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when i was in middle school i was in love with this guy who said he didnt feel the same way although secretly he did he it was a small school i knew everyone and he was popular me not so much because of who my friends were but i loved him for four years and maybe more i just finished 12th grade and i still think about him sometimes and i havent seen him or talked to him since 8th grade i dont know how to get him outta of my head im with an amazing guy for 2 years now and i feel guilty when i think about him then guy i loved was mean to me but i dont know how to forget and let go any ideas
Four years is a very long time to still be thinking about someone, You still think about this guy from time to time but I would start thinking in the aspects of he could be going to college, He could have a girlfriend and hell for all you know he could have a child or be engaged after all a lot of time has passed by. You have been with your boyfriend for 2 years, That is a long time to be with someone while thinking of a guy you used to know a few years back. If this guy is amazing and treats you right then you should be focused on him and happy to be in the relationship with him. One says you cannot truly love someone if you are still hung up on someone else. I would try to move on, Like I said it has been several years and you both are older and have moved on with your lives. Don't let an old crush ruin your happiness with who you are with now. The more you think about it, The more you will begin to dwell on it and the more it could start to effect your current relationship. Stop putting yourself on hold and be happy in your life.
Ok, so there is this guy that I had a crush on but then I lost interest. He is moving to Canada in two days, I think I like him but I'm not sure. I thought he liked me back but now I don't think he does anymore. I think about him all the time and I imagine him telling me he likes me and that he'll miss me, but my heart doesn't skip a beat when I see him like it used to. Do I like him, should I tell him? Fast answers would be appreciated as he is leaving in a day.
13/f
Sometimes we don't realize we like someone until you know you'll never see them again. Should you tell him? Probably not. Assuming you live in the United States what is it really going to solve to tell you that you like him? He is going to Canada either way...
I think you should just part as friends like the user said below me, Telling someone you like them before they are due to move far away is kind of heart breaking. You would want him to move without any guilt wouldn't you? Well maybe it's just like that old saying....."Somethings are better kept to ourselves"
I'm 19 and i met this guy a year ago. from the very start i was'nt attracted to him but he forced things out. i gave in because I'd just broken up and wanted to show that 'thing' that i was doing well. I have never loved him and always wish if got a nice guy,i would slip out.I hate him yet he loves me dearly. what should i do?
If you aren't attracted to him then calmly in a nice way tell him.
You could say " I think you may be getting the wrong impression but I am not attracted you too you in that way."
Just let the guy know but try to drop him lightly, Don't kill his ego.
Why is virginity valued by some people/ cultures?
Some people firmly believe they should wait until they are married. Why? because giving your virginity should be shared between someone special not just any random person.
Virginity is supposed to be a special thing, Many people these days just go and have sex with about anyone. My personal view? Well I lost my virginity at 17, Do I wish I waited even longer than I did? I do. However, There isn't much I can do to change the past but I sure as hell wish I held off until I found the right person.
There are many reasons to why virginity is valuable but the biggest reason in culture is mainly because they don't want to give it too wrong person.
So I busted the guy im seeing on a dating site.. he got angry and came back to me saying this
''what are you not allowing me to talk to other girls then you? im sorry I cant give you 24/7 attention (ironically doesnt at all) , says oh well are you not letting me talk to other girls other then you?''
why would someone say that.. of course he can,but why in that way?
also,has said when im mad at him ''wtfack is wrong now'' things like that...
what do you think.
He said that because he was caught red handed and that was his "excellent" bullshit excuse.
Guess what, This guy is a cheater, It's obvious and you've caught him and now it would be a perfect time to shit can the asshole.
I have been suffering from what I believe are anxiety attacks. I am not sure and want to go to the doctors to make sure. My mom won't take me because, well, she's my mom. We have medical insurance (cigna). I was told that I could go to your average family physician for mental health check ups. Well I have my medical card and I have money, I was wondering if I could just call any doctor's office and set up an appointment or if I have to call specific ones in order for it to be covered.
I live in Utah
17 Female.
If you want to be certain you could call the office ahead of time and ask them if they accept your insurance, Another option would be you could see if you could find a clinic that would accept your medical insurance but if there were to be a small fee afterward that they would allow you to go on a sliding scale. ( Pay little amounts every month ) One place that allows this is Thundermist. You can google it up to see if they have one in your local area and if not then you can ask this question when you call as well.
Good luck!
Hi I am a female, 17.
My boyfriend is 19.
We both work I work days and his schedule is all over the place. He works usually 7 to 1 or 7 to 5 but somedays he'll work 7 to 7. I work 7 to five.
I don't have a phone it has been broken for nearly a month. I text him on my breaks from my friends phone since she works at my work too. He replies maybe half the time. I ask him usually when I will see him again. Well he usually says he's tired from work and sometimes he's already busy. Well whenever I can't get a hold of him and I know he is off work I just go to his house and surprise him. He never seems to mind and we usually end up falling asleep. Well whenever I want to do something big I ask him at least a week in advanced. I asked him to go camping with our friends and I and he said he had work so I didn't mind. He told me we'd plan another trip but when I asked him about it he said we weren't going to. And every year my friends and I go to California during Christmas break for 5 days and I invited him. My best friend is dating his best friend so I thought it would be fun for us four to go. I asked him and he said he couldn't get work off when it's several months away. Well I told him I am tired of us sitting around at his house and never doing anything and how I want to go out every now and then. He said he is socially uncomfortable. I told him not to keep making up excuses and how I just want us to do exciting things now and then. Of course he never replied so I told him to think about it and that I adored him. He always complains about me not having a phone to talk to him but when I do text him he never replies, and he never ever replies when I ask to hang out. I told him I wanted him to meet my family and he refuses, and I told him we're not going to have sex again until he at least meets my nieces and nephews since they are only here for the summer and I won't see them again until next summer. When I told him that he said he wasn't even going to kiss me, and now when I sleepover he won't kiss me or even touch me unless I get really upset and roll to the other end of the bed. I just don't get him lately. When we first got together he always wanted to do things and hang out and he seemed very interested. I see him maybe 2 times a week. We've been dating three months.
Is this because of his schedule or me being upset with him. How do I get him to become more interested in me.
This guy has moved on, Despite how busy someone may be nobody is too busy to make a phone call every now and then. If the guy cared about you then he would make time for you as you would generally come before his friends. You text him, He doesn't respond half of the time this is a flag. Solid could be right, The guy could already have someone else lined up but surely he is bored of the relationship and has no interest in making it work. Time to move on
20/F I have a friend that I met at a place we both used to work. Now that we don't work there anymore, we never see each other because we live like 3 towns over. When we do see each other, it's always a let down. I never have as much fun as I anticipate I will. We're just so different. He's extremely social and likes to hang out as a group, but I like to hang out with people exclusively. The sad thing is, even when it's just him and I, which I usually prefer in a friendship, I'm so bored...I feel like I'm getting nothing out of our friendship, he's a really nice person, but I feel like I'm wasting time and effort. Should I just avoid his phone calls? Just because he's nice doesn't mean I'm obligated to be his friend...Am I right? Opinions, please?
If there is no spark of friendship between the two of you then there would be no point in trying to proceed what is nothing. The thing I'm yet to understand is that time changes everything, People move on and people change. Not everything is what it once was and are you wrong? No. Sometimes change is just a part of life, If you don't feel anything then you really should be honest about it. You could say "I'm really sorry to have to give you such bad news I think you are a really nice person but I don't feel we have much in common" This is one way to put it but if you don't want to confront the situation you could try to drop contact and hope he gets the picture.
I'm 15 and male and i'm in highschool and i want to ask a girl out. i'm not he most 'polpular' of people but if i don't get a girlfriend soon i'm going to explode. please give me some tips.
Dude I know right now everything is about high school cliches and you feel like you aren't the most popular guy in school but let me tell you that in the real world nothing is about who is popular and who isn't. If a girl really cares and appreciates you she won't give a flying crap what other people think she will happy to be with you because she sees you for who you are. It isn't about being popular or the star football player or the biggest nerd in school. If you like a girl then go up too her and start a casual conversation. Women like to be noticed and complimented but don't go overboard or you'll have her running the other way. Be cool about it, Start off with a smile and say "Hey" then compliment her about her hair or something. Don't get all nervous just be yourself, If you feel more comfortable then give her a note but try not too be too weird ya know? Here's a line: "Hey, My name is ___ I just wanted to say I think you are really attractive I'm sorry I said it in a note I was nervous my locker # is ___ drop me one sometime if you want to chat" This is pretty casual and not too over the top and it gives her time to think about her next move. If she drops you a line then there ya go dude you've got your ball rolling!
So... ever since I went to Cuba I have this vision that just popped into my head of my dad in the water and a shark grabbing him.. the image keeps coming back and haunting me... whats up with that?
Courtesy of Dreammoods
Shark
To see a shark in your dream, indicates feelings of anger, hostility, and fierceness. You are undergoing a long and difficult emotional period and may be an emotional threat to yourself or to others.Perhaps, you are struggling with your individuality and independence, especially in some aspect of your relationship. Alternatively, a shark represents a person in your life who is greedy and unscrupulous. This person goes after what he or she wants with no regards to the well-being and sensitivity of others. The shark may also be an aspect of your own personality with these qualities.
Father
To see your father in your dream, symbolizes authority and protection. It suggests that you need to be more self-reliant. Consider also your waking relationship with your father and how aspects of his character may be incorporated within yourself.
To dream that your father is dead, forewarns that you need to proceed with caution in conducting your business.
To dream that you are hitting your father, represents a desperate need for greater closeness with your father. You feel that he is not listening to you. In particular, if you are hitting your father with a rubber object, indicates that whatever you are doing or telling him has no significant effect on him. Things just literally bounces off him.
So , if someone says they care about you.. so this guy said he cares about me... and stuff.. and like it might sound stupid , but its odd.. we went to get pizza... and im like oh im going to get pizza.. and after I bought it 4 bucks!!! I ate it and it wasn't too good.. and he says.. '' oh yeah I know just looking at it was gross... sorry.. I should have spoke up and told you... it looked really gross''
like if he cares why doesnt he tell me not to buy it? its like he says it but doesnt mean it.
another thing... I always have to be the one doing oral... I never have gotten oral done to me.. I asked him I want the same back and he still doesn't do it.. what to do?
Eh I could agree with the user below me, It does sound like he may be using you for his own benefit.
I'm not going to say he cares but I will say I think he may be ignorant, I don't know the guy but for some odd reason I seem to get that vibe from what you've wrote. If you are giving him oral sex and you aren't getting it in return then tell him that you aren't comfortable doing something you won't get in return. Better yet, Just stop giving it too him. Now, About the "using" you part...Do you pay for everything? Does he do this kind of stuff all the time? Boyfriend and girlfriends should go halves or share expenses. It is 100% wrong to have one spouse constantly contributing to all cost of the relationship. I can't really say whether he is using you or not as you didn't give much detail but if you feel he is then you should follow your gut and either have a serious talk with him about it or leave his dead beat ass.
I'm 13/f,and I'm a cutter.I cut my wrist.I've cut it about 6 times.Whenever my mom asks what happened to my wrist,I tell her I was doing something,and got cut.She just says ok,and believes it.One day we were sitting at home,my brother and dad went to the store,and she was watching something on t.v.,and it mentioned something about if you have a teen who cuts.So she said she needs to check and see if I'm a cutter because of the cuts on my wrist.I really don't want to tell her,because when I cut,all my emotional pain is gone,and I'm happy.I feel that I should tell her,but I really can't.Should I tell her?Or should I keep it a secret?
You need to let your mother know what is going on.
Cutting may seem like it relieves the pain but it doesn't. If you cut your wrist you could end up hitting a vain and it could be deadly. Cuts could even scar up as well and you may think you feel better but guess what scars are a part of pain too. Do you really want a constant reminder? Reality is, There are other methods you could do to cope with emotional issues than to cut yourself. You need to let someone know so they can help you. Every women gets their period and I myself have bipolar disorder but something as simple as medication helps me cope with everyday life. Cutting is NOT the answer to your problems
I am a 26yr old Female and my baby sister is 21yrs old and this is her second time living with me and i am fed up, she has no visible goals and i now have a 4month old son and my fiance' is ready to move in.She has been back and forth between my house n a friends house and recently got a job but quit after a week.....what do i do ,because when i try to talk to her she always accuses me of not caring about her or not being there for her. i dont want to hurt her so can u please tell me how to handle this????
You have cared, You have taken her in not once but twice. Your sister is old enough to take care of herself as she is legally an adult.
I would give her two weeks to find a place to live, There is no nice way to bring it up but the NICEST way to bring it up would to be something along the lines:
" I love you and I'll always be your mental support but I am no longer able to let you live in my home as I now have the responsibility to raise a child and my fiance will be moving in so I have decided to give you two weeks to find a place to live" Well, Sure this isn't exactly the nicest way to word it but you also need to realize that sometimes there is only so much you can do for a person. Your sister needs to take care of herself and you now have a family to take care of and that is your priority. If she has other family members she can live with then she should probably pick up the phone and give them a call or yet her friends. Remember, You cannot help someone that is not willing to help themselves. I would give her a 2 week notice ahead of time, Sure she may not take it lightly but she'll get over it.
I'm trying to plan a trip to the U.S for next June/July. I'm in the UK and on a budget so as my flights out there are going to be pretty expensive, I'm trying to keep costs down as much as possible once I get to America. I'm not entirely sure where exactly I'm going yet, but I think I'll probably be flying out to Vancouver, Canada to stay with family before flying down to LA. From LA I think I'd travel by train to Austin, Texas; New Orleans, Louisiana; Chicago, Illinois; and then on to Wisconsin to visit my friend and flying back to the UK from there.
I guess there are two parts to my question:
1. Which places could I incorporate into my route that are worth visiting? After I leave Canada, I'd like to spend around 3 weeks in America so I want to see as much as possible.
2. Is travelling by train the best/cheapest option?
Well I'm not too familiar with the West as I live on the East coast but if you are going to travel by train your best bet would probably be Amtrak. Buses are cheaper but if you want to save time then I'd go by train.
Although I definitely recommend checking out New Orleans!
Sorry I wasn't entirely a help for you but I thought I'd give you the pointer on the train part.
Here is a link: http://www.amtrak.com/servlet/ContentServer?pagename=Amtrak/HomePage
Amtrak can be expensive especially if you are traveling prior state to state but as far as I know I don't think there are cheaper trains out there.
I've been traveling for 5 years...Personally from point A. To point B. the train ticket cost about 8 bucks more than a bus and saved me a good 30 minutes time difference but I suppose it varies from where you are going.
Welcome to the US! ;)
19/M
I have been trying to get a boyfriend for a while, and it id just not working. I will start to talk to a guy, then something will happen and I am tired of it. I have a few friends, but none of them have any boyfriend potential. And one of my ex's is down from college, and me and him were texting one night and started to send pictures. Well, I loved being physical with him, and we are both single. I was half kidding and asked if he wanted to hook up, and along the way we decided that as long as we were both single, we would be friends with benefits whenever the opporitunity arose. I miss being physical, and I cannot wait to hook up with him. But what I am wondering is if what I am doing is wrong. I do care for this friend, but we both have agreed that we will NOT get into a relationship, we are only going to fool around (from kissing to having anal intercourse). I do not want to date him, he really is not what I look for in a guy. But I remember when we dated before he was great with all of the physical stuff, and I just want to have a good time and he seems like a logical choice to have a good time with. I just don't know if I should be doing this. Any advice?
You both came to a mutual agreement that it would be no more than friends with benefits, However sometimes that doesn't come easy. Friends with benefits means you both agree it will not go any further than what it is. Sometimes one will develop feelings for the other and this is why it can be a tricky situation.
If you both are okay with the idea of fooling around and know that it won't go any further then there isn't anything wrong with it as you both agree. The reason why I never thought FWB is a great idea is sometimes it messes with ones feelings and we can take it for more than it is. As long as you both are okay with it then no there isn't anything wrong with the situation.
Hi,
I am a 17 year old girl.
I am entering college in the fall, where I will be commuting because due to my ocd, I am unable to live on a college campus.
However, I am therefore, stuck living with my abusive, single parent father.
I have no other family or connections in the state.
I already have to pay for college on my own, and I don't know how I can afford to live on my own with that other huge expense.
It is truly my dream to escape my verbally abusive and neglectful father.
However, I don't want to end up in a shelter or foster care.
I feel like a failure.
I can't make it on my own.
His abuse is really getting to me.
It has made me depressed, anxious and it has even made me contemplate suicide numerous times.
I don't know if I should report him to CPS because I don't want to get him in trouble.
I just don't know how I can put up with this life any longer..
If you have family out of state I would try to contact them explaining your situation and see if they can make living arrangement's. If this is not possible then I would try looking in the paper for a room mate. I'm not sure how bad the OCD is but I do know that there are places out there that will provide medications to help with you cope. If you do not have medical insurance you can try to find a place that would be willing to put you on a sliding scale so you can make little payments as you go. One places that offers this service is Thunder Mist, You can google to see if they have one in your location. If it can wait, I would put college on hold until you are in a better situation. YOU come first, If you aren't in a healthy place then you shouldn't go to school at this time.
1, Find a center that will put you on a sliding scale
You stated that you have to pay for your schooling, I'm assuming that you have some sort of income. I would try filing for low income housing and see if you qualify, If this isn't an option you could try to see if anyone would be willing to rent out a room too you. If you file for the low income housing you can also apply for food stamps until you are steady on your feet. Once you get out of your environment and are steady then you can look into going to school.
When you do, Try and see if you can apply for a grant or financial aide to help with schooling. Where there's a will, There's a way but you need to put yourself first.
I'm 13 and I'm a female.I have a 17 year old emo friend named Connor.We used to talk everyday.I knew everything about him,even stuff his parents didn't know,because he told me.We were bestfriends.But then he suddenly stopped talking to me.I found out that the day he stopped talking to me,he got a girlfriend.Before that when we talked,he was single.I really like him.I'm tempted to tell him my feelings,and then tell him to never talk to me again.Only because I was there for him,and she was his friend before,but was never there for him.So he chooses her over his bestfriend to care about..Should I do that?And why did he do that to me?
If he were a true friend he wouldn't of ditched you for someone else. Friends are there for each other no matter what and he decided some girl was more important then your friendship. - This could be a possibility-
It could also be that Connor felt he did not need to inform you on his personal life. Sure, You both are best friends and know a lot about one another but sometimes people just need things that they keep to themselves. This doesn't mean that Connor wasn't going to tell you about it but perhaps he felt the need to keep it low until was sure about the situation.
If he completely ditched you to the point where you both are out of contact and not talking anymore well then that would be his loss. It would be completely pointless to tell him how you feel if he didn't value your friendship. Sometimes people change, Time changes....It's the way it goes. If you really want to know what is up with him then you can approach him but don't be all bitchy about it either.
Hi, my friend and I want to start a babysitting business and we need some tips on how to convince our parents that we're old enough to become babysitters. We also could use some ideas for a name, price(we are planing on becoming certified babysitters).
Help would be greatly appreciated.
I am 12 and my friend is 11.
I hate to burst your bubble but you may want to check with the laws of the state before you go ahead and try to babysit someone's kid. Some states require a certain age to babysit and watch children.
Babysitting is a tough job and I personally wouldn't want anyone as young as 11-12 watching my child. It is nothing against you or your friend I personally think it is a bit too young to carry on the responsibility of children. I on the other hand would not only be more comfortable of having someone older but someone who can save a life if something went wrong. Example: CPR
just got high cow girl boots. and they didnt have my exact size so i went for the next no. down. it fits but is a lil tight and im worried my feet will keep growing, the lady said at my age there gonna stop, for her they did. so im kinda mad i didnt go one size up instead of one size down. i didnt even try on the size up. i have the receit somewhere. if i go back in a week can i exchange? if that doesnt work how can i wear them out or make them a little wider? thanks
As long as you have a receipt then just about anything is exchangeable as long as it is returned within 30 days of the day you bought it. If you would like to know if they are for sure you can always pick up a phone and give them a call. Next time you might want to try things on before you buy them.
A few of my close friends have started drinking and hooking up with random people at parties & they're only 16, yet i'm totally against it because i have my own morals and i have made pledges to myself for certain reasons. But now they exclude me by not inviting me to things and such because i"m ultimately not "cool" enough because i don't drink and stuff. my best friend has ditched me for another one of my friends because she is in to drinking and thought she got pregnant. I've never dissed them for what they do, i just don't do it and they respect that. but it doesn't mean they have exclude me from everything? Please help, i don't know what to do ???
Well I'll be damned!
Congrats on being one of the smart ones, I didn't even think there were any left these days.
I can surely tell you that these aren't real friends, These friends have apparently fallen under a bad influence. Sometimes people change, I've yet learned to except that myself but reality is things aren't what they used to be. It sucks to watch friends fall into the shitter but you should applaud yourself for not being one to fall with them. You've set standards for yourself, Good! However, One the whole friend thing I really suggest trying to meet new people who aren't into that sort of stuff. Meet someone who will value your friendship and respect your wishes. You said one of them was pregnant well sounds like she really dug herself one. Let them be idiots sometimes certain people just have to live and learn. I got to tell ya kid, I'm real proud of ya!