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First date with my boyfriend..?
Hey, I am a fifteen year old girl, and my boyfriend is seventeen. We have been dating for five months, and we really love each other. I adore him, he is the only guy I want to spend my life with. My parents are very fond of him, but they don't like the idea of him and I going on a date by ourselves. I can understand their thinking, but my boyfriend cares about me, a lot. I've talked to him about this, and he says he never wants to hurt me, he only wants to take care of me, and I trust him with all my heart. Also, my boyfriend has his own truck, and he could drive us, so I don't see how that could be the problem. Like I said, my parents like him, but they won't let us go on a date by ourselves. What's the problem here? How can I fix it? Advice is much appreciated. Thank u(:
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Your parents are just concerned.
I mean I completely believe your boyfriend is a nice and really great guy but I'm pretty sure it's because they don't want you having sex.
I think if you want to go on dates with him, just the two of you, you need to talk to him about your boundaries. I'm sure you already have, but just make sure.
Then talk to your parents. Let them know that you care about him and you're not planning on having sex, ect.
I'm sure both of you are trustworthy but when you guys are in the moment, and both alone, things can get out of hand. So just be careful.
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Here is the problem; "my boyfriend has his own truck." Your parents may be very fond of him but he is a 17 year old boy and boys in general have only one thing on their minds, SEX.
It does not mean your parents don't trust you or that they really don't trust him either. But he is two years older than you, more mature and more experienced in dating than you are. Having his own truck gives him the means and the two of you the opportunity of going further than you may have intended to allow him to go.
The nightmare of every parent with a daughter has is having their daughter sitting at the dinner table one night and saying, "Pass the roast please and by the way I'm pregnant." Okay I made a little light of a serious subject but that is the biggest fear we as parent have for our daughters.
How do you overcome this? You never will not until you are married. Even then at least in your father’s eyes you will always be his little girl even when you have children of your own. That is just the way it is and has been for daughters since just about time began.
While you will never allay you parents fears in this area what you need to do is convince them that you know right from wrong and that when it comes to sex you are not ready. It might help to talk with mom and tell her that when you are ready to have sex you will come to her first.
I probably shouldn't go here but about 90% of today's parents were not virgins on their wedding night. According to statistics about just about half of the parents of your parents age had sex while still in high school; maybe a bit more depending on depending on how old your parents are. This number has been going down for the last few decades’ thanks in part to the AIDS epidemic.
With this knowledge you might say something to mom like. Statistically girls your age while in high school about 50 % were not virgins when they graduated, its a bit less now. I don't know when I will be ready for sex but I will make you this promise to you before I am I will come talk to you. Use your own words but say something to that affect.
As a parent I know I can't stop you. At least give me the chance to dissuade you or get you the protection you need before you have sex so I don't end up a grandparent and you a teenage mother.
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A 15 year old girl, a 17 year old boy, a vehicle, oh, I see how this could be a problem! That is because I was a 15 year old girl once and I know a lot about 17 year old boys(with trucks)!I am sure he is a perfectly nice boy but feelings can get out of hand VERY quickly at this age. Your parents are only looking out for you. If you really love each other then what is the problem? Why do you have to be alone together in a vehicle? What is that going to do for you that is not happening now? I am sure if you are just planning to use this vehicle for transportation your parents will be happy to drive you there! My advice: Just have some innocent fun and be a a 15 year old for now. You are not yet emotionally ready to decide who you are going to "spend your life with". Just have some fun and try not to let things get too serious just yet! I am sure this is what your parents are trying to get across to you as well!
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