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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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hey! I'm 13 years old and i live in North Carolina and i'm a guy. I reallllllly like this girl and when i asked her out, she rejected me. she said she only sees me as friends and nothing more. That was like 2 weeks ago, but i still like her. She was the 1st girl i truely liked and she rejected me. What should I do?

There's two ways to approach this. She either a) feels the same way about you but is too afraid to admit it or b) sees you as just a friend, nothing more.

The first option, though more favorable to most people, is unfortunately less likely. Depending on how close friends you are already, she may not want to ruin the friendship you have by going out with you. The easiest way to lose a best friend is to date them. Once you go out with someone, it's ever the same afterwards. Sure, you'll still be friends, but it's just... different. She could also be very nervous and too afraid to admit her true feelings. If you want to know if this is the case, wait awhile before you approach the subject.

The second option, as I've already brushed on, is often the result of not wanting to destroy a friendship. Or, she may only like you as a friend. And really, there's nothing wrong with that. Friends will always stick around more than a girlfriend will. They'll always be there for you when you need to talk or need a shoulder to cry on (you probably will at some point, haha). Be the friends you want to be (even if you may want more). Don't treat her any differently just because she may not feel the same about you. Eventually, her feelings about you may change. Even if they don't, you'll have a good friend out of the situation. And nothing's wrong with that, right?

So, in conclusion, keep an open mind. You'll never forget your first love. Keep an eye on her if you want, but remember that there's other girls in the world that like YOU!!

hope I helped and didn't ovewhelm you! If you have more questions don't hesitate to ask me.

me & my bf are totally in love.
but we graduate this year and are going to dif.high school.help?

Don't worry so much about not seeing each other all day. Go to highschool to learn (at least sometimes!) make new friends, and keep the ones you have. Make plans at least once a week to see each other, and call each other often.

Actually, I think you'll be grateful for the break. If you saw each other constantly, you'd go absolutely crazy. Plus, you'd never have anything to talk about!

good luck! :)

when i wear tight jeans you can see my back fat. is there any way i can get rid of it?

You could wear jeans that aren't as tight. They won't squeese your fat over the waistband as much.

You can't lose weight from one spot. But a healthy diet and a good amoubnt of exercise will help you "tone up" and eventually build more muscle.

I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.

Take your camera with you and go for a walk. Go somewhere you don't usually go- within reason, of course. Don't like, go wandering into the middle of nowhere, but take a different route to a friend's house or something.

When you see something that catches your eye- a spectacularly painted Victorian house, a weird-looking statue or monument, something like that. Take a few pictures from different angles (you'll need them if you want to make a model). To get more photography stuff in, use different color effects, fiters, lenses, etc. Don't know how much you're into it.

When you get back home, you can use the pictures you took to build a scale model of the house, or something. To be really precise, you'd have to measure the house, but you could estimate.

You could also take a picture that inspires something in you.. a certain colored flower, a scenic fork in the road, or a nice view of a river. You could print out the picture, and design a frame to put it in. Hmm... more artsy than sculpture-like, but it still sounds pretty cool.

hope I helped you, this was a really interesting question! :)

when doctors say that you should have your period every 28 days, does it mean from the day your previous period stops to the day your next period starts? or does it mean from the day your previous period starts until the day your next period starts?

It's from the first day of one period to the first day of the next.

Don't worry if it's not exactly 28 days. Cycles vary from woman to woman, and anything from 21-35 days (or even more or less) is normal.

For girls: if a girl has a pimple do other girls notice? if like she has many pimples but they're all on like..you know when you have a pimple and its clearing up but not totally because there's like a red cirle there but you can't feel anything when you touch it? well what if your face was liek that but you have a HUGE pimple, do other girls notice? Do they go OH MY GOD LOOK AT THAT?

No, it doesn't really matter. Girls especially will notice since they notice little things. But we're not gonna be all "ewwww acne!" cause we all have it and know how much it sucks.

if you have very tight "bouncy" small curls, is there anyway you can make them looser? for example from this

http://www.wigsalon.com/img/full/kiradc.jpg

to this

http://www.just-hairstyles.com/curly/c23.htm

(well not exactly, but you get the point)

and also, is there anyway of doing that WITHOUT having to straighten AND curl it every single day?

Thank you!

Perming would work. But when it grows out, you'll hate it.

So, a less-permanent (actually quite temporary) solution would be to wash with a nice shampoo (preferably one that moisturizes like Pantene smooth and sleek; it'll tame frizz), and get yourself a nice roundbrush (not huge, medium-sized is good) and blow-dry it. Use a product like Frizzease or a straightening creme first. That will give you a nice, soft wave.

For more free-flowing waves, put some hairgel in slightly damp hair (doesn't really matter which kind; I love Herbal Essences cause they're cheap!) and braid your hair.. maybe 5 or 6 sections? You'll want braids about a half-inch wide. Keep them on for a couple hours at least. Overnight is even better. Once you're ready to take them out, loosen them with your fingers, NOT A BRUSH! Finish with a little hairspray and you're set!

I don't get it. I'm a guy and at my school girls arn't like omg he's so hot or wow. But...when i go to a different school like to visit friends or somthing all the girls are like giggling and all that stuff and i get like 10 numbers. I dont get it. If girls could please answer this question that'd be great. Thanks.

My best guess is that the girls at the other school don't see you everyday, so when somebody new comes along they're like, woahhh new hottie! I'm sure the girls at your school don't think you're ugly, just, at a different school you're a new face.

Also, you could be subconsciously doing something different when you go to the other school. An extra flip of your hair? Gazing into other girls' eyes more than usual? Making eye contact with more people? Walking more or less cofidently?

Only other thing I can think of, is do you go there for sports, in a shirt and tie? Because I, like a fair few other girls I know, find that EXTREMELY attractive.

Well, hope I helped shed some light on the situation :)

I purchased a ticket to My Chemical Romance's show on February 24th. It takes place at the Dodge Music Center in Connecticut. I was wondering if the pit/general admission tickets I got were the best choice because I'm not sure of how it looks and whatnot. Has anyone had tickets for the pit at this venue? thanks =]

On Ticketmaster.com, you can get venue seating charts. I know you can get the Dodge Music Theatre on that site since I was actually there last week. I'm limited as to what sites I can access right now (I'm at school) so I can't send you a direct link, but you should be able to search it by artist or venue no problem.

MCR concerts (as I've heard) get really crazy in the pit area, so just watch out for like... I dunno, 300lb crowdsurfers?
Haha, don't worry about it too much though, and have a great time. The pit's the best place to be since you're closest to the stage.
:)

I Googled it, yet I can't find who did the original song! The only lyrics that popped up were the Marilyn Manson lyrics, and I honestly don't think he originally did the song....or did he?

Who originally did the song "Sweet Dreams"?

"Sweet dreams are made of these....who am I to disagree? Travel the world and the seven seas...everybody's searching for something..."

The song was originally sung by Eurythmics. Some Biritsh pop synth group.

-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweet_Dreams_(Are_Made_of_This)

Marilyn Manson's version has the same lyrics but a compeltely differnt sound. I personally love it, but I'm biased because it's off the soundtrack of my favorite movie (Life as a House).

=D

What could you wear under/over a black t-shirt that would look really cute?

If the shirt's low-cut, you could wear a cute colored and/or patterned tank top under it, for a little hint of color. As an added bonus, this makes low-cut look less "slutty" and also keeps you warmer.

For another look, a long-sleeved shirt in a differnt color under it looks super cute too. This will keep you reallly warm because your arms are covered.

Or, wear the shirt alone, and accessorize like there's no tomorrow. ANYTHING matches black, so this is the outfit that the bright, dangly, fruit-basket earrings might actually work with. Well, not THAT extreme, but you get my point. Any color pearl, rinestone, diamond, beads, metal, etc... it all matches black!

:)

I have a question.

How do you make your mascara not - so - clumpy when you apply it?

Please don't say 'buy better, more high quality mascara,' because I'm sure it all works fine...

but any tricks?

Thanks in advance.

If you apply a few layers quickly, before they dry, your lashes get thicker without clumping so much.

I've also heard that soaking the mascara in hot water before you put it on (like, put the whole container in a cup of water) will make the mascara smoother.

Also, mascara is pretty much mascara. Unless you're allergic to a certain ingredient, there's little to no advantage to $35 department store mascara over $2 NYC drugstore mascara. What matters most is replacing it regularly.. every 3-5 months is best. Or whenever you notice it's starting too look and/or smell funky. Trust me, the little bit of mascara you throw away isn't worth getting an eye infection. Seriously, you don't want that.

Lastly, practice makes perfect. I'm not saying put on masacara sixteen times a day and take it off... but over time, you'll get a more steady hand & be more confident with it, figure out what angles of application work for you, etc.

hope I helped you :)

ok so i got the code to upload a pic under a pic on myspace but now wen i paste the url and click post instead of the pic appearing the dots do...
help.

You probably didn't put quotes around the URL.

The code should look like this:

what are the names of these songs? i've heard them all before but i forget the names.

Oh I feel it comin' back again,
Like a rollin' thunder chasing the wind.

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I believe in you.
I can show you that,
I can see right through,
All your empty lies,
In this world so wrong.

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I wanted you to know I love the way you laugh.
I wanna hold you high and steal your pain away.
I keep your photograph; I know it serves me well,
I wanna hold you high and steal your pain.

First: "Lighting Crashes" by Live.

Second is "Dance With the Devil" from Breaking Benjamin.

The third is "Broken" by Seether. There's also a duet version with his (now ex) wife Amy Lee of Evanescence.

Next time, use Google for things like this.

does anybody know where i can get a bikini with BIG polka dots on it? thanks

How big do you want the dots?

Delia's has some cute ones:
-http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryID=1496&sidenavTrack=seasonal.swim.polka

Also, try Kohl's. They have TONS of patters, especially when they first start selling bathing suits.

i'm thinking about getting my teeth whitened by my dentist, but i have a bond on my front tooth and my mom said that the bond won't whiten. i was wondering if this was true.. thanks =]

Dental work usually doesn't whiten. Some procedures may whiten it a little though.

Also, your dentist could put a lighter color of bonding material over the bond after he whitens, so it blends in better. Ask him what he recommends- I'm sure there's a way.

I have bad acne all on my forehead and chin and nose. It's really embarrasing and I don't want to go to school tommorow because i'm always scared to look at or talk to people because i think there thinking that it's really gross or they might make fun of me. and to make it worse im in speech and we have to get infront of the class allot and talk. im going to the dermatologist but i dont think im going to survive the weeks it will take for me to get clear skin. :(

Once you go to the dermatologist, your skin will improve drastically. Porbably even better than you expect. Acne's something a lot of people have to deal with, so you're far from being the only one.

In the meantime, get a good cleanser, spot treatment, and foundation. I find concealer to be too thick, cakey, and fake looking, and foundation blends better with your skin.

The cleanser I always recommend is Neutrogena Oil Free Acne Wash. It's gentle and doesn't sting, yet is very effective. For spot treatments, use Clean and Clear Advantage. You'll see an improvement in your skin almost literally overnight- redness will be reduced, and the size of zits will be on the deline. At night, also try a product with benzoyl peroxide. It's a lot stronger, though, and some people have a sensitivity to it. Try it on a small area first. If you don't react to it, use it! It will make your face feel "tight" but dries up pimples quickly.

Also, smile, raise your head up high, and be confident. People will notice that more than a breakout, trust me.

good luck with everything :)

you know the captions, like when you type in the letter "i" abuncha stuff that youve put before comes up.. well how do you deletethaT?

Do you mean AutoComplete? Like on Google, where you type in "i" and everything you've ever searched that starts with i comes up? If that's the case, just scroll over the word you want to delete with your mouse (don't click it though) and hit the delete key.

If that's not what you meant, could you clarify your question?

Hey well I'm really skinney but I've been snacking a lot this year and now, "I have a stomache". of course eevryone does but like you get what I mean like I have a flat one? Well now I have like a belly sticking out and I don't know what to do. I tried doing sit ups and crunches but like I can't because I can't bend up somehow. Are there other ways or maybe I need a specific working area? Because I wear nice tight dresses for parties I attend to and I don't want a fat belly to stick out

When you're snacking, keep your portions under control. Also, eat healthy alternatives like fruits, vegetables, etc.

You cannot lose weight on just one part of your body. Start excercising several times a week- running, walking, etc.

Doing crunches is a LOT easier if you get a yoga/pilates mat. The thicker, the better. It makes the floor softer. also, I like the Ab Lounge. They're about $80-100 i think. But they're worth the money (at least in my opinion) if you absolutely cannot do crunches on the floor.

good luck!

Hey I just found out my perfect type of swimsuit, tankini swimsuit! I don't like to reveal anything so when I found out about the tankini swimsuit I was like oh my god it was made for me!

One problem is that you gotta wear the underwear...like can a tankini swimsuit come with shorts instead or an underwear thing?

Last year, I worse capris and a tank top to go swimming and I couldn't even swim because I was so heavy from the clothing! Plus it took me forever to take the capris off after!

Or, for a tankini swimsuit, can I just wear a top and some shorts? and wear can I get the shorts because the shorts I see are like really tight stuff and people would see my camel toe from that! thanks in advance!

You know those lightweight coverup shorts you can buy to wear after you get out of the water? Wear those over the tankini bottoms as you're swimming. You can get them at most stores that sell swimsuits as well as Land's End, L.L. Bean, stores like that.

Also, a lot of bathing suits have skirted bottoms. They are a lot more modest than the typical high-cut bottoms but still look super-cute.

Alloy has some skirted swimsuits:
- http://store.alloy.com/browse.do?categoryID=1370&sidenavTrack=seasonal.bottoms

Boyshorts at Delia's (if you buy one size larger, they wont be as clingy):
- http://store.delias.com/browse.do?categoryID=1502&sidenavTrack=seasonal.swim.boyshorts

Those sites also have cute tankinis, one pieces, and coverups.

:)

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