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Typical Best Friends Ex Problem ..
Well its the alltime favourite..
Ive falled for a best friends ex..
But its not that easy
I plucked up the courage to tell him the just after they split..
And he said he felt the same.
Thing is he really hurt her and she has helped me through so much.
Wen we are in the same room and she goes on about how much she loves him and is trying to get him back , I dont know what to say.
Im dating him now .. and well things are great, We have told most bust have agreed to tell her together
But how should I approach it , I really dont want to hurt her, as when she split with him , she attempted suicide ! =(
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honey, let me just say that i am going through the same situation, and its not easy. i haven't told my friend either, but this is what i'm planning to say.
"hey, i know you probably won't be too happy with what i'm about to tell you. but you're my friend, and because i really cherish our friendship, i have to be completely honest with you and tell you something. me and (his name) have been talking, i know, and i can't help it, but i'm attracted to him. I wish it wasn't him, and i wish it didn't have to work out so crappy like this because i know it must hurt you, and i don't want you to feel that way. You are an amazing person, and a wonderful friend and i am always here for you, and i am always going to be on your side. But i wanted to let you know because you deserve to hear the truth, and i respect whatever you feel, because i know it must hurt you. and i feel completely horrible about it, but i just needed to let you know."
hopefully things will work out for everyone, and i'm really sorry you're going through the same thing. stay strong! let faith and persistance guide you.
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I think this comes down to, what's more important to you? Your best friend, or your new boyfriend?
And why would you want to go out with this guy in the first place? He hurt your best friend and led her to attempting suicide! You should be supporting your friend right now, not dating her jerkwad of an ex. At least, that's how he sounds, if he made her try to take her own life.
But, if you really want to tell her, I guess something along the lines of
"Julia, I've given this a lot of thought. And I've decided that I am in love with Joe, your ex, but I want you to know that I'll always be there for you and even though this guy is horrible and treated you like dirt, I'm in love with him"
should work fine.
well, you should have put that in your question in the first place. It totally changes the sitation! Well, not totally, but you shouldn't feel so guilty about it if she overreacts to everything.
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