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Hi! I'm 13 and do u have any tips or pills that can make your boobs bigger?? I am currently a 36A but I would like to be a 36C. Please help!!
There are no pills or tips to bigger breasts. For you I would suggest you just wait until you a little older. You are in the beginning of puberty and you have yet to develop to what you adult woman's body will be.
When you are 18 if you are still a 36A, which is very doubtful, then you will have reason for concern as you will be closer to the end of puberty. Then if you wish bigger breast you can if you want do something about it. You would have to have Breast augmentation surgery. Nothing else works. Not any of the creams gels or devices in the magazines you might see will give you bigger breasts.
how to have sex with my 13years age sister
There are two things wrong with this question.
1. You do not have sex with family members which includes; Mom, Dad, sisters, brothers and first cousins. It is illegal at any age. It is by most religions also considered a mortal sin.
2. Your sister is 13, first see wrong number one then the fact that she is only 13 and should not even be considering having sex at this age.
There is nothing wrong with thinking mom or your sister is pretty or sexy. The wrong comes in when you start to fantasize about having sex with them or start to plan how to have sex with either them.
By your question it would appear you are trying to have sex with your sister. This is very wrong. It is called incest and as I said it is illegal, you can go to jail.
If you have an overriding desire to fulfill this fantasy then please talk to mom or dad and get some help. In our society and most all Western nations, it is not only illegal and considered a mortal sin. It is consider sick to have sex with a family member.
My father-in-law wants to parole out of the pen to me and my husband. I want to know what the risks are for us? If he gets in trouble, do we get in trouble as well...? (We have two young kids by the way that I don't want to be in the middle of it) We don't want to take the risk of him paroling out to us if we have to jeopardize our children as well....
I would say there is some risk to you but not the risk you are thinking of; This risk comes more in the way of what he was sent to prison for. Example:
If he was sent to prison for drug dealing; then yes if he starts dealing again and drugs are found in your home you could be in legal trouble.
If he was sent to prison for child molestation: No; you would probably not get in trouble if he molested again. Though would you really want him around your children?
What you should do is call the State or County Department of Parole and Probation and put your questions to them. They are your best resource for answers.
My personal opinion is: If I was in your place with two young children in the house. I do not believe I would want a convicted criminal in my home, even if he is my father or father in-law, as a role model to my children.
I don't know your father in-law or why he was in prison. The one thing I do know is children are easily impressed and I would not want him glorifying why he went to prison or prison life to my young children.
This man may be your husbands’ father but your husband does not owe him this and jeopardize his families’ safety by taking him in. If he has brothers, sisters or his parents are still living let them take him in. I'm assuming your husbands’ mother has divorced him or is not living.
There is an old saying about crime. "If you are not willing to do the time, don't do the crime." If they are only willing to parole your father in-law into the custody of a relative and no other relative is willing to accept him. You and your husband do not have to accept him either. Your father in-law will just have to remain in jail for the remainder of his sentence.
My brother told me about water poisoning. I drink a LOT of water a day, a lot that it's probably unhealthy, and now I'm kind of worried. I'm pretty sure I drink more than 8 cups a day.
I'm going to start measuring 8 cups a day of water since that's how much I should have a day, but do I have water poisoning? How do I know if I have it? I googled it and read that it IS indeed true; It wasn't him trying to scare me.
If your drinking 8 cups of water or more throughout the day you have nothing to worry about. Water poisoning happens when too much water is consumed at one time. This usually happens when some one indulges in a water drinking contest. What happens is the consumption of that amount of water at one time throws of the electrolytes in the body and can cause problems that can lead to death.
You can read more about this From Wikipedia, the online encyclopedia. The URL is below.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Water_intoxication
I don't really think that my issue qualifies as an eating disorder which is why I feel like I can get advice from here, before immediately rushing to the doctor's office. Anyway, I've been stuck in this horrible cycle of starving my self and then binging, starving myself and then binging, over and over and over. It goes like this: I'll starve myself starting whenever I wake up and then around four o'clock I'll allow myself plain toast and water or an apple or something small like that. But then dinner time will come and I'll have to sit and eat with the family. The problem is when u start eating, I can't stop. For example, the other night my mom made mashed potatoes, meatloaf, gravy, corn, and carrots. I don't eat meatloaf but I went CRAZY with everything else. I had 2 large helpings of potatoes, a whole bunch of corn, and then later in the night I had a bunch of snacks at 3:00 am. Sometimes I won't binge at the end of the day though, I'll just starve all day or binge all day. I'm trying to lose weight (which my doctor said I need to do to be healthy) but this isn't the healthy way to do it. I can't seem fibre am this cycle though, how can I do it????
What you are doing does qualify as a form of eating disorder as it is not a proper diet or a proper diet to lose weight on. The best way to lose weight is to eat 3 properly balanced meals a day and 2 snacks totaling a specific amount of calories to meet most of you daily needs. This type of diet along with proper exercise is how you lose weight.
What you are doing is starving yourself which forces the body to take its energy from its reserves; the fat it has stored. Then you binge taking in a whole bunch of calories some of which are high calorie junk food that does you no good and the body replaces the fat it consumed during the day. Call it a no win situation.
IF school has not started for you it will start within the next week or two. This type of dieting will also affect how well you do in school. Sitting in class, listening to the teacher and paying attention requires energy. If you have not had a good breakfast then you will not have the energy to pay attention properly.
Yes, the body will take what energy it needs from stored fat but only what it needs to keep your brain alive. The bodies primary function is to keep the brain alive. It can accomplish this with very little energy. You to operate properly in class and during the day need a lot more energy or you will look and feel lethargic.
For the school week you should have a good sized breakfast about 30 percent of the calories you need for the day. At lunch you should have 20 percent of your daily calories. When you get home from school a snack of 10% of your daily calories and for dinner another 30 percent. That leaves 10 present for your evening snack. Now these percentages are not carved in stone you can move them around from meal to meal. What is just about carved in stone is breakfast. This has to be you best meal of the day, especially Monday to Friday during the school week.
Now how do you know what is the proper calorie diet for you? If your doctor is telling you to lose weight then your doctor should be able to suggest a proper diet or calorie count. You can also consult a nutritionist. Some health food stores have a nutritionist on staff you can consult and your school system may also have a nutritionist on staff you can consult.
Your way of dieting is going to make you sick and it is as I said a borderline eating disorder.
Ok. I'm a 15 year old girl. I never had sex or masturbate but I get the urges to most times. I don't know what to do because when my boyfriend touches me and we fo sexting it's good but now we are not together . I know I shouldn't be doing those things but I can't help it. I want to remain a virgin until marriage,
Today's definition of Virgin is anyone who has not had Penis to vagina penetration. Masturbation and fingering or even anal sex has nothing to do with being a virgin by today's standards. This would also include not having a Hyman to be torn during your first vaginal penetration by a penis. Today with Tampon usage and how active girls are with athletics it is very possible they will have dislodged the Hyman long before they marry and have sex with their husbands if this is what they are waiting for.
Masturbation is actually very good for you, especially if you are not expecting to have any other type of sexual activity. Masturbation brings you the sexual relief you body needs from all the hormones puberty puts into it. The sexual relief also relieves a great deal of you stress may be under.
Masturbation is not a sin, not any of the organized religions see masturbation as a sin. They may not condone it but it is not a sin, even the Catholic church believes this.
According to a recent study 85% of us masturbate. If you live in the average home of 4 people than 3.4 of you masturbate this would include your parents. They masturbate as part of foreplay before sex. I will go out on a limb here and say your parents enjoy a healthy se life. Part of that se life is something called mutual masturbation or foreplay. This is where fingering occurs, oral sex and HJ's
I can only think of one reason parents and the church tell children not to masturbate, which to me is hypocritical. They say this for they are afraid that enjoying masturbation will lead to actual sexual intercourse. This does not have to be true. It is more true if you allow your boyfriend to finger you rather than masturbate as it is easy to go from fingering to intercourse.
My advice is if you have the urge to masturbate do so. Go in your room close the door, lock it if possible so you are not barged in on. Get undressed lay on your bed and get comfortable and just go with the feelings. You can also masturbate during your bath or shower, wherever you are most comfortable doing so.
There is a girl at school that lets me feel her boobs and ass. She is super hot and way out of my league. She curvy and skinny, im fat. When she bends down to get books out of her locker I rub her ass. She'll turn around smile and feel my man boobs. We do this all day sometimes I start it sometimes she starts it. I just want to know why she doesn't mind.
I agree with Dragonflymagic. Pretty girls spend more time home alone on Saturday nights then you might think. The reason is guys like you and me take one look at them and say; "wow she's beautiful she would never go out with me." We think that girls that look like her will only go out with the Hunks on the sports teams.
Some of those girls are that shallow but most are like you and me. They are a bit awkward around the oppose sex, nervous and would almost never walk up to any guy and start a conversation.
This young lady sees something in you she likes. I can't say she will go on a date with you or not but it does seem like she wants to be friends. Why not ask her out for a soda or something after school. If that works ask her out on a date.
You really have nothing to lose. Just remember two things. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and Beauty is only skin deep. She may be looking beyond what you say is your being fat and seeing the real you. what you need to do is get over the fact of her outward appearance and get to know the person under the wrappings for that is all her outward beauty is, a package wrapping just as your body as fat as you may believe you to be it is nothing more than a wrapping of the person beneath.
My girlfriend asking me why I love her.
I cannot give you the answer to that question as only you can answer it. What I can do is tell you if your answer is a good one or not.
If I assume you are someone in your teenage years what your girlfriend may be trying to find out is; Do you love her? Or Do you Lust for her. There is a difference between lust and love. If all you want from her then it is not love you have for her it is lust.
If you love someone sex is an important part of love but it is not the only part. Love is more complicated than lust as lust is singular and love multifaceted. Sex only gets you so far in a relationship. Then one day you wake up and find you actually have to talk to one another and you have nothing in common. Having nothing in common is a major cause of the high divorce rate in this country. The sex may still be good but when the sex is over you can't communicate without arguing. See my point.
Your girlfriend has asked you a question for which you must tread lightly when answering. There are not a lot of right answers to this question. At the very least though be honest with yourself.
I'm 15, female, 5'5", and 115 pounds.
I danced for six years growing up – I took ballet from when I was seven until I was thirteen and quit so I could focus on my music career. Of course, after quitting, my entire physical build changed, and I went from being 105 pounds to 125. I also had a lot less energy and was constantly tired. About ten months ago now, I started exercising regularly again, mostly at my mother's insistence – I started out by just doing Zumba two hours per week, and now, I do Beachbody's T25 exercise videos every day and I've graduated from the Alpha series to the Beta. I have mostly regained the physical condition I was in before I quit dance, and I have energy again.
This summer, I went to a seven-week music intensive. I really, really need my life to be very structured, so music camp was an incredible relief from home life for me. I improved a lot as a musician, and unexpectedly, I also lost about 15 pounds. I did the T25 exercise videos regularly at camp, but what made the biggest difference were the 3-5 miles that I walked on an average day, that I could eat however I wanted without my parents dictating my diet, and that the food there was really gross, so it wasn't tempting to overeat. I realized exactly how much I overeat at home, and I felt so, so much better at camp when I ate proper portions. However, I got home three days ago and my mom instantly freaked out about my weight loss. In the past three days, she's insisted that I eat as much as she does, and she's on a diet to gain weight because she has such a high metabolism that she naturally has 5% body fat. She refuses to recognize that I don't have the same metabolism that she does and says she doesn't want me to get anorexia when I say that I'm full or that I don't want to overeat. In the past three days, I've eaten 1,800 calories per day instead of the 1,200 I ate at camp and gained 5 pounds. I already feel unhealthy, but my mom said she would take me to a psychiatrist if I didn't stop insisting that I eat healthier.
I really just want to be healthy, and I honestly feel better when I weigh less. I don't think that I have anorexia, nor is my primary motivation for losing weight appearance. What should I do?
At your height depending on your frame size you should weigh anywhere from 115 pounds to 155 pounds. So if you have a small skeletal frame size you are at the low end of the AVERAGE weight for your height and frame size.
If mom is threatening to take you to see a psychiatrist she is threatening to take you to the wrong doctor. While a psychiatrist is a medical doctor it will cost her in the area of $125 to find out that there is probably nothing wrong with you that would require the attention of a psychiatrist. I say probably for she may be driving you into a depression that might cause you to need this type of doctors help.
Your question is actually the reverse of the ones I usually get from girls of your height and weight. They want to lose weight. Interesting enough my answer to them and what I feel is a resolution to your problem is the same.
Suggestion to mom that seeing a doctor is not a bad idea. You probably should have a back to school physical anyway which her health insurance plan, if she has one, will cover. Many health insurance plans are very restrictive on Psychological coverage and many psychiatrists do not take insurance. You pay up front then submit to your insurance company for reimbursement. Your mother will be surprised to find that of the $125 the doctor will charge the insurance company may reimburse as little as $65 probably much less. This is why psychiatrist do not accept insurance. (I know this for my wife works for the largest certifying insurance company for mental health and they set the reimbursement rates to the doctors.)
Your family doctor is just as qualified to and maybe more so to judge if you are healthy and of a proper weight. Your family doctor would know you better than some strange doctor and would be more qualified to judge if you are in good health and at a weight proper for you. Proper for you is the key factor.
My advice is; Make a deal with your mother. You will see a doctor but it will be the family doctor who knows you best. You will allow the family doctor to give you a complete physical, which you should have every year anyway and would be covered by insurance. Tell her what I said about psychiatrist and payments. If the family doctor says you are of a good weight then mom needs to back off. If the doctor says you needs to gain a few pounds you will.
Important Note: Since you are 15 and female a complete physical would include a female exam. By law if you do not want mom in the exam room with you during the physical she cannot be there. While this law is meant to give you total confidentiality over your reproductive system; In this instance by invoking your rights under the law which is called HIPPA. You will have the privacy you need to talk to the doctor without mom hearing or interrupting.
Just tell the doctor you invoke HIPPA rights and the staff will take it from there. After the exam is over then you can invite mom to come back in and speak with you and the doctor.
i didnt have sex with my bf.. he fingered me.just two days before my periods..he fingered me and i strtd bleeding. that bleeding continued for 2 days and after that i got my normal 7 days period. we got privacy on 22 july and i got my periods on 24 july. we were quite aware of wht v wr doin. and before fingering also i had asked him to wash his hsnd. he had washed his hands with water and then wiped it off with a cloth and then fingered me. if there were sperms on that cloth or if bychance sperms got inside me then can i be pregnant? im not having any vomitting,nausea etc. i just got piles after that and nothing else.
The quick answer to your question is; probably not. It is extremely hard for a female to get pregnant from fingering. The bleeding you had most likely happened because he scratched you or tore your Hymen, possibly dislodging it. If he did you're still a virgin by today's definition.
Todays definition of virgin for a female is; Never having her vagina penetrated by a penis. It does not matter how far the penis penetrates, once past the lips of the vagina by definition you are no longer a virgin. So if you wish to remain a virgin by definition. Tell your boyfriend to keep his penis away from your vagina.
PART TWO: Two days prior to you period is considered a safe time for most women to have sex. The reason for this is quite simple. For those women who use the rhythm method for birth control they refrain from sex during the 14 days they are most fertile which is the time during their cycle that they ovulate.
For about 85% of women the time during their cycle that they ovulate is from the 7th day of their cycle to the 21st day. This is when you are most likely to have an egg ready for fertilization. For the other 15 % the can get pregnant at any time including during their period.
This is why it is important for a women to know when she ovulates. There are kits you can purchase at the drugstore that will help you track when you are ovulating.
I'm 20/f.
Most of the time I like being a girl. I'm a very girly person in general. I like wearing dresses, I have long hair, I like necklaces, stuffed animals etc.
The thing is that when it comes to having sex or a romantic relationship with someone I'd rather be a guy. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend I feel so uncomfortable because I just don't like being a girl in bed. I also don't like being dominant, so that's not the problem. I'm just uncomfortable with my private parts and my whole gender when it comes to these things.
Because of this, we don't have sex very often.
Whenever I fantasize about either sexual or romantic relationships, I think of myself as a guy. Anything else just turns me off. I also don't like heterosexual pairings. I usually just read books or watch movies about two guys being in a relationship because a girl would just ruin the whole story for me.
This leads to another problem I have.
I don't get along with girls. Just their presence makes me feel really uncomfortable. Whenever there is a girl around, I just want to get away. I don't have any friends that are girls, I just feel really weird around them and usually don't get along with them very well.
I don't know if I'm really born in the wrong body or anything like that, because as I said, I'm not tomboy-ish, I like being girly and dressing girly.
I don't know what's wrong with me. :(
I'm really not sure how to answer you on this. I not sure if any of us are qualified to answer you. I can speak quite well on sexual identity questions, Transgender, homosexuality and other sexual problems.
Your question though takes a turn I've never encountered before that being you like being a girl except when having sex. You don't like girls so you can't be a lesbian and you don't fit, at least to my understanding a transgendered person. Neither do you fit the definition for Pansexual.
What I suggest since there may not be any among us that can offer you any help is that you contact a psychologist who specializes in sexual identity and dysfunction. I do not believe you are sexually dysfunctional though I do believe your problem my be in the area of sexual identity.
all my life school has been easy for me one look at a paper and I ace the test but 8th grade is the year where they prepare you for highschool and everything wasn't so easy anymore I was still in the advanced classes but it was way harder than 7th grade then 8th grade ended and all my friends wanted to take honors classes next year and I thought I could handle it but there were summer assignments that we have to do to get into the class and it was so much and im really lazy I do all my work the very last second and now its the end of summer and I still haven't done anything so I decided to take regular classes and be the top of my class in all or in most of my classes and then in 10th grade ill take honors classes but my friends don't understand when they do schoolwork it didn't come as easy as it did to me so I know they can do it and they don't understand that sliding and lying my way through school it worked until now but honors classes I know wont take my lies so how am I gunna from saying "I did it its just at home" to having a stack of papers and ill het overwhelmed and not do it until the last minute and it will not be my best work so whats the point
so my question is should I wait until 10th grade or should I get my act together and stay in honors classes ??
What I think I'm seeing is a bit of fear of the unknown, fear of having to work harder than you ever had too before and fear of having to take responsibility for yourself. I say this as someone old enough to be your grandfather and have been through this with my children and really not looking forward to going through it with grandchildren.
What you fear in short is growing up. I went through it and so did your parents and grandparents. It is a fact of life that we all face and face over and over again as we go through each stage of our lives.
Now to your question as to take honors classes this year or in 10th grade. I don't know you so I am not qualified to answer that question directly. What I will tell you is that by taking regular classes you are fooling yourself into believing you can be top of the class and continue to bluff your way through another year. In essence you are taking a cowards way out by failing to stand up and accept a new challenge.
New challenges are something you will face from here on out as you go through life. If you don't accept this challenge next year when you enter 10th grade you will find new excuses not to accept the challenges of the honors programs offered to you. Failure to do so now will be come a habit you will regret later in life when all your friends pass you bye as they move up the ladder of success.
I'm writing to you as one adult to another. You may not like what I'm saying but it needs to be said. What I would like you to do is sit down with your parents and your class advisor to find out what your teachers feel you are capable of doing. Your teachers are not going to give you more than they believe you can handle. No matter what you believe they are there to see to it that you succeed.
The biggest problem you will face in the honors program is not the work but managing the time to get the work done. This is an area that I excel in, time management. If you do decide to take the honors classes and want help with time management I would be honored to assist you. You can contact me in a private message through this website and I will give you a list of questions then I will propose a time management calendar for you to use and how to use it.
I'm a 13 year old girl and my friend (also 13) drinks. Let's call my friend Donna. So Donna was never a good girl. Constantly saving her phone taken away for texting threats. She said she was abused as a child and if that's true, that could be part if the problem, but she's also a notorious liar.... I've gotten in trouble for a few of her schemes before so I'll probably be breaking off the friendship soon but aside from all of that.... Here's my real problem: Donna and I were texting yesterday and she sends me a picture of this drink with the caption "Delicious!!!!". It did look pretty good so I said "What's in it?" And she gives me a list of ingredients but one really catches my eye: alcohol. I'm not sure what kind if alchohal it is but by the color I assume that it's vodka. The rest of our conversation goes like this:
Me: Alchohal?????
Donna: Yes, but shhhhh....
Me: I'm not gonna tell anyone, but aren't you a little too young to be ruining you're liver?
Donna: Yeah, but it's only like a quarter of an ounce. Besides, my parents use to give me alchohal when I was little so I would learn to hate the taste.
Me: Still Donna, it's not good.
She stopped replying after that..... Should I tell my mom, her mom, the school counseler? I don't know who I should tell honestly. If that's the only time she's ever drank and she doesn't do it again then can I let it go? And she'sthe kinda person who will tell the whole school that I'm a snitch....
There are reasons why young people shouldn't drink alcohol and why it is illegal to do so. One of the biggest reasons is what it can do to a person's long term health for abuse of alcohol. You spoke of only one problem, there are many more.
As her friend you see the need to help her by saying something to your mother and letting your mother decide if she should say something to Donna's mother. This is the correct approach it allows your mom to make the decision and who to approach.
One thing you need to make sure to tell your mother is that Donna is known to be a liar. You cannot be sure that what is in the glass is Vodka but that knowing Donna you believe it is.
As to being a snitch? There is a right time and a wrong time to being a snitch. Lets say Donna tells you she is going to cut out of school after 3rd period. Let her, this would be the wrong time to snitch.
Doing something that has the potential to ruin her health long term such as drinking or doing drugs is the right time. An example of this would be this event we are discussing or say if you knew she had alcohol in a thermos she brought to school. Doing so is a signal of a drinking problem one that could be come a long term or life time problem. Saying something to mom, a teacher or the school principal is the right thing to do as it will save her from a life of pain. Yes she will get in trouble at school but she will also get help.
It would even be correct in the example above or this event to call the police. Under age drinking is unlawful. She won't be arrested, her parents will be informed and social services will be informed and monitor her. You said that she told you she was abused as a child. Make sure to tell mom this as well as it may be better that mom inform child protective service, rather than her mom.
Snitching as you put it is the correct thing to do in this instance as you will be saving your friend from a lifetime of pain. Possibly even saving her life. Saving someone's life outweighs any pain you may have at school for what the other kids may feel is snitching.
So I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and I'm not afraid to touch his penis but I don't like him touching me down there for some reason idk if it's just because I'm embarrassed about getting wet or what but plz help!
Being intimate with someone is something you must adjust to. By being intimate I do not mean having sex with someone although sex does fall under that category. Both boys and girls have to adjust to being intimate with each other. As you say you have no problem touching his penis,though he had to adjust to letting a girl touch him down there.
Boys have the same concerns about their penis that girls do about there vagina. They are embarrassed about getting hard although it is a natural function just as getting wet is for you. You get wet because you are sexually excited. When a woman gets sexually excited her vagina lubricates to accept a penis. When the male gets sexually excited he gets hard so he can enter the vagina. These are the sexual facts of life that in the beginning for both of you can be embarrassing.
This is all normal. Simply tell the young man that you are not ready to be touched down there. If he loves you and not just lusts for you he will understand.
One other thing and this you need to remember for the rest of your life. NO mean NO and Stop means STOP. Once you tell some one either of these words, be he 15 or 51 he must stop. TO continue to try to do whatever it is you said no to is called SEXUAL HARASSMENT. This is a FELONY CHARGE you can bring against any man of any age if they continue to harass you for something you don't want to do sexually. It is one step below rape as charges go and is taken very serious.
is xasten caplets good for breastfeeding mother's?
I am not a doctor so it would not be right for me to say yes or no concerning the taking of any drug. This particular drug is part of the Steroid drugs that are out there.
You are aware that anything you take or ingest goes directly to your milk which the baby then absorbs. This being a Steroid I would want to consult a doctor before taking it. I would also assume this being a in the family of Steroid drugs that it is only available by prescription.
If this is so; does the prescribing doctor know you are a breastfeeding mother? If not I would suggest you consult with the doctor and advise that you are a breastfeeding mom before taking this drug or any other drugs including over the counter medications.
Hi! I'm 13 and I do not where glasses but I have a dent in my nose it's above the tip of my nose in the middle. The first time I noticed it was December 2013. What should I do?? Should I go to a Plastic surgeon? How much would it cost or should I see my doctor plaese help!!
The dent in your nose is not something to see a doctor about today. As you go through puberty and your body changes, so will parts of your face. This dent may go away on its own. If not you can discuss with your parents if they will pay for a nose job. Plastic Surgery is an elective surgery that most insurance companies will not cover. Plastic surgery for a nose job is also very expensive. Depending on where you live and how much surgery is required to correct the problem a nose job can cost as much as $10,000.
Then there's the fact that you are 13 and most Plastic Surgeons will not do an elective procedure on you at this age. You should be at least 15 or 16 well into puberty before a Plastic Surgeon will consider operating and then you need parental permission and their ability to pay for it.
If not you will have to wait until you are at least 18, consider an adult and once again you ability to pay for the operation is the overriding factor.
So, I am on vacation for my brother's birthday... My mom brought her computer for us to use, and I had just installed some software and drivers for a project two days ago. Then, earlier today, she restored her computer back a few days. I was going to attempt re-installing it from the recycle bin, which wasn't successful... But, upon this process I overcame a video entitled "Private Show" and, out of curiosity, I played it. And I thought the unexpected 2 hour drive to a monument was the worst part of this vacation... at least until I saw this video. I really don't know what to do... but I probably won't be able to sleep tonight. Please, I need some advice!
I assume this video was not PG rated. Well I guess you now know mom has a sex life. There are worst things you could have seen but seeing mom enjoying herself in a sexual manner is not something a child is meant to see.
Part of this is moms fault for having it on the computer and letting you use the computer knowing you could stumble across it. The title "Private Show" really doesn't say anything to tell you or anyone else not to view it. If mom didn't want it viewed by you or anyone else, and I'm sure she did not want you seeing it. She should have password protected the file or removed it to an out drive.
That does not help with how you feel, it was meant to help with the possible guilt you feel for viewing the file. That title in no way tells someone not to view it. It may have just as well been a down load to a commercial X Rated clip. I'm sure others who came across this clip would have viewed it as well.
What to do about it. First; I see no reason for you to feel guilty about viewing it. Second; you can do nothing and just try to put what you saw out of your mind. I know it will be hard as you have seen you mom in a manner no child should ever see their mom.
Now depending on what type of relationship you have with mom; meaning can you and she talk openly about se and sexual situations; such as can you talk to mom about dates and any sexual situation you might have been involved in. If you can then consider telling her you accidentally came across this file. Not knowing for sure what it was you opened it. You don't have to tell her if you viewed the entire file. What you do what to tell her is that the title does not emphasis the fact that this is not for all eyes and that she may want to remove it or pass word protect it.
This of course is based solely on if you feel your relationship with mom can handle this type of conversation. If not then say nothing and just try to forget what you have seen.
Two questions for you? Does mom let anyone use her computer? If so what are the chances of your brother seeing this file. Take this into consideration when deciding if you need to discuss this with your mom.
Hi this will sound really weird but a couple of days ago my head started to feel really numb like if i held ice on it or something and it still does and whenever someone talks to me I don't understand them right away and it has been taking me a while to respond. I can't get a doctors appointment until September and I am worried because I have been forgetting a LOT of things and I felt really stupid and embarrassed today because I hit my head on a pole even though I was looking straight forward and should have known not to do it. It hasn't even been easy to write this on the computer. Does anyone know what might be happening, i don't really have as many thoughts in my head as i used to and my friends are calling me stupid what is wrong?
None of us are doctors so we can not make a diagnoses. From what you are saying I would suggest you go to the nearest Hospital Emergency Room and have this checked out.
Of the possibilities; you could be suffering a small blood leak to the brain. There is also a possibility of a tumor or blood clot. These are all serious conditions all of which require radiology exam to rule out.
All of the conditions are serious to life threatening. Do not drive, do not drive yourself to the hospital. In fact I would suggest even if you have someone that could drive you to the hospital that you call 911 and have them come and transport you. The paramedics can do a field assessment and transport you to the proper hospital based on their assessment.
This is the type of problem that is why we have the 911 system. Call them and let them assist you. Call 911 and get to a hospital now, today from wherever you are.
Last night i had sex with my gf.But i think one drop of my sperm dropped on her vagina.But i didnt break her hymen...so is it cause pregnancy??????????
Breaking her Hymen and pregnancy have nothing to do with each other. If any amount of sperm gets into her vagina a pregnancy can occur. The Hyman does not close of the vagina.
Hi I'm gabi, I'm 19 years old and a fairly healthy young adult. the only problem I have is ulcerative colitis.. if you don't know what that is, I basically have to restrict dairy and white flour because those are my "irritants." which basically means if I eat food containing milk or white flour I will poop JUST blood. it makes me VERY faintish so I try to avoid those foods as much as possible.. but I'm kinda scared because sometimes I'll give in and eat something that I know will cause me bleeding (it's sooo hard to resist foods that contain these things because so many yummy things contain them) and instead of dealing with the bloody consequence I've made myself get sick. now I'm not bulimic and I actually think I'm too thin now but like I make myself vomit only lonce a week or once every two weeks and it's been happening since May... depending on when I binge into the foods that contain milk and white flour. it's just that the consequence (bloody stool) is THAT disturbing that id rather make myself vomit than have bright red blood spew out of my sphincter. I'm worried I'm gonna develop a heart problem? is that possible for the amount of times I've made myself sick ? I'm so mad at myself. I don't want to die and I'm scared I won't wake up one morning. idk I think I read too many things on the internet. whenever I google the dangers of vomitting it always says "heart problems." like I don't want that!? I have a history of anxiety and I feel like ever since I read the frightening information on the internet about how vomitting causes heart problems I've been starting to give myself ACTUAL palpitations & symptoms of heart problems which I think are from the anxiety.. the only thing that gets me is that what if I'm thinking it's "just my anxiety" when in fact I actually gave myself heart problems..? btw I got an EKG in March after suffering bad palpitations for this same reason ( I was making myself vomit bc of my milk and white flour contaminated food binges) and everything turned out 100% fine even though I felt like I was dying. the vomitting died down in April and some of May but picked up again towards the end of May til now. I already made a promise with myself that I won't do it again but do you think I could have given myself a heart problem that wasn't there in march? PLEASE help.
The quick answer to your question is; yes, vomiting can cause heart and other problems.
The problem with purging is vomiting cause an imbalance in the bodies electrolytes. The body is actually an electrical energy system and the electrolytes need to stay in balance in order for the body to operate properly. Out of balance they can cause heart, kidney, liver and other problems.
Another problem with frequent vomiting is the acids in your stomach can erode the lining of your esophagus. If it gets too bad you could end up with a feeding tube.
What I suggest is that many of the food you binge on can be made with other products that won't irate your digestive system. There are cookbooks with recipes on how to make many of these things with ingredients you can tolerate.
I would suggest you start by going to your local library and asking the Librarian for help in finding these books. They are probably shitting on the shelves gathering dust. If the library is no help a good book store may carry the books or search the web for the books and or the recipes.
Binging and purging is not the answer. Finding foods you can tolerate that taste good and satisfy the taste for the foods you binge and purge with is the answer. You may also gain the weight you need to gain as being underweight is as bad as purging.