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I think he's cheating.
The only signs I see of as of now.. is that when I'm around and he's on his cell phone.. he is constantly on it on face book and what not. He was on the couch and I was on the recliner watching t.v. and he was on his phone looking at different stuff. I noticed at times he would have his phone turned away from me as if he new I would look but then if it was something he wanted me to see he would have it visible to me and then ask me to look at this or that. Another sign I have seen is that he constantly has his phone by his side. I'm not 100 percent sure he is cheating because he gives me compliments all the time and he's attitude, the way he talks to me and treats me has n't changed. The only thing that has is him being on his phone and I feel he is hiding something I just don't know what. I also have seen him looking at other girls pics which that don't really mean nothing I don't guess I just wish he wasn't so secretive as it seems to me. I had once had this feeling with one of my exes and I was right. Just trying to figure out more signs. Maybe it's just me. I hope its not true that he is talking to another girl. Thanks in advance.
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This is something that will drive you crazy until you talk to him.
You don't want to look through his phone, that will just ruin your relationship because without trust, there is no relationship.
Communication will help strengthen the relationship.
Just sit him down and ask him if you guys can talk. Let him know that you've noticed that he turns away from you while he's on his phone and it makes you wonder if there is something on it that he doesn't want you seeing.
Then he'll probably stop doing that.
You can't really accuse him of anything unless you have actual proof him doing anything with other girls.
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For some reason I am seeing more and more girls equate looking as cheating; to look and to admire in my mind is not cheating. It is when you sample is when cheating begins. I'm not even sure that some harmless flirting in certain social settings is cheating as long as it stops at this type of flirting.
In today's world we all work and interact with the opposite sex. After work we may even communicate and socialize with people from work. Social media like Facebook has made it a lot easier to do this.
Now I really can't say what boyfriend/husband is doing when he turns away from you while on Facebook. He may just be shielding you from what he knows will upset you though he knows it is just harmless communication between friends or coworkers. I really can't say and your suspicions could be all right or all wrong.
My suggestion is you two sit down and talk about this. Find out why he turns away. It may just be harmless. I would also suggest that you do as my wife did with me when we first married. She told me "I could look at the menu but if I ever reordered she would cut something off of me I hold very dear." That was 43 years ago come July.
Even at my age I like looking although now I look at young and older women. I think a woman’s body is the best art form there is as no two are alike. While I look I have never touched or taken a taste from the menu. With minor exception of some trips for business purposes I have slept every night of our 43 years next to my wife and I would not think of sleeping in some others woman’s bed.
Before you accuse him of cheating make sure he has actually sampled or is intending to sample. Looking and talking is not cheating, not in today’s working world.
Talk to do not just sit there and stew about it, that's just hurtful for you and a wrong to him.
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I take it the ex then was speaking with girls on facebook as if he was available. Whether an ex boyfriend or husband, either kind of relationship needs to have some ground rules and boundaries. If you start off into a relationship, especially after having a problem in a past relationship, its even more important to discuss and both agree upon any boundaries. Often, a girl may want their guy to never look at another woman, whether a person standing in line at the check out stand or a nude in a magazine, there is no harm done if it is occasional, still in balance with all else in his life, doesn't take the majority of his time and doesn't change how he treats you or the amount of time and love and desire he has for you. If he's able to handle reality and know's that you are the most important thing in his life.
From what you say of his actions, how he treats you is that of a man in love with you. >Sounds like a wonderful guy. If he is hiding anything, it may not be a girl he is conversing with but rather an off color sexual joke a friend has posted that he isn't sure you might be able to handle without becoming upset. Most likely that is all. My husband has one friend from childhood and another facebook friend who sends him the funniest sexual stuff ever. At first he didnt show me either but when his out of control llaughter got to me, I begged to see what was so funny. He warned me first that he has a school friend who sends lots of crazy sexual content and then shows me and i laugh too. In fact, some game playing friends have put out an equally funny sexual related post that I send to my husband so he can send it to his friend who loves that stuff. My husband treats me well, there is no difference in his desire for me so I have no doubt of his love for me, even if either of us enjoy something on facebook of a sexual nature.
You may have suspected you feel this way due to what happened before and yes, thats probably why.
Here's what I suggest if you both haven't talked about perameters of what you are and are not comfortable with, start making comments if you're not comfortable coming right out and starting on the subject, something like next time you get something sexual on facebook you think he might enjoy, call him over and show it to him and tell him you thought he would love it. I am a person hard for those who dont know me well to be able to read me. Most think I am a Miss Prim and Proper who would be offended at anything that hints at something sexual, when if the truth be known, they most likely would be very uncomfortable with much of what I've experienced in life.Basically, I am much more open minded than most people. If you know you can be, say and do things to let him know. Next time he seems to be viewing something of a questionable nature by his body actions, talk to him like his conhort in crime. Just blurt out, "Hey, if you've got something juicy and sexual there, don't hog it all to yourself, I wanna see it!" and chuckle and laugh. If he acts startled and asks what you mean, then just say you noticed his phone screen was facing you just a while ago and just now he shielded it from you. If he says it was nothing, maybe its true or maybe he still needs to learn to trust that you won't come unglued on him.
As some of my friends and another advicegiver is prone to say in their own veuariations, it basically goes like this: you can look all you want but you can't touch. If you can be secure with that, your guy will eventually open up to you. Perhaps he had a jealous untrusting girlfriend in the past so he's taking it careful with you. Good luck
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