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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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^my forum, liven it up a little?

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i fell at a game

Ouchhh :(
well, maybe if you do some low-key exercise/strength training, you could get rid of the weight you gained. I've also discovered that running on an elliptical is a lot less painful than, say, jogging outside, and puts a lot less pressure on your joints. So that might help you there.

Would it actaully be beneficial for you to not be the flyer this year? I don't know much about cheerleading.. but maybe just being on the squad and ramaining active would be better for you? I'd ask your coach what she thinks.

She may also have a mroe detailed and thought-out exercise/diet plan than I do, being a sports expert and all :)

i have a sony cybershot camera. today, my friend tossed it across the room to my other friend. it bounced on the carpet, then onto hard floor tile. after that, when i tried to turn it on, it would go to the welcome screen that says Cybershot, then Access, but then it would say "Turn the power off and back on again". i did so several times and it still didn't work. I think there's something wrong with the lens (the part that goes in and out( because it's kind of loose and when i try to look at previously taken pictures i can do that - but i can't take any pictures or anything. is there anyway i can fix this on my own? or should i take it back to the store? thanks.

Ugh. I have the worst luck imaginable with cameras. We've had them checked out, and repairs always cost as much or more than the cost of the camera. Even if you did get it fixed, the camera would enver be the same. The best idea is to just get a new one. Stinks, I know.

Buuuut, is the lens just jammed a little? Like, does it go out halfway, or not at all? If your camera's still under warranty, Sony should replace it. That's what we're doing to mine (a rather inexpensive outcome ($60 or so for shipping) to an internesting tale of having my camera jammed into my face and chipping my fillings.

But anyways. Check if the "unexplainable jammed lens" issue is covered by a warranty. If not, it's better to get a new one, period.

the problem is:
the lenght of a rectangle is 3yd more than twice its width. the perimeter is 36yd. what is the width and lenght?

i need an equation and ALL of the steps to solve it.
thanks!!

L= length
W= width

P = 2L + 2W
(perimenter is twice the length plus twice the width)

L = 2W + 3
(the length is three more than twice the width)

2L + 2W= 36
(twice the length plus twice the width is 36)

now, take the last equation and replace L with 2W + 3. You just eliminated one variable.

Now you're left with 2(2W+3)+2W=36.
Distribute. 4W+6+2W=36, and simplify. 6W = 30.

Divide both sides by six and you're left with W=5. So, the width is five.

Go back to L=2W+3 and plug in your new value for W. L=2(5)+3. Simplfy. L=13

:)

a while ago (last year) kristin cavalleri gave a list of things she wears and has like makeup brushes nail polish and a certain perfume.

what was teh name of the perfume she wears???

I'm pretty sure it was Pure Poison. Please don't kill me if I'm wrong though. :)

Well its the alltime favourite..
Ive falled for a best friends ex..
But its not that easy
I plucked up the courage to tell him the just after they split..
And he said he felt the same.
Thing is he really hurt her and she has helped me through so much.
Wen we are in the same room and she goes on about how much she loves him and is trying to get him back , I dont know what to say.

Im dating him now .. and well things are great, We have told most bust have agreed to tell her together
But how should I approach it , I really dont want to hurt her, as when she split with him , she attempted suicide ! =(

I think this comes down to, what's more important to you? Your best friend, or your new boyfriend?

And why would you want to go out with this guy in the first place? He hurt your best friend and led her to attempting suicide! You should be supporting your friend right now, not dating her jerkwad of an ex. At least, that's how he sounds, if he made her try to take her own life.

But, if you really want to tell her, I guess something along the lines of
"Julia, I've given this a lot of thought. And I've decided that I am in love with Joe, your ex, but I want you to know that I'll always be there for you and even though this guy is horrible and treated you like dirt, I'm in love with him"
should work fine.

well, you should have put that in your question in the first place. It totally changes the sitation! Well, not totally, but you shouldn't feel so guilty about it if she overreacts to everything.

ok im a cheerleader and i gained 25 pounds how do i get it off. my coach said if i dont i cant be flyer anymore please help me.
Thank you!

How'd you gain 25 pounds in the first place? AN injury? Change of eating habits? Birth control? Medicantion in general?

Try to identify the cause. If it's just from eating too much, cut back on calories (but not drastically) and drink plently of water. Exercise a LOT and get enough of sleep. Crunches and running = miracle workers. Try it.

good luckk :]

Help! I got my ipod like 4 months ago. So I put the code as 1991. And my little cousin was using it and changed the code. She doesn't remember to what. And I tried all the codes possible and it won't unlock. I have an ipod nano. When I connected it to the usb cable the ipod won't charge and itunes won't open. My parents are really sad and I'm so mad please help me!.

iTunes should be opening when you connect it. But anyways, have you tried resetting it with iPod updater? That might work.

Call Apple Support (1 800 MY APPLE) and see if there's another way to reset it. THere has to be, i mean, it's not like they're gonna make you get a new iPod if you forget the code.

If all else fails, sit there with it. Time for some real fun! 0000, 0001, 0002, 0003, 0004, 0005, 0006, 0007, 0008, 0009, 0010...

oh yeah, ask your cousin if she remembers ANY of the numbers in the code she put in. Even remembering say, a three will help you significantly in guessing it.

good luck!

14/f

Well, i started at a new private highschool this year and i've met alot of new people. In this pool of new people, there's one i think about all the time: We'll call him John.

So, i just met him this year and he's kinda quiet and shy around people he doesn't know well. But he does have a lot of friends and he's well known throughout the grade because he is just so cute. Some girls go right up to him and tell him he looks like a cute lil teddybear and how adorable he is. He just kinda shrugs it off and smiles a little. Of course, I've never dared to do this.

But anyways, back to the point. I really really like him. He's in 4 of my classes, and at my new school we have three classes a day and on one day i have all three classes with him. So we've become friends and can talk to eachother comfortably in school and sometimes out of school. Now, it used to be me starting all the conversations- but i've noticed lately he's been starting them too. On a certain day when i have spanish then modern history, we always walk with eachother from the 3rd floor down to the first. I try to hint that i like him, i smile alot and make eyecontact. The only signs i've been getting back are a few times i've caught him looking at me, and he walks with me to some of our classes, and we usually end up next to eachother when we're leaving one of our classes to go to the next. I dont know if its just coincidence, or if he's doing it, because i of course am also kind of shy and wont take the initiative to stay back a bit for fear that it will seem too obvious. ( although i do do this sometimes)

(( Sorry this is long ))

But we talk at least once a day and we joke around with eachother and he makes me laugh alot. I know i like him alot...but do you think he likes me back? Thanks for your help!

well, I don't actually know either of you, but you've provided plenty of background information. In this case, I'd say yes, he probably does like you, since he's been taking the initiative to talk to you, walks with you to classes, and makes eye contact (not always a sure sign, but this kid's shy? Eye contact=not easy. Even for confident people).

So as for what to do? Do whatever feels natural. Ask if he wants to get together outside of school sometime. Movies, studying together at the library? Popcorn and DVDs at your house? Good multitasking here; he'll meet your parents in a more relaxed atmosphere than, say, "Mom? Dad? This is the guy I've been dating for three weeks that I forgot to tell you about".. you get the idea =P

best of luck with everything! If you need help with anything, don't hesitate to ask me :)

hi.

there's this girl in my grade and she's sooo pretty she's the prettiest girl i've ever seen and like lately i always think about her like when i take a picture i'm like hm i can see her next to me posing but i've NEVER thought about her in a sexual way AT ALL. & do you think i'm just kinda obsessed cause i wanna be just like herr or am i bi??

I'm thinking that you want to be LIKE her, not WITH her, since you've never thought about her in a sexual way.

There's nothing wrong with thinking someone of the same sex is attractive. Girls are more open about this than guys are. Like, we don't think twice about saying, "OMG, i LOVE your new jeans! and OMG how did you get your hair like that???!?!" but, guys don't typically do the same thing.

Terrible double standard; it's a shame. Life would be easier is guys talked about who they liked more often.. sorry I'm getting off topic here, but you get what I'm saying. It doesn't sound to me like you're bisexual at all, more of an idolizing kind of thing.

what are a good variety of songs to put on my ipod... only rock... alternative... and some hiphop

-30 Seconds to Mars
-The Clash
-The Ramones
-Creed
-Remy Zero
-Breaking Benjamin
-Underoath
-Motion City Soundtrack
-Taking Back Sunday
-Three Days Grace
-Jimmy Eat World
-Senses Fail
-The Academy Is...
-Rise Against
-Straylight Run
-Bayside
-Taproot
-My Chemical Romance
-Anberlin
-Augustana
-Red Hot Chili Peppers
-Blur
-Hard FI
-the Calling
-Cartel
-Goo Goo Dolls
-Cobra Starship
-From First to Last
-A Fire Inside
-Head Automatica
-Silverstein
-The Dresden Dolls
-Bowling for Soup
-Hot Hot Heat
-Angels and Airwaves
-Evanescence
-The Early November
-The Arcade Fire
-The White Stripes
-The Strokes
-Seether
-Ice Nine Kills
-Hellogoodbyee :]
-Lifehouse
-Weezer
-Matchbook Romance
-Dashboard Confessional
-Something Corporate
-Audioslave
-The Spill Canvas
-Eve 6
-Story of the Year
-Sugarcult
-Death Cab for Cutie
-System of a Down
-Savage Garden
-3 Doors Down
-The Ataris
-Hoobastank
-The Raconteurs
-Five for Fighting
-Phantom Planet
-Daphine Loves Derby
-Unwritten Law
-Coheed and Cambria
-MEST
-Third Eye Blind
-Franz Ferdinand
-Kings of Leon

not a huge fan of hiphop.. but I think that's a pretty good list of rock&alternative, no? :)

as for more bands, check out www.purevolume.com, music.myspace.com, iTunes (similar artists), friends' CD collections, and your parents. Yes, parents. They used to listen to good music too =D

yeah i like her but i can never get the first step and just be her friend cause i get tongue tied this has never happened to me before so can anyone help me with what to say?

Just be yourself. Only, a less tounge-tied and nervous form of yourself =P

As for striking up a conversation? Talk about almost ANYTHING. Let her know that you exist. Do you both have the same teacher that everyones loves to make fun of? Talk about it. Confused about your homework? Ask her for help! (Or play dumb and pretend that you dont get it. I think this is kind of cute, at least a couple times!) Offer to help her, maybe after school in the library? Ask her how her day went, or what's she's doing for the weekend.

Pretty much anything that will get the two of you talking.

hope I helped! If you want more suggestions, feel free to ask :)

Does anyone know where to get the mascara in read it and weep? or something like it? thank you. =]

Do you mean like, how to get your lashes to look like they did on a certain character, or what mascara they actually used?

The second one sounds almost impossible.

I'm creating a video with a couple of friends, and I'm in charge of editing everything,s o I'm going to choose all the songs. Now here's where you help me...

It's a sad, suspenful, (almost like a horror) type of movie. I need a sad, haunting, creepy song for the opening credits. I would perfer soemthing with a long introduction so I can play the part without lyrics.

Thanks!

All I can think of for a specific title is "Keeping the Blade" by Coheed and Cambria. It's two minutes long & an instrumental. It's on their "Good Apollo...." album. I'm listening to it right now and the more I think about it, the better it fits. If you need an MP3 for it, I'll be more than happy to upload it for you.

If you dont want that song.. maybe something from Pink Floyd? You could play the introduction to a song over and over.. Maybe Money, or Time?

Sounds like a really cool project :) Let me know how it turns out! And if you need more sugestions send me an inbox.

Ohmygod. Rawr. Right now, I have my period.
Its the worse one I have had in my life.
I have taken 2 midol, its not doing nothing..

My back is killing me, I havent aten in 1 day becasue I have absoutly no appitite, Everthing hurts. Even my legs.

help? What do you take for these things!? Midol used to work, now, it doesnt!

Thanks so much

I usually take Motrin or Tylenol.. try a couple different things (but not at the same time!)

Heating pads also help, and doing something to keep your mind off the cramps helps too.. read, go for a bike ride (any mild exercise, even walking, can help)

ah, the joys of being a girl :)

i saw the butterfly effect this summer on in demand and at the end he went back to when he was in his moms stomach and killed himself. well then i watched it on tv a couple weeks ago and at the end he goes back to when he was 7 and made sure he wasn't friends with kaley. and my neighbor said he saw one with another ending.
what's up with that? why don't they just have one ending, and which ending is the original one?

thanks
xo

The ending where he died when he was born, was an alternate ending on the DVD. Both endings, though, have the same effect on Kaley's life- she moved away and went to live with her mother, because the only reason she stayed with her abusive father was because of him. Her brother, I assume, went with her and both of them escaped the horrible treatment of their father.

With the alternate ending, however, his mother ends up depressed because she lost another child, but that's implied (remember the part where he lost his arms? She took up smoking, and I think she does the same thing when she has another miscarriage)

alright so you said you need half your body weihgt of water in grams or something, i dont get it
how much water would i need for 120 pounds?

60 ounces.. I dont know where they get these equations, really.

That's about eight cups of water. But you dont need to drink it all as straight water. You get water from food. And you can count milk, juice, etc. So if you drink around 4 glasses a day, you'll be fine. Don't drown yourself, you know? 8 Glasses is a LOT of water.

Basically all I was trying to say was, drink a little extra water and see if that solves the problem. It's also the weather.. the humidity of summer is gone and our bodies are adjusting.

well in my school we're doing these things where you can make shoebox gifts for soldiers in iraq for this christmas but i cant think of anything!!

so far i have :

-crossword puzzle/pen
-some assorted nonperishable candy (jollyranchers, etc)
-and maybe a swimsuit magazine? haha

any further ideas would be GREAT!
thanks

My town does that too! We have one of the best in the state of Massachusetts. Soldiers LOVE anything you send them.. it shows that you care.
here's some stuff we put in our shoeboxes:

-Chapstick
-hard candy (like Jolly Ranchers)
-gun like Trident (the kind you pop out of foil)
-CDs and DVDs (new or gently used)
-socks
-deoderant
-crosswords
-prepaid phone cards
-prestamped envelopes ( I don't know the rates off the top of my head)
-a letter. This is a big one.. troops absolutely LOVE getting these, and they almost always write back! :)

hope I helped!
p.s. make sure you don't seal the shoebox when you drop it off; they rearrange things and make sure nothing is going to melt all over everything and stuff.

how do you download songs from myspace? detailed answers please!!! thanx

It's not that hard; you go to an artist page (music.myspace.com then search) and on the music player, there's songs. If "download" is a clickable link.. you click it. And you can download it. Save it to your computer somwhere that you'll remember. Then you can put it on an iPod or use virtually any music program (like iTunes) to listen to it.

Every morning, I wake up and my lips hurt really badly. I put on chapstick (carmex) and keep on doing it until the day is over. By the end of the night I've got very nice and soft 'luscious' lips. Then I go to sleep, and wake up and in the morning they are all chapped again.
What can I do to make this stop?

You're probably slightly dehydrated. Cracked, painful lips are one of the first signs (you wont' feel thirsty until you're 5% dehydrated, f.y.i.)Try drinking more water every day.

Now, the guidelines say; half your body weight in pounds, thats how many ounces of water you need a day. You get a lot of this with food and beverages, so just drink a couple water bottles a day and you'll be fine.

is there any way to get hair dye out of your hair? i rescently dyed it adn i don tlike how dark it is so im trying to just fade it because i dont want to redo it so soon and end up damaging my hair
ughh pleasee help
thanksss

Just wash your hair a whole lot with a gentle shampoo. And don't use one that protects color (obviously).

After about a month, you can dye over it. YOu could also try a shampoo for blonde or light brunette hair.. those could subtly change the color of your hair too.

Lemon juice rinses lighten hair, but it might damage your hair if you use it too soon after dyeing.. so dont use it right away.

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