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what shoud i do if i love her but i think she is pregnant by someone else?
I think im in love but bont know what to do she is posibly pregnit with sumone elses child and i care about her alot and always think of her but im 15 and am nervice about teling her i love her because i dont think im redy for a kid but i would do enything for her
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At 15, the only thing you can do is be a friend to her. She's going to need the support of a friend in encouragement, cheering up and such because no matter what path she takes she will be going through some tough emotional times.
Choosing to carry and adopt out is hard because she will come up against the taunting of certain kids and then there is the natural guilt that comes when giving up for adoption.
Choosing abortion if she's early enough along has its own set of emotional junk too. It is a very traumatic procedure to go through, again there can be guilt, mood swings, lots of crying and sadness, the hormones of motherhood are still in her body for a while though baby is gone. I think you get the picture, no matter what, its going to be an emotional rollercoaster ride and she'll feel so alone at times, like no one understands. She will need a friend just to hang with and feel like life is somewhat normal but you are not anywhere near being a professional counselor so the best thing you can do starting now and throughout the whole deal is keep pointing her in the direction of adults who can help her, parents, counselors, etc...and just hold her hand and be a friend.
She is too young to be a mom. Is the child was kept, her mom would be raising it. That is usually too much stress in todays time when most households require two incomes and mom cant give hers up to raise another kid let alone be handle to handle the cost of raising a child.
You have no obligation to the child as you are not the father. Don't offer any. Only offer your friendship for now. You're still young. As has been said already, its first love/puppy love and there will come many others down the line that you date and have feelings for. Enjoy the friendship but do not pin your hopes for anything more.
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If she is pregnant by someone else be thankful it is not yours. At 15 you are way too young and have yet to gain the maturity needed to be a parent.
While I believe you feel you love this girl it is the type of love we adults use to call puppy love or first love. You will have many more love's before you find the girl/woman you want to spend the rest of your life with.
In answer to your question my answer is as follows. You can be supportive of this girls situation if you want to for if she is pregnant she is going to need support. Encourage her to tell her parents she is pregnant and who the father is. At 14 she has total medical confidentiality by federal law. Which means even though she is a minor. Under this law her parents cannot force any decision on her as to what to do about this pregnancy if she is pregnant.
The law is called HIPPA and covers all youths 14 and older for their reproductive systems. This law gives them total control and confidentiality over there medical well being of their reproductive system. If she is not aware of this you can tell her and together you can read the law on line. The law cover more than just this area so you will need to look for this portion.
This is about the extent that you can be supportive of her. Her parents once they understand and accept that she has total say over her situation can be more supportive and helpful than anyone else can be.
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