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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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ok, so me and my girls six month is on thanksgiving, shes gonna be at her aunts, so when she comes home, shes gonna see me sitting at her front steps with 6 white roses and a necklace/ring(dont know which to get) for her. anyother ideas?

Aww that's really sweet.
Definitely get her a necklace, you won't have to worry about it fitting or looking weird on her hand, you know?

Maybe you could call/text her cellphone before she gets home? Something like, "Hey, I miss you so much; can't wait to see you!"

Just showing up at all (AND remembering your anniversary) is an amazingly sweet gesture & she'll love you for that alone =]

I have some acne on my face and I need a really good foundation or concealer or any other product that will help hide the acne well and will always work. So, any suggestions?
Thanks. =D

I use Dream Matte Mousse by Maybelline.
It's under $10 and has plenty of shades to choose from.
& it blends with any skintone so it's idiot-proof
(you won't have to worry much about getting the right shade)
and it feels weightless and looks 100% natural.

Weh people leave you commentes on myspac and they put pictues in them you now how it streches out the myspace page? well i know there is a code that makes them smaller but i dont know it anymoe because i lost it.
Does anyone know?
thankss

I think this is exactly what you need:

http://www.createblog.com/scripts/download.php?id=134

How quickly does make-up expire? I have this make-up set that I had for maybe a year or two now. I just recently found it in my closet. It has eyeshadow, blush, powder cake, and cover cream. How can i tell if these things are expired. If I put them on, will I get a skin reaction? Also it had mascara, lipstick and eyeliner (pencil & liquid). I threw away the mascara and liquid eyeliner because it was dryed up. What about the pencil eyeliner? Does that expire too?

I don't think you'll have any problems with it. Some items may not cause you to break out in a rash, but they may be dried up and difficult to apply. Powder will probably be fine; eyeliner, you should sharpen before using (to get rid of any possible bacteria that grew on it) and eyeshdow, just scrape off the surface layer with a tissue or something & it should be fine) Just like nail polish gets gloppy after a year or so, it'll be hard to put on, but it won't cause you any harm to use it.

I have been growing my hair out so I can donate it to Locks of Love for over a year now. It is finally 10 inches from where i want it cut and I am excited about getting it cut. I want it about shoulder length. I need to get it thined out because my hair is really thick. Does anyone have any siggestions for the style and everything? I cant dye my hair by the way. Oh, and I have side swept bangs right now

Maybe have your hairdresser cut in some layers. That way, it'll look really cute whether you style it or not, and it'll be easier to brush. This will also take out some of the "bulk" of thick hair. I strongly advise against getting it thnned, because I did that and it DESTROYED my hair. There's plenty of anti-frizz, anti-poof, shampoos (I can personally recommend Pantene Smooth and Sleek) that you can try before getting it thinned out.

& When you donate your hair, make sure you put it in a ponytail first!

hope I helped! :]

I am sending in an application to MSMS(Mississippi School for Mathematics and Science), a residential high school for intellectual teens. Basically, it's a boarding school for smart people. I really want to go, and filling out the application is the first step to achieving my goal. I'm pretty good with computers, but I'm not sure exactly how to fill out the application. You see, it has to be typed upon the actual application. A copy can't be made of the page, nor can it be typed on a seperate sheet of paper. I know I could do this using a type writer, but I would much rather use a computer. Anyone know how to do this?

The only way I can possibly think of is to measure the exact location of each line that you need to type on, and line it up in a Word document. I don;t know how well that would work out though. If you do try this, make sure you print it out on a photocopy of the appication first to make sure everything's exact.

I'd suggest calling the school and asking what they wanted you to do. Doing this on a typewriter sounds like the best idea though.

hope I helped, and good luck! :]

i have about $50 and 6 people in my family to buy gifts for. what s something i can buy for each of them that isnt food/candy. and please dont suggest for me to make homemade gifts, please. thanks!

Who are you buying gifts for? Parents? Cousins? Siblings? Grandparents?

I'll just throw some ideas out:
-calendars
-candles
-inexpensive jewelry
-makeup
-certificates like "This card entitles you to a weekend off from household chores" (great for parents!)

Why are you so against homemade gifts? They're a lot more personal and will also cost less to make than to buy the same thing. You can make your own candleholders (maybe to go with some votives from Yankee Candle?) Storebought ones are expensive and won't have that personal touch.

I won't tell you to get then JUST a card (since you said not to) but giving a card WITH a present might be a nice idea too, with a little message inside.

hope I helped! :)

How do you report somebody from AIM?
and can the police trace screen names?

I'm not exactly sure, but I know that you should print out the conversations RIGHT FROM THE WINDOW (File:Print) and make sure the timestamp is viewable.(F2)

why can't i hear music when i try to listen to music on the computer when the volumn is on and it's not on mute either?

The cord probably got unplugged a little. Look at the back of your computer- its a green plug that looks like a headphone plug sort of. Make sure it's plugged all the way in. Also make sure the power source is on.

The speakers could also be on, but the volume could also be at 0%. To check this, right click the little speaker icon on your taskbar and check all the sliders & make sure they're up. You can also check under control panel.

hope I helped!

this is for a project. what music videos take place in a hospital?

Some video by Britney Spears takes place in a hospital.

And "Welcome to the Black Parade" by My Chemical Romance.

I think the video for "This Photograph Is Proof (I Know You Know) from Taking Back Sunday takes place ina hospital, but I'm not 100% sure. The guy's on a stretcher though.

i ordered an ipod nano online. i just checked and it said that it would be here on wednesday. the problem is, it says that a signature is required, and my parents are at work for most of the day, and im at school, so no one is home to sign anything if the UPS people come before 5 pm. what do i do if the UPS people come when we're not here to sign the thing?

I'm pretty sure they just come back the next day. Stuff like this usually comes early afternoon. Ask a trustworthy neighbor to sign for it, or see if it's at all possible to have it shipped to your parent's work.

Alright well my guy best friend and I were kinda sorta friends with benefits.
But all along I found out he liked me more than a friend.
So he asked me out and I didn't even like him in that way and I said yeah..
So it didn't work out to well and I broke up with him because I just wanted to be friends..
Now anytime he talks to a girl I get really jealous and want all his attention on me..
I don't get it because I don't even like him.
But he asks me out again because he thinks I'm like leading him on and I say I don't know..
Then he starts talking to this other girl and I say you better not go out with her..
Promise me you won't go out with anyone until you get an answer from me?
So next thing I know he's going out with the one person I truly hate and he's ignoring me.
I don't understand.
What should I do and what is going on with him?!

He's probably moved on from you (or is trying to convince himself that he has)

As for what you should do, be a good friend (which is what you told him you wanted to be)

& you probably DO still like him, and you just don't want to admit it. Friends with benefits can get messy like this.

okay so i never get "bloated" or whatever when i get my period but this time i am and it's making me feel GROSS!!! how do you other girls deal with it/make yourselves feel better/make bloating go AWAY!! besides taking midol? thanks!!!

-Chocolate
-long hot showers
-reading a good book
-sleeping
-exercise
-manicures/pedicures
-mini hair makeover
-SHOPPING!! It solves everything, seriously! =D

ah yes, the joy of being a girl :)

EDIT: hot showers/ baths, exercise, and sleeping DO relieve bloating.. at least for some people. The others distract you. Sorry I wasn't any help!

Why do guys hate/not like when girls cry? For example, last night I was telling my best guy friend about something really upsetting, and he just kept saying, "Please don't cry, please don't cry." What makes guys always say that, like why does it upset tem when girls cry?

A lot of guys don't know how to handle the situation when I girl starts crying. And if he cares about you (even as a friend) he doesn't want to see you upset.

I have two guaranteed jobs; one at the bowling alley and one at the nursing home. The bowling alley would be more fun, and has the hours I want to work, but the nursing home pays better and I get to help old people. Which should I choose?

I'd choose the bowling alley. It has the hours you can work, and you'll have more fun. If you have to go around rearranging your schedule to work at the nursing home, you won't like it as much.

If you still want to help old people, you could always volunteer in your free time. Or work a couple hours when they're realllly shorthanded.

See? best of both worlds :)

hi..

um i have a serious problem. i MIGHT be anorexic. i'm not really sure... i mean it's not that i don't eat cause i feel i'm fat, it's just like.. i don't feel like eating. anorexia has never been a problem for me and i never thought i'd get it cause a lot of girls say they are anorexic for attention but like on weekdays, i have school and i don't eat breakfast and a bring a 100-calorie pack and some apple juice. well, because this is helping me lose weight, i can't stop. i've had four real meals since last wednesday :(. i don't like eating when i'm not hungry cuase then i feel fat, but when i'm hungry i'll eat anything..

xo

I don't think you're anorexic. You're definitely not eating normally, and this could be caused by any number of things- stress, underactive thyroid (very rare though, dont worry!), worrying about a test, recently being sick (you won't get your appetite back for awhile).

If you're truly anorexic, you WANT to eat, but you can't. It's not just starving yourself for attention, there's a difference. If you keep eating like this, it will become more serious.

I'd give it another week or so. Take a multivitamin everyday (this will keep you from being seriously deprived of any vital nutrient; I especially rcommend a women's formula for iron)and at least TRY to eat something a few times a day.

Don't worry if you're not hungry for breakfast; even though it's not the best meal to skip, you're fine if you eat something at least by lunch. As long as you're eating at least a little, you'll probably be all right. Not being hungry at school is normal, but really really try to eat a normal dinner. Since you've been not eating for awhile now, you may be hungry and not even realize it. So try to eat.

If this persists for a long time, I recommend seeing a doctor. To approach your parents about it, say something along the lines of, "Hey mom, I haven't had much of an appetite lately. Could you make me a doctor's appointment to make sure everything's alright?" instead of, "AHH OMG MOM I THINK IM ANOREXIC I NEED TO SEE THE DOCTOR RIGHT NOWWWW!" This will freak out your parents unnecessarily.

Stuff like this happens to almost everyone, so don't worry about it too much.

hope I helped you out; sorry it's so long! :)

how do i loose over 30 pounds before feb.
I weigh 145lbs and i need to weigh about 123-130lbs

Hmm, join the club :) It's not fun, but it can be done.

Exerciseeeeee your butt off (literally, haha) Running, walking, crunches, biking, and whatever upper-body strenth training you can do (I have a home gym, but you could check your highschool's weightroom, friends' houses, etc.) At least do pushups though, the more the better. They can be "girly" pushups , you'll get the same benefit & they're wayyy easier =D

And watch what you eat! I know, you've heard that 923758673648 times before. Cut out virtually ALL junk food, white bread, white rice (basically all refined flour) and eat more vegetables and fruit.

Lastly, make sure you're drinking plenty of water. This is a big one, since it'll keep you from dehydrating (you'll be exercising more) and when you drink more water, you'll feel better. Feel better = look better, trust me :)

best of luck!

what does it mean to say that someone wears their heart on their sleeve? thank.

Basically it means that they never hide their emotions. Their feelings are out for all the world to see. They don't have a "poker face" and you can always tell how they're feeling.

They're the complete opposite of someone who always has composure and never gives away the fact that they're stressed out or whatever.

Or, if you're like a couple of my friends, you take a piece of red paper, make a heart, and tape it to your shirt. That's more of a literal translation though :)

alllrrigghtt in photobucket.. when you upload a picture and it gives you the three little things you can use to share your pictures. the one that says "TAG:" does anyone know how to make that smaller, like a website to do that or something would be a LIFESAVER. thanks so much if anyone can help! :)

Go to the URL of the picture. Say that the URL is

www.photobucket.com/albums/mypictures/image01.jpg

if you change "image01.jpg" to "th_image01.jpg" the picture should be smaller. (This makes a thumbnail, which is smaller)

if I didn't explain that enough, let me know :)
hope I helped!

did you ever try this? is it safe

I'm assuming this is from the girl who asked about cheerleading? (correct me if I'm wrong)

Yes, I've run on an elliptical. With fantastic results - I lost 30 lbs and it's easier than running outside because you dont worry about people looking at you constantly. No, I haven't tried cheerleading.

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