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So I'm a 21 year-old male and still have never had sex. I know it may not seem like a big deal, but the thing is I just started school at a university that is known as a "party school" where there is a lot of casual sex going around and many hot girls. I just kinda feel pressured to get into the whole party scene and the casual sex thing, but I'm really kind of an introvert. I am not bad looking or anything (average weight/average heigh), but I can't say that I'm the smoothest guy out there. I live away from campus and dont really get the chance to be around people that much. I just feel like everyone else is just having sex with random people but I feel like i need to do it with someone whom I'm in love with. (it sounds kinda lame) but i dont know, there are different parts of me that doesnt know what to think. Is this something I should be worried about? I just feel pressured and kinda like a loser for not having done it yet, especially when I am in college. Any advice would be helpful.
For some people casual sex is like eating empty calories. It satisfies the hunger but it doesn\'t satisfy the craving. You may be one of those people who need to satisfy the hunger and the craving or it is not worth the effort. This does not make you a loser, when the right girl comes along you will rise to the occasion, pun not intended, and it will be a wonderful experience for both of you.
Many young people in high school and college are under pressure to have sex, more so in high school. The possible reason is that sex is an adult act and by having sex they feel more adult. This is not a reason to have sex,
In college many of the students have sex, casual sex, as a form of stress release. I\'ll give in to that as sex is a good form of stress relief and students are of adult age with a great deal of stress on them. They are also away from home and do not have the restrictions of home life and they have the opportunity and places to have sex they did not have at home.
This does not mean you throw your personal values out the window just to fit in. You have chosen not to have meaningless sex which is a positive value. A value that say a lot about who you are as a person. There\'s a girl out there who will see this value in you and want you for her life partner. Don\'t throw this away just to fit in.
Should you do find someone you love and you have sex with and the relationship does not work out; this does not mean that you have lost or given up on your values. Love is fleeting you don\'t start having meaningless sex just because you are no longer a virgin. You retain your values until you find someone else that you can love and see as a life partner.
Im 19 and my period ended on the 7th and a few days after I was having bright red spotting and am still having the spotting. I just started on the depo shot on the 2nd and was wondering if that had something to do with it. Please help, I'm very scared that something is wrong:(
First: I\'m not a doctor, none of are and this question really should be answered by your GYN or doctor administering the DEPO.
Second: From what I understand what you are experiencing is not unusual though you need to talk with the doctor and answer the doctors questions so he or she can decide if this is normal or a side effect that requires some other form of birth control be used by you.
My advice is to call the doctors office and speak with the doctors nurse. Follow the nurses instructions as to what to look for or if you need to see the doctor.
I would also suggest that between now and the time you speak to or see the doctor that you abstain from sexual intercourse.
Me an my friend are very close n we are very dirty minded, we are only 13 nearly 14 and borh girls n we hump each other (dont hate) n sometimes we play with ourselfs together n i really want her to play with me or lick me even (i dont fancy her..) I just want someone i no to lick/finger me?? Help??
Relax your normal.
What is happening to you is you are exploring your sexuality. You are not a lesbian or bisexual or anything else. It is not unusual for kids your age just going through puberty want to experiment with their sexuality. It is much safer and less embarrassing to experiment with someone of their own sex.
So relax this has been going on forever. You and your girl friend may get to where you want to go as you both get more comfortable with your own bodies and sexuality.
By the way boys experiment as well with other boys at this age. It does not make them gay or bisexual either.
Hey, I am a fifteen year old girl, and my boyfriend is seventeen. We have been dating for five months, and we really love each other. I adore him, he is the only guy I want to spend my life with. My parents are very fond of him, but they don't like the idea of him and I going on a date by ourselves. I can understand their thinking, but my boyfriend cares about me, a lot. I've talked to him about this, and he says he never wants to hurt me, he only wants to take care of me, and I trust him with all my heart. Also, my boyfriend has his own truck, and he could drive us, so I don't see how that could be the problem. Like I said, my parents like him, but they won't let us go on a date by ourselves. What's the problem here? How can I fix it? Advice is much appreciated. Thank u(:
Here is the problem; \"my boyfriend has his own truck.\" Your parents may be very fond of him but he is a 17 year old boy and boys in general have only one thing on their minds, SEX.
It does not mean your parents don\'t trust you or that they really don\'t trust him either. But he is two years older than you, more mature and more experienced in dating than you are. Having his own truck gives him the means and the two of you the opportunity of going further than you may have intended to allow him to go.
The nightmare of every parent with a daughter has is having their daughter sitting at the dinner table one night and saying, \"Pass the roast please and by the way I\'m pregnant.\" Okay I made a little light of a serious subject but that is the biggest fear we as parent have for our daughters.
How do you overcome this? You never will not until you are married. Even then at least in your father’s eyes you will always be his little girl even when you have children of your own. That is just the way it is and has been for daughters since just about time began.
While you will never allay you parents fears in this area what you need to do is convince them that you know right from wrong and that when it comes to sex you are not ready. It might help to talk with mom and tell her that when you are ready to have sex you will come to her first.
I probably shouldn\'t go here but about 90% of today\'s parents were not virgins on their wedding night. According to statistics about just about half of the parents of your parents age had sex while still in high school; maybe a bit more depending on depending on how old your parents are. This number has been going down for the last few decades’ thanks in part to the AIDS epidemic.
With this knowledge you might say something to mom like. Statistically girls your age while in high school about 50 % were not virgins when they graduated, its a bit less now. I don\'t know when I will be ready for sex but I will make you this promise to you before I am I will come talk to you. Use your own words but say something to that affect.
As a parent I know I can\'t stop you. At least give me the chance to dissuade you or get you the protection you need before you have sex so I don\'t end up a grandparent and you a teenage mother.
I have had bladder pro-lapse surgery 6 weeks ago. I am 53. I tried to have sex and it hurt and bleed so much I had to stop. Will my vagina stretch back out some at accommodate a large penis?
We are not doctors and could not give you a really specific answer to this question. This is one of those question I believe you MUST take to your doctor because of the pain and bleeding.
Also not knowing the specific procedure the doctor use for the surgery makes even guessing at an answer less than a 50/50 possibility of being correct. One would think knowing how the vagina is designed it would stretch to accommodate a large penis but I just cannot give you a yes or no answer. Only your surgeon or gynecologist can. So see you doctor specifically because of the pain and bleeding with intercourse.
i did sex wid my g.f i just rubbed outside but i dono whetehr sperm gone in or not..i dnt want her to b peragenent ...yestrday she got he period i did xxx on 5th may now also chances is their to get peragnent???
First: She is not pregnant.
Second: If English is your first language you need to spend more time in English class. Your spelling and grammar are atrocious. When you write to people who don\'t know you write to them as if you are sending a business letter not as if you were talking to them on the street. Many of us who answer these questions are adults and we do not do texting short hand or speak the language of the street.
You will get more and better answers with a properly format question.
Third: There is an old saying; if you’re not prepared to do the time don\'t do the crime.\" Which in this case is if you don\'t want to make your girlfriend pregnant don\'t have any form of unprotect sex with her. Wear a condom or settle for a hand job from her or a BJ if she is so inclined to give you one. But let her keep her clothes on and keep your penis away from her vagina.
Today I got a random noise in my ear. All my life, I've had this 'high pitch noise' in my ears/head but assumed everyone had it. Well anyways, my mind kept focusing on the noise and now it won't go away. I don't know if it's ringing because nothing would've caused the ringing. But I also don't know if it's just something in my mind. What could this be? Also, how can I sleep with this? It's kind of loud.
Also, I have to keep tapping on my ear so my mind focuses on that sound and not the high pitch sound. Help asap.
You do need to see a doctor for there is damage to your ears. I suffer from the same type of ringing in my ears and have for most of my life. This ringing is generally caused by not protecting your ears from high pitch sounds or being around loud noise. Also doctors are finding people who wear ear buds and play their music loud are experiencing the same type of damage.
You need to see and Ear, Nose and Throat(ENT) Doctor and have your hearing tested, If your ringing is caused by the same injuries, mine was jet engines and my fathers table saw, there is no correction other than hearing aids that cancel out the vibrations. Very similar to noise canceling headphones. The ones they have today cannot even be seen as the sit deep in the ear canal.
I\'m not a doctor so I really cannot say what is causing your problem I can only be empathetic to your problem since I have a similar problem to the one you describe. ONLY an ENT doctor after a hearing test can tell you your real problem.
If your family has health insurance the visit to an ENT and the hearing test should be covered less the copay you normally would pay.
I'm a high school sophomore and the year is almost over. My mom wanted to make me a bank account but I kinda lost my student ID and I haven't gotten my permit so I can't really make one. Are there other things I can use as identification?
Talk to the branch manager or go to a main location of the Bank you wish to set up an account in and speak to the manager. Most likely your birth certificate and your social security card should be sufficient to open an account with.
If not ask if an account shared with your mom can be opened. Moms ID should satisfy the ID requirements. Then when you have the proper ID you can go back to the bank at a later date and, of course mom needs to agree, have her name removed from the account.
A really like this 8th grade girl from a different school and im a 7th grader .She told me that she really really likes me too. Idk what to do??:(
Don\'t panic you are not supposed to know what to do By my estimate you are somewhere between 11 and 13 years old way too young to be actually dating but old enough to start being interested in girls.
Girls your age are a little more advanced when it comes to being interested in boys and dating at this age. At this age dating has a different meaning then it does when your say 16. Dating right now means having someone to go to the mall with, to have someone to take them to school dances with. Hopefully they still have school dances where you live. Unfortunately where I live the number of school dances have been almost eliminated because of security concerns.
You are also not expected to pay for everything when you are together; after all you are both too young to have jobs. Your dates are what use to be called \"Dutch Treat\" where you each pay your own way.
I\'m at a disadvantage to really advise you on just how to go forward since I don\'t know you and we probably don\'t live in the dame area. Your best advice on this subject right now is going to come from Mom and dad.
Mom can tell you what she wanted from a date when she was your age and dad can tell you what he did when he was your age when he went out with girls at your age. Fact is you really need to tell your parents at some point as you are still dependent on them for transportation. Since you are you may as well get the best advice you can straight from the people who have it.
I live in a very urban area near a major metropolitan city. Kids are treated badly in malls and shopping centers where they would like to hangout and just talk and maybe have some hamburgers. The malls want kids not to be seen or heard if they make any type of disturbance they are escorted out. This leaves bowling, miniature golf and the movies for them to see and do.
Your community may be much different this is why I am suggesting you talk with mom and dad to ask them what they did when they were your age. I\'m sure they will as I did my child share their adventures with you.
I am 12 yr old girl and want to no wen I should be allowed to do things. First I'm responsible , get good grades, and reasonable. I
Makeup: I have acne so I want to conceal and start putting some on in a yr or two. My mom thinks 15/16
Babysitting / tutu ring: I wanna do it now to prove I'm responsible but my mom thinks 13
Dating: I think dances should be ok in high school and to start real dates jr yr with approval of the boy . Mom thinks 17.
Alone: I want to go shopping and movies with a friend or by myself. With friends I think now and I'll call my mom every hour. Alone I think high school. Mom thinks 15
Shaving legs : I think now . Don't wanna ask mim.
Am I being unreasonable? Is she? What is a good middle ground for a good girl like me? Can u help me convince to that middle ground? Thx
As a parent it would not be right for me to impose my belief on your mother. Though there are some of your questions I can answer without imposing on your mom.
1. Makeup: You have acne. I would suggest you ask your dermatologist what he or she thinks of you wearing makeup. It is possible that some makeup will make you acne worse rather than just conceal it. In other words make sure you won\'t do more harm to your face before you argue with mom.
2. Babysitting: As a general rule most states require a babysitter to be at least 13 or 14 before they can baby sit for a non-family member. Some states are now also requiring babysitters to register and take a babysitting course which I believe the red cross is giving.
Being 12 you most likely have at least a year to wait during which time you can take the babysitting course if required.
3. Dating: This has to be mom and dads decision. As parents we only have our own experienced to fall back on as kids don\'t come with owners manuals. Mom is not all that far off in so far as going on a date with just one guy. She may be more agreeable to a group date or double dating at an earlier age as their is safety in numbers.
4. Shaving your legs: Once you start shaving your legs you have to continue as the hair grows darker and thicker. While there was no strict rule as to when a girl should start shaving. I felt puberty should be the guide. As a girls body changes and she goes from leggings to stockings is when shaving should be allowed. Just when this age is differs with each girl.
5. Shopping alone. I hope you mean without mom and not just by yourself. Because of how things are to day no woman should ever go anywhere alone. It is horrible to say but unfortunately it is the truth. Never go anywhere unless you have someone with you.
As to what age you can go shopping without mom? This is something best left up to mom as she knows you best and best knows where you wish to go.
I can\'t say you\'re being unreasonable or that mom is either. For your part your a preteen in a hurry to grow up, your normal. For moms part she is trying to deal with a time in your life she is very uncomfortable with. She knows she has to allow you to grow up, which is a good thing. This is a good thing but as I said earlier as parents we are flying by the seat of our pants here really not know the when or how to do this. She is trying and she very likely will adjust her times as you grow older and show her your maturity level.
Right now you say you are responsible and hopefully you are. Responsibility and maturity are two different things. You may be very mature for your age, still you are only 12. IF you continue to bug mom on these things what in essence she is seeing is an immature child and will probably not adjust her time table. For now accept what she has said as for the most part for the questions you have asked you are too young to do any of them with the exception of maybe a little makeup.
If you really want to wear some makeup suggest to mom you see your dermatologist and see how the doctors feels. You never know the doctor may support you in which case mom will give in because the doctor is suggesting so. By suggesting to see what the doctor says is a way of showing your majority by asking for an outside opinion. Just be ready for an answer you will not like if the doctor say no make up as it is harmful.
Um. I. Think. I'm. Pregnant. But. I. Hummed. A. Tom. Boy. Does. That. Let. You. Bit. Pregnant.
I agree with GiddyGeezer, it is almost impossible to understand what you are asking. To things you need to do. One follows GiddyGeezer advice about English classes and make sure to take a sex education class for you have no idea on how a woman gets pregnant.
TO answer your question: There is no possible way you\'re pregnant. One girl cannot make another girl pregnant. Just in case you\'re a guy, guys can\'t get pregnant.
I'm 14/f. And I've been battling many disorders for 2 years now. I have anorexia, anxiety, bulimia, depression, ednos, insomnia, paranoia, selfharm, selfhate. I've been through a bunch and I've attempted suicide 3 times. I don't want attention for this though. This winter season has been really hard on me and no one except my best friend knows about how much these disorders have hurt me. I've got so many deep cuts and scars on my thighs, arms, wrists, and hips. I usually will put a bunch of foundation on my arms to cover the scars but I don't want to have to do this all summer. I play baseball and our uniforms are sleeveless, so I can't cover them all the time. How can I make a remedy for scar removal? Please help!
Hopefully you are under the care of a psychiatrist and psychologist for all that is troubling you for if you are then I have a suggestion.
Normally I do not suggest plastic surgery for someone your age mostly because at your age you are still growing and plastic surgeons are reluctant to surgery on young people. Then there is also the fact that Plastic surgery is generally not covered under health insurance.
Given your situation the insurance companies may pay for the surgery as it can be therapeutic for the other things troubling you. This is something your psychiatrist would have to work with the plastic surgeon and the insurance company to work out.
What happens with plastic surgery is the scars are not eliminated that doesn\'t happen. The surgeon hides the old scars by making new ones in places less noticeable such as natural folds in the skin. That and the fact the surgeons scars will be smaller makes it appear the scar has been removed. The plastic surgeon can also help you make the scars that cannot be reduced, which is the term they use, less noticeable.
Talk to your doctors and let them talk to mom and dad about having a plastic surgeon examine you to see what they can do to reduce the appearance of these scars.
My boyfriend's best friend of several years is a female. She lives several states away and he rarely sees her anymore, but constantly "likes" her photos on Facebook and comments on her posts, etc. I know they talk and text a lot, too. I asked him once if they had ever dated, and he replied that they were like brother and sister.
I found some old photos of them on Facebook where they appear to be somewhat physically intimate. In fact, until I knew who she was, I assumed she was an ex girlfriend. He's giving her hugs, picking her up, giving her piggyback rides, etc.
I know that men and women can be platonic friends, but I don't go beyond hugging my close male friends (not as a rule, it just doesn't happen). She's an attractive girl, and I'm sure he sees that. I simply don't believe that he has no desire to be physically intimate with her given the photographs that I've seen. I've never met her but she's expressed desire to meet me soon. I have absolutely nothing against her, but I just want to know if my beliefs about their relationship are justified; and if so, what should I do about it?
Thank you :)
Razhie gave you some good advice, let me tell you something\'s from the male perspective.
IF a male ever stops looking at a female check his pulse for he is probably dead. I\'m serious here for the female of our species has been put here to be admired as they are all beautiful. It is very possible to admire or even desire more than one women but we are monogamous by nature which means we can only love one.
I have several women friends that like your bf are women I admire for different reasons. The one I admire the most and sounds a lot like the girl your speaking of also happens to be my closest friend. I won\'t lie and say I have never desired her though at the same time I know neither one of us would ruin a good friendship by taking our relationship to that level.
My wife is not jalousie of her for she knows her and they two are good friends have been since the day I introduced them. We now live on opposite ends of the country but we stay in touch, the three of us in different ways, social media, texting, and the occasional phone call. I grew up next door to this women she is a sister to me, that doesn\'t mean I can\'t desire her. Yes we did try dating and it really wasn\'t for us.
My advice is meet this woman, size her up for yourself before you decide if she is a threat to you or not. One other thing whether you marry this guy or someone else you might consider telling your future husband what my wife told me.
My wife told me; \"I can look at the menu all I want, if I reorder she will cut a very important appendage from me.\" We will be married 43 years come June.
My GF and I moved into a new condo about a year ago. We are both from the suburbs and our current place is downtown. We love it. Instead of walking everywhere, we can sit on a bus to go wherever we need to go. Instead of grocery shopping, there is an all-you-can-eat buffet downstairs. Both of us come from vegan families, with hobbies like running and biking.
But since our move away, we have both ditched those lifestyles to live at large for a while. Without all the constant pressure from our families, we have been enjoying ourselves.
No more uncomfortable clothes. Its now sweats and slippers for both of us, even in public. Now we only get off the sofa to go downstairs for the buffet. Neither of us have done anything fitness related for about a year now. We've each put on about 50 lbs. But we enjoy sitting on our (now large) butts with our feet up. Only problem is both of our parents are coming to visit next week and they havent seen us since the day we moved in! We're out of breathe walking down the hall and we werent even allowed to own slippers and sweatpants when we lived at our family homes. What should we expect? Im worried about them even recognizing our faces because of our chubby cheeks and double chins :(
First let me say I believe I understand what is going on with you two and your drastic change of life style since leaving home. While I will not chastise you or condemn you for what has happened I can also cannot fully support the change in lifestyle either.
First your questions: What can you expect from your parents. They are your parents so have no fear they will know who you are. They may be somewhat horrified to see all the weight you two have gained and rightfully so for several reasons some of which I will address later. As for your clothing style; frankly that is no longer any of their concern. You two are adults living on your own and as long as your style of dress does not offend community standards, meaning appropriate body parts are appropriately covered that is all that matters.
You can expect to be lectured not only on your lifestyle but your weight gain. Pay attention to what your parents say about your weight gain, not just because they taught you better but what it is doing for your health.
As far as lifestyle changes go as to dress those changes with the seasons so to speak. Before I retired I dressed in office casual every day. Today I sit here at my computer, as my wife is still working and I am also physically disabled, in a pair of soccer pants and T-shirt and I haven\'t shaved in a few days as I have no reason too. Why because I\'m in that season of my life. Use your own words but that is really all you have to say to your parents, this is your life how you dress is totally up to you.
The weight gain: What really caught my attention was not so much the 50 lbs. but this sentence; \"We\'re out of breathe walking down the hall.\" You are young people being 50 lbs. overweight should not be causing you this type of problem; there is something else at play. My best guess is what you\'re eating and where you\'re eating.
Going from a fitness diet at home to the type of food you find at a buffet restaurant was bound to cause a weight gain. These meals are high calorie high cholesterol meals. You can have the same type of meals at home with lower calories and lower cholesterol with the added enjoyment of saving money and cooking together.
I\'m not a doctor but my guess is that the reason you are so out of breath are twofold. One you have let yourself get out of shape and two you have a high cholesterol count clogging important veins. Before you have a heart attack or stroke visit you doctor for blood work and have you blood pressure checked. There is a good chance if your cholesterol is high your blood pressure is elevated as well which would be another reason walking down the hall is causing a shortness of breath.
A favorite line of mine from the TV show \"West Wing\" is when the Speaker of the House admits he is \"One Steak Dinner away from a Heart Attack.\" From what I\'m reading here that line could fit you and your girlfriend.
Lifestyle is one thing, longevity of life another. Go see a doctor and see just how bad a shape you and your GF have let yourselves get.
Feel something round like ball in my vagina what is that please..
We are not doctors so there is no way we could begin to answer this question. Even if we were we would have to examine you to make a diagnoses and that can\'t be done over the web. You need to see a doctor.
Now I don\'t know why you turned to us for an answer rather than seeing a doctor but I can guess at some reasons.
1. Your concerned that this bump or round ball as you call it has something to do with sex. A lump in your vagina has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with your health and the health and well being of your reproductive system
I have no idea of what it can be but whatever it is it needs to be diagnosed and removed as it probably does not belong there.
2. You could be worried that it may be cancer. Again only a doctor can make this diagnosis. Fact is if it is the sooner you know the better your chances that the cancer hasn\'t and doesn\'t spread. If it is cancer and the odds are great it is not, the odds are in your favor of a cure and you can enjoy a healthy sex life and have children when you\'re ready.
3. Your sexually active and you don\'t want mom finding out. First off the doctor cannot tell if you are sexually active or not. Only that your Hymen has been ruptured. You could have ruptured your hymen with a tampon, masturbating, bike riding or exercising. There is no way to tell if you are sexually active unless there is semen in your vagina which there wouldn\'t be 72 hours after intercourse.
3a. Under a law called HIPPA if you are over 14 years of age you have full medical confidentiality for any problems concerning your reproductive system. HIPPA is a Federal Law and this section was passed by congress so that young people like yourself would seek medical advice when needed or to have questions answered concerning their reproductive system. So that they could speak freely and openly with the doctor which would allow the doctor to make a proper diagnose.
You do not need parental permission to make a doctors appointment to see a doctor, to see that doctor or be treated by that doctor. The medical records are confidential and cannot be seen by anyone you have not given the doctor specific written permission to show or discuss these records with. The doctor cannot discuss your visit with your parent without your written permission. Mom can no longer be in the exam room with you when you are having any type of female exam.
All you must say to the doctor is you invoke your rights under HIPPA. You can even ask for and receive birth control medication. All of this is covered under your parents health insurance.
I have now debunked any reason you have for not seeing a doctor. Please for your own best health interest see a doctor. This has nothing to do with sexual activity if you are sexually active, that I\'m fairly positive of.
I do suggest you take mom along with you and that you do invoke your HIPPA rights. Once the doctor makes the diagnoses if surgery is needed you may at that point want the doctor to talk with mom so she can help you make any decisions that may need to be made.
My question is that i have changed my entire life to be the girl he wants. I have only one friend i can talkto and see on his terms and no family at all.I dont want to leave him necause i love him with all my heart but the name calling and hitting i thought was getting easier but now i think i am losing my 2 week unborn child. He swears i cheated on him anyway. Do you think it is going to get easier or should i just stay quiet and change sime more? I know its my fault. Thank you for listening.
I answered this question yesterday. Today you added one more line that is typical of an abused woman; \"I know its my fault.\"
This is not your fault. Even if you did cheat on him, which I know you have not one, you have not asked him to hit you. He has no right to hit. He especially has no right to hit you in such a manner as to cause you to lose your baby or put you in the hospital.
He is an abuser and abusers do not change. They always blame the abused. \"You forced me to hit you;\" is what they say or: you brought this on yourself.\' Pardon the vulgarity here but that is bullshit. He not only has anger monument issues but he gets off hitting women.
As I told you yesterday, he will continue to hit you until he puts you in the hospital and the police step in and that\'s if you lucky enough to survive that beating. Many abused women are killed by their abusers or end up in the hospital seriously injured. They all same the same thing \"its my fault\". IT IS NOT NOW YOUR FAULT AND NEVER WILL BE, PLEASE UNDDERSTAN THIS. IT IS ALL HIS FAULT.
Get out now while you can. File for an order of protection and file assault charges against him. If there is any chance of getting him to change it will take a court order of anger management classes or going to jail. Still even with these being forced upon him the chances, statistically; of him changing are less than 20%.
This is a character fault and there is no medication for this. He has to want to change and work at changing. Most abusers do not see they have a problem for as I said above they truly believe that the abused bring it upon themselves and this is wrong.
Get out now before he really hurts you.
Im at 22 year old female, from the age of 12 I have always known that I am bisexual, however recently I have jumped from lad to lad, I have also started to feel its more myself and happy flirting with the ladies, im just confused if this means im more gay then straight
What is you need to and or change the label on your sexuality. You know your comfortable having sex with both men and women. I would say that depending on your mood and the type of comfort you desire would lend to whether you would seek a same ex partner or opposite sex partner.
If at some time you crave more sex with women over men I would not go changing the label of your sexual identity because of it. As I see it being bisexual is no different than other things in our lives. There are times we may crave more chocolate ice cream and other times we prefer more strawberry. Then there are going to be days where we absolutely have to have both. To me that has to be the joy of being bisexual. why question your desire if on some days you prefer one over the other. I don\'t see a problem or anything for you to agonize over. Just enjoy being you.
i did sex with my girl friend i just rubbed near her pussy but i dont know whether sperm gone or not i doesnt wnt her to be peragnent but i didnt tore her hymen will c get peragnent??
It all depends how close your sperm were to her vagina and the entrance to her vagina when you ejaculated. While the chances of impregnating a woman from outside her vagina is remote, it has happened.
The best way not to get your GF pregnant is not to do what you were doing. If you are going to fool around this way she should be on birth control medication or you should be wearing a condom.
I know this is not the advice you want to hear. But rubbing off on her is not all that different then letting her give you and HJ and letting you shoot off onto your stomach. Then you can finger her if she wants you too. This is much safer. Just make sure you don\'t have any sperm on your fingers.
Hi, this is the same person who asked the question about depersonalization.
So, I just need some advice here. Should I start getting anxiety pills? I hate having to deal with it each and every day. The thing is, is that I'm scared of feeling like a zombie, or feeling different. I also don't want to be medicated all the time, but I HATE feeling this way. But I'm pretty sure I have depersonalization. I feel "detached". Will anxiety pills help me with this too?
Also, I know for a fact that I have Anxiety and Depression because I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago. I also get it from my father. I just really need some advice here asap. Thank you
Do not self-medicate. Just because you have some symptoms does not mean you have the illness. You need to be properly diagnosed by a doctor. When we try to practice self-diagnoses we are wrong almost 100% of the time.
Anxiety and Depression go together and one cause the other though it does not necessarily cause depersonalization, there are many other factors and symptoms; you have only two. The feeling of detachment is possibly more from the depression and your own adaptation of the medical information you have accrued by reading.
As I said yesterday the medicine does not have to make you feel like a zombie. I was on antidepressants and antianxiety medication. The antianxiety medication is something I took when needed not all the time. When I took it, when and if I needed it, which became less and less, if I had any side effect from the anti anxiety medication it was that it made me drowsy. If I took it after dinner I usually fell asleep. I never had that Zombie feeling you\'re afraid of. IF you do find you feel that way the doctor can change the medication or change the dosage.
What I did find over time was that just having the medication work as sort of an anti anxiety treatment. I found that over time I became less dependent on them maybe because the antidepressants started working.
If you do have Depersonalization disorder the worst thing you can do is try to self medicate and self treat yourself. See a doctor and get properly diagnosed. Given the new laws concerning Obama care you should have some type of insurance available. All this would be covered under the insurance provided under Obama care.
I have nothing but love for my boyfriend and everyday he either yells at me or hits me and now it has cost the life of my 2 week unborn child. How can i make him realize he has a problem and this isn't normal behavior?I dont want to lose him so should i just let it ride and try to change even more?
Let me put this in perspective for you. This man killed your unborn child. If the fetus was older and was considered viable, meaning able to survive outside the womb, in many states he would be facing either manslaughter or second degree murder charges. He should be facing assault charges on you a charge that is not too late to bring against him.
It is never right for a man to hit a women, for any reason. You are in a battered relationship and it will not stop until you do something to make him stop. Bringing assault charges against him may make him realize he cannot settle every argument with his fists.
I of course do not know what state you live in but many states have domestic battery statutes. With medical evidence that his hitting you caused a miscarriage you should be able to substantiate a charge of Domestic Violence or assault and Battery against him.
I know you say you love him. This time his hitting you cost you your child. Next time it could cost you your life. You need to leave him and you should file charges against him with local law enforcement.
He may or may not go to jail, that will be up to a judge. What you need to do is file the charges and take out an order of protection against him so he stays away from you. The judge can send him to jail and if so he deserves to go to jail for he killed your child. The judge can also put him on probation and send him to anger management classes or both.
You want to make him see what he is doing is wrong; the only way to do so is to file charges against him. Otherwise he is going to continue as he is. If you leave him he will find someone else and he will abuse her too and maybe kill her in one of his rages.
My advice is to get out now and file charges. Protect yourself and any future women he may be with.