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brother needs help?
My brother is 21. He works for a small company not many friends doesn't ever go out unless with my father he's not made it threw college 3 times. My parents separated and divorced in 2007. He took it pretty hard. He is very controlling pretty much his way if you argue for example if you he'll want to throw something that is yours away you so your not throwing it away he'll start cussing shut the blank up etc. This was his recent conversation father it's like this all the time. I feel he may be bi polar but I'm not a doctor I don't know Ho to how help him
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There is not enough information here to say whether or not he is depressed let alone bipolar which is also known as manic depression. You know him best and you sense something is wrong then most likely something is wrong.
We are not doctors and we cannot make diagnoses, even if we could we would need to see and speak to him to make a diagnoses of depression. If his behavior has changed since your parents have divorced then this would be one sign of depression. If not it does not rule depression out as he may be suffering from it for a far longer time.
The only person who can make this diagnoses is his doctor. It is a simple and painless test for the doctor to do. The doctor will ask your brother s aeries of questions. Based on your brothers’ answers the doctor can make a diagnoses. Base on this diagnoses the doctor can either prescribe medication or refer him to another doctor for medication and treatment.
The problem will be in getting him to go to the doctor for a complete checkup and letting the doctor know what you suspect. People who suffer from depression don't realize they are suffering. In fact they see things in a different perspective that is colored by their perception which is why it will be hard to get them to go to a doctor.
It is truly unfortunate that with people suffering from depression it is a case of being able to "lead the horse to water but unable to force them to drink." "The best you can do is be supportive of then and be there for them when they hit bottom and ask for help. They will hit bottom and they will ask for help. It is just the bottom is different for each of us.
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Ok heres one idea firstly, did he start acting this way right after the divorce? he could be feeling like his world is spinning out of control since the divorce and hes still spending most of his time trying to control the few small things that are going on around him because of it. He might need some counseling to deal with things.
Have you tried just calmly trying to talk to him and asking him if everything really IS ok lately? tell him he seems a bit on the defensive side at times and let him know if he needs to just talk that your there for him. i know thats not exactly the "guy code" between dudes at times, but he IS your brother therefore that entitles you to offer a hand of support.
Maybe hes feeling depressed? or like no one cares about him? heres some tips that might help if you have someone like that in your family:
Try while your out or near a grocery store, bring home a little something you know he likes, tell him you were at the store yourself and saw them on your way out so you decided to pick him up some of (whatever it is he likes) while you were there.
little things like this might not only get you on his good side, but show him that someone DOES think of him from time to time and that might change his attitude a little more. does he live with you and your family still? offer him chances to go places with you sometimes? even if their quick little errands.
some of these tips will ALSO show you if hes bi polar because if you tried to do a nice thing for him you get to see his reaction and weather it is "off" from how you know he would generally act.
theres a difference between arguing with you or his father, and someone being bipolar. it sounds like you may still need to figure out the difference. Is he literally himself and kind and chill one second and then does a complete 180 degree flip the next?
does he ever get manic? have trouble sleeping, become paranoid, anxious over recent interactions with people? (i have a friend of about 10 years thats extremely bi polar but i love her to death and ive been through it all with her) so i know my bipolar people.
usually they'll respond to "whats wrong? is everything ok??" or acting as though your showing concern over whatever it is their going through works pretty well in getting them to REALLY tell you whats going on in their head at that moment.
anyways try some of these tips and it might help you build a clearer picture of things.
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