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my g.f has very small hole she is 22 year old...my penis is not going in when m trying to insert...what shud i do to insert??
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Honey, if a 10 lb .baby can come out of one of those your penis is just a blip on the radar screen! Believe me it will fit! Is she a virgin? Obviously you have never had yours in there so maybe no one else has either. If that is the case her hymen(cherry) may still be intact and that could be where you are meeting with the resistance. You need to ask her this question. Make sure she is turned on before you try to insert. I am going to assume instructions for this are not necessary. If she isn't getting wet enough to insert then you need to buy some lubrication at the drug store. I have heard of a few rare cases where the doctor has had to preform minor surgery remove this tough little piece of tissue so if all else fails tell her to make a GYN appointment and see what the problem is!
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Firstly i would say are you sure that she is aroused enough and lubricated enough for you to he able to insert because that might be where the trouble is. Every women's vagina expands to what goes in whether shes really small set or whether shes not, it will fit as long as shes well lubricant inside. I think that is where your difficulty is when your trying to have intercourse. I would suggest that you try abit more foreplay or use a lube and rub it around her vagina so it is wet enough for you to sex.
I hope this can help
Carrey Anne x
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Everyones given you great advice. I can only think of one more thing, especially if she's never had sex before and you are her first. It would account for her not knowing of this rare but real issue.
There is such a thing called a Septate hymen. If by chance she has one, then all of the previous advice is not going to help until she see's a Dr. for a simple procedure to correct it.
A septate hymen is a strip of skin that goes down the center of her vaginal opening, in effect causing 2 much smaller openings. As a teen she would have had great difficulty using even tampons. Such girls have gotten a tampon forced in with much pain but have been unable to remove it and had to go see the family doctor. Basically the remedy is some local anesthetic and the Dr. snips that strip of skin away. You can offer to try looking to see if you can see something like that. If she's never been to a gynecologist for a female exam, its high time for her to do so and it can be taken care of. If there is no abnormality like this with the hymen, then all the other advice will be effective in time.
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That hole is designed to stretch to accommodate the passage of a full term baby into the world. So it will stretch to accept your penis, eventually though you have to be patient, especially if you are overly large.
There are several things you can do to help her.
1. Make sure she is comfortable in where you two have chosen to make love. This place should not only be comfortable but safe from intrusion from parents or roommates.
2. Make sure she is ready for intercourse by spending a great deal of time on foreplay. Find out what and how she likes to be caressed and what caressing and touching excites her the most. It is okay to ask these questions before you start and during foreplay.
Make sure she is well lubricated, (her vagina is wet from your foreplay) and use some good lubrication as well.
3. Wear a Condom. This does two things. It helps her relax as she knows your respect her enough to help prevent pregnancy. Also you should always wear a condom until you are in a long term relationship and have been tested, both of you, for STDS and HIV/AIDS. Condoms protect from many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
4. If she is a virgin or new to sex, not very experienced. You might try getting some different sized dildos or vibrators from a sex shop. Use them starting with the smallest and working to the largest, which would be about your size to help her stretch her vagina muscles to accommodate you.
Most importantly is don't rush her. Make sure she feels safe and secure. We guys can rise to the occasion almost anywhere. For women if they don't feel safe, secure or comfortable they will not be able to relax and it won't be fun for either of you.
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did you try using lots of lube? if this the first time for her then its not going to feel good and yes her vagina will be smaller then normal. it will also be normal for your penis to be hurting a little too because its so tight, so use lots of lube and go really slow so her body can get used to you. some people start out not wearing a condom and put lube to get the girl to open up a little more down there then put the condom on once things can go further. (obviously dont do the whole time without a condom on) good luck.
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Since your gf seems to be tiny what I would reccomend to help you insert your penis is to go to a sex shop and purchase toys for her. I would start small and then increase in size as you go. You could even take her with you and get her to go along with it and try something new. You could also try fingering her and just keep increasing the amount of fingers you use. I hope this helped.
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