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Before you read this… please know that my boyfriend and I have a very strong and healthy relationship. And just like every couple, we have our own personal ways of how we do our sex life. We do things that may be a little intense for some people but that’s just us… its nothing thats too abnormal and its nothing disgusting either. But anyway… I also want to say sorry for the language :p please no judging, I just need some assistance.
So I recently found out that my boyfriend has a "Christian Grey" side to him. Referencing the book 50 shades of Grey. He SOMETIMES gets in a mood where he just wants to... well, basically use me as a sex object... be kinky, talk dirty, choke me, spank me, handcuff me, pull my hair, be extremely rough and he just wants me to take it and just do what he says without saying or doing anything unless he tells me to... For those of you who have read 50 shades... its very similar to Christians "angry sex." YOU may not be into this but I TOTALLY am!!!! I have a "safeword" in case it gets too intense for me but that's not really the point. This is just a part of our sex life because it works for us.
He gave me a preview the other day to see how I would react and it was amazing... best sex I've ever had!! I loved it! and I can take it and handle it. I cant wait to see what its like when its not a preview. But we were talking about it and he said that when he talks dirty to me, he would sometimes like me to respond... he gave me a couple of examples... if he says something like "you're such a slut" a good response would be "Yeah I'm a dirty slut" or if he called me a bitch I could say "I'm your fucking bitch." He told me that just responding "yeah" or "mmm" is good enough but sometimes its nice to hear more. He did however say that if he didn't want a response he would tell me to shut up... This all sounds SO mean but honestly... its really not. Its just how we like to do it sometimes and I seriously love it... when its over we are back to being in love and being sweet and all that. So please don't say anything like he is being abusive or I shouldn’t have to deal with that cuz its not like that.
My problem is that I have never really been good at dirty talk. So maybe some suggestions or any advice you can give, maybe examples of more responses I could give to phrases he may use… thanks in advance
First things first; No one has the right to judge what happens in your bedroom as long as what happens is consensual between both parties. If he wants to spank you and you want to let him that\'s fine. If you don\'t want to be spanked and he spanks you anyway that\'s wrong for there is no mutual consent. I may not like, your parents may not like it. As long as you like and he wants to do it for you it is none of our business and that goes for any other kind of sex you and he may want to try. Mutual consent is 100% okay and never weird where you two are concerned so enjoy your sex life together and do not worry about others.
One thing I would advise against is the joking. This can accidentally go too far. Especially when taken to the point of passing out. I don\'t see the thrill her but I can see and have enjoyed some of the other things you mentioned with my partner. I would suggest you reconsider your consent for the joking and remove your consent for this. There is more than enough \"rough sex\" in what you two are doing to fulfill yourselves.
As for dirty talk: I would suggest you watch some sex videos of rough sex and see how the girls in the video talk. I believe this will be more realistic then anything I can conjure up for you.
It sounds like you and your boyfriend have a god sex life just remember to keep it mutually consensual.
13/F
So I have a few questions, and I just need help ASAP. Okay so since about June 2012, I've felt weird. I think it may be Depersonalization, but I just can't deal with it in my everyday life anymore. I was hoping it would go away by now, but it hasn't. It kind of stops if I get my mind off it, but of course it will come back. Anyways, I saw a post someone made and it said something about being in a coma or whatever. Now I'm really scared because what if I am in a coma? I don't know anymore. I just want to stop this feeling. I get anxiety from my dad. I was thinking about getting pills for my anxiety in July of 2012, but my mom doesn't want me medicated all the time and I don't want to be either. But should I? Sometimes my anxiety helps by like stopping me from saying certain things. And will it help this feeling go away? I just now feel like I'm in a coma because of that post and I feel sad...
Here's a reason why I'm scared of taking pills: For some reason, I feel like I'll be weird the first time i'll take them. Like I'll be all dizzy because I'll be feeling different. I just need help. Please help asap.
Depersonalization has nothing to do with anything like being in a coma. Depersonalization is more like standing outside yourself and watching what is happening and not having anyway to do anything about it. This is a nutshell description and there is more to it than what I just put here.
Before you worry about what or how the medication may make you feel; you need to be properly diagnosed. Self diagnoses is almost 100% inaccurate. Make an appointment with your family doctor for a complete physical. You will need a complete physical to rule out any organic reason for how you are feeling before any diagnoses for Depersonalization will or can be made. Of course when you see your doctor tell him or her about why you feel you may be suffering from Depersonalization. Make a list of any symptoms you have, any traumas or life changes that have accrued. Bring this list with you to the doctor. It would also be a good Idea to have a friend or mom with you to listen to the doctor as a friend or mom will hear things you may miss.
IF you are diagnosed with Depersonalization the treatment is medication and psychotherapy generally with a psychologist for talk therapy. As for the medication, like all medication it will have a list of potential side effects. Just how you will react to this medication is unknown. You may not suffer at all from the side effects or if you do it will be as most to only for a few days as your body becomes accustomed to the medication. Should the side effects last longer than a few days your doctor will adjust the medication to reduce or eliminate the side affects.
You will not be walking around like some zombie. The drugs recommended for treatment are not the psychotropic drugs recommended for people suffering from bipolar disorder.
21/f, 27/m
Hello,
I am currently talking to this guy. We actually just met online. I was interested in him and we went on a date and I thought it went alright. We recently went out again the second time and he kissed me. I have been getting mixed signals from him and I'm not sure what to think. These are what I have observed so far and reasons why I get mixed signals:
1. He sometimes talks about seeing meeting my family or coming to my house and having my mom make him this particular food he likes.
2. He holds my hand when walking in the street, driving in the car, etc. He also kisses me on the cheek, tells me I'm pretty and I have a cute personality.
3. He sometimes makes dirty jokes. Most of it relating to coming over to his house late at night and "doing stuff". He has been making those type of jokes since we first chatted online.
4. When he kisses me, he seems to be a bit aggressive and wouldn't let me pull back. The last time I saw him, he asked if I wanted to come in and "meet the dogs", yes he does have pets, but I'm sure he wanted to proceed further, I said no.
5. He listens to me when I talk, he's spoken to me about his issues before, his past, etc. Him in general doesn't come off as someone who would try to "get laid". He comes off as a gentleman when I talk to him.
6. He doesn't talk to me only on the weekdays, he speaks to me everyday.
7. I caught him getting online to meet girls, my guess is that he is trying to keep his options open but then it makes me wonder if I'm just someone he's planning to 'score' with and go back into the 'dating game'
He recently invited me to go to the symphony with him and I accepted. My manager was thinking that I have the ball in my court and that I should wait it out and see if he's looking for an actual relationship or that he's testing to see how far I would go.
I asked him if he was expecting anything from me (hoping he'd be completely honest), he said, "no. why would I expect anything from you? We just met." But he also told me that he's "open to anything." Even though the first day we met, he told me he was looking for someone be in a relationship.
What are you thoughts? What should I do?
With the six year difference in age, which is not all that great or has any real meaning here? I can see why you’re seeing some mixed signals coming from him, at least in the way you have presented them.
In any relationship there has to be good communication if the relationship is to succeed. No matter what the relationship type is, be it work, love or sexual; to succeed good communication is a must. Mixed signals, even those that may be possible perceived as a mixed signal, muddy the waters and work against a successful relationship.
If you like this guy and thing a loving, caring and sexual relationship is in the future with him. Then you need to talk to him, it is not too early in the relationship to talk. We play to many games today and he may be receiving signals that you don\'t know you\'re sending.
He sent one signal as I see it, \"He sometimes talks about seeing meeting my family or coming to my house and having my mom make him this particular food he likes.\" To me this says he is looking for a long term relationship. What I see him saying is someday in the not too distant future I would like to meet your family and let them get to know me.
Why is this important? Most people will not stay in a relationship with someone their family does not approve of. He is seeking your families’ approval so that when and if you get to the point of going to the next level you already know how your family feels about him.
Is he being over eager? Maybe, in general this is not discussed on the first dates. Then again he is 27 and he may want to settle down and start raising a family with someone.
I would say you should do two things.
1. Try not to read into anything just take them at face value.
2. As I said if you see a loving and caring relationship building there is nothing wrong in sitting down and talking about the future together. Getting him to tell you what he wants for the future and you telling him what you desire in the future. Then you and only then will you know how compatible you may be on this level.
Don\'t make the mistake of going to bed together and find out your great in bed before you find out if you a great in all other ways. For great sex does not make for great marriages it is only one part of a marriage. Being able to communicate with each other is the biggest part of any relationship including marriage.
I know for I will be married 43 come June and communication has been the saving grace to our marriage.
please do help me.. i am just confuse and worried.. i know i am not a virgin anymore but i never had sex for almost 3years... and i met this guy we're together for almost 8months now and we had sex just a few days ago after our 8months together... surprisingly i bleed but not that much. what was that for? pleaseee help..
sincerely,
little miss missy
Hi Missy,
We are not doctors so it is really hard to say why this happened. I can guess at a reason such as possibly during foreplay he may have scratched you with a fingernail. If you were not well lubricated he may have caused an abrasion. Those are just two that I can think of off the top of my head.
At the moment since there was not to much blood I would not be to concerned. If it continues to happen when you and he have sex then I would suggest you see your GYN and let the doctor find out why this happening.
My boyfriend and I are both 15 and we are both virgins. He wants to have sex with me but he knows that I am not ready. He says he will try not to do anything that I will not be comfortable with but he told me he doesn't know how long he can hold it off for. Also, I don't really like the idea of giving him head or him fingering me as I have not done any of this before. Any advise?
Below is a link to a website I think both you and your boyfriend should look at and read through. It is all about first time sex and are you ready. It covers a variety of topics you should know before you even consider having sex.
Yes I know you said you are not ready for sex and that is one of the sections this website addresses. If you and your boyfriend read that section together hopefully he will understand why you are not ready and not pressure you to have sex with him.
Now there is something else he should understand. He has asked and you have said no. This has to be the end of his asking for him to continue is sexual harassment a lawful charge for which he can be arrested, even at his age.
Sexual harassment of teenagers by other teenagers is very high on the list of things teachers, school administrators and the police have very high on their list of priorities to be on the lookout for. Sexual harassment includes sexual bulling as well. ONCE SOMEONE SAYS NO TO SEX ANY FURTHER PLEADING, PROMPTING OR OTHER TYPE OF PURSUATION IS ILLEGAL.
Many boys have a line they use that is something like this one; \"If you love me you will have sex with me.\" Any boy who says something like this to a girl does not love that girl he lusts for her. Boys do not have the same definition of love that girls do. To boys love and lust are the same. If a boy ever uses a line like that on you tell him to take a hike he does not love you.
Stick to your values for our values are all we have to call truly our own and they are what defines us as a person. Nowhere is it written that you have to do anything you are uncomfortable with just to keep him as a boyfriend. IF he leaves you for a girl who will give him a BJ or let him finger her then I would say he never really loved you in the first place.
There are, as my mother would have told you, more fish in the sea. Re-bait your hook and go fishing. There is a boy out there who will respect you for who you are and not pressure you to do anything you are not comfortable with.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/
I am going to New York with my family and worried about my baby's health care while travelling. My son is only one year old and here I wanted to know some suggestion about his health care.
At first I assumed you meant NYC when you wrote New York. IF This is the case you shouldn\'t have much to work about your baby\'s heath care or if your insurance company will cover any costs. NYC has one the best EMS services in the country and the hospitals in NYC are among the worlds best.
What you should do is check with your insurance carrier to make sure you will be covered if by chance you are taken to a hospital that is not in their network in New York. I would not expect that would be a problem as the hospitals in New York are affiliated with just about every Major carrier.
The problem comes in if you\'re visiting upstate New York and the more rural areas. The hospitals in the more rural areas are designed for more of an urgent care and elective type stays. For more complicated care patients are transferred to larger hospitals, by air ambulance if need be. It is the Air Ambulance that you want to make sure you will be covered for as this is quite expensive.
I would say as long as you insurance company will cover all eventualities you can relax and enjoy the trip and your baby. You should find the same level of medical services in New York that you are accustomed to at home.
Hi, I'm Elle and I'm 23. I'm still going to a community college but I don't feel like I'm getting anywhere. I have about 67 college credits but I know they don't mean anything if they don't equal an actual college degree. They are all under liberal arts. I can't find a job. I feel very ashamed, useless, and lame because of my current status. I really don't know what to do with my life. I felt so depressed today that I almost really felt like killing myself. I'm getting soooo old and I still have no sense of direction with my life. Anyone got any advice? God I'm so depressed..........
At 23 your are far from old, try being 67 retired and due to an accident you are disabled and your plans for retirement are no longer possible.
As you can see everyone has their problems what you have to do is learn to deal with them. Getting a little depressed is normal. Getting so depressed you are thinking of suicide is not normal. IF you still feel that way you should seek professional help.
If this was the 1970\'s or 80\'s and you felt this way I would say you had a problem. Today being 23 and lacking direction or even being a college graduate and not able to launch your life is not your failure it is societies failure. We have people graduating with Masters degrees working at fast food restaurants or entry level positions that pay just above the poverty line. Thirty years ago they expected to leave school and walk into jobs with 5 and 6 figure salaries plus perks. Its not happening today. Kids are also living at home longer because they can\'t afford to leave the nest.
The job market will change but it will take time. Having college credits in a liberal arts or having a liberal arts degree, even from a community college is a help. It makes a statement to future employers.
When I was working and interviewing what I wanted to see on a resume was not how long they went to school or what type of degree they had. I wanted to see a stick to it-ness. Now I was in sales and there was a reason for that particular trait. The type sales we did came with a lot a rejection but paid very well when you made a sale.
I could be wrong and I rarely am but you just might be the right person for a career in sales. Now some sales managers will tell you sales is 90% product knowledge and 10% you. It\'s not, you first have to get in the door to find the person responsible for making the decision to purchase. That is 90% you and 10% product knowledge. Once you\'re in the door product knowledge becomes more important mostly though in where your product outshines the completion and more importantly how buying your product has you for the servicing sales rep. So you see sales is all about you.
Somehow and I really cannot explain why but it comes from reading what you wrote. I believe that you would be a person people would welcome into their place of business and want on their team. so my suggestion is you look into a career in sales.
When this same suggestion was made to me I scoffed at the idea, I said I was too introverted to be successful. My father\'s best friend suggested I start by working for a Life Insurance company. HE said it would be great training, which it was, and if I were successful selling life insurance I could sell anything. I was successful and in demand by other companies to work for them I decided to take an offer from a retail dealer to work for them. From there may career took off and I have made a very good living until my injuries forced me to retire.
Look into this area of work, I believe you will do well.
my g.f has very small hole she is 22 year old...my penis is not going in when m trying to insert...what shud i do to insert??
That hole is designed to stretch to accommodate the passage of a full term baby into the world. So it will stretch to accept your penis, eventually though you have to be patient, especially if you are overly large.
There are several things you can do to help her.
1. Make sure she is comfortable in where you two have chosen to make love. This place should not only be comfortable but safe from intrusion from parents or roommates.
2. Make sure she is ready for intercourse by spending a great deal of time on foreplay. Find out what and how she likes to be caressed and what caressing and touching excites her the most. It is okay to ask these questions before you start and during foreplay.
Make sure she is well lubricated, (her vagina is wet from your foreplay) and use some good lubrication as well.
3. Wear a Condom. This does two things. It helps her relax as she knows your respect her enough to help prevent pregnancy. Also you should always wear a condom until you are in a long term relationship and have been tested, both of you, for STDS and HIV/AIDS. Condoms protect from many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
4. If she is a virgin or new to sex, not very experienced. You might try getting some different sized dildos or vibrators from a sex shop. Use them starting with the smallest and working to the largest, which would be about your size to help her stretch her vagina muscles to accommodate you.
Most importantly is don\'t rush her. Make sure she feels safe and secure. We guys can rise to the occasion almost anywhere. For women if they don\'t feel safe, secure or comfortable they will not be able to relax and it won\'t be fun for either of you.
Hello everyone, I'm 18/F and my bf and I have been dating for two years now. When we began dating, he had told me about girls who also likes him. There are quite a few and I just can't stop thinking about this particular girl he told me. She liked him and I think she still does but he didn't like her. My bf and I live in the same state while she live in another state. I completely have no idea what's about her that I can't stop thinking about her one day ending up with my bf. of all the girls he told me that like him, why her? What can I do to stop thinking about her ending up with my bf?
This is really a hard question to answer for you have not given any reason for why you have fixated on her. Has your boyfriend given you any reason to mistrust him? When he told you about other girlfriends and came to her did he say anything different about her that he didn\'t say about the others or did he leave something out that was said about the others? These of course are questions you have to ask yourself and decide if these are a reason for why you feel this way.
If I were to guess at the psychological aspect of why you feel this way and this is only a guess as there is no basis in fact. I would say that being 18 this is probably the first true romance. There may have been other \"boy friends\" as you went through high school but this one is a \"boyfriend\". I didn\'t make a spelling mistake here there are differences between a boy friend and a boyfriend.
It is a bit reasonable at your age to have a little bit of insecurity. You may be graduating soon and you both may be heading off to different colleges, in different states. He may be heading off to a college in her state, I don\'t know you haven\'t said. You\'re not sure if your romance will stand the test of time and distance.
High school romances rarely ever go beyond high school. Of all my friends when I was your age and there were about 30 of us only one married his high school sweetheart. From my generation, and I\'m old enough to be your grandfather, about half of these marriages failed. I have since lost track of him as my career has caused me to move around the country so I am not aware if the marriage has lasted.
If anything I have guessed at is what you think is the cause of your present insecurity I would say relax. This is fairly normal if I\'m correct. You are going off to college with the best intentions of coming home to each other. For the first break maybe you do. By Thanksgiving you have met enough people that you both start to wonder if you really want to be tied down at this point. By Christmas break you two will have decided to take a break from each other.
Should this happen between you two this too would be normal for your age and circumstances. I\'m not making light of a first love. We all have them, both boys and girls, and they rarely go beyond high school as I\'ve said. It does not diminish the love or the hurt when and if the break up or if there is a mutual decision to take a break.
This is all part of the great adventure of being a teenager and preparing for life as an adult. My advice is to relax enjoy life and roll with whatever comes your way. Right now the best thing for you is to believe if something is meant to be it will be.
Hello adviceman49,
Thank you for your reply. I am new here and could not find a way to reply in the traditional fashion to your advice -- read the FAQ but that didn't help. Is this the correct way to reply, or if not, please let me know.
I agree with all that you wrote. Unfortunately, neither party will want to seek counseling or deal with a third party. So, as you said, I must make a decision.
I think I'll email my brother one more time to see if he will reply. If he does not, I think I will have to tell my husband even though that will probably create a life-long rift with my brother. I can't carry on being the buffer in the middle, holding things back from my husband. It's sad that my brother can't rise above this. but I have seen him behave this way over much smaller things and never forgive.
Thanks for listening.
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I wish I had a better solution for you but there were only the two. Hopefully you will not need to go through the court for that I sure will cause a permanent rift. A disinterested third party or arbitrator is the best solution. A family counselor works best here.
I hope everything works out for you. My condolences on the loss of your parents.
So I slept with this guy last week Sunday (over a week ago) and he came from a handjob! Then we had sex and he came in like 5 minutes.
THEN, I slept with him again a few days ago and it took him SO long to cum. we were having sex, changed positions several times, and it was to the point where I was just plain tired.
Why is it that he came so early the firs time? Did I do something wrong?
There is a huge number of reasons from environmental to being uptight about something personal. None of which is your fault. He may have also felt bad about coming so fast last time and masturbate enough before seeing you so that he could hold off long enough to make sure you have a good time.
Two suggestions for you:
!. If this guy is someone you see as a long term partner than you two need to talk about your sex life together. Sex is a learned experience and in order to be enjoyable for both each has to know the others likes and dislikes.
Most women like a guy that can hold off until they have cum. Since most women take longer to get to that point a guy with greater staying power is what they want. They may also want a guy who can go multiple times in an evening.
Foreplay plays a large part in how you get to this point. They will kick me out of the boys club for saying this, but most guys stink at foreplay. They want to get to the main event ASAP. You need to teach him what you need to turn you on so that you are ready for the main event.
2. If you want him to come quicker than foreplay may be the answer to the problem. Learn to tell when he is just about ready to cum. Get him just about to that point and back off and then move to the main event. Having just about gotten to the main event he will be more sensitive and he will cum soon. How soon I can\'t say as each of us are different in that way. This will be a trial and error thing for you to play with, pun intended.
So i've slept with this guy twice.
Both times he used a condom, but came while he was inside of me (in his condom). That always scares me because what if the condom breaks?! or Something! Then all that stuff is in me! That's not the best.
Anyways, is it normal to be afraid that something like that could happen?
How do I tell him to just pull out before cumming? Is that rude?
Also, I know when hes going to cum because he goes SO deep in me and pushes real hard - it feels great for me and probably great for him, but I'm so scared!
advice?
Statistically condoms are 85% effective in preventing pregnancy. This mans from a statistical standpoint there is a 1.5 chance out of 10 chances a condom will break, leak or somehow allow sperm to get into you. Now this is based on the fact that the condom is being worn properly.
Now if the women are on birth control and the man uses a condom the statistics are that the effectiveness of the two is just about 100% or less than .009%.
If you are over 14 which I believe you may be than you may ask your doctor for birth control under a law called HIPPA. This law gives you 100% medical confidentiality over your reproductive system. By virtue of this law you do not need parental permission to ask your doctor for birth control and your doctor cannot tell your parents it was prescribed.
If you are over 18 you are an adult and no longer need parental permission for any medical visit or procedure. In fact your parents no longer have any right to see your medical records unless you allow them in writing to each doctor you visit. Even if you are still on your parent’s health insurance they have no rights to say anything about your medical care and you do not need their permission for any medical treatment which would also include birth control.
If their employers’ health insurance covers women\'s health needs, which all must by law with one or two exceptions, then you are entitled to see any doctor under the health plan and to ask for birth control. You are also entitled to use the pharmacy benefit to purchase the medication. This benefit is not controlled by your parents and they will not know what you are seen for or prescribed for.
My advice then is to see a doctor and get on birth control, make sure you partner always wears a condom not only for pregnancy protection but protection from the STDS a condom protects against and the HIV/AIDS virus.
I've asked questions similar to this before, but I figured I'd be a bit more specific and ask a little different this time.
I'm in 10th grade, was in a very small private until 5th grade when I started being home schooled(same curriculum).
Half my family, including my mom, have been diagnosed with dyslexia. When I was in kindergarten, My mom noticed that I was showing signs of dyslexia but never took me in to be tested because I live in the middle of nowhere and the only one who could test me is 5 hours away and retired.
So I've always known I was, at least mildly, dyslexic.
I struggled a bit in 1st through 4th-ish grade with it but I dealt with it and it wasn't much of a problem. I like to read and can without much struggle, though I will mix up words, re-read sentences, and have poor reading comprehension/memory on occasion(I have problems with this one in school a lot), especially if it's something I'm not that interested in. And I will on occasion also have problems writing.
But my real problem is, ever since about 7th or 8th grade, I have been having a harder time with school.
And it's been getting worse recently.
My schoolwork is self taught, and mostly 'read section then answer questions then take a test' type deal.
But I'm having a very hard time getting myself to actually learn anything. I'll barely remember half the stuff I should, and I don't understand anything else. I'll read the stuff I'm supposed to then either forget it almost immediately, or not understand it at all.
This mostly happens in science and math. Even if my Mom explains it in the most simple way possible, I still wont know what she said. I'll understand the individual words she's saying and it will kind of make sense, but once it all comes together and she's finished, it's gone and I don't understand at all.
I can't even help my niece in 5th grade math because I can't figure it out. And I'm supposed to be in geometry!
This somewhat happens in everyday life too, I'm almost scared to get a job or go to college because I have trouble following directions and figuring out how things work. Even if someone shows me I still don't know how to do it.
I get nervous when I'm around people too, I am naturally shy, but if and when people ask me to do something, even if it's simple, I either misunderstand or make a complete fool of myself because I can't figure out how to do it or I do it wrong.
I don't know... basically what I'm asking is, what could be causing this? Is there anything causing this at all, or am I just kind of stupid?
Or is it possible the dyslexia is causing it?
I don't know...I just hope someone on here can give some me good advice on how to deal with it and help me figure out what 'it' even is....
Any responses are GREATLY appreciated...
I\'m not a doctor so I can not say for certain if what you have written is caused by dyslexia or could be some other problem. Since dyslexia is an inherited problem I am going to suggest the following.
I understand you live 5 hours from anywhere. Hopefully you have a good family doctor where you live for the first thing need is a good physical complete with a Neurological exam and a head CT. If all of this is negative then start searching the web for doctors who specialize in the treatment of dyslexia.
I have to believe in this day and age with the multiple forms of communication we have that there is not a doctor or hospital than can not help you by at the very least assessing you over the internet via Skype or some other form of video conference. There are more and more specialist making themselves available in this manor to rural doctors and their patients. Your local doctor may even know of some hospital that has this program.
One thing I do know is whatever is the problem, until it is properly diagnosed and treated it will not get any better and could get worse. While it is possible that just because mom has dyslexia you have it as well. The problem then becomes is your a different form requiring different treatment. You really need to be properly diagnosed. The reason for the complete physical with the head CT is to rule out any organic reason for your problem.
Okay so, My best friends name is Lindsey and she is a lesbian who recently came out. Sometimes we cuddle and we made out once. I used to be 100% sure I was straight but now I don't know. Lindsey just makes me feel really special and I want to hold her in my arms all the time. I don't know if I just like her as my best friend or more than that. And even if I do like her more than that I wouldn't want to tell anyone because I'm scared that people will think I'm a complete lesbian and then they won't like me. People as in boys. I just need help, like how do you know if your gay or not? Oh I'm 15 and a female by the way.
Relax you are not a lesbian far from it. You just don\'t wake up one morning and decide you\'re gay or lesbian. This is decided for you at the time of conception and you would have had feelings of this long before puberty kicked and at your current age.
Now it is possible as you discover your sexuality that you will become bisexual. Meaning you will enjoy sexual encounters with both sexes. This is a learned concept and not something instilled in your DNA.
Right now I would say you are bi-curious. A little more comfortable with someone of your own sex and more willing to experiment sexually with her than with a boy, this is normal. You may even find that from now through college it is safer and easier to get sexual relief from a girl than to run the risk of pregnancy and possibly ruin your future goals. You will still date boys but for sexual relief you will always have a girlfriend.
In college many girls find sexual relief with a roommate or girlfriend and they are far from being lesbians. They do so for girls far outnumber boys on many campuses, it is also safer to have sex with your own sex and it is easier to find. I know several girls from college who one would have sworn they were lesbians. Today they are married, have children and people look at them and their husband and referee to them as Mr. & Mrs. White Bread.
Also labels mean nothing though at your age to label yourself can cause you a great deal of harm with kids in school. Any label that is different than theirs will cause rejection, bullying and even possible harm to you. You don\'t need to label yourself especially because you have no need to label yourself. As I said in the opening sentence you are not a lesbian. Bi-curious maybe and if so that does not need to be a label you place on yourself.
What would you do in this situation? Both my husband and my brother go on long-term vendettas--some for life whereby they will never speak to someone again. Their vendettas are over things I do not consider to be terribly serious. I dislike confrontation and strive to avoid it and now find myself stuck. My brother gets offended easily, is mad at me over something that I consider minor and has cut me off. I apologized in an email for anything hurtful that may have happened but he never replied. He is executor of our parents' estate and has a fiduciary duty to finalize things but has gone quiet and not finalized the estate 3 weeks ago when he had said he would (before the falling out). If I mention this to my husband, he will want to end relations with my brother. So in a sense, I am acting as a buffer between the two. It's eating away at me. On the one hand, I feel I should let my husband know that my brother is on a vendetta and hasn't finalized our parents' estate; on the other hand, if I tell my husband this, I know he will never forgive my brother and it will be the end of our family relationship.
Being in the middle between two hot headed people who hold a grudge, wow. I don\'t envy your position; unfortunately you do have to pick a side so to speak. At the moment, based on what you have written, your brother is in the wrong for one specific reason and for a moral family reason.
The specific reason is the estate. Which is also the reason why you need to take a side and tell your husband then deal with the consequences afterwards. I recently went through something similar. My brother in-law was settling his Aunt\'s estate. No problems between us other than my brother in-law is the original absent minded professors with a PHD in Nuclear Physics. He gets so involved in his work that nothing else matters.
That\'s all fine and good until it affected me and my finances because of the inheritance laws in my state. By not settling the estate in a timely fashion and sharing the information with me I could not report my wife\'s share of the estate and could have been forced to pay taxes on the estimate value of the entire estate; something I could not afford to do.
It is for this reason whether you want to or not that you must discuss this with your husband. If your brother is withholding this information out of spite there can be adverse financial repercussions for you and your husband depending on the tax laws in your state.
Now the moral reason. Your parents are gone now there is just you, your brother and any other siblings you may have. Life is to short to have feuds, vendettas or what have you between siblings. By this point in our lives when our parents are gone it is hoped we are all adults and can act as adults. For when all is said and done the only real thing we have is each other.
I don\'t have any magic words to give you to settle this problem. If your brother will not share the estate information with you there is regress under the law though that will only further inflame the situation.
The only thing I can suggest to possibly help and take you out of the middle is family counseling. Possibly with the help of his wife or significant other you can get him to join you and then your spouses in counseling to resolve these issues and their problems with vendettas and feuds. Placing a disinterested third party between the 3 or 4 adults in this situation is the best way I can see to take you out of the middle.
m sucking my g.f boobs every alternative days will it become big??
I hate to break you bubble but suck all you want you will not affect the size of her breasts. Her breast size was implanted in her DNA at conception. Now whatever her full breast size is to be they will be when she is finished with puberty. Nothing short of augmentation surgery can change what nature is to give her.
I'm a 14 year old boy. I felt my my penis was small then I got bored and I measured it today. It turned out to be 7in long. Is that good for a 14 year old. I'm not gay or bi. I also have a 6 pack ladies ;)
According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long.
Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length (\"tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
Free education
Free housing
Free health care
One baby and all this government assistance
Gets an American citizens job. WTF? I have to plan early and find out how I'm gonna get a scholarship because my family can't afford college, and we gotta pay taxes or get the F out, we have an apartment above grandma's house and the best we can figure out but may or may not take it is a house with walls inside gutted out, and my dad has a back injury and can't even work at McDonalds cause of it and has to go to court and fight for a check, meanwhile my mom is 40 something and has to go to school and get a better job so me and my siblings could have a life, yet anyone could illegally cross the border and it's all like,“oh, here's all this money, and a house, you can go to Harvard for free, oh, and you can have this American guys job, you don't have to pay for anything" yet my family pays taxes and stuff like that and we get NOTHING other then a poor school needing to do 10,000 fundraisers a year and box tops every 2 days, but nooo, aliens get a fancy private school. I know an old lady who may have no place to live in the future, and you know what she gets from the government? NOTHING! NOTHING AT ALL! NOT A CENT! But illegal immigrants get EVERYTHING! It's not fair American citizens should be treated better and illegals sent back or put in jail! Why, in other t countries they'll threaten your children and kill you if you enter illegally.
Razhies\' feeling on illegal immigrants and yours are diametrically apposed. Who is right and who is wrong. I truly can\'t say either of you are right or wrong for both of you are right in how you are seeing the problem.
Yes illegal immigrants who take low wage jobs that legal citizens would never touch. Yes they are exploited in many different ways. Because of the liberals among us and are their idealistic manner of fairness to all. Some citizens miss out on things given to children of illegal aliens.
Is it right that a child of an illegal alien receive a tax payer funded scholarship so they can eventually become a legal citizen and a productive member of society; as the sales pitch goes. Probably not as those scholarships should go to the taxpayer whose taxes are funding it. Charitable based scholarships are a different story as they are funded through private donations where those donating know where the money is going.
Should we be sending food and monetary aid for education and health to countries overseas when we have people here at home who are hungry and sick. It is my belief we should not be doing so.
Why does this happen. It is really simple. These countries and the illegal aliens have a loud and large voice that speak for them in the halls of Washington. The poor of this country do not have that singular loud voice that speak for the masses of the poor.
What can you do about this? You can continue to fight to get the education you need to learn to be the person who can organize that louds voice who speaks for the masses of poor in this country. Then and only then will the cease to be the third class citizen they have become.
My brother is 21. He works for a small company not many friends doesn't ever go out unless with my father he's not made it threw college 3 times. My parents separated and divorced in 2007. He took it pretty hard. He is very controlling pretty much his way if you argue for example if you he'll want to throw something that is yours away you so your not throwing it away he'll start cussing shut the blank up etc. This was his recent conversation father it's like this all the time. I feel he may be bi polar but I'm not a doctor I don't know Ho to how help him
There is not enough information here to say whether or not he is depressed let alone bipolar which is also known as manic depression. You know him best and you sense something is wrong then most likely something is wrong.
We are not doctors and we cannot make diagnoses, even if we could we would need to see and speak to him to make a diagnoses of depression. If his behavior has changed since your parents have divorced then this would be one sign of depression. If not it does not rule depression out as he may be suffering from it for a far longer time.
The only person who can make this diagnoses is his doctor. It is a simple and painless test for the doctor to do. The doctor will ask your brother s aeries of questions. Based on your brothers’ answers the doctor can make a diagnoses. Base on this diagnoses the doctor can either prescribe medication or refer him to another doctor for medication and treatment.
The problem will be in getting him to go to the doctor for a complete checkup and letting the doctor know what you suspect. People who suffer from depression don\'t realize they are suffering. In fact they see things in a different perspective that is colored by their perception which is why it will be hard to get them to go to a doctor.
It is truly unfortunate that with people suffering from depression it is a case of being able to \"lead the horse to water but unable to force them to drink.\" \"The best you can do is be supportive of then and be there for them when they hit bottom and ask for help. They will hit bottom and they will ask for help. It is just the bottom is different for each of us.
What are the symptoms of pregnancy?when do you start feeling that you are pregnant?
The most obvious symptom of pregnancy is a missed period. Missing a period though is not always a sign of pregnancy as there are many reasons a woman can skip a period. Some women have no obvious signs other than the missed period and some women have spotting periods during a pregnancy and never realize they are pregnant especially if they are overweight.
Rather than look for symptoms the best thing to do if you think you’re pregnant is to take a home pregnancy test. This will do two things for you. It will confirm one way or the other if you\'re pregnant. If you are not pregnant it will relieve the tension you have that is the major cause of mission a period.
More women miss a period because they are overly stressed about something than because of pregnancy. Stress over whether they are pregnant is the number one cause of missing a period.
So rather than look for symptoms that you might not have and still be pregnant; get a home test and find out for sure.