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What's your relationship with your parents like?
Do you have a good relationship with your parents, or is it hard to be around them?
I was sexually abused, molested, raped, whatever you want to call it, when I was just 5 years old. It ended a little while after I turned 12, around the time I got my period. I guess I wasn't a 'little girl' anymore and my abuser lost interest. Anyway, I'm 18 now and that has stuck with me my entire life. It has had an astounding affect on my life. I had trouble connecting with people when I was younger. I trusted no one, I felt unloved, like I didn't deserve to be loved. I was a suicidal 9 year old at one point and I wouldnt have gotten through it if it wasn't for my older sister who was just a kid herself at the time. Ive always blamed my parents for what happened to me. It was a friend of theirs that abused me and Ive always hated my parents because I felt like they didn't protect me. At 9 years old I remember looking at my mother and thinking 'How could you let him do this me. Why can't you see that he's hurting me. Why won't you protect me, why don't you love me?'
So, I've always hated me parents. I took all my anger out on them and pushed them away. I've always wondered about how other people are with their parents. Sorry about my venting, but I'm really curious. What's your relationship like?
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Well did they know she or he was doing it.. you can undo the past it happened I know its a horrible feeling but girl you have a whole future and ONE life.. not a cat like 9 lives but ONE.. please move on I mean you cant hate your parents all you want.. but they must feel guilt and saddness and frustration over what happened im sure they couldnt have seen it, they were blinded and decieved by their friend it happend and they are trying to work towards getting better for you no parent in this world wants to hurt and make you feel horrible trust me.. it will get better. please hug and confront them and tell them your sorry and bring them close instead of pushing away your suicidal is over and move on now... its not a good thing...
well my parents relationship... lot of screaming lately and I feel tremendously bad to them sometimes they get too much into privacy you know.. but in the end they are the ones that are saving you from being homeless supporting you ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR YOU no matter if it was bad or not.. they are there FOR YOU! they love you to pieces trust me they do.
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I'm not going to go in to how my parents treated me other than to say to a certain extent I know how you feel. It took many years to realize the abuse my sister and I suffered and many more years to deal with it properly for both of us.
In reading your letter I can see that you have never received the professional help you would need to deal with this abuse, which I assume was not only rape but incest. The rape and incest is part of you that will never go away. What you can do for yourself is to learn how to deal with it so as it does not totally consume you and that you can have a life again.
Please call an organization called RAINN. Rains Stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They operate a 24/7 hotline you can call to talk with trained volunteers who can put you in touch with out reach centers in your home town. Through these centers you can find professional who can help you resolve the issues you have and teach you how to get you life back.
No child should go through what you have gone through. I am deeply sorry that you have had to go through this. My only hope is you will take my advice and call RAINN and get some help. There number is: 1 500-656-HELP
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Hey there, :)
Let me start by saying I am truly saddened that you had to endure such awful abuse. No one should have to be subjected to that especially an innocent child.
My heart goes out to you.
It's clear you have some very serious emotional scarring after what happened to you which is completely normal but please blaming people isn't the answer.
It's so easy to blame people for the bad things that happen to us in life but think about it.. is it really helping anything?
Your parents probably had no Idea such a thing was going on.
If they had known what that person was like don't you think they would have never let you near them.
Your mother probably blames herself every single day for what happened to you. But the fact is it was no ones fault except the vile abuser.
Have you ever spoken to your parents or anyone about this?How it made you feel the effect it had on you?
You can't stay bitter and resentful.. your only letting your attacker win that way.. don't let him get away with destroying your life further.
Your parents love you. Despite how you may feel they do.
You deserve to be loved what happened to you was horrific but don't let it stop you from ever experiencing love again. There is good people out there. Please try and fix things with your parents. You seem like a very strong person you can get through this.
But you need a good support system and that includes your parents.
I personally have a great relationship with mine. I am so lucky to have a mom that I can share absolutely everything with. She is always there for me she is always there to listen comfort and support me. Let your mom be there for you.
talk!
If I couldn't talk to my mom about what was going on in my life I would crack. Or my dad even. He even offers me relationship advise! They raised me in a way that I am so grateful for. Set boundaries that I always respected and are considered cool by my friends lol.
Don't let yourself miss out on that any longer.
I'm sure it can be that way for you too if you let go of some of the bitterness you have built up over the years.
Have you ever gone to see a therapist or someone like a counsellor they could really help you.
You seem to have bottled up your emotions and battled against them for so long.
I know if anything like this ever happened to me my mom would want to be there for me..let yours be there for you please.
I hope I have given you a little perspective.
If you ever need anyone to talk to my inbox is always open :)
Much <3
Jess 17/f
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