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I don't know how to tell my mom I am a cutter.
I'm 13/f,and I'm a cutter.I cut my wrist.I've cut it about 6 times.Whenever my mom asks what happened to my wrist,I tell her I was doing something,and got cut.She just says ok,and believes it.One day we were sitting at home,my brother and dad went to the store,and she was watching something on t.v.,and it mentioned something about if you have a teen who cuts.So she said she needs to check and see if I'm a cutter because of the cuts on my wrist.I really don't want to tell her,because when I cut,all my emotional pain is gone,and I'm happy.I feel that I should tell her,but I really can't.Should I tell her?Or should I keep it a secret?
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well emotional problems , bipolar, thinking of keeping it a secret? sorry to say but that secret wont last.. already shes getting the clue you might be a cutter.. please tell her and you knwo what should happen aftert you tell her?! give her a hug and tell you your sorry tell her you get emotional and the bipolar and thats not excuse.. and get help go get councelling or social work trust me it works I went to one and I cut myself and the social worker HAD to tell my parents but you know what its fine because it will work dont worry go and be calm and really just go out and get help you wont be emotional trust me
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Yes you need to talk to your mom about your cutting. Before I get to far into my reason(s) lets talk about an alternative to cutting. The doctors call this transference and they use this while they help you get to the root cause of your pain.
Find a nice big thick rubber band and let it hang loosely around your wrist. When you feel the pain that would cause you to cut, start snapping the rubber band against your wrist instead until the pain subsides.
You are correct in what you said that the cutting relieves your emotional pain, for the moment. But cutting is dangerous especially around the wrist where there is an artery. You could bleed out before help could arrive if you accidentally were to nick the artery. I'm sure this is not what you want.
What you need is to find out what the REAL cause of your emotional pain is. To do this you need the help of a professional therapist. Someone you can talk to who will keep your confidence. I think you will be surprised when you discover what is the real cause of your emotional pain. It could be very different than what you may be thinking.
So how do you tell your mom. You take mom aside, out of the hearing of any siblings you have and just tell her: Mom I need help, I've been cutting myself.
Your not alone in how you feel. Puberty is a very strange times for young people, especially young women. You have all these hormones to deal with, your body is changing as is your social life. If you have gotten your period then this is also something new for you to deal with. Yes puberty does cause some emotional conflicts and everyone deals with them differently and yes some people have problems dealing with them
As a parent, if you haven't figured this out yet, this is what we are here for. TO help you through these times and when you have a problem such as you are having to get you the help you need. Please never ever hide something medical from your parents. Our primary responsibility as a parent is to our children's health and safety. If you hide something from us like this then we fail in our primary responsibility to you.
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You need to let your mother know what is going on.
Cutting may seem like it relieves the pain but it doesn't. If you cut your wrist you could end up hitting a vain and it could be deadly. Cuts could even scar up as well and you may think you feel better but guess what scars are a part of pain too. Do you really want a constant reminder? Reality is, There are other methods you could do to cope with emotional issues than to cut yourself. You need to let someone know so they can help you. Every women gets their period and I myself have bipolar disorder but something as simple as medication helps me cope with everyday life. Cutting is NOT the answer to your problems
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Cutting is a serious issue. It is not a good way to get rid of the emotional pain. It may seem like a good idea at the time,. and release the pain for a short term. But won't erase it completely.
It would be a very good idea to talk to your mom about what's going on and what's making you feel like you need to cut. It is not a healthy way to solve things. It will be very scary talking to your mom about the cutting,. But that way you will have a supportive parent helping threw these issues instead of dealing with them on your own.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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