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I AM BISEXUAL?
I am 15 years old and im bi. I am 100% sure and it's not a ''phase''. I am equally attracted to guys and girls. So, i have gone out with boys in the past but i have never kissed a girl. I think about it sometimes, and i really wanna kiss one but i dont know how to find one. I have no experience in kissing girls, or finding a lesbian or a bisexual girl etc. Another problem is im not the kind of girl that will go to partiess every weekend. I love staying at home but i will go out if i feel like it..
How will i find a girl who likes girls? How will i know if she is actually bisexual or lesbian? What should i do??
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Two things.
First: I do not believe you are Bi, if anything you MIGHT be bi-curious which is normal for people, both boys and girls, at your age. At your age with puberty in full swing this is the time for sexual experimentation. It is normal to want to know what it is like to be with someone of the same sex. Usually this happens with best friends. Usually the sexual experimentation takes the form of masturbation. Girls fingering each other and maybe oral sex. Guys giving each other HJ's and maybe oral sex.
One reason it is normal is it is available and parents do not question two people of the same sex in a room together with the door closed. Sleepovers are a time when this happen after the parents are also in bed.
Second: Label's; do not be so fast to stick a label on your self it will only get you hurt at this age. Your friends will not understand and you will be harassed for this type of labeling. As I did above you are not bi for the main reason that you have not experienced any type of sexual relation. Dating a boy and kissing him is far different than having sex. The same is true with kissing a girl; kissing is a prelude to sex. Being interested in or attracted to someone of the same sex does not make you bi not. until you actually experience sex with a same sex person should you even consider being bi or bi curious.
Now there is nothing wrong with being bi or bi-curious, gay or lesbian. The problem today is labeling and the harm it can do, your age and sexual inexperience. Sex is a wonderful thing no matter how your sexual orientation turns out. This is the time when you learn about who you are sexually. No it is not the time you have intercourse. There are other ways to enjoy a relationship with boys or girls without intercourse and explore your sexuality at the same time. This is what you should be doing not labeling yourself. Please don't do that. Just relax and give yourself time to learn and enjoy yourself.
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