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My girlfriend asking me why I love her..
My girlfriend asking me why I love her.
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first you ask yourself why you love her.if you finds a reason than its not love its attraction or something.If you don't find a reason than you love her truly.love doesn't need any reason.you don't know why you love the person but you do.and tell the same to your girlfriend.
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I've usually told women to do this but it will work well for a guy too and will be all the reasons plus more that you love her.
You will make a list of what you NEED in a woman and a list of what you WANT in a woman. You wont be able to put it together instant on the spot, it takes some thought but piece by piece, whats important for you to have so you can love the woman will come to mind.
One persons Needs may vary from anothers based on their past life experience and their own idiosyncracies. Lets say you must eat a very restricted diet that is dairy free, gluten free etc. and are looking for someone who already eats natural health foods. YOu can easily cook for each other or with each other. This may not be a need if you are dating merely for fun and social reasons and not trying to date to find the girl to end up with life long whether married or not.
So it depends on your circumstances. A want is more like personal preferances like if you really liked red heads more than others but any will be fine, my husband said that I have the body shape and size he always dreamed of finding, but he would have taken any shape and size as long as she qualified on his Needs.
As I put my list together what I wanted and got it all in my 2nd husband, its easy to know why I love him. My examples: I love him because of his moral character, that he is consistant in who he is at core so I can depend on him, he is constant and therefore trustworty. He dotes on me hand and foot, always asking if there is something he can do for him and I love that about him. I also love how he thinks, his knowledgable background in psychology and astrology and the fact that he is not religious but spiritual like me, using all of his spiritual gifts on a daily basis in living each day out. I love that fact that he upholds me , encourages me in my interest and pursuits and is my 'fan club'...supporting whatever I do. I love that fact that he has never raised his voice to me in the 5 years we've been together. He compliments me. I love how he misses me if I am gone even a few hours and prefers to hang out with me even doing the chores and mundane things cus he finds having me at his side for all that just makes life more fun and worth living, i love how he tells me in detail what about me turns him on, whether it's his playing with my long strands of hair, the play of moonlight or candle light on my skin, my shape, my taste...its gets very detailed and its not just words, his eyes change so I can see desire, I like how his focus is to see me totally satisfied before he seeks his own satisfaction, the list justs goes on and on.
So I hope hearing why I love my husband will give you some clue as to what she needs to hear from you. But it has to come from your heart, it has to be things about her that you love. It isn't one big easy thing, love is multi faceted so you'll need to come up with a list.
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I'm probably around your age. So I'm going to answer to my best ability.
We want to know that you actually have feelings for us, like/love us for who we are. Not just our bodies. We want to make sure our feelings are reciprocated in the same way.
- Hardcore-Band-Geek
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I cannot give you the answer to that question as only you can answer it. What I can do is tell you if your answer is a good one or not.
If I assume you are someone in your teenage years what your girlfriend may be trying to find out is; Do you love her? Or Do you Lust for her. There is a difference between lust and love. If all you want from her then it is not love you have for her it is lust.
If you love someone sex is an important part of love but it is not the only part. Love is more complicated than lust as lust is singular and love multifaceted. Sex only gets you so far in a relationship. Then one day you wake up and find you actually have to talk to one another and you have nothing in common. Having nothing in common is a major cause of the high divorce rate in this country. The sex may still be good but when the sex is over you can't communicate without arguing. See my point.
Your girlfriend has asked you a question for which you must tread lightly when answering. There are not a lot of right answers to this question. At the very least though be honest with yourself.
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