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I sometimes wish I was a guy.
I'm 20/f.
Most of the time I like being a girl. I'm a very girly person in general. I like wearing dresses, I have long hair, I like necklaces, stuffed animals etc.
The thing is that when it comes to having sex or a romantic relationship with someone I'd rather be a guy. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend I feel so uncomfortable because I just don't like being a girl in bed. I also don't like being dominant, so that's not the problem. I'm just uncomfortable with my private parts and my whole gender when it comes to these things.
Because of this, we don't have sex very often.
Whenever I fantasize about either sexual or romantic relationships, I think of myself as a guy. Anything else just turns me off. I also don't like heterosexual pairings. I usually just read books or watch movies about two guys being in a relationship because a girl would just ruin the whole story for me.
This leads to another problem I have.
I don't get along with girls. Just their presence makes me feel really uncomfortable. Whenever there is a girl around, I just want to get away. I don't have any friends that are girls, I just feel really weird around them and usually don't get along with them very well.
I don't know if I'm really born in the wrong body or anything like that, because as I said, I'm not tomboy-ish, I like being girly and dressing girly.
I don't know what's wrong with me. :(
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I have watched lots of stuff on line listening to the stories of those who are transgender as you are supposed might explain away your situation.
The transgender thing is one gender at a young age already having no interest in same gender clothes or activities but drawn to and happiest when engaging in dress and activities of the opposite sex. Then on the other hand, a transgender person when it comes to puberty if the body is female and one feels male, then they grow to despise the breasts growing, try to hide them and hate their genital and fact that their is a period to deal with. Same for the opposite, not wanting the facial hair etc... In all I've seen the two pieces go hand in hand.
I am a female, dont hate girls but don't prefer to seek them out for friends, seek out guys instead. I am married for 2nd time. I love girly things and have no problem with my body but i have in the past had a lot of dreams in which I was the male having sex. It wasn't until I came to believe in reincarnation that I understood that my soul prefered incarnations as a female in form but has also lived as a male for the experience. These 'male' memories come out at times in how I stand...like a man, but then as I walk away, I walk like a woman. It is so woven through my life in a perfect blend that i dont let it trouble me. At least it no longer does. In sex, i have not had a problem being the female but something deep inside longed to feel the male experience in sex even tho I have female genetalia. One day I got my wish, it happened with my 2nd husband. All of a sudden I was confused in my mind because it felt like i had a penis and he had the female vagina i was entering. It was so mindblowing I had to say something. When I told him, he revealed he had felt the same thing. Had actually felt it with a few females in the past but none of them had picked up on it as I had.
So I did experiments of visualizing that i had a penis but only when on top and wouldn't tell him what i was doing mentally. He would immediately say, "you're using your penis again, aren't you"
I have not read anything about this situation anywhere. But I do know our bodys have energy systems and auras and such and when i focus my thoughts on it, I develop an energy penis and the husband is fully aware of it and his bodys energies immediate switch to becoming the reciever. iT takes a special man to not feel emasculated but willing to and enjoying switching roles. I have found that learning to accept parts of both sexes in me to be the most rewarding.
Short of this, since I am no professional, you might go to a sexual counselor. In this day and age they have heard of everything and are not biased to only one way of being. Perhaps they can help you shed some light on whats going on for you and help you find solutions.
I hope everything works out for you eventually.
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I'm really not sure how to answer you on this. I not sure if any of us are qualified to answer you. I can speak quite well on sexual identity questions, Transgender, homosexuality and other sexual problems.
Your question though takes a turn I've never encountered before that being you like being a girl except when having sex. You don't like girls so you can't be a lesbian and you don't fit, at least to my understanding a transgendered person. Neither do you fit the definition for Pansexual.
What I suggest since there may not be any among us that can offer you any help is that you contact a psychologist who specializes in sexual identity and dysfunction. I do not believe you are sexually dysfunctional though I do believe your problem my be in the area of sexual identity.
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