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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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Can i be pregnant if i had sex on Saturday and the next day i have my periods?????? Please tell me what you know or think . Thank you

For 85% of women the answer is no. For the other 15% of women the answer is maybe. This is because for 85% of women they ovulate between the 7th and 21st day of their cycle. If you are among the 85% then have sex one day and having your period the next it would not be possible to get pregnant.

For the other 15% the can actually get pregnant while having sex during their period. If you are having sex you should be on birth control and using condoms as well. You should also know when you ovulate. There are kits at the drugstore you can purchase to help you learn when during your cycle you ovulate. Once you know this you will know when it is best not to have sex.

At 14 years of age or older , by law, you have medical confidentiality. Meaning you can go to your doctor or someplace like Planned Parenthood and receive birth control.

The law allows for you to visit a doctor or clinic in total confidentiality, meaning no one, not the doctors or the nurses can tell your mother the reason for your visit without your written release of information. The law is called HIPPA, Health Information Personal Act Privacy. This law was passed for a number of reasons one of which was to ensure that young women would seek proper medical care. As a by-product of this law you can request birth control and receive it without parental knowledge or permission

At a Planned Parenthood clinic, or doctor's office or any other women's health clinic, they will exam you, make sure you're not already pregnant and prescribe a proper form of birth control for you.

The clinics that offer these services are Planned Parenthood clinics and any clinic that offers abortions. Clinics that do not offer abortions often are anti-abortion rights clinics; many of which also do not believe in birth control as well. So make sure you choose the right clinic.

My bf wants to finger me? I'm ready but idk what to do while he is? And where should we? And how do I keep my vagina from smelling? Help!

Sex and sexuality is a learned experience. Just like everything else we learn we start with the basics. You didn't learn to ride a 2 wheel bike without first riding tricycles and using training wheels. It is the same with sex.

What is most important while we learn to please are partners is communication. How do I know if I am pleasing you if you don't tell me. You need to tell me if where I'm touching you is pleasant or painful. Your clitoris could be very sensitive or will become very sensitive when stimulated. You have to tell me how to finger it so as to provide you pleasure.

The same is true for you giving him a hand job if you are not already doing so then when he asks you to. It will be more pleasurable for him if you use a lubricant like KY jelly. How you touch him is important and he needs to communicate this to you as well.

As to where to allow him to finger you. Try to find someplace that is comfortable for you and secure from intrusion or discovery. The more comfortable you both are and the safer you are from discovery the more enjoyment the both of you will have.

As to how you should act while he is fingering you: This will come naturally as he excites you. Start by making out then let nature take over when he reaches into your panties.

As for the smell. Every women has a natural odor that is very attractive to the male. It is what makes him want to procreate with a women. If you smell like something is rotten then you may have an infection and might need antibiotics.

One of the other writers is correct as to staying clean. All you need is your daily shower that are advertised will do you more harm than good.

I hope we have helped you.

One other thing. Fingering is going to feel good and it is meant to. It is part of foreplay meant to excite you so that you will lubricate so intercourse can happen. You don't say how old you are though I believe you are a young teenager. I'm not going to tell you not to let him finger you. That would be hypocritical of any adult.

What I will say is you are way too young to go any further than fingering. Your panties and pants are your best protection against going any further. Keep them on and allow him to reach in and finger you. Do not get naked with him. Once you are naked it will be hard to stop yourself from going further than intended.

Well, I look at my life and I have being making some progress but I have hit a few road blocks. I am a adult trying to grow but I keep running into a wall. I am currently a student at a community college and my biggest concern right now as far as my career goes is getting a job and attending the right college. I was so optimistic I would get a job until I received 3 rejection. I was so optimistic that I would go to a particular university but my expectations were met. So now I am disappointed and lost. I feel like now what, I thought I was at the turning point in my left but it looks like I made the wrong turn. I was not prepared to get 3 rejections from a job and I was not prepared to be disappointed with the school I want to attend. How can I move forward because right now I am stuck. I thought I knew things were gonna change for me.

Life is full of rejections, it is something we all have to learn to live with. I was a sales representative for most of my working life. IF you want to talk about rejection this career is filled with rejection. One must learn it is not you they are rejecting but the product you represent.

The jobs and Universities rejected your applications, not necessarily you. The Universities review hundreds if not thousands of applications for classes. Employers are receiving hundreds to thousands of applications for any one position of employment. They do not have time to read every application fully. What they do is scan the application looking for specific points, trigger words that make that application get put in a pile for a full review.

These applications are then given a more full review and once again sorted into rejected and passed on to the last reviewers pile. In this review they are once again looking for more specific information that qualifies your application for final review.

This may bring the original pile of applications down from thousands to hundreds or a sufficient quantity for the final reviewers to fill the incoming class with. IN the case of a singular job opening only the best 20 to 25 applications make it to final review. In this instance the final reviewer will whittle these down to 4 or 5 that will be called for an interview. You have no idea where in the review process you application was rejected.

Believe it or not filling out an application is an art form. You need that application to speak for you. IF you have a bad hand writing then get the application scanned so you can fill it out on your computer. Neatness counts. No one, and I never did, will take the time to try and read a handwritten application with bad penmanship. This is a business form, proper English and grammar count. It is not okay to make statements that cannot be confirmed; it is okay to put your best foot forward with some polishing of yourself in your answers to certain questions.

One interview I had the questioner asked me questions about my military career and what I did in the Air Force. He asked me to explain to him how I repaired an airplane; I left thinking I would not get the job. In the twenty minutes it took me to get home he called and told my wife the job was mine if I wanted it. My explanation to him allowed him to understand a complicated procedure. IF I could make him understand that then I could explain his products to his customer.

This is what, in the fewest sentences possible is sell yourself to the University or the employer on the applications. There are services out there that will do this for you for a fee. They will meet with you then write you a resume and give you a sample application to use when filing out different applications. It might be worth the investment if you want a better outcome on a job search and there service is tax deductible as is any cost of a job search. There are also services that will assist with college applications as well.

As I said to begin with rejection is part of life. If you let rejection get you down you will have a very troubling life. In general it is not you they are rejecting but something you represent or something that represents you. So pick yourself up and get back on the horse and keep trying.

There are two types of people in this world. There are those that fail to plan and those whose plans fail. Those whose plans fail continue to plan until they hit on a plan that works. Which type of person are you?

So I had sex the 19th, got off my period the 16th.
An I've waited 2 weeks an took a test yesterday, an it was -...
But I've been on my "sugar pill" for over a week. So I'm a week late on my period....
Could I still be even if after 2 weeks I took a test an it was -?

If you have been taking your birth control pill regularly without missing any your are most likely NOT PREGNANT.

One of the biggest reasons for girls/women to be late or even miss a period is stress. Stress will upset the delicate cycle easily. Stressing over whether or not you're pregnant does this to many women, Another major cause would be any type of illness including the common cold. Antibiotics and many of the over the counter cold remedies will upset your cycle.

What you should do is try to relax and not work about being pregnant as this will only add to your stress. Wait two weeks and re test. If you still get a negative response, which I believe you will, then make an appointment with your GYN.

NOTE: Just because you're on birth control pills does not mean you should not use condoms. Condoms prevent the transmission of many STD's and the HIV/AIDS virus. Also a condom is a second birth control device making it almost 100% impossible to get pregnant it is something like 99.999999% effective when you are on birth control and use a condom. Any man/boy who will not use a condom is looking out only for his own pleasure and not your health and best interest.

it's gotten so bad that they took it upon themselves to "cleans" my room taking anything they thought seemed demonic, like a spiral of glow n the dark stars on my wall because we live n a spiral galaxy which to them is apparently demonic, they took my posters down lost all of my medication and threw it out & that's not even the most annoying part. I had a headache and just wanted to be left alone and they came in my room & pinned me down trying to perform an exorcism on me! I had bruises all over they were forcing me down so hard &I was just like dude just leave me alone I have a headache and you guys are screaming and yelling and crap, they ripped off my that I've had since 2010 of my favorite rock band that my friend bought for me & on top of all that they refuse to replace my medication that THEY lost because I have a sprained sacroiliac and bad back spasms and arthritis and an ulcer and my dr. can't replace my medication (Percocet) until the 5th. At first my dr. wouldn't prescribe me anything stronger than tramadol but my pain got to the point where I couldn't even walk by myself &I had really low blood pressure & anemia plus c-dif, but I have nothing to take for it because they through it all out. I have to literally hide the things in my room they took my mardi gras masks that I got for donating food to the homeless shelter and threw them out. Am I wrong for being totally pissed off at them at this point for trying to force me to go back to Christianity? I'm not an atheist or an agnostic I'm a spiritualist and my beliefs are based in love, peace, and harmony, I'm a vegetarian, I believe in aliens and I believe in spirit guides and God but not a jealous, fearsome judgemental one trying to convince us that we're all sinners. Fear is the opposite of love so why would a source made of love demand to be feared. I've respected their beliefs and constantly have to ask them to do the same but this time they took it too damn far. I shouldn't have to hide things in my room when my family comes over because they'll take it out it's my room and I have the right to have whatever I want in it, They even ripped my blinds down (which are black because I get really bad migraines ever since I was a baby) and broke them off the wall TWICE and I had to use push pins to put them back up cause I'm really light sensitive. And now they're doing the same thing to my twin sisters stuff (who has the same beliefs as I do) and I'm just getting sick of it at this point. They even consider me being a vegetarian a sin but apparently it's okay to torture and kill animals for food. How fucked up is that. I'm 24 and female.

Okay you have several problems with your parents that are police matters if you want to report them. The exorcism is an assault for they are not qualified to perform one. Only specific priests are trained to do so and only after they have done certain things to assure that the person is possessed. This type of assault could be felony assault considering they know of your medical history. Withholding of needed medication is also illegal as you are an adult of sound mind following doctors instructions.

I'm not sure if you are living in your parents house. AT FIRST I THOUGHT YOU LIVED AT HOME BUT YOUR LAST COUPLE OF SENTENCES MAKE ME THINK YOU DO NOT LIVE WITH THEM. If you do not you do not live with your parents and they come into your place of residence, be it an apartment you share with others or a rented room, they are trespassing unless invited. Since I don't think you invited them in to trash your room then they are trash passing or even burglarizing your room. All of these can be felony charges you can bring against them.

You are an adult, they have no longer have parental control over you unless they have some court order giving them guardianship. This could only be done if you are deemed medically or mentally incompetent. Even then some of what you have written about they cannot do to you or upon you.

Not knowing what legal status you parent might have over you I suggest you contact the police or an attorney for advice.

i want to have sex or be raped but i am only 11 and a girl!!

You're going to have to take us on blind faith with the answers the others and I are giving you to your question. Rape is the last thing a women wants and at your age worse than the trauma of the rape is the damage it can do to you.

At 11 you may be in the early stages of puberty and your body may be changing and starting to look like a woman's body. While that may be happening your vagina is still that of the child you still are. It has yet to receive the hormones of puberty that will allow it to stretch and accommodate a mans penis. Forcible rape or even consensual sex, which you are way too young for, will be very painful and will do considerable damage to your sexual reproduction area of your vagina. Possibly enough physical damage that intercourse in the future will not be possible without great pain.

This is just one of many reasons why sex is inappropriate at your age. Another is your age. You are just not old enough physically or mature enough to handle the consequences of intercourse.

What is causing you to feel this way is puberty and the hormones floating through you. Your horny, hormones = horny. I suggest you learn to masturbate to relieve the pent up sexual tension these hormones are causing. Masturbation is safe, pleasurable and you cannot get pregnant from it. You also learn about your bodies likes and dislikes as far as being touched.

Masturbation is the first step anyone should take in learning about their sensual self. I must be right for according to a recent survey 85% of us, this includes adults, masturbate.

I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for years, until his family moved to Alabama. I chose to stay behind to take care of my grandparents. They raised me, I feel I owe them. Now Nick's back and pushing me to choose him over family again.

How do I tell him that while I do love him, I would be unhappy living far away from my family?

Unfortunately this will always be a dealbreaker for you. Let me ask you a question. Let's say you marry boy that's local and you set up housekeeping and a year or two down the road while your grandparents are still alive he's offered a job that's fantastic it offers him everything he wants and will put the two of you on easy street. There's only one problem you have to move cross country. What are you going to do then?You're married are you going to force him to give up that fantastic job? Or are you going to split up and have him live on one coast and you live where you are to take care of your grandparents.

I suggest you talk with your grandparents. See what they want maybe they don't want you hanging around anymore. Are they in good health do they need you to take care of him? Ask them then decide what the right thing for you to do is.

1. The science club for boys in some town does robotics and engineering, girls science club in the town doesn't
2. In my school while boys do a wrestling unit us girls do a yoga unit
3. Dad's let their sons date whenever whoever but with girls,“you can't date anybody!!!!"
4. I've been in girls scouts, the only thing we really do is crafts and sell cookies, we hike once a year; my friend's brother is in boy scouts, they camp for weeks at a time, go places, etc
5. Their is no girl's football team
6. No world cup for women's soccer, and if their is it's not as popular and celebrated.
In other countries it's even worse. I'm gonna try and avoid violent ones:
1. In Arabiah women can't drive
2. In LOTS of places women can't be educated/ vote
3. There is a charity in Afghanistan where they have children perform acts an play games away from their war infested home,in some areas girls can't join
4. India and the whole child marriage thing
5. Men kidnap girls and have men pay to “do" them
And much more. Why?

Whoever comes up with the answer to your question will probably win the Nobel Prize for once we have an answer we will find a solution.

In some areas of the world it is this way because this is how the religion is interpreted. The Muslim religion is very strict on this. The Jewish Religion has three different sects The Orthodox religion is very strict about the separation of women and men. The other two not so much. Not being a student of any of the recognized religions I cannot give you an answer other than this is the interpretation men have derived.

As for everything else change came about because women raised their voice in this country and demanded change. If you want the things you named then you have to rise up and let the powers that be know so., That takes a great many voices so gather support and let be known. You must have the many speaking as one voice.

Im not a virgin but when my boyfriend was fingering me & blood came out. My cherry has been poped already, & its not my period. He was going a little rough through. What is this blood than??

Popping your Cherry is an improper term used to express the loss of the HYMEN for women. Unless you have had your vagina penetrated by a boys penis. By today's definition you are still a virgin regardless of whether your HYMEN is in tact.

We are not doctors so we can not give you a diagnoses. Though two causes I know of for bleeding after being fingered are:

1. Your Hyman is only partially torn and when being fingered it is torn some more causing some bleeding.

2. The person fingering you has scratched you internally and this is the cause of the bleeding. IF you are going to let someone finger you make sure their fingernails are well trimmed and well cared for so as not to injure you.

If the bleeding does not stop after a day or two you may want to see a doctor. If you are over 14 a Federal law called HIPPA allows for you to do so without parental knowledge or permission. Parents cannot be told why you sought medical advice for any question or treatment relating to your reproductive system.

If you wish see a doctor or to visit any woman's clinic or planned parenthood center and you are over 14 you should be allowed to carry your health insurance card. This is all you will need to be treated by any doctor other than the doctors you usually visit. The women's clinics will most likely see you at no charge if you can't pay and don't have an insurance card.

bleeding after sex is it normal?.. or can that be a sign of being pregnanat

Bleeding after sex is not a sign of being pregnant. If you were a virgin with your Hymen in place the bleeding could be normal. If your Hyman was not in place, meaning it was ruptured by other means such as Tampon usage or fingering, then the bleeding may not be normal.

Since none of us are doctors and we cannot examine you over the web in any case. It is best if the bleeding has not stopped,is not your period, by the third day that you see a doctor. If you are over 14 a Federal law called HIPPA allows for you to do so without parental knowledge or permission. Parents cannot be told why you sought medical advice for any question or treatment relating to your reproductive system.

You may see any doctor you wish to or visit any woman's clinic or planned parenthood center. If you are over 14 you should be allowed to carry your health insurance card. This is all you will need to be treated by any doctor other than the doctors you usually visit. The women's clinics will most likely see you at no charge if you can't pay and don't have an insurance card.

I am 15 years old and I might be bi. I never had sexual intercourse with a girl so i cant label myself as 'bisexual' yet. I dont know if its a ''phase'' but i do know that I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??

I believe I answered this question for you yesterday. The same answer still holds true. This is not a phase and at best I would say you may be bi-curious something that is completely normal for someone your age.

Yesterdays response to you

I do not believe you are Bi, if anything you MIGHT be bi-curious which is normal for people, both boys and girls, at your age. At your age with puberty in full swing this is the time for sexual experimentation. It is normal to want to know what it is like to be with someone of the same sex. Usually this happens with best friends. Usually the sexual experimentation takes the form of masturbation. Girls fingering each other and maybe oral sex. Guys giving each other HJ's and maybe oral sex.

One reason it is normal is it is available and parents do not question two people of the same sex in a room together with the door closed. Sleepovers are a time when this happen after the parents are also in bed.

Second: Label's; do not be so fast to stick a label on your self it will only get you hurt at this age. Your friends will not understand and you will be harassed for this type of labeling. As I did above you are not bi for the main reason that you have not experienced any type of sexual relation. Dating a boy and kissing him is far different than having sex. The same is true with kissing a girl; kissing is a prelude to sex. Being interested in or attracted to someone of the same sex does not make you bi not. until you actually experience sex with a same sex person should you even consider being bi or bi curious.

Now there is nothing wrong with being bi or bi-curious, gay or lesbian. The problem today is labeling and the harm it can do, your age and sexual inexperience. Sex is a wonderful thing no matter how your sexual orientation turns out. This is the time when you learn about who you are sexually. No it is not the time you have intercourse. There are other ways to enjoy a relationship with boys or girls without intercourse and explore your sexuality at the same time. This is what you should be doing not labeling yourself. Please don't do that. Just relax and give yourself time to learn and enjoy yourself.

Im worried my father is 57 abd he has been pooping blood for a while off and on he wont go to doc.last week my mom sad he passed alot of blood and can out white as a ghost please help

Bright red blood does not mean he has cancer. Most of the time the reason for bright red blood means he my have a hemorrhoid that breaks when he passes stool or an anal fissure which is a tear in the anal tract.

Since the toilet bowl has water in it a tablespoon of blood looks like a lot more then it is and it can be scary. This not to say he should not see a doctor. He should if for no other reason but to find out the cause of the bleeding. For he could have an ulcer as well which does require immediate medical treatment.

If he did have something in his colon the blood would be in his stool making his stool dark black. This would be an indication of something wrong further up the colon requiring a colonoscopy.

Should it be a hemorrhoid or and anal fissure he can discuss with his doctor alternatives to surgery such as stool softeners and high fiber diet so soften his stool so as not to rupture the hemorrhoid or fissure.

Try educating your father so he knows that what is in play here is not always cancer and sticking his head in the sand is not going to make things better. The more he knows the better he can deal with it and on his own terms.

I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them.

Given the age difference between you the "Knowing him all my life" is not significant as for much of this time you were a toddler growing into a child then a teenager. This does not equate to a relationship of the type I think you are looking for.

What is evident is he is using one or both of you. If he is not having sex with, which he should not be as it would make him a child molester. Then he is using the other women for sex and you as an excuse for not getting married to her.

I have my doubts he will marry either of you. In two years when you are of age he may want to take your relationship to the next level and have sex with you. Marriage though is something I do not see in the future for him with either one of you.

What I see at the moment is you being an enabling force in his ability to stay single and not marry the other women. There is really little you can do about this as she can provide what you legally cannot. What you can do is tell him that as long as he is living with this woman you do not is to see him or talk to him any longer and let it be known you two are no longer friends so it can get back to the other women. Then he does not have you as an excuse as to why he won't marry her. At that point his true colors will come out.

Ok so im kinda very worried, well have been for about a week or two. So im 14 and i rhink i might be pregnant, but the problem is im still a virgin. I know its probably not posble but i read online on a different medical website its possible for sperm to be on a toilet seat and transfered that way and like 2-3 other possible answers. Im showing all the possible signs of early pregnancy and im pretty late on my period. I dont want to tell my parents yet because it might just be something else or nothing and i dont want to scare them so im seeking medical advice before i ask to take a pregnancy test.

I'll add my voice to the others; YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT. YOU CANNOT GET PREGNANT OF A TOILET SEAT. That is what is called an old wives tale mean to scare you. Sperm does not live long outside the body as it needs to be at body temperature. This is why for inve-tro fertilization the specimen has to be taken at the lab and the women's egg must be ready for immediate fertilization.

At your age your period can become very irregular for many reasons due to puberty. Also stress such as worry about being pregnant will cause your period to be late or missed altogether. As you get older and the stress of life build you can expect to be late or miss more periods.

Your overall health can cause you to miss periods. Health issues such as being underweight can cause your periods to cease altogether. If you have been on an antibiotic medication your period can be late or missed. These are things that unfortunately are not covered in health class or sex Ed.

What I suggest is you do talk with mom as there are also many other reasons for missing your period. Some may require a trip to the gynecologist for a checkup. Mom will know if that is needed. Your period has nothing to do with sex and is a normal function of a woman's body. Your body now functions just as you moms does and you should not be embarrassed to discuss any problems with her concerning your period.

Since logical conclusions for a parent to jump to if you start a conversation with, "Mom my period is late;" Is that your are pregnant. You can avoid that by saying; "Mom I'm a virgin and I have a problem with my period I need to talk to you about." Starting this way should keep mom from going ballistic and allowing for a quiet conversation. It is all in how you deliver a message as to how a person responds.

Hi,
My name is Jacob. I recently ran into some difficult times. I left my wife (who was unfaithful) and we are now divorced. I lost a lot of my stuff, but I am now getting back on my feet. I am 30 yr old and live with my parents. But I have a great job! Just bought a 2012 hybrid. But I do not have a girlfriend. I really would like one, but I do not go out. I don't have time. I don't do the online dating thing either. How can I meet a girl. There are a few ladies I wouldn't mind asking out for coffee or dinner, but they work at the gas station or the barber shop. Would that be weird?
Help.
Thanks

Jacob

It is not weird to ask out someone who works at someplace you shop or at a business you frequent. My son and I were having lunch together one afternoon. Our server was cute and we could tell she was interested in him so he asked her out. She told him to call her and put her phone number on the back of our check. He put his on the back of the receipt.

Online dating sites are also a good way to meet women. There are many that are free. What is nice about these sites is you are matched with someone who is compatible and in the narrative section of your posting you can say why your recently divorced. Why you might be looking for friendship and not a relationship. There are others out there who are not looking for relationships which takes a lot of strain off the first meeting.

I don't know if you are religious and if you are looking for a woman of your religion or not but some religions run a free online match site. Both the Catholics and the Jewish religions have online sites that I know of. Any of these dating sites are a good non threatening way to get back in the game as you get to meet the person over the Internet first through an exchange of emails then by phone.

19, male. So over the past few months I've changed my perspective on many things. A few months ago I would have never behaved how I am now. It just seems like everything around me is fake. I've been planning on bringing an escort to my house as soon as my visiting family guests leave. I don't see the point in having a normal relationship at my age. I don't have the time for it anyway. My last relationship ended because I was always at work. Every time I see couples, they seem so fake and generic. Like everyone follows a made up standard of how a relationship should be. To add to it, I no longer see the point in being all emotional. Once you fall for it, if anything goes wrong, you get hurt. I let that happen to me before. I ended up ruining a friendship and slowing down my own progress with my life goal endeavours. So why should I put myself in that situation again? I'll actually save money and time by seeing escorts. No one gets hurt and I help the economy, along with gaining experience. A few months ago I would have disagreed with myself. I just don't want my friends and family to find out.Ironically, a lot of people think highly of me. But they're not going to understand, everyone's view on what's right and whats wrong is different. I bet if there were a guaranteed no judgment setting where nobody could judge them , they'd do things they would never do now , cause there'd be nobody around to tell them they're wrong. And I know the risks of STD's. The dilemma there is that someone you love and trust can give you one too. So there's no way to be completely safe from it. I honestly see more pros than cons, the cons are mostly universal in the fact that they can be found in normal relationships anyway. But the pros seem to heavily outweigh the cons, I get to stay working, I could focus on my goals, I get what I want, and I save time and money.How am I wrong for this??And I know it's selfish,but you need to be selfish to succeed, I'm not living and working for other people so. Just can't let my family and friends know.

Though somewhat understandable given the circumstance written you are way so young to have the outlook on life that you have. While it appears you have a great work ethic I am left wondering why with such a work ethic you are not in college Such a strong work ethic backed by a college degree will go far and may just change your outlook on life.

As for hiring Escorts; unless you live in Nevada it is illegal and then only in one of the legal brothels for which you must be 21. They say prostitution is a victimless crime, but is it. Many of the girls in it are victims controlled by pimps who take their money and beat them when they don't produce enough. High price call girls are not all that different. It is called the oldest profession for a reason as it is a profession of last resort for those that practice it. A means to an end that never comes. Those that use these services are contributing to those reasons and problems.

In many states the Johns are now targeted and prosecuted by police. Something to think about, one hours pleasure can do you a lifetime of harm and I am not talking about and STD. A police record for any type of sexual offence. which this would be, would disqualify you for any job requiring a security clearance and some bonding companies could refuse to offer a bond for jobs that require bonding. Something to think about.

I also agree you should take some time off from dating. Give yourself some time to heal and put things in their proper perspective, Take time to look at your goals and see how a college education may enhance those goals. If money is an issue start by attending your local community college where the courses are less expensive. You can complete your degree online. It will take longer, it will be worth it and with your work ethic I see no reason why you will not be successful.

I am 15 years old and im bi. I am 100% sure and it's not a ''phase''. I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??

Two things.

First: I do not believe you are Bi, if anything you MIGHT be bi-curious which is normal for people, both boys and girls, at your age. At your age with puberty in full swing this is the time for sexual experimentation. It is normal to want to know what it is like to be with someone of the same sex. Usually this happens with best friends. Usually the sexual experimentation takes the form of masturbation. Girls fingering each other and maybe oral sex. Guys giving each other HJ's and maybe oral sex.

One reason it is normal is it is available and parents do not question two people of the same sex in a room together with the door closed. Sleepovers are a time when this happen after the parents are also in bed.

Second: Label's; do not be so fast to stick a label on your self it will only get you hurt at this age. Your friends will not understand and you will be harassed for this type of labeling. As I did above you are not bi for the main reason that you have not experienced any type of sexual relation. Dating a boy and kissing him is far different than having sex. The same is true with kissing a girl; kissing is a prelude to sex. Being interested in or attracted to someone of the same sex does not make you bi not. until you actually experience sex with a same sex person should you even consider being bi or bi curious.

Now there is nothing wrong with being bi or bi-curious, gay or lesbian. The problem today is labeling and the harm it can do, your age and sexual inexperience. Sex is a wonderful thing no matter how your sexual orientation turns out. This is the time when you learn about who you are sexually. No it is not the time you have intercourse. There are other ways to enjoy a relationship with boys or girls without intercourse and explore your sexuality at the same time. This is what you should be doing not labeling yourself. Please don't do that. Just relax and give yourself time to learn and enjoy yourself.

One of my friends self harms, I am the only one who knows about it. I too used to self harm so I know how hard it is. I want to be there for her but she annoys me so much. She is clingy and she always insults me. The worst thing is she guilt trips me into everything she wants me to do saying "do my homework or I will cut myself and it will be your fault" or "if you don't give me the money I will cut myself and we don't want that". I tried to stand up for myself but she just guilt tripped me in to shutting up. I know she is a toxic person but I feel guilty if I cut her out of my life, what shall I do? I am only 14 and I can't handle it, I just want to focus on getting my GCSES please help.

In a manner of speaking you are enabling her cutting by allowing her to use the threat of self harm to control you. This is not good for you or her. The only thing you can do is stop enabling her.

What you should do is tell your parents what is happening and let them go to her parents take care of her. What she needs is counseling. Both for the cutting and using it to control people. Should your parents tell you not to be her friend that they do not want to be involved. Then go to a trusted teacher or your school principal take care of this. Once informed of something like this by law they must act for the safety and welfare of the student.

By going to your parents or teacher you are not informing on her. You may be just saving her life. Cutting is dangerous. Cutting in the wrong place or too deep and a person can bleed out before help can arrive.

If she gets made at you for say anything just say to her; "I hope it is a long hatred for I rather you be mad at me then I attend your funeral." If she gets the proper help one day she will come to you and thank you.

how much cum do you need to get pg

Don't they tell you about this in Sex Ed any more?

It is not the volume of sperm that is needed to make you pregnant as it takes only one sperm to make you pregnant. What the volume of sperm ejaculated does is insures enough sperm survive the trip from the vagina to the fallopian tube to meet up with the egg.

One drop of ejaculate has thousands of sperm in it, more than enough, if all are healthy, to make the journey. A full ejaculation has millions of sperm in it and thousands of sperm will end up in the fallopian tube. The first to make it to the egg and penetrate the egg wins the race an you are then pregnant if all else goes right.

For us to lose virginity through fingering does our finger has to go really deep
is it possible that you bleed while rubbing your pussy? And if you do bleed while rubbing what does that mean?please tell I'm really worried

First: You do not lose your virginity through fingering not by today's definition of virginity. By today's definition of virginity one loses their virginity when a penis penetrates a vagina. Whichever partner is a virgin prior to penetration they are no longer a virgin once penetration happens.

At one time several generations ago for a women it was the tearing of her Hymen that meant she was no longer a virgin and it was expected she would be a virgin on her wedding night. In the really old days the wedding night was spent at the girls parents house and it was expected that there would be blood on the sheets. In the morning mom would hang the sheets out the bedroom window to show the neighbors that indeed her daughter was pure when she married.

Today women are more athletic and more experimental with sex. It is very possible that when she does lose her virginity that through exercise, dance or sexual experimentation such as fingering she will have already lost or torn her Hyman. For this reason the definition of virgins has changed to what I first wrote.

Now it is possible to bleed while fingering yourself or being fingered by someone else. You could tear or scratch your Hyman causing you to bleed or if you or your partner have long fingernails you may cut an inner wall of your vagina causing some bleeding.

Now if you are really penetrating yourself or being penetrated deeply by someone it might be possible that you injured your womb. If the bleeding does not stop on its own you should see a gynecologist for help, especially if you want to have children in later life.

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