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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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how can I lick my teacher's breast

You can\'t she is your teacher and sex or sexual contact between teacher and student is forbidden even if you are above the age of consent in your state. She would lose her job if she allowed you and possibly go to prison.

IF you were to force yourself on her you could go to prison for sexual assault or even rape if a prosecutor were wanting to make an example of you. Many states have some archaic laws on the books. Among those laws are laws concerning oral sex. Licking your teachers breast could be considered oral sex and might be against any oral sex laws still on the books in your state.

Ive had a bad prostate infection for a couple weeks now I'm a 21 male. I've had a cloudy discharge coming out here and there but today when I was peeing I felt a chunkish thing coming through my penis it came out into the toliet and I continued peeing. I Got it out of the toliet it was chunky like a chunk of cum you'd pee out but this chunk was about a inch wide and half inch wide it didn't hurt or burn I just felt it push out then drop into the toliet. I felt it is was kinda softish and a little sticky but not like sperm or cum sticky had no smell to it was dark yellow some weight to it for how little it was I guess the best way to describe it is a hard chunk of cum you pee out after ejaculating but dark yellow. Any ideas? Please help??!!

Assuming you\'re on medication for your infection. It is quite possible it is some puss like substance of the infection or a kidney stone. In either case you need to inform your doctor or urologist whoever is treating you for it means there has been a change in illness, especially if it is a kidney stone.

Hopefully you have kept whatever came out of you to take to the doctor. If you haven\'t and anything comes out again before you see the doctor. Put it in a plastic bag or cup and seal it to take to the doctor so it can be sent for pathology.

If your infection has migrated to you kidneys the doctor(s) may want to change your medication.

I am a 23yo female. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. We graduated undergrad together, and will be joining each other in graduate school this fall. It is a serious relationship and though marriage is not on either of our minds, it is likely we will be together for quite some time. I love him a lot and we are able to share so much with one another which is great. He's a great guy all around but there's one thing that is slightly frustrating with him--he sucks at gift giving. It's not that he doesn't think to give them, he just chooses things that are almost like items I'd throw in my cart while grocery shopping, rather than things that seem at all thought out.

Some gifts he's given me are: the equivalent of a reusable shopping bag for carrying supplies around, an on-sale wine bottle (I am not a wine drinker), a pencil case, and most recently a cookbook (I don't cook). Some gifts I've given him have included a painting I made for him, a specific batch of cookies he'd mentioned he liked, his favorite cupcakes, a handmade leather sketchbook (he draws). He also never tries at all, even in the slightest to make the gift "gift-like", meaning generally I receive these things in the packaging they came in, or, better yet, in the shipping pouch Amazon sent it in (with the order summary included).

I know this is probably going to come off as me being greedy, but really it's not about that. I would be happy if he made me a card, or picked me a flower on a walk, or made a special dinner, or even just brought a new idea into the bedroom...because there would thought behind it and it would be personal. However, the gifts he gives always seem like material afterthoughts and it makes me feel silly for trying to think of things or gestures that would be special or meaningful to him.

It could be a cultural difference. In my family, gift-giving was never really about the gift so much as showing you care for the person receiving it. It didn't matter what it was, just that you were thinking of them. I get that the fact that he's given me gifts shows he 'thought' about me, but it always feels like he's just trying to satisfy a 'gift requirement', rather than think about what the gift actually means. I find it curious though because his mom gives very thoughtful gifts in comparison so I'm not really sure where he picked this up.

I feel like it's such a stupid thing to bring up and it will likely only make him feel bad about it for no good reason. I know I've mentioned in random conversations before how I feel about gifts and that they don't have to be material in nature to be special, etc. etc. I guess they just never really sunk in and I'm not sure what to do. I accept him even with his faults, but I keep getting random *stuff* that I don't necessarily need! How do I hint at this without hurting his feelings!?

Sounds a little like my brother in-law. He has a PHD in Nuclear Engineering and has his head so far into the science that the world outside has a tendency to become non-existent. We call him the absent minded professor.

You boyfriend has on up on my brother in-law that at least he tries and as the saying goes, \"it is not the gift but the thought that counts.\" Understandably though it would be nice to get something you could actually use. The cookbook was a nice idea if you actually knew how to cook and liked to cook.

Have you thought of taking to his mother? Possibly that lesson in the social graces did not fully sink in and she could try again. You might say to her that you appreciate that he remembers the special occasions but some of his gifts are, pick what works best; inappropriate, were purchase almost as an afterthought or without any thought. You love him deeply but his gift giving is almost hurtful.

Come to think of it is his gift giving to his parent and siblings of equally poor taste or has he given that responsibility over to you? IF so do you know what it was before you took over selecting gifts for his family.

I don\'t believe his choice of gifts is meant to be hurtful or that he doesn\'t love you as you do him. I believe he may be either uneducated in that area of social graces or so into his education he doesn\'t have time to put thought into anything else. For if it was just thoughtless ness on his part other parts of your relationship would be failing as well.

I get along really well with my family, and I love them. But my mom is a very conservative Christian and I (secretly) disagree with her on many topics, and I don't want her to find out because it would negatively affect our relationship. The biggest thing I have to hide is that I am agnostic. If she found out, it would destroy our friendship. I also need to hide my views on politics, morality,and sexuality. How can I hide all of these things from her without her knowing so that we remain close?

This is a tough one to answer. Politics is one thing and easier to hide as far as which candidate or party you support. Political feeling or ideology is harder to hide but can be done for short periods of time. Religion though is a whole other story as it is much more personal and in you mothers life it is part and parcel of her daily life.

Now if you live at home it is going to be extremely hard to hide your religious feelings from her. If you live at home how do you handle the inevitable questions of; \"have you been to church or will you go to church with me.\"

I too am an agnostic and the thought of going to church to please someone is not my idea of placation. I will go to church or temple for a wedding or funeral as it is the right thing to do, but not for regular services as I do not believe in organized religion.

Fortunately for me my parents were not big church goers they went on special occasions and I made myself scarce, when I was older, for those occasions; generally by volunteering to work. Eventually I had to come clean and admit I did not have the same religious beliefs as they did.

Since I have been where you are now I can tell you that in trying to hide your religious beliefs you will cause your mom to wonder and she will deduce something is up with you. It is far better to come out and tell her and how you tell her makes all the difference in how she accepts what you say.

As a parent raised my child to be a free thinker; to take nothing as factual until he himself has verified or satisfied himself that something is fact. That fact that I\'m an agnostic was not something he should take as fact. I told him to investigate the two religions that made up both sides of our family and others and if he found comfort or something in them that was fine with me.

My advice on both of these subjects is to come clean with mom. Sit down with her and say something like. \"You know mom I want to thank you for raising me right, \"I think you and dad (if he is still in the picture) did a good job teaching me right from wrong.\" \"I believe this is the reason you and I get along as well as we do.\" \"But what worries me is as I get older I start to see different things and maybe I might question things that you might have strong feelings about and I would not want this to come between us.\" \"Can we agree right now that it is okay for us to agree not to agree on everything no matter how strong our individual feelings may be on the subject.\"

You of course put this into your own words and try to stay generic as possible while talking to your mom. I\'m just as sure mom is going to have questions on just what you might be talking about. Here you can be evasive if you want to give mom time to let it sink in that you are a free thinker. Then down the road when the inevitable questions you are dreading come up you can remind her that she has agreed it is okay to disagree. Otherwise you can continue on and tell her where you and she are different.

I would go with being evasive for if she responds that no I raised you to think and do as I do then we have to come up with a plan \"B\" for which I have no idea what that might be at this time.

Hey guys,

I'm going to be moving to California for a job and I'm starting to think about how much I can afford on a apartment among other things. I'm a single female and I'll be making about $50,000. So I was wondering how much of that would be taken in taxes and what I'd actually be able to spend. I tried paycheckcity.com and I don't know if I can trust it. As a test I used my current salary and it said I made about $7,500 less than I do now after taxes (even though things like retirement and such are taken from my paycheck currently). I checked with the new salary and it said I'd make $20,000... It sounds too crazy that $30,000 will be taken in taxes...

If you're a California resident, can you please give me an estimate on how much I can expect to make? One coworker said it's safe to assume that half my paycheck will be gone which is awful... Any advice would be good. Or if you have a site you know is more accurate.

Also, I'll be moving out of the house with this move to a new state so I want to make sure I can afford to support myself.

Use the link below to calculate your taxes. I di using the same $50,000 and your employer withholding at a 23% Federal rate and a California rate of 9.3% which I found to be the rate of withholding for a $50K income your bi-monthly take home check would be $1,302.63.

I also calculated your taxes just using your standard deduction or using and you would get back from state and federal over $5K. Do the math yourself using the link below.

http://www.tax-rates.org/California/income-tax

17/f
New York state

I am nearing the end of my senior year in high school, but lately, I haven't been attending daily because I've been pretty ill, physically. I have an overactive thyroid which is causing me to have diarrhea, as well as many other health issues.

The past two times I've tried staying home from school, though (and after my mom has already called me in sick), the Principal and Guidance Counselor have showed up AT MY DOOR, and told me to get my things and get ready for school. Then, they TAKE ME TO SCHOOL THEMSELVES.

My mom doesn't do much to stop it because... I don't know why. Because I guess she thinks they're doing the right thing.

What I'm wondering is if there are any actual laws for the state of New York that state whether or not this is allowed.

I'm not deathly ill, but I've almost passed out many times in school from being extremely light-headed.

And as far as my health goes, I stay completely hydrated (I drink sooo much water) and try my best to eat normally and healthily. It's not so bad that I have to go to the emergency room or anything (at least not yet), but yesterday, I almost had to. And they still forced me to go to school. And the nurse refused to send me home because I've apparently missed too many days of school already.

The thing with my attendance, though, is that I'm already not graduating on time. I need to go to summer school for one class, and I'll either receive my diploma in August, or in January. So I don't see why they're forcing me to go if (a) I feel terribly ill ALWAYS, and (b)I'm ALREADY not graduating on time anyways.

I...ugh. Yeah.

My question: Are there any laws for New York State that state whether or not it is allowed for a Principal and Guidance Counselor to show up at a student's door, even when they're sick, and force them to go to school and do all their work, even when there's no point in doing so, because the student is already not graduating on time?

All help is appreciated in advance, thank you.

Things I\'m sure have changed since I lived in New York so I\'m going to make two suggestions:

1. Have your doctor write a note to the school about your and your illness. How it acts and why you need to stay how when it acts up.

2. Then take this letter to a lawyer and have him or her write a letter to the principal concerning your rights under the law and physical illness.

Why do this? Unless you\'re willing to drop out of school and get a GED New York law and most states say you must attend so many days of school. Excess unexcused absence is grounds for not graduating or promoting to the next grade. Illness with a doctors note can be an excused absence.

Now Should a Principal have the right to force a student to attend school? If the principal is not accepting your mothers phone calls as excused absences the he may be considering you as Truant. If you are considered a Truant then he can come and force you to go to school or send the police to get you and bring you to school. How truants are handled differs from state to state.

Now and this is the reason for seeing a lawyer also. He may not have the right under the law to come to your home and physically remove you and take you to school. BY that I mean to say or imply that he does is the same thing. Even though his reasons for doing so may be well intentioned; if he does not have the right under the law then he can be charged with kidnapping.

At 17 you are old enough to seek the help of a legal aid attorney so the cost of a lawyer will be little or no charge.

I've done some research on “verbal abuse" and I think me and my brother sister and mother might be suffering from it… you see, my dad calls us names like bitch, asshole, gerk, brat, and my mother hoe, hoar, and other names offensive to a woman, and he threatened all three of my siblings: threatened to “smash" me and my sister (and once lifted a knife and said to me,“it's time" it was supposed to be a joke, but still), and also did the same to my brother. A signifigant thing he did was he threatened to break my sister's leg or arm or some bone. I learned that this threatening is punished, but I'm not sure if I should call the cops, and even if I do I can't get any proof, so what should I do?

I agree with the advice STNick119 gave you to hide a camera. This type of crime needs proof otherwise it is a you said, he said situation. Now verbal abuse calling you a bastard, hoe, hoar and other derogatory names is not a criminal offence. what is a criminal offence is when the verbal abuse becomes an assault.

Under the law you can be assaulted when you are verbally threatened by someone you believe is capable of caring out that threat. An Example of an Assault in what you wrote is: when your dad said; \"I\'m going to smash your face,\" or when he threatened to break your sisters leg.\"

Your dad committed a far worse crime; it is not a joke to threaten someone with a weapon. It is called Assault with a Deadly Weapon (ADW). This is a felony charge which carries significant jail time.

The problem with any assault charge is believability? The police will probably make an arrest on the ADW charge just for the sake of safety. The prosecutor most likely will take that case to trial. The problem comes in getting a jury to believe you if there are no witnesses or video to prove it happened. The other assault charges are simple assaults in which the police may remove dad at the time to give your mother time to get a Domestic order of Peace; which forces him to stay a certain distance from her and the rest of the family. If the arrest is made it will be a misdemeanor arrest and he will probably be issued a desk appearance citation to appear in district court.

I\'ve explained the different types of assaults and what can happen if you file a complaint with the police. The most serious charge, the one the police must investigate is the ADW charge. If you have a reliable witness such as your mother, then press charges. If you do not and do not have any type of a recording to show or let the police listen to; all you might do is enrage your father more. While you have reason to make the report you do have to consider what will happen in making that report.

Another thing you can do is talk with a trusted teacher or your school principal about your home life and what you have written to us. When a student approaches then with a problem such as this they are required under the law to make a report to social services. Social services will investigate and make any charges if need be to make sure you and your siblings are safe.

There's this really nice girl I've known for awhile and we've been good friends for a long time. Now I think I might love her, what should a girl do in this situation.

This is one of those questions that needs more information before it should be answered. Right now I read that you have love for someone of the same sex but you do not explain that love yet you are asking advice as to what to do about it.

Not knowing certain information means we could make the wrong assumptions and give you the wrong advice ruining a good friendship.

What we need to know is your age as well as hers? Is this love one where you some type of sexual attraction or is more of a sisterly type thing? Do you or are you sexually attracted to boys?

If you really read my questions you will see where I\'m going with my questions. If you do there is nothing wrong with being that way or both ways, but it does tell me how to answer you IF I assume you are and you are not then I have given you the wrong answer. You can give me this information in a private message that only I can see.

One of the reasons for asking your age is I do not like putting labels on young people\'s sexuality. It can be counter productive to the advice I give them as well as physically and emotionally harmful to them if the label were to be known by others in school.

This is why I am not answering you question directly. If your willing to answer my questions I will give you as much help as I can in answering your question.

Hey everyone! I'm going to try to keep this short! I currently have hair that is about an inch past my boob:p I'm a 14 year old girl btw :p but my hair is naturally a very deep and rich red and I've never coloured it before. I have been thinking about donating my hair for about a year now. Some people say that you only have to cut a minimum of 8 inches off so I'm probably going to do that which would take my a little bit past my shoulders. I'm nervous my mom or hairdresser won't let me though because I have freaked out due to cutting my hair short. Can someone help with details about donating and how to convince my mom?

I think what you want to do is a very kind and compassionate act on your part. I also understand the thought of cutting your hair can be some what of a traumatic event for you as this may even be the first real haircut for you. Just remember that your hair will grow back and the hair your donating will help someone whose hair is not growing feel better about themselves which in so doing will help them beat the disease they are fighting.

A doctor friend of mine once told me that medicine is 10% of the cure. A persons mind set is 90%. The donation of you hair will go along way to reaching that 90%.

Below is an excerpt for an organization called Locks of Love. By clicking on the link at the end you will go to their website. There you should find the answers you\'re looking for. Ask mom to research the site with you. This is a good thing you are thinking of doing.

Locks of Love is perhaps the best known and longest running hair donation charity. The mission of Locks of Love is to make hair prostheses for financially disadvantaged children who suffer long term hair loss from any illness. Hair donations must be at least 10 inches long and bound in a ponytail or braid. All hair colors (except gray) and textures are welcome. You can even donate your permed or colored hair as long as it\'s not damaged.

http://www.locksoflove.org/

I'm a guy from America and I have a question about someone. See there's this girl `that used to be my friend but we slowly started to drift apart,acknowledging each other with nods or hi's. Then after about 6 months I gave her a note. The very next day she only glanced at me once and we avoided each other for like 8 months. I just want to be friends again. What do I do?

While you acknowledge what the content of the note was you do not say why you have been avoiding each other. You also do not say what your ages are today. From your writing I would say you are at the very least in high school now.

Taking what little I know in to consideration along with what I am assuming; here is what I can advise you.

As we grow older we all change. While it is possible that friends we had in elementary school will still be our friends in High school and beyond. It is also not unusual that those same friends drift away from us as they change and we change. These changes do not happen overnight but more are more subtle and happen over a period of time as we learn and grow. Our interests change, or outlook and perspectives as well as our goals in life change.

It is our change in goals and perspectives that cause people to draw apart. Her interest may be more in arts and science where yours may be more in math and mechanics. This will cause the two of you to drift apart and seek friends with similar interest.

Know this may or may not be your problem as I am guessing since you have not said. What doesn\'t change in this situation is someone has to make the first move. It appears to me that you are looking for her to make the first move or give you some signal that she is interested in some friendship with you.

If you are waiting for her to give you a signal or make the first move you could be waiting a very long time for something that possibly will never come. Instead I suggest since it is you that wants the friendship to be resumed, that you go up to her and talk to her. You could say something to the effect; \"Hi Sally I\'ve really missed talking with you.\" \"I\'m not sure how or why we lost the great friendship I know I have enjoyed but for whatever reason it happened I would like to try and repair our friendship.\" Of course you use your own words but that is the gist of what you could or should say to her.

Now the ball is in her court. She can now blow you off, tell you why she thinks you grew apart, tell you she is no longer interested in being friends or hopefully want to be friends and willing to start over.

This is the best I can offer with what you have given us. If you would like to write back in a private message to me with more information as to why you feel you two have drifted apart I may be able to give you more specific help.

i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ?

I will be very blunt with you. Not only are you too young to even be considering having sex, I will address that next. But 5 minutes of fun with you could get him 25 years to life in prison for statutory rape depending on what state you live in.

Statutory rape is when someone under the age of consent has sex with an adult person more than 3 to 4 years older than themselves depending on the laws in your state. some States do not have this grace period at all. There are 6 years in age difference between you two. Not knowing your age is no excuse. No state has an age of consent anywhere near 13 years old.

Some prosecutors add additional charges and given your age I believe a prosecutor would add sexual predator, delinquency of a minor and what ever other charges they can find. Statutory rape is looked at extremely harsh. If he ever was to get out of jail he would have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.

Now knowing all this why do you think he wants to have sex with you and not someone older closer to his own age? Is he a sexual predator? Is he a sexual predator in the making? Will he still be looking for girls your age and younger to have sex with when he is 25, 35 or older?

Why are you dating someone so much older than you? Yes I understand what I thrill it is for you to have someone his age interested in you. If he is a sexual predator it could be very dangerous for you. Sexual predators are a danger to young girls and boys. Please don\'t tell me you are very mature and know he is not dangerous. You are not old enough or have the life experiences to be that mature.

My advice is to tell your parents about him and what he is asking of you. Yes they will be upset and rightfully so. They will be more upset with him than with you for he is taking advantage of you naiveté. But they will be just as thankful that you came to them so they could handle this situation properly and enjoy having you with them rather than possibly planning your funeral. Which is something that is not something I am say to scare you but a real possibility if this man is a sexual predator.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now. I'm 19 and he is 24. When me and him first got together I was 17 and he was 22 and we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he was always texting me and calling me and telling me how beautiful I am and we were always excited to see each other. He is also the only guy I've been with sexually. Now that we live on our own and have a 9 month old son he doesn't do everything he used to and he doesn't seem happy to see me anymore and we only have sex once a month. Is this normal? I feel unwanted and unloved:( I really wanna get back to the way me n him were before:/ please help.

Normal is a relative thing, meaning what is normal for me may not be normal for you. That being said two people your age having sex only once a month 3 years of not being able to keep your hands off of each other would not appear normal to most people.

Possible reason, and I\'m no expert in this area, is no matter how much he may or may have loved you. Your pregnancy, which I believe may have been unplanned by the both of you, has left him feeling trapped. This does not mean he does not love the child. What it means is that he may not have planned to be settled with a girlfriend/wife/mother and child at this stage in his life. Now that he is he is doing the responsible thing and providing a home and everything else a child needs.

IF this is true he has at the very least has my respect. In the same vain if he is making life miserable for you, and no sex life to speak of would fall into that category then something has to be done. If you are breast feeding the baby then you may not want to be on birth control medication. His fear may be making you pregnant again.

You did not give any other information about your lives together other than you basically have no sex life. A logical reasoning for this based on your writing would be his fear of making you pregnant again if in fact your pregnancy was an accident and not planned. Again I am making an assumption as you did not say.

My best advice is you two need to talk. In any relationship there needs to be communication. Good sex is not communication. You need to be able to talk to each other about everything from Apples to Zebras and everything in between.

In this instance you need to find out if his problem is fear of making you pregnant again. IF it is then you have a decision to make. Continue to breastfeed and have sex once a month or now that the baby is almost a year old wean the baby of breast milk on to formula or real milk and get on birth control.

There may be other problem he has real or imagined. Whatever they are unless he is willing to talk to you about them you will not clear the air with him about them. I t may be that you two might need the help of a couples counselor. suggest this to him.

Wall we can do is make suggestions. One on one counseling with a couples counselor is where real help can be gotten.

Urm how do I even begin.. Basically me and my ex saw each other again after two years and well I don't know recently we spoke and all and I'm really confused and feel like iv been wasting my time because he said to me that he doesn't want a relationship just to put a tag on something he would rather continue seeing me etc.. But iv been waiting for this guy for almost 3 years like I feel I'm wasting my time it's acc hurts me cause I feel like he ain't taking me serious he just wants a fling,
Honestly I'm 20 next month and I'm at that point where I do not want a fling with someone I feel he's taking advantage of my feelings , basically he said it's all up to me I can choose whether we carry this on or not but I don't want a relationship like if it's going good why do we have to put a name on it.. I'm really confused I love this guy but I don't know if he's taking the piss it's like whenever I'm in London that's when he acc decides to talk to me (I live at uni) but when I come down for quite a while he never makes like plans to see me till recently I feel that he's paying with my emotions since he knows how much I acc like him and I don't know what to do it's such a out off knowing you've waited so long for something and it turns out the person doesn't want a relationship wtf it makes me so mad I don't want force love but when your in love your so blind you don't see behind anything and it's tearing me apart , the worse thing is I don't know how to walk away and say no.. With the way he speaks like saying do whatever you want it's up to you whether this carries on or not makes me realise that he acc doesn't like me the way I do I find that so immature I don't know :( what can I do now

I can tell from the way this is written you are upset. Being on the outside looking in, which is what we do here, it could appear you\'re trying to force a square peg into a round hole.

It is quite apparent that you have great feelings for him and may truly love him. It is also apparent that he is not returning those feeling. Why is this? I can think of several reason.

1. He is being immature.

2. Is not interested in long distance relationship.

3. Wants to play the field and knows you will be there if he calls. This by far is the one that should hurt for it is disrespectful to you as he is taking you for granted.

If I was your father I would say to you that there are times in life when you will not always get what you want. As much as you may love him you cannot force him to love you.

There is someone out there for you. Someone who will love you and respect you the way a women should be loved and respected. You are only 20 years old you have quite a few years before you need to settle down or even should consider settling down.

Take the time to enjoy your youth. Enjoy being single and being at Uni. Finish your education first for that is what is important now. If by chance a real true love comes along fine. In the mean time enjoy being a young adult and don\'t give your heart away so easily.

You are a lovely person that any man would be extremely lucky to have. Make him prove his love before you before you give your heart to him for you are worth all the love he has.

How do I know this. I\'ve been giving advice on this site for a long time. I\'ve learned a lot about telling who and what people are by how they write. You want fulfillment and everything that life has to offer. There is nothing wrong with what you want. I\'m just suggesting you slow down a bit and take the time to smell the roses and enjoy the road that will take you to where you want to be.

How many theatres in New York? Any idea!

Having grown up just outsie the city on Long Island. I can tell you if you are talking of just the theaters in the theater district their are not that many. I don\'t know the present number but I would be surprise if there were any more than 10.

No if you want to include the off brodway theaters and some of the different theater clobs and dinner clubs that number grows substantially. Again I have no Idea of tha actual number though I wouldn\'t be surprided if someone told me it was close to 100.

Is it possible to get a rental car with 100$ in NYC?

A $100 won\'t even cover the deposit. If you’re staying in the city you really do not need a car. Many of the people who live and work in NYC do not own cars as the public transportation system will take just about everywhere they need to go within the city. Plus there are the famous NYC taxicabs for where the transit system does not go. Also public parking is out of this world expensive.

where is Niagara Falls?

If you’re going to fly, I suggest you fly into Buffalo, NY as the airport is closer to the falls. Of course depending from where you are driving from it may also be closer to drive to Buffalo and then cross into Canada to stay. NinjaNeer is correct the Canadian side offers much nicer places to stay with much better views of the falls at night.

Visiting the falls you should visit both the American and Canadian side as they both have a lot to offer. Get a visitor’s guide to the falls as there are many other attractions around the area on both sides of the falls. If you are driving to the falls and going through upstate New York or the Trans Canadian Highway there are a great many attractions along the way you might want to stop and see deepening on how much time you have for your trip.

IF your family is a member of AAA they can be of a big help in planning a road trip to the Falls.

Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now. I sneak him into my bedroom when my parents are at work. Sometimes we have sex and sometimes we talk and then go to sleep. Is this bad?

I believe you already know the answer or you wouldn\'t have written to us. The why of why it is bad is could be two fold.

1) You are doing something behind you parents back that you know you are not supposed to this is wrong. Why, is if you are under 18 and your parents have a house rule no boys over when they are not home, which is a rule I would have for my daughter.

Now if your over 18 and your parents still have that rule no boys over unless their home. The water gets a little muddy here. At 18 you are legally an adult as such you are entitled to a sex life. But, you really have to hate that little word; if you live at home you are still obligated to an extent, at least morally to live by the house rules.

Why? Well for one thing you are an adult and again legally your parents are no longer responsible for you. If you do not wish to live by the house rules then you can leave and get an apartment and have all the sex you want with your boyfriend and have him sleep over all you want. At 18 a parent is not obligated by law to clothe you, feed you, and pay for college or anything else. We do this out of love and the desire to give you a good start in life.

Now if you are over 18 some parent don\'t know or don\'t want to let go and let you live your life. We think you’re too young and still need our guidance which is partially true. Some of us believe if you live under our roof you live by our rules. For those of us that believe this the rules have to be more flexible for the adult children.

If this sounds like your parents then you have some work to do in getting them to let go. You may never get them to agree to allow your boyfriend to spend the night in your room and have sex with him. The idea of their daughter being just down the hall having sex is something most parents, especially your dad, just can\'t fathom.

2) If you’re under 18 and having sex then you know how your parents feel about under age sex, then this is wrong.

We have already discussed being 18 or over and your right to a sex life. If you are over 18 and you are having sex then I suggest you get some birth control pills. If you are over 18 you do not need parental permission for you are an adult. It matters not that the doctors’ visit may be paid for on their health insurance or the prescription is paid for on their insurance. You are now an adult and you parents are no longer legally able to see your medical records, make any medical decisions for you or get any medical information from your doctors without your written permission from your doctor. In fact legally they cannot even make a doctor’s appointment for you.

Who is paying the bill is not relevant at all. I could be paying the bill and that would not give me any rights to any medical information on you.

My short answer to your question is if you’re under 18 what you’re doing is wrong and I believe you know it. If you are over 18 what you are doing is not entirely wrong as legally you are entitled to a sex life. The wrong here is a moral wrong as it goes against your parents’ house rules. For this you need to speak to them and hopefully set up some more flexible house rules, ones more beneficial to someone of your adult age.

The only signs I see of as of now.. is that when I'm around and he's on his cell phone.. he is constantly on it on face book and what not. He was on the couch and I was on the recliner watching t.v. and he was on his phone looking at different stuff. I noticed at times he would have his phone turned away from me as if he new I would look but then if it was something he wanted me to see he would have it visible to me and then ask me to look at this or that. Another sign I have seen is that he constantly has his phone by his side. I'm not 100 percent sure he is cheating because he gives me compliments all the time and he's attitude, the way he talks to me and treats me has n't changed. The only thing that has is him being on his phone and I feel he is hiding something I just don't know what. I also have seen him looking at other girls pics which that don't really mean nothing I don't guess I just wish he wasn't so secretive as it seems to me. I had once had this feeling with one of my exes and I was right. Just trying to figure out more signs. Maybe it's just me. I hope its not true that he is talking to another girl. Thanks in advance.

For some reason I am seeing more and more girls equate looking as cheating; to look and to admire in my mind is not cheating. It is when you sample is when cheating begins. I\'m not even sure that some harmless flirting in certain social settings is cheating as long as it stops at this type of flirting.

In today\'s world we all work and interact with the opposite sex. After work we may even communicate and socialize with people from work. Social media like Facebook has made it a lot easier to do this.

Now I really can\'t say what boyfriend/husband is doing when he turns away from you while on Facebook. He may just be shielding you from what he knows will upset you though he knows it is just harmless communication between friends or coworkers. I really can\'t say and your suspicions could be all right or all wrong.

My suggestion is you two sit down and talk about this. Find out why he turns away. It may just be harmless. I would also suggest that you do as my wife did with me when we first married. She told me \"I could look at the menu but if I ever reordered she would cut something off of me I hold very dear.\" That was 43 years ago come July.

Even at my age I like looking although now I look at young and older women. I think a woman’s body is the best art form there is as no two are alike. While I look I have never touched or taken a taste from the menu. With minor exception of some trips for business purposes I have slept every night of our 43 years next to my wife and I would not think of sleeping in some others woman’s bed.

Before you accuse him of cheating make sure he has actually sampled or is intending to sample. Looking and talking is not cheating, not in today’s working world.

Talk to do not just sit there and stew about it, that\'s just hurtful for you and a wrong to him.

I have to fly out for a funeral and the airlines no longer offer a bereavement rate. :( I don't have much money, but I have to say goodbye. Is there a way to find a cheaper flight with short notice? They want over $1,100 because there is no advance notice, and I am a waitress and a student. Thank you for helping me.

Try the discount airlines such as JetBlue, spirit and Frontier but be careful as these carriers may have inexpensive ticket prices the charge extra for just about everything such as carryon baggage, checked baggage, whether you get a window or isle seat. Southwest Airline does not have any of the extra fees mentioned thought their ticket price may be higher.

One other thing to look at is to fly on the earliest or latest fights you can find. The airlines call these flights positioning flights which is when they move a plane from where they parked it overnight to an airport where is more expensive to park a plane over night but they can get a full passenger load on a flight leaving at a decent hour in the morning. The last flight out is also flown for positioning though this time to an airport where it can be parked inexpensively or one where routine inspections can be done overnight.

These flights are usually deeply discounted to attract passengers so the airline can at least break even on the flight.

I dont know what to say ,i want to know whats the purpose of my life,like what am i made to do.ive been cheated on ,ive been bullied .i doubt any one would answer so just hear me out,i dont know what to do,how do i find my purpose ,and i also need to make new friends!!

This question is asked by a lot of teenagers especially young teenagers in your situation.

You can put a stop to the bullying by telling teachers and principals about who is bullying you. There is a great deal of emphasis on bulling right now because of what has been happening in schools as a result of it. You do not have to sit back and take it. If you’re being bullied outside of school tell your parents. A visit from the police department and a possible conference with a judge or court master should change the bully’s ways. Many states have enacted some tough new laws concerning bullying and they are directed directly at the ages of people who are bullying you.

As far as the cheating goes; boys your age are, pardon the expression, stupid when it comes to girls and relationships. Like you they are going through puberty and puberty effects them differently than you. When it comes to love your definition and theirs is quite different. Their definitions are almost the same as lust for they need sex to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the new hormones hence the term \"Horny\".

There is a famous line boy’s use that is older than I am and I am old enough to be your grandfather. The line is; \"If you love me you will have sex with me.\" You do not have sex with someone to prove your love. Sex is the natural outcome of a long term loving relationship. If you ever hear this line or something like it; tell the boy to take a hike, he doesn\'t love you he lusts for you.

As for the meaning of life; that is a question most everyone asks and the answer is different for everyone. Sometimes there is no answer as life is constantly changing which is good.

A long time ago I decided that for me the meaning of life meant that all I had to be was the best me I could be. That is I was a better man tomorrow than I was today that was all I had to be. I did not have to be better than anyone else just better than who I was yesterday.

When I adopted this philosophy my entire life changed. I no longer worked to be better than my peers but I became equal or better any way. I stymied my employers for as a sale rep they felt money was the prime motivator, it wasn\'t mine. I knew I could make money for them and me. I concentrated on my motto which was to learn something new every day and to be better tomorrow than I was to day. My manager didn\'t understand but he didn\'t question either as he liked the results. I liked the fact that he didn\'t question and I confused him for he stayed away and let me do my thing.

I\'m retired now and my meaning of life has greatly changed because of the reason I have retired. I was injured in an auto accident and I am now disabled. There are a great many things I can no longer do. I have had to find different things to give me fulfilment and allow me to at the very least stay even with who I am. I still try to learn something new each day and is one of the reasons I advise on this sight as there are questions that require me to do research before I answer.

This is my purpose in life your will be different and it will change. Right now I would say your purpose in life is school and taking advantage of everything school has to offer. Being a teenager is a wonderful time of our lives and we only go through these years once. Make the best of these years.

When you finish with your schooling you meaning or purpose in life will change. You may call this goal setting and part of it is. Goal setting is part of the purpose of life as it is through your goals that you get to achieve your purpose in life.

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