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Parole
My father-in-law wants to parole out of the pen to me and my husband. I want to know what the risks are for us? If he gets in trouble, do we get in trouble as well...? (We have two young kids by the way that I don't want to be in the middle of it) We don't want to take the risk of him paroling out to us if we have to jeopardize our children as well....
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I would say there is some risk to you but not the risk you are thinking of; This risk comes more in the way of what he was sent to prison for. Example:
If he was sent to prison for drug dealing; then yes if he starts dealing again and drugs are found in your home you could be in legal trouble.
If he was sent to prison for child molestation: No; you would probably not get in trouble if he molested again. Though would you really want him around your children?
What you should do is call the State or County Department of Parole and Probation and put your questions to them. They are your best resource for answers.
My personal opinion is: If I was in your place with two young children in the house. I do not believe I would want a convicted criminal in my home, even if he is my father or father in-law, as a role model to my children.
I don't know your father in-law or why he was in prison. The one thing I do know is children are easily impressed and I would not want him glorifying why he went to prison or prison life to my young children.
This man may be your husbands’ father but your husband does not owe him this and jeopardize his families’ safety by taking him in. If he has brothers, sisters or his parents are still living let them take him in. I'm assuming your husbands’ mother has divorced him or is not living.
There is an old saying about crime. "If you are not willing to do the time, don't do the crime." If they are only willing to parole your father in-law into the custody of a relative and no other relative is willing to accept him. You and your husband do not have to accept him either. Your father in-law will just have to remain in jail for the remainder of his sentence.
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The answer has to depend entirely on the reason he's in there to start with and how comfortable you feel about having him in your home. Does he have a history of imprisonment or illegal activities? Have they ever caused harm to someone? Is there a chance he could adversely influence your kids? Would the conditions of his parole impact your family? The last one is something you would need to ask his parole officer, the other questions only you would know the answers to.
I understand that he's family and you could be feeling a sense of duty towards him because of this but you have to put yourselves and your children first. If what he did was a one off incident and it's extremely unlikely to be repeated you might decide that it's safe to go ahead, especially if it's for a short period. However, no one can really make up your minds for you as you're the ones who have to live with your decision. Think carefully, ask all the questions you need to, even make a list of them so that you don't forget anything when you talk to someone about it, then base your decision on the information you have and your gut feeling about it. It's not an easy one, I wish you good luck.
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