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He takes SO LONG!!
So I slept with this guy last week Sunday (over a week ago) and he came from a handjob! Then we had sex and he came in like 5 minutes.
THEN, I slept with him again a few days ago and it took him SO long to cum. we were having sex, changed positions several times, and it was to the point where I was just plain tired.
Why is it that he came so early the firs time? Did I do something wrong?
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There is a huge number of reasons from environmental to being uptight about something personal. None of which is your fault. He may have also felt bad about coming so fast last time and masturbate enough before seeing you so that he could hold off long enough to make sure you have a good time.
Two suggestions for you:
!. If this guy is someone you see as a long term partner than you two need to talk about your sex life together. Sex is a learned experience and in order to be enjoyable for both each has to know the others likes and dislikes.
Most women like a guy that can hold off until they have cum. Since most women take longer to get to that point a guy with greater staying power is what they want. They may also want a guy who can go multiple times in an evening.
Foreplay plays a large part in how you get to this point. They will kick me out of the boys club for saying this, but most guys stink at foreplay. They want to get to the main event ASAP. You need to teach him what you need to turn you on so that you are ready for the main event.
2. If you want him to come quicker than foreplay may be the answer to the problem. Learn to tell when he is just about ready to cum. Get him just about to that point and back off and then move to the main event. Having just about gotten to the main event he will be more sensitive and he will cum soon. How soon I can't say as each of us are different in that way. This will be a trial and error thing for you to play with, pun intended.
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There's a common paradox here. Most women like their partner to hold off their climax long enough to satisfy them and not have it all over too soon. A woman has a much longer period where she can remain aroused. But if it goes on 'too long' sex can become tiring and might make her a litttle sore or uncomfortable. It's about finding what works well for you. It's probably fair to say he'll sometimes cum a bit too soon for you, and there's not much you can do if he's a bit eager at times. If he seems to be taking a bit too long he hasn't gone off you or stopped finding you arousing either. There's not a 'right' amount of time that sex should take. Only 'right for you and how you feel at the time'. You might sometimes fancy a passionate, spontaneous 'quickie' as it were. Sometimes you might want to take things slower. There's no 'best' position for every time either. Or every couple would have sex in that position, every time wouldn't they? It's more a case of variety and going with how you feel at the time. Some positions mean the man feels more dominant and in control. Some give that dominance over to the female. The 'vibe' is completely different. A positon where you are 'doing the driving' as you might put it can give you more control over when he climaxes in many cases, as you might gather, and work out how. No right, no wrong...and no 'standard time'.
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He probably felt a little guilty about getting off so fast the first time and decided to give you the royal treatment. Maybe he wasn't sure if you came or not so he kept going. When it comes to sex communication is key! Whatever you do though don't ever ask a guy "Are you done yet?" I could kill the mood for like ...ever!
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Every male is different babe, not every guy would cum quick even if your amazing in bed.. could also be if your constantly having sex? sometimes when a guy waits a while they cum faster the next time they have sex but this is some guys not all..
Im sure you didnt do anything wrong !
some males cum quicker with different things, some take longer in sex/handjobs etc..
nothing to worry about :)
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