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How can I dirty talk back?
Before you read this… please know that my boyfriend and I have a very strong and healthy relationship. And just like every couple, we have our own personal ways of how we do our sex life. We do things that may be a little intense for some people but that’s just us… its nothing thats too abnormal and its nothing disgusting either. But anyway… I also want to say sorry for the language :p please no judging, I just need some assistance.
So I recently found out that my boyfriend has a "Christian Grey" side to him. Referencing the book 50 shades of Grey. He SOMETIMES gets in a mood where he just wants to... well, basically use me as a sex object... be kinky, talk dirty, choke me, spank me, handcuff me, pull my hair, be extremely rough and he just wants me to take it and just do what he says without saying or doing anything unless he tells me to... For those of you who have read 50 shades... its very similar to Christians "angry sex." YOU may not be into this but I TOTALLY am!!!! I have a "safeword" in case it gets too intense for me but that's not really the point. This is just a part of our sex life because it works for us.
He gave me a preview the other day to see how I would react and it was amazing... best sex I've ever had!! I loved it! and I can take it and handle it. I cant wait to see what its like when its not a preview. But we were talking about it and he said that when he talks dirty to me, he would sometimes like me to respond... he gave me a couple of examples... if he says something like "you're such a slut" a good response would be "Yeah I'm a dirty slut" or if he called me a bitch I could say "I'm your fucking bitch." He told me that just responding "yeah" or "mmm" is good enough but sometimes its nice to hear more. He did however say that if he didn't want a response he would tell me to shut up... This all sounds SO mean but honestly... its really not. Its just how we like to do it sometimes and I seriously love it... when its over we are back to being in love and being sweet and all that. So please don't say anything like he is being abusive or I shouldn’t have to deal with that cuz its not like that.
My problem is that I have never really been good at dirty talk. So maybe some suggestions or any advice you can give, maybe examples of more responses I could give to phrases he may use… thanks in advance
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If you are really into it the way you say you are then it will come naturally. Just imagine you are a porn actress in a sex scene and try to imagine what she would say. You will need to "get into character" so to speak. Enjoy yourselves!
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I agree will yh the first answer that you received when I asked to talk dirtier I pictured it in my head 1before saying it or if it was during sex I didnt know what to say if you have a kindle there are some free books you can get that are sexually erotic whiched helped alot hope it helps you too
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First things first; No one has the right to judge what happens in your bedroom as long as what happens is consensual between both parties. If he wants to spank you and you want to let him that's fine. If you don't want to be spanked and he spanks you anyway that's wrong for there is no mutual consent. I may not like, your parents may not like it. As long as you like and he wants to do it for you it is none of our business and that goes for any other kind of sex you and he may want to try. Mutual consent is 100% okay and never weird where you two are concerned so enjoy your sex life together and do not worry about others.
One thing I would advise against is the joking. This can accidentally go too far. Especially when taken to the point of passing out. I don't see the thrill her but I can see and have enjoyed some of the other things you mentioned with my partner. I would suggest you reconsider your consent for the joking and remove your consent for this. There is more than enough "rough sex" in what you two are doing to fulfill yourselves.
As for dirty talk: I would suggest you watch some sex videos of rough sex and see how the girls in the video talk. I believe this will be more realistic then anything I can conjure up for you.
It sounds like you and your boyfriend have a god sex life just remember to keep it mutually consensual.
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