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straight or gay
Im at 22 year old female, from the age of 12 I have always known that I am bisexual, however recently I have jumped from lad to lad, I have also started to feel its more myself and happy flirting with the ladies, im just confused if this means im more gay then straight
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Why stress over it? You don't have to tack a label on yourself before you go out do you! When you find someone who makes you happy then run with it!
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What is you need to and or change the label on your sexuality. You know your comfortable having sex with both men and women. I would say that depending on your mood and the type of comfort you desire would lend to whether you would seek a same ex partner or opposite sex partner.
If at some time you crave more sex with women over men I would not go changing the label of your sexual identity because of it. As I see it being bisexual is no different than other things in our lives. There are times we may crave more chocolate ice cream and other times we prefer more strawberry. Then there are going to be days where we absolutely have to have both. To me that has to be the joy of being bisexual. why question your desire if on some days you prefer one over the other. I don't see a problem or anything for you to agonize over. Just enjoy being you.
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Does it matter?
You already know your orientation isn't just black and white. Like most people, you exist on a spectrum.
A lot of people find that their place on that spectrum changes throughout their lives. Most people I know identity a bit differently at 30, then they did at 16.
Spend time with the people you want to spend time with, and pursue the kinds of relationship you want to pursue. If you find your behaviour doesn't fit the label you gave yourself before, that's fine, you can always change the way you talk about your orientation.
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If you have "always known" that you are bisexual, why does it matter if you are "more" gay or straight?
Bisexuality doesn't have to mean that you are <i>equally</i> attracted to men and women, just that you can be attracted to both.
You can still be bisexual even if you prefer women more than men.
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