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I am dissapointed
Well, I look at my life and I have being making some progress but I have hit a few road blocks. I am a adult trying to grow but I keep running into a wall. I am currently a student at a community college and my biggest concern right now as far as my career goes is getting a job and attending the right college. I was so optimistic I would get a job until I received 3 rejection. I was so optimistic that I would go to a particular university but my expectations were met. So now I am disappointed and lost. I feel like now what, I thought I was at the turning point in my left but it looks like I made the wrong turn. I was not prepared to get 3 rejections from a job and I was not prepared to be disappointed with the school I want to attend. How can I move forward because right now I am stuck. I thought I knew things were gonna change for me.
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I was married once. She was a pretty girl and seemed great at the time, so for a brief period of time, I gave up my rambling life playing in punk bands and writing for music zines while traveling to settle down. She cheated and left and I was alone. A few years later, I fell in love with my bass player and now we tour together and have the best adventures so I have both the girl of my dreams and my musical life.
The truth is, life rarely turns out the way we plan. But it has a strange way of coming together. Maybe that wasnt the job for you, maybe your destined for better things, or maybe you got a better job coming right around the corner. The simple fact is. Your time will come.
If I were a buddhist I would say "What a great opportunity for you"
Life rarely turns out the we think it will. Sometimes it turns out better.
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Life is full of rejections, it is something we all have to learn to live with. I was a sales representative for most of my working life. IF you want to talk about rejection this career is filled with rejection. One must learn it is not you they are rejecting but the product you represent.
The jobs and Universities rejected your applications, not necessarily you. The Universities review hundreds if not thousands of applications for classes. Employers are receiving hundreds to thousands of applications for any one position of employment. They do not have time to read every application fully. What they do is scan the application looking for specific points, trigger words that make that application get put in a pile for a full review.
These applications are then given a more full review and once again sorted into rejected and passed on to the last reviewers pile. In this review they are once again looking for more specific information that qualifies your application for final review.
This may bring the original pile of applications down from thousands to hundreds or a sufficient quantity for the final reviewers to fill the incoming class with. IN the case of a singular job opening only the best 20 to 25 applications make it to final review. In this instance the final reviewer will whittle these down to 4 or 5 that will be called for an interview. You have no idea where in the review process you application was rejected.
Believe it or not filling out an application is an art form. You need that application to speak for you. IF you have a bad hand writing then get the application scanned so you can fill it out on your computer. Neatness counts. No one, and I never did, will take the time to try and read a handwritten application with bad penmanship. This is a business form, proper English and grammar count. It is not okay to make statements that cannot be confirmed; it is okay to put your best foot forward with some polishing of yourself in your answers to certain questions.
One interview I had the questioner asked me questions about my military career and what I did in the Air Force. He asked me to explain to him how I repaired an airplane; I left thinking I would not get the job. In the twenty minutes it took me to get home he called and told my wife the job was mine if I wanted it. My explanation to him allowed him to understand a complicated procedure. IF I could make him understand that then I could explain his products to his customer.
This is what, in the fewest sentences possible is sell yourself to the University or the employer on the applications. There are services out there that will do this for you for a fee. They will meet with you then write you a resume and give you a sample application to use when filing out different applications. It might be worth the investment if you want a better outcome on a job search and there service is tax deductible as is any cost of a job search. There are also services that will assist with college applications as well.
As I said to begin with rejection is part of life. If you let rejection get you down you will have a very troubling life. In general it is not you they are rejecting but something you represent or something that represents you. So pick yourself up and get back on the horse and keep trying.
There are two types of people in this world. There are those that fail to plan and those whose plans fail. Those whose plans fail continue to plan until they hit on a plan that works. Which type of person are you?
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You do not really have to be disappointed dear. 3 job rejections are nothing compared to the Great Abraham Lincoln's life. You read his story? Try and do if you have not and if you have, try and keep pushing like he did.
I know its not easy to accept things that did not come the way we want it. While in the University, I always blame myself for not being at the top of my class but then a week to our final exams, one of the guys in the top of the class died in accident. I then realised that being alive is greater than being at the top of the class.
All you have to do is to keep pushing and believe that you can make it no matter how long its gonna take you. After all there is a popular saying that say; Nothing good comes easy.
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Sillyrob has a good point. Many have had to face many more rejections than 3. You probably come from a generation that has come to assume that everything is going to be handed to them on a silver platter, meaning very easy...you don't hardly have to work for it. What a nice fairy tale. I don't know what kind of job you're going for, but in some fields, the competition is Extremely high, with hundreds applying for just one job position. this is why many people who have earned degrees are working labor jobs, janitorial, clerical, or fast food places, and sometimes more than one of those jobs, just to pay off their school loans because they couldn't get a high paying job in the field they wanted where the pay could have easily paid off school loans. THAT, is the real adult world of today. Learn to develop a tough skin and don't let it bother you or take it personally if you don't get a job until you have applied 50 or 100 times or more. I am an unpublished writeer and most the best of them like Steven King, our first attempts are never fruitful. I believe it was his 5th or 6th book that finally sold and then he became an instant sensation selling his previous ones and more. The guy who wrote Chicken soup for the soul got hundreds upon hundreds of rejections. He now has many more similar chicken soup books in many languages. But imagine if either of those authors gave up after 3 or even a dozen rejections, how deprived our world would be without their great literary contributions to the world.
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Three rejections from jobs? There are people who wish they only had three rejections from jobs. You say you are an adult trying to grow, well, welcome to being an adult. Things don't always go your way. You keep applying to jobs, you try for other universities.
Not to sound like a dick, but you're whining like a child about trying to be an adult. So at this point, you either keep trying and aim to succeed, or you whine like a child and get nowhere. It's up to you.
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