts to xylophone repair. Computer repair, Plumber, Electrician are skilled trades that have good incomes.

You say not going to college is not an option. Then also not an option is going off to college without knowing what you're going to major in. For not knowing what you're going to major in means that you're first year of college is going to mean taking just the liberal arts course. From what you have written you are going to hate that and you will have wasted your first year of school.

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This sounds stupid even writing only I should know the answer but here I am anyways. I am recently getting divorced I have been separated going on 9 months there are no feelings for my ex our marriage ended way before that. I started going on a dating website site because I had moved to another state where I did not know anyone. I did meet a guy we've been talking for several months since November he quit his job in December just started working again a few days because I told him I'd leave him if he didn't find a job we'd go out I'd pay for everything he'd run around to some stores with me ask me for money he was asking me to buy him cigarettes until I told him no. He is very sarcastic. In return I role my eyes I've tried breaking up with him several times he begs me to stay not leave him he wants to be there for me and my kids be a father figure for my kids. I tend to look at other guys. Think their cute which I'd never do before because I find it being unfaithful.. I'm just looking for advice

This guy is not the one. I don't know why your marriage failed as you have not said. One thing for sure though is you do not need another dependent.

You want a husband, someone who will share your life and be a 50/50 partner with you. Sure that someone should also want to be a parent to your children, though he can never be their father as your ex will always be their father.

From what little you have written I see this person as a true dependent and using your needs to get what he wants. This man is a controller and may be exactly what you are getting away from.

There are many a good men out there, men who like you who have children and want to find a good woman to make a home with; A home for her and his children and themselves. Don't jump at the first guy to come along who seems nice. Remember are moms always taught us to be on our best behavior when out in public. I believe this man is quite different at home or will be quite different if you make a home together.

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Yes.. My boyfriend asked for me to have a threesome. This came after he started talking to an old friend of his through Facebook and his friend said that she was a lesbian. I guess my boyfriend got curious and that's when his lesbian friend suggested that he ask me if I would would be willing to it.
Thing is,I don't have a problem participating in any of that because I am adventurous. I have two problems which I need guidance on..

1.Should I be concerned about the type of conversations that my boyfriend is conducting through Facebook..? I mean, doesn't that kind of conversation cross the line and constitute cheating to an extent? If it were me and I was having a serious relationship with someone, then any talk about sex would feel like I'm not being true to the person I'm in a relationship with.

2.What does it mean if he asks for a threesome? Does he maybe think that our sex life has become boring and we need to spice it up, or has he considered cheating on me with someone else just to experience a change?

I am of the opinion that threesomes could be a sign of an unstable relationship and maybe my boyfriend,in not too many words, is beginning to show me signs of him cheating in future.

Help me out!

I would like to start with your question on the threesome first as that is the easier of the two questions to answer. I believe I can say without question that just about every guy has fantasies of having a threesome with two women. This fantasy has nothing to do with the potential of cheating.

Threesomes are a large part of the sexual fantasy world boys grow up in. It is a source of constant conversation and entertainment. Much of the pornography boys see in their younger years contain threesome and mate swapping as well. This stays with them generally as a fantasy and if ever the opportunity arises they jump on the opportunity.

In general the fantasy is better than the actual event, especially with one of the participants being a lesbian. In the threesome he is suggesting this will be more of two women having sex then a threesome for I don't see the Lesbian allowing him to have sex with her. Two women having sex in front of one of the boyfriends is another fantasy most boys/men have.

I do not believe this is a sign of him potentially cheating. It is more of a sign of how your sex life with him may go if the opportunities arise. He just may be more adventurous in his sexual nature. This has nothing to do with your sex life together needing to be spiced up.

Lets define cheating. Is looking at other women cheating. If so I've been guilty of that for the last 43 years I've been married although not really. You see when my wife and I were first married she told me I could look at the menu all I wanted. If I reordered she would cut off a very important appendage. So looking is not cheating. Today talking about sex with a close friend is not considered cheating either. It would be rude or in bad taste to discuss your sex lives together with someone else but that would not be cheating either.

Lets put the shoe on the other foot for the moment. Lets say your boyfriend asked for anal sex. Lets say even though your adventurous anal sex is not something you want to try but you do want to please your boyfriend. You decide to confide in your closest girl friend and ask her if she has ever had anal sex. Of course she is going to ask why you are asking her even though she may have and she may like anal sex before she answers your question. So you tell her.

By your definition you have just cheated when in reality what you have done is confided in a friend in order to satisfy your boyfriend. Cheating is a physical act not a verbal act. Former President Carter once admitted he lusted in his heart over Playboy centerfolds. Was that and act of cheating?

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I am 14years old student today I got my report card my cgpa was very low. I don't know why it always happens to me i want to become a lawyer. my friends and family don't understand that i also don't like scoring low marks . For them i will be nothing if i don't score well . My sister is going through a lot after scoring low arks in 10th. i don't want to suffer. i don't know what to do so i choose this option the best . no society tension no parents tension . sorry my English is not my first language

Killing oneself over a low grade or a bad report card is not the answer to your problem. Grades are not all that they are meant to be. They are suppose to be a method of examining your knowledge of a subject. Problem is some people may have a commanding knowledge of a subject but do not test well. I happen to be one of those people.

I have a form of photographic memory. If I see it or hear it I have almost total recall. Slide a paper in front of me marked test or examination and I go totally blank, even though I can demonstrate orally my knowledge of the subject.

Now the question is do you know the material that is being taught? Do you study hard? Did you try your best on exams and turn in homework on time. IF the answer to these question is yes then the problem is not your ability to learn it is the method you are examined in. This is not a reason to kill yourself.

I received low grades all through school. When I joined the military my grades in their schools were exceptionally high; Why was this? They taught and tested differently than public school
a method I was more comfortable with.

I think this is your problem as well. Why do I say this. You say English is not your first language yet you have done very well in getting your point across. Your punctuation needs work, other than that its very good. This tells me you are smart and you can learn.

I suggest you talk to your instructors. If you do have trouble with testing as I believe you do then talk to them about it. They should be aware of students with such problems and they should be able to find another way to satisfy their need to find out how much you know about the subject matter.

By the way you made your point very well you will make a very good lawyer some day. You need to stay alive to become that lawyer.

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‪My dad sucks at driving, but you can't tell him that because he'll argue that he's the greatest driver you'll ever meet. To him, a good driver is someone who can maneuver the car well an do cool tricks. To me, and I hope to anyone else, a good driver is someone who is careful, follows the rules of the road, and cares more about safety than being cool.

My dad speeds, takes annoyingly hard turns, slams on the gas and on the brakes, has bad road rage, and texts while driving. He'll also take his eyes off the road to look at the passengers in the car while he talks to them. Once, he fell asleep while driving and when my sister woke him up, he yelled at her, "What? I was sleeping!"

He says that the only other person he knows who was better at driving than he is was my uncle who died in a car accident before I was born. That accident was not completely his fault, but it was partially.

Before that though, he was hated by most of our town for another accident he caused. He was trying to pass a car, but when he got in the next lane to do so, there was a car coming down that lane in the opposite direction. He didn't have much time to pass the car in front of him before he hit the car in the next lane, so the safe thing to do would have been to pull back over into his own lane. Instead of doing that though, he floored it and hit the other car head on. The woman in the car was a mother to small children. She was sent to the hospital where she was told to stay in bed due to a blood clot that the accident caused. She didn't obey the order and got up, which caused the blood clot to break and the woman to die.

People blamed my uncle, but he took no responsibility for it. My dad and grandparents saw no reason why he should. People wrote my grandparents letters saying that if they were good people, they'd help that woman's children I guess by giving them money, but they wouldn't do it. They said that it was the woman's own fault for getting up. The thing is though, that it never would have happened if he hadn't pulled something stupid and caused that accident.

I can't explain what it says to me that my grandparents wouldn't help that woman's kids and that they and my dad don't see any fault my uncle has in her death. It just makes me disappointed in them and it scares me because they don't seem to have learned anything from the accident. I can totally see my dad doing something like what my uncle did someday. He's so convinced that my uncle was such a great driver that he hasn't learned anything from either accident (that one or the one he died in). At least not what he should have learned.

How do I tell my dad that he needs to work on his driving an that he shouldn't follow my uncle's examples without sounding like a total @$$ hole?

It would have helped me in answering your question if you had given your age. Since you have not I will have to be a little generic in some areas of my answer.

From what you have written I don't see you changing any of your fathers driving habits. IF your father has not received any traffic tickets for his driving habits he is not going to accept you telling him he is a bad driver. You can only cause yourself trouble by trying to do so

In fact even if he has received some traffic tickets and has not changed his driving habits. Then this should tell you what your chances are in getting him to change. Very few people change habits like these until the bottom is pulled out from under them.

What I suggest is that if riding with your dad scares you then you take a page out of the dating book most parents give their teenagers. Which is if you are riding with him and his driving is scaring you ask him to pull over so you can get out. Then call for a safe ride home. This may have to be a taxi or even the police if need be. Keep money in your purse for a safe ride home.

I would also suggest you talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal about your concerns. Just as you should feel safe in school you should feel safe in the company of your parents. When you don't feel safe with your parents there are procedures in place in every school district for school administrators to follow. How those procedures would work for this situation I'm not sure as they are designed for child abuse at home.

As for why your family has not supported the family of the women who died. There are some legal ramifications that could come in to play if they did.

While you and I may feel your Uncle may have been the cause of the accident that caused the lady's death. There is a law called proximate cause. This law means if her death was ruled a result of the accident then your Uncle could have been held legally responsible and tried for her death in court.

To meet this law the blood clot would have to be ruled as being caused by the accident exclusively. If your Uncle was not charged in the death of the woman then the rule of proximate cause may have not been met.

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Should a family of 9 be living in a 5 bedroom house or is that over crowding ? UK

It really depends on the housing laws or occupancy laws of where you live. In general as long as the parents are not sleeping in the same room as the children and the children's bedrooms are segregated by sex I don't see where these people would have any problem with the housing authority.

As I would see it with 5 bedrooms the parents would have their own bedroom. The two older children of each sex would each share a bedroom. The three remaining children if they are of the same sex would share the last remaining bedroom or the two of the same sex would get that room and the third child would have to sleep in the two older children's room of the same sex.

It really does not matter how the breakdown of the sexes of the children are. There could be 5 of one sex and two of the other. In that case the two of one sex get their own room and the remaining 5, two get one room and 3 the other.

Anyway you break it down as long as the sexes of the children are separated for privacy there should be no problem.

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I think im in love but bont know what to do she is posibly pregnit with sumone elses child and i care about her alot and always think of her but im 15 and am nervice about teling her i love her because i dont think im redy for a kid but i would do enything for her

If she is pregnant by someone else be thankful it is not yours. At 15 you are way too young and have yet to gain the maturity needed to be a parent.

While I believe you feel you love this girl it is the type of love we adults use to call puppy love or first love. You will have many more love's before you find the girl/woman you want to spend the rest of your life with.

In answer to your question my answer is as follows. You can be supportive of this girls situation if you want to for if she is pregnant she is going to need support. Encourage her to tell her parents she is pregnant and who the father is. At 14 she has total medical confidentiality by federal law. Which means even though she is a minor. Under this law her parents cannot force any decision on her as to what to do about this pregnancy if she is pregnant.

The law is called HIPPA and covers all youths 14 and older for their reproductive systems. This law gives them total control and confidentiality over there medical well being of their reproductive system. If she is not aware of this you can tell her and together you can read the law on line. The law cover more than just this area so you will need to look for this portion.

This is about the extent that you can be supportive of her. Her parents once they understand and accept that she has total say over her situation can be more supportive and helpful than anyone else can be.

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But why the bleeding comes from her ass after I fuck

(edit: Please link to your previous questions if you ask a followup question. Here is the link to the previous question referenced here:

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There are a number of reasons why your wife may bleed after anal sex. Just why I cannot say for certain. She could have an internal hemorrhoid in which case anal sex would be very painful. You could be tearing her when entering or she could have an anal fissure that ruptures during anal sex.

Any and all of these things need to be seen by a doctor. The proper doctor to see would be a gastroenterologist or an internist. Until your wife sees a doctor I recommend you not have anal sex with her. Stick to vaginal sex and use a condom for birth control if she is not on birth control medication. Just remember condoms are only 85% effective in preventing pregnancy when worn correctly.

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I love him soo much and I'm 9 month older then him. When we would have convo, I would constantly remind that he's younger than me and I'm giving a hint of like friend-zoning him but ik in myself that I love him so much. Btw i forgot to mention that he's just my cyber crush that I know for like a year. We never see each other in person. He's really good and nice and haven't had a gf before, me too. And he keeps on going to the topic leading to my bf which i don't have, so we discuss about. His giving a hint that she likes me and even said she love me but in just a joke way. i told him I like him but as friend. But omg i want him to be my bf. i think it's good to have LDR relationship coz it's not destroying my studies. so any help pls?

Young love is not really my area of expertise . A younger adviser would be better able to help you,

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I broke up with my boyfriend today and he seemed kinda sad about it. He's a mostly quiet person... But I didn't really know how to break up with him, but I kinda lied to him (Yes, I know it was bad, but I wasn't thinking and I was scared). I told him that I got in trouble for dating him and that we should just stay friends. He asked who got me in trouble and I just didn't answer. He also said "Wow I wanna shoot whoever did that" and that kinda got me scared... He asked if it was my parents then said "No I wouldn't do that"... But like I don't know if he was just upset or actually meant it. He's a sweet guy so I wouldn't think he would do that, but like I don't want there to be like a school shooting... I'm a VERY paranoid person so I could just be overthinking this, but what do you guys think?
Also, please don't tell me to tell like an adult about this because it could probably just be nothing but I don't want to be wrong either.

As an adult someone old enough to be your grandparent what I see as relevant here is not the fact that you lied, that is a different subject. What is relevant is how he reacted. Was his reaction just false bravado or is he capable of carrying out this threat? Is he able to get his hands on any type of weaponry, meaning does his parent's keep fire arms in the home?

If your answers to my questions are yes or I'm not sure; then as I see it you do not have much of a choice. You need to tell someone of his threat. In all of the incidents of mass shootings the shooter has been described very much like you say your boy friend is. It is impossible to tell what may make someone do something like what has happened in the past.

Now who should you tell? You could start with telling your parents' and let them decide if this is something that needs to be taken further. You could also talk with a teacher at school that knows the boy. I'm sure the teacher will evaluate what you tell him/her and take the appropriate action.

If it is determined that you boy friend was just running off at the mouth. Then nothing will happen to him. It will be a good object lesson for everyone in school as to how to control their thoughts and mouth. While false bravado may seem cool it certain times and places it can scare people.

A short story about to make my point. In the early days when idiots started to hijack planes. My wife and I were vacationing in Miami and then going on to San Francisco. We were in line for check in when some young man in another line started shouting HICH JACK and pointing his arm in the air. This of course sounds just like HYJACK. Well the third time he did this he had some new jewelry, a custom pair of bracelets courtesy of the Miami Dade Police. He was arrest and charged with several felonies.

That was 40 years ago. Today people are a lot more sensitive to remarks people make. By law if someone makes a threating remark towards you and you feel they are capable of carrying out that threat. Then that person is guilty of assault. Is your boy friend capable of carrying out the threat he made?

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my husband has been pulling away from me and its finally catching up to me.. idk where I went wrong.. im not handling the fact that I am going to have to leave tomorrow too well.. I cant stop crying.. all I want is my marriage and my family to stay together. what am I gonna tell my kids when they look at me and say "mommy, I wanna go home." or "mommy I wanna see daddy" what do I tell them.. that mommy failed her marriage and daddy wants us to leave?? it got bad last night.. bad enough to where I couldn't think straight or take the pain anymore and I took 20 pain pills and tried to kill myself!! I was out walking when I did this and it was later at night.. I guess my husband and his friend and wife talked me into going to there house where all of them were and I don't remember anything. they said it was bad.. and I seen messages my husband was sending his friend.. why do I have to care and love too much?! where did I go wrong?! I really need help!! (oh and my kids were with family they were safe)

First of all who said it was you that failed the marriage. Marriage is a 50/50 deal. It takes two people to build a marriage and two people to destroy a marriage.

Now if anyone needs to leave the marriage home it is your husband not you and the children. I don't know where you live but in some states the children stay in the home of the marriage and the parents shuttle in and out when joint custody is awarded.

Do not take whatever your husband is feeding you as gospel. Get your own lawyer. Many lawyers, if you husband leaves you penny less, will work without retainer and take their fee based on what the courts award you.

At the very least your husband owes you child support. This means whatever it takes to keep a roof over their heads, food, clothing and medical needs including health insurance.

Yes the marriage has failed. It matters not at the moment who is at fault. It may not be your fault and probably is not your fault. I'm guessing at this point but from what you have written I see a very controlling husband. Should I be correct then you have not failed he has failed you and the children.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and see a lawyer first thing Monday morning. Do not sign any papers your husband gives you to sign. If you have signed any tell your lawyer you signed them under duress which I believe you did if you signed anything.

Tell your lawyer you need an emergency order ordering your husband out of the home so you and the children can move back in. You also need temporary child support in the amount of, and have a figure in mind to request.

If you and your husband own the home make sure to request that your husband is ordered to continue to pay the mortgage. If you work outside the home then you an offer to pay toward the mortgage as your earnings did when you jointly occupied the home.

Divorce is always hardest on the children. No matter how much animosity there may be between you and your husband the two of you must agree not to poison the children against each other. They are not pawns for you to use to hurt each other.

As to what to tell them; you tell them the truth as much as they can understand for their ages. You start with the fact that mommy and daddy will always love them regardless of whether mommy and daddy live together or not. It would help if you two can do this together. Then as I said answer their questions as truthfully as you can that their ages will understand.

Most importantly though is you need to be represented by your own lawyer and you need to contact one on Monday morning. If you do not know who to contact; call the local bar association.

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So I was walking through a cvs pharmacy parking lot when a giant pit bull stuck its head out a window and bit up my elbow , I went inside and I seen that I was bleeding so I called the police they found the owner it was a old lady , she started crying and said she would pay for my tetanus shot so I didn't press charges , I recently got the bill it was about a thousand dollars , so I went to the police station and got the police report with her phone number on it , I called the lady numerous times but she doesn't answer , I went to her house her car was there I didn't want to knock on her door I figured she would say im harassing her so I called her from outside once again she did not answer , what should I do ?

There are two things you can do.

The simplest thing is go to the District Court and file a court complaint summoning her to have the judge order her to pay your medical bills. This court is very much like the Peoples Court on TV. Bring the Police Report and your Medical Bills with you when you file your complaint, The court clerk will assist you with the filing and the summons can be served either by the Sheriff or by Mail. Given that she is refusing to take your phone calls I would suggest you have the summons served by the Sheriff. It is a bit more in costs than by mail though you are pretty much guaranteed service of the summons.

The other way is to speak with an attorney and let the attorney file suit. I do not think this is required as your problem is easily handled in district court where lawyers are not needed.

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I am confused on how to make myself orgasm

I would suggest you go to this website; http://www.the-clitoris.com/methods_of_female_masturbation#.UzQxFIzD_hc

for tips on the best ways to pleasure yourself.

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