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Friends, Boyfriends, and Friends With Benefits
19/M
I have been trying to get a boyfriend for a while, and it id just not working. I will start to talk to a guy, then something will happen and I am tired of it. I have a few friends, but none of them have any boyfriend potential. And one of my ex's is down from college, and me and him were texting one night and started to send pictures. Well, I loved being physical with him, and we are both single. I was half kidding and asked if he wanted to hook up, and along the way we decided that as long as we were both single, we would be friends with benefits whenever the opporitunity arose. I miss being physical, and I cannot wait to hook up with him. But what I am wondering is if what I am doing is wrong. I do care for this friend, but we both have agreed that we will NOT get into a relationship, we are only going to fool around (from kissing to having anal intercourse). I do not want to date him, he really is not what I look for in a guy. But I remember when we dated before he was great with all of the physical stuff, and I just want to have a good time and he seems like a logical choice to have a good time with. I just don't know if I should be doing this. Any advice?
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Dude, you guys talked it out and have an understanding. So no need to overthink this. Just enjoy being together until he returns to school. There is nothing wrong with a FWB relationship as long as you are responsible with it (that is, ensuring that no STD's will enter the picture).
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Hey there :)
Hmm well friends with benefits is always a very controversial issue. Personally I see no problem with it as long as you both go into it agreeing that is strictly what it is.
I know you both have already but you need to make sure you are absolutely sure and are not going to get emotionally attached. You may say your not,but you never know what can happen feelings may develop.
You need to make sure you can deal with any consequences if any,like if he develops feelings for you and you don't.. or vice versa.
You say your trying to et a boyfriend make sure that desire doesn't cross over with your physical desire. In other words don't set yourself up to fall. Be wise don't confuse love and lust.
If it's just sex sure go for it your old enough to be responsible and make that decision.
About trying to get a boyfriend don't stress too much over it. Enjoy life have fun don't search high and low for boyfriend potential. make friends but just friends for a while Some times the best guys come along when your not trying your hardest to find them :) If that makes sense.
So therefore I think this might be a good idea for you.. to take your mind off trying to find a boyfriend. Relax have fun your young once right?That's how I see it. Enjoy yourself before you find that person you could see yourself settling down with,getting serious with. Ive found that person now and I'm nearly 18. Sometimes I wish I had that freedom to be single fun and flirty. But then I remind myself about the great guy I have and the future and stuff. That will come around for you =) just have fun until it does.
That's my advice anyway I hope it helps.
If you have anymore questions please feel free to inbox me.
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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You both came to a mutual agreement that it would be no more than friends with benefits, However sometimes that doesn't come easy. Friends with benefits means you both agree it will not go any further than what it is. Sometimes one will develop feelings for the other and this is why it can be a tricky situation.
If you both are okay with the idea of fooling around and know that it won't go any further then there isn't anything wrong with it as you both agree. The reason why I never thought FWB is a great idea is sometimes it messes with ones feelings and we can take it for more than it is. As long as you both are okay with it then no there isn't anything wrong with the situation.
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