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I saw a video of my mom
So, I am on vacation for my brother's birthday... My mom brought her computer for us to use, and I had just installed some software and drivers for a project two days ago. Then, earlier today, she restored her computer back a few days. I was going to attempt re-installing it from the recycle bin, which wasn't successful... But, upon this process I overcame a video entitled "Private Show" and, out of curiosity, I played it. And I thought the unexpected 2 hour drive to a monument was the worst part of this vacation... at least until I saw this video. I really don't know what to do... but I probably won't be able to sleep tonight. Please, I need some advice!
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Just so you don't feel you're the only one struggling with something like this...I know of very few children whether still kids, teens or adults who can imagine their parents having sex, and the thought of that grosses them out. Obviously my parents did it cus there's myself and 3 siblings, and yet, I cannot to this day see them as ever having been sexual creatures or of being such today, no matter what their age, even as senior citizens.
The unfortunate truth is that may couples, once they have produced children and are in the rearing them stage, tend to neglect their sex life. They get too far into the role of Mom and Dad and forget that they ever had passion and love and desire for each other.
Some parents are just too uncomfortable for the kids to grow up from a young age, seeing them hug, snuggle and kiss or perhaps anything of a sexual content or sexual in speech is buried and forgotten because of their discomfort. Perhaps it was due to how they were raised. But there is nothing wrong with children seeing at least that much or seeing mom come home with a sexy outfit or nightie for wear for her sweetheart. The flirting is healthy to see too. You just happened to see more than any child should see of their parents.
I say all this to give you something positive to focus on, at least be happy that your parents still have a healthy sex life because a majority of parents do not a have a good one or do not have one at all any more.
Here's another way to look at it. You want Mom and Dad to be healthy don't you? Well, sex is known to be one of the greatest and most fun stress relievers known to mankind for both the male and female. If I have a tension headache, having sex WILL get rid of it every time. I have also come across many reports and even heard from my own genecologist that women who continue to have sex throughout their life after kids and during grandkids period, will tend to have less problems or no problems that many women do with their sexual organs or urinary tract and bladder when they are older because of the constant "exercise' shall we call it. Keeps her toned so her walls of the vagina don't collapse, or bladder sag due to weak muscles. I've heard sex is good for men to keep regular in, for the moment they stop and do nothing for years on end and later want to start, their sex organs won't work for them, they are unable to get hard again. That saying "Use it or lose it" applies very much so in this case.
I back up what adviceman had to say, I just wanted to give you some positive things to focus on to help get what you saw off your mind easier.
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I assume this video was not PG rated. Well I guess you now know mom has a sex life. There are worst things you could have seen but seeing mom enjoying herself in a sexual manner is not something a child is meant to see.
Part of this is moms fault for having it on the computer and letting you use the computer knowing you could stumble across it. The title "Private Show" really doesn't say anything to tell you or anyone else not to view it. If mom didn't want it viewed by you or anyone else, and I'm sure she did not want you seeing it. She should have password protected the file or removed it to an out drive.
That does not help with how you feel, it was meant to help with the possible guilt you feel for viewing the file. That title in no way tells someone not to view it. It may have just as well been a down load to a commercial X Rated clip. I'm sure others who came across this clip would have viewed it as well.
What to do about it. First; I see no reason for you to feel guilty about viewing it. Second; you can do nothing and just try to put what you saw out of your mind. I know it will be hard as you have seen you mom in a manner no child should ever see their mom.
Now depending on what type of relationship you have with mom; meaning can you and she talk openly about se and sexual situations; such as can you talk to mom about dates and any sexual situation you might have been involved in. If you can then consider telling her you accidentally came across this file. Not knowing for sure what it was you opened it. You don't have to tell her if you viewed the entire file. What you do what to tell her is that the title does not emphasis the fact that this is not for all eyes and that she may want to remove it or pass word protect it.
This of course is based solely on if you feel your relationship with mom can handle this type of conversation. If not then say nothing and just try to forget what you have seen.
Two questions for you? Does mom let anyone use her computer? If so what are the chances of your brother seeing this file. Take this into consideration when deciding if you need to discuss this with your mom.
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Don't be so shocked that your mom has an interest in sex! How do you think you got here? Hopefully you stopped the video right away and can just focus in slow steady breathing and emptying your mind of unwanted images. It'll pass. Don't mention it to anyone, it's nobody's business, just like it wasn't yours. Now you know better than to be curious!
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