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how can i get a girl?
I'm 15 and male and i'm in highschool and i want to ask a girl out. i'm not he most 'polpular' of people but if i don't get a girlfriend soon i'm going to explode. please give me some tips.
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I am 15, female,And im also in highschool. You don't have to be popular to get a girlfriend. Many guys that arent popular still gets gf's. Its not based off if your popular or not, its based on personality and looks. Find a girl that you like,and find a girl that will like you. Many find a girl you can relate to. A girl that you know you'll have stuff in common with, and just be yourself. Thats the best way to get a girlfriend. BE YOURSELF !
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Dude I know right now everything is about high school cliches and you feel like you aren't the most popular guy in school but let me tell you that in the real world nothing is about who is popular and who isn't. If a girl really cares and appreciates you she won't give a flying crap what other people think she will happy to be with you because she sees you for who you are. It isn't about being popular or the star football player or the biggest nerd in school. If you like a girl then go up too her and start a casual conversation. Women like to be noticed and complimented but don't go overboard or you'll have her running the other way. Be cool about it, Start off with a smile and say "Hey" then compliment her about her hair or something. Don't get all nervous just be yourself, If you feel more comfortable then give her a note but try not too be too weird ya know? Here's a line: "Hey, My name is ___ I just wanted to say I think you are really attractive I'm sorry I said it in a note I was nervous my locker # is ___ drop me one sometime if you want to chat" This is pretty casual and not too over the top and it gives her time to think about her next move. If she drops you a line then there ya go dude you've got your ball rolling!
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well heres my best bit of advice: confidence overcomes everything else! even guys who are not attractive or popular or rich (whatever criteria you want) can get with the most stunning girls just by being confident with their approach. Now that doesn't mean be cocky (all though some light humour can work a treat too) or mean, still be nice but try to not show any nerves when you talk to her a lot of "uhmm"s and "err"s are not a good way to go.
It would also be worth doing a quick soul search to make sure you want to be with this girl for the right reasons, just because your friends have girlfriends doesn't mean you need one and it would also not be fair on the girl, if you genuinely have feelings for her then go for it :)
Now onto the girl, there are some subtle hints girls use for guys they like, not all girls are the same so you need to wing it a bit. some girls will try and catch your eye a few time, once or twice could be a fluke but several times (especially over a period of time) is usually pretty big signal, they may invite you to join conversations or invite themselves to join yours etc. so long as when you talk to her she doesn't seem to reject your presence or try to block you out then your safe to say she doesn't mind your company at the very least.
if you do know her and talk to her often then it should be easy enough, invite her out for a film and act as though it is just going to be a friendly day out then if the time feels right tell her how you feel about her, or try to tease it out of her and pay close attention to her responce, if she's embarressed about liking you she may hesitate and lie but you can usually pick up on it, that would be your que to ask her out, if she's pretty confident about just being friends don't give up hope, just play your cards right and carefully.
If you don't know her, its a bit trickier, confidence is key for this one! and a bit of conversation never hurts either, if shes sat with her frends think of a reason to come and talk to them (any of them) talking to all of them would be a good indicator that you won't mind her being with them too and gives you time to make them all laugh, then again, wait until the timing feels right to ask her to a more private area. I would say this approach may take a while and may need to be repeated every few days for the desire effect, but once you get your introductions out of the way, nothing to stop you just saying hi and asking about her day etc. in the hall way between classes.
to summarise:
Confidence and a sense of humour is essential
the right timing and to be able to see hints and ques helps greatly
and don't be mean and act touch and cool because chances are it would destroy any chances you have.
I wish you good luck :)
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1st : Your 15 , you got so much time to learn.
2nd : who cares if your not the most popular person? if the girl likes you she will like you for WHO YOU ARE , not for the label you put on
3rd : dont force to get a girlfriend.. like sex it will come naturally.. dont try to force a girl to go out...
4th : do you want to aska girl out? or do you want to just ask any girl out? there is a difference
5th : if you that badly want to ask any girl out.. well then dress nicely and approach someone who interests you , but be careful with who you pick
6th : if you dont get a girlfriend soon...why would you explode? its not the end of the world.. byt the itme your 20 you will have twice the amount of girlfriends...
7th : BE PATIENT!
8th : Be sincere and nice and kind.. girls LOVE chilvary.. open doors for girls , give them a smile, COMPLIMENT THEM :)
9th : dont rush against time... dont rush because it will only cause you DESTRUCTION!
-- just take some time and think of what you really want , be careful and good luck
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