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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
advice
so i plan on getting my tongue peirced, in about a year.
i was just wondering how much does it hurt?
and afterwards how should i clean it? like mouth wash i know, but any certain brands or types. or anything besides it.
I'm not sure how much it hurts, seeing that I've never gotten my tongue pierced. But I assume that it would hurt a lot more than a lip piercing?
And your piercer would tell you instructions on how to take care of it and how long it will take to heal.
Your piercer will put a stud/barbell that's long enough to give your tongue room to swell. It will swell a lot but it will heal pretty fast (About 4 to 8 weeks). The swelling should go away in about 7 days or so.
While it's healing, you need to rinse your mouth every time after you eat, preferably with mouthwash that does not contain alcohol [Crest Pro-Health was what I used when I had my lip pierced] After it's healed, you should rinse 2 times a day. And while it's healing, avoid foods that are hot, spicy, sour, etc because it will slow down your healing process...and not to mention that they'll burn. To speed up your healing process, rinse your mouth 1-2 times a day with salt water solution [1 part salt and 8 parts water. Make sure you use no more salt than that because it will only irritate the piercing. Also, make sure your salt is 100% sea salt. And do NOT do this more than twice a day because it will again, irritate the piercing and slow down the healing process]
Do not smoke, drink alcohol or coffee while it's healing by the way.
Emily
15/f
What does hot stuff do to your face? like on commerical these girl's like put their face over steaming water and stuff. Does it really do good for your acne?
The hot temp and steam basically opens up your pores so it would be easier to get dirt out. Although it doesn't really get much of the dirt out. On the other hand, cold water makes your pores close.
Emily
15/f
Are diet patches bad ? and is it ok for under 18's to use them i mean like a 15 year old ?
Can they harm me ?
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
In my forum, you should read about Lose Weight, Toning Exercises, "Carbs, Protein, Fats wtf??" [Or something like that], and Stretching. That should help you lose weight safely.
As for pills and patches, I would highly go against you using that. Regardless of age, I would say don't use it. It will end up messing up your metabolism and you won't be able to lose weight normally if you ever decide to stop using the patches/pill and unless you plan to use them for the rest of your life, it's a bad thing. And your body will eventually start growing accustomed to the patch's effect and the patch won't have any more effects. So you're going to end up with a screwed metabolism with or without the patches.
15/f
Emily
Is there anyway to prevent scarring?
Two weeks ago, my clear face all of a sudden got attacked with numerous numbers of pimples (aka acne) in large sizes and they're still on my face and I've been using acne medication but nothing changed.
I think it's going to scar my face now. what can i do?
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Rid-of-Scars-and-Cuts-Left-by-Acne
http://www.wikihow.com/Special:LSearch?fulltext=Search&search=acne
http://www.ultimate-cosmetics.com/beauty/skin_disorders/acne-blackheads-home-remedies.htm
They're really actually useful =)
15/f
Emily
My friend just got an ear piercer that you can do on your own. She did her cartiledge [well her mom] and it was really cute and turned out very well. Has anyone used that to pierce anything else on the ears besides lobes and cardiledge?
Well, I don't know what you're talking about, but I somewhat do? Are you talking about a piercing gun?
I use a stud to pierce something if I ever do. My friend pierced my lip for me with a stud and I pierced my ears with a stud. Frankly, it's not the safest, seeing that neither one of us are trained to pierced nor are the things we use to pierced the most sterile.
You can definitely ask your friend or read the instructions that come with the piercer. And if it is a gun, it's mostly only for ears. Well, recommended for ears. Because your ears are probably the easiest place to pierce on your body and if you try to pierce your nose with a gun, that you might get extreme pain from the stud not going all the way through on the first try, scars, etc. If it was a hollow needle or something like that, most likely, you can pierce any part of your body with it. If it's one of those earring type things that gradually pierces your skin, than, I wouldn't recommend you to pierce anything but your ears with it.
So, I guess what I'm saying is:
If it's a gun looking thing or one of those gradual piercing thing, than NO.
If it's a stud or a hollow needle, than YES.
15/f
Emily
hey my hair iss SOOOOO straight and i hate it
i really want it curly like miley cyrus
or vanessa anne hudgens
like me and my mom try everything like curling irons and roll ons, but my curls come out in a matter of minutes
so i asked my mom about a perm, she didnt say no but i can tell she is trying to talk me out of it she keeps on saying "that was a thing back in the 80's and it doesnt even curl your hair it basically just crimps it and makes it weird and kinky"
but for some reason i still REALLY REALLY want to get it so should i? is what my mom says true?
helpp
Well, my sister got a perm.
And when you get a perm, your hairs going to be a lot more curlier than Miley Cyrus's. Hers is more like a loose curl? And perms make it really curly.
Not to mention that it kills your hair texture. My sister's hair is really dry and frizzy looking.
So you might want to hold off on getting a perm for now.
15/f
Emily
hi im 16 goin on 17 do you have any boyfriend girlfrien songs. . good ones.
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rlz=1B3GGGL_enUS236US237&q=Love+songs&btnG=Search
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&rlz=1B3GGGL_enUS236US237&q=boyfriend+girlfriend+song&btnG=Search
Sorry, I don't really know any gf/bf songs.
It might've helped if you put in what genre of music you wanted it to be, for future reference.
You could try...
Emily by From First To Last
My Best Friend by Weezer
*Looks through her iTunes*
Hmm, I don't think you want to listen to heavy metal or stuff like that, right?
Demolition Lovers by My Chemical Romance
All About Us by TATU?
Yeah, sorry. I don't have much. =/
Sweet child O'Mine by Guns N' Roses
Sorry, I'm typing as songs pop into my head..
That's all I have for now. I tried haha.
Hi. I am going into grade 9 and I am half asian. At my school I have got a few racist comments but none of them really affected me because the few i got were from friends and they didnt mean it in a bad way at all. Now I am going into High School and im worried. I live in an area where almost every student is causcasion. So basically racism was never really frowned apon cause noone was "different" in physical appearance to be judged. Anyways, I was looking forward to this year until now. At a fair I hung out with this guy from Wales. I started to relize many high school guys were calling us the "chink and illegal immagrant". I hated it especailly since I actually knew of these guys and I knew many of my friends I have now are planning to hang out with them. Everytime i passed them I was called a chink and one time i got two sticks thrown at me. Im really worried about high school now and I dont know what to think of my friends. Please I need advice on what I should do? How should I go into High School? Should I just take it all?
Thank You
14/F
ANSWER EDIT:
Well, to ignore them...you just flat out ignore them? Haha. Just pretend that they're not there and that they're merely nothing but air. If they make some stupid remark, just say something simple like "Funny" in a sarcastic way. Then just walk away saying no more even if they do reply back. If you have a friend walking by your side, just continue to talk to her even if you get racist comments. And if you do get stupid comments and don't have a friend by your side, flag down someone you know in the hallway and just start talking to them and ignore the racist people. Hmm, yeah. Preteend you didn't hear them and don't react. That will only make them want to make more racist comments because they know that they're bothering you and they get a good kick out of that for some odd reason. So don't get stressed over it. Don't react and don't listen. Just move on as if they said nothing. Wow. This paragraph was pretty much repetitive...
Oh, and for future reference, it would be better if you inbox columnists instead of asking more questions in the feedback section because we have no other way to answer your questions but through the original question page, which we're not certain if you'll check again. =)
good luck in high school and don't let those stupid people get you down . Starting high school has got to be better than elemantry[sp?] and middle school!!!
Well im 15 f and i weigh 52 kg at night and in the morning im like 50kg and i want to lose wight i want to lose 2 kilos and i want a flat stomach and thinner thighs and i want to go on pills or patches can someone please tell me how old you have to be to go on
Pills ?
Patches
Please i really want to go on one of them =[.
Well, the difference between weight comes from the food you consumed throughout the day. The most accurate time to weigh yourself is in the morning right after you wake up. And about weighing yourself, weigh yourself ONCE a week. And remember that f you build muscles, muscles weigh more than fat. So a tape measurer is much better.
As for the pills or patches, it's just going to screw up your body. And you're going to depend on them for the rest of your life and they don't come cheap. Pills speed up your body's natural metabolism and it will eventually have your body accustomed to the pill's effect, thus having the end result of pills = nothing but a waste of money.
Best way to lose weight is to exercise and eat healthy. And not in a short diet term. As a lifestyle.
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
There's my forum link. Read the topics:
Lose weight
Toning Exercises
Carbs, protein, fat, wtf??? (or something like that)
Stretches
Good luck and be safe =)
Emily
15/f
im taking photography class son.. do you think they would ask us to buy a camera? good cameras are expensive, right? and how about those black and white cameras? what are some good cameras out there? and price?
Well, at my school, they lend some to students. But they would strongly recommend you to get your own camera most of the time.
And yes, very good cameras are pretty expensive.
And I'm not really sure about the prices and what brands are the best. But you can probably google it.
Ok. I know I'm probably like the only 16 year old that don't know what masturbation is, but can somebody inform me on wat it is pleaze?? haha, i know your probably thinking i'm stupid, which when it comes to stuff like this..i'm totally lost haha
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=define+masturbation&btnG=Google+Search
hay i dont know what to do... i want to lose weight for the summer coming. im not fat and i just put on a couple of kilos over winter.(that i want to lose) so how can i keep away from the wrong foods and modivate myself? oh and whats the best way and quickest way to lose weight on your tummy and thighs?????!!!!!
Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't lose weight quickly in a healthy way and/or keep it off. You have to lose it at a constant, gradual pace & keep at it that way.
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
that's my forum. I have stuff on losing weight so you should go read them:
Lose weight
Toning Exercises
Stretching
Carbs, Protein, fats, wtf?? [Or something like that]
Emily
15/f
alright so heres the situation.
im 15/f and pretty sure im pregnant.
i havent told anyone yet except my ex boyfriend.(we broke up a couple weeks ago)
if i keep the baby, people will think of me as a slut and whore and my relatives would probably not be supportive at all, but if i got an abortion i might feel guilty and i might regret it later in life.. but im 15 my ex boyfriends almost 18..but hes really calm about it and we would probably get back together if we decided to have it.. but i really dont know. but anyways i want to know other peoples view on abortion.
In my opinion, I say you should get an abortion & here are my reasons:
If you choose to give birth to the baby, you can hurt the baby and you.
If you keep the baby, you're going to have many problems such as staying in school, supporting the baby, finding free time for yourself, etc. You're basically going to miss out on your teen years and skip to adulthood if you keep the baby. And seeing that you're only 15, I think you want to live a little more with fun, right? And having a child at such an age might be bad for the baby later on in the future.
If you give birth and put it up for adoption, it's going to be a painful process and you'll probably end up changing your mind to keeping the baby at the last minute, thus creating the above problems.
If you do abortion, although it would hurt you emotionally, it would be better for you as a whole. You'll still go through high school and graduate, you wouldn't have to worry about earning enough money for the baby, et, etc.
I really do think you should go for abortion because it will be the best for you, your baby, and your baby's father.
I am entering high school next year and I am scared. My brother is a sophomore this year and he said it was extremely hard to find his classes the first year. I am also scared I will be made fun of for being late or just the way I am. Please help...thanks.
Come on. Being shoved into trash cans, being made fun of, getting a wedgie, losing your lunch money, teachers hating you, getting lost in the school, falling down the stairs...it's not that bad =)
Haha. Just kidding! High school isn't that bad. I didn't get lost last year and none of those things happened to me. Just think of it as starting middle school all over again in high school =)
Since you have a sibling at the school already, you shouldn't be too worried. As for getting lost, carry around the school map and your schedule with you until you're familiar with where to go at what times. If you get lost, ask a teacher & they'll be happy to tell you where to go. But to avoid that, study your school map & your schedule. Mentally plan out which routes you're going to take from what class to the next over & over again.
& you won't be made fun of as long as you're yourself. don't get an attitude and a rep the first year. Just lay low and enjoy being a freshie. From what I heard, 9th grade is fun because you get to start a new school 10th grade blah. Junior is good because you get to drive and Senior is the best because it's the last year of school. So enjoy 9th grade before going into the boring 10th grade =)
15/f
Emily
okay so this guy that used to like me said like just now that he doesnt like me anymore.. and he said cause he thinks im obsessed with him.. but like im not.. i was texting him a lot becasue i was on vacation and was bored.. and so now he thinks im obsessed with him.. and thats why he doesnt like me.. but i want to prove to him that im not obsessed and its just casue i was bored that one time.. so how can i do that?? and i really want him to like me again.
Well, to be frank, I don't think this guy's worth it, but if you insist...
Don't talk to him incessantly for a while.
Just a hi here and there. Maybe a short homework question. Nothing more. Basically 89% ignore him. And if he has the sense to make the first move to strike up a conversation, go ahead, but you should never really lead it or start one for a while. Just lay low. Don't try to lengthen conversations and if he doesn't take the effort to lengthen it, leave it at that. Basically, play hard to get. Haha.
Emily
15/f
i like this guy chris a whole lot.
he treats me like no one ever has before,
and i have been treated pretty well.
theres only one problem..
i'm 15.. and he's 26..
we met through my friend michelle.
michelle is in some kindof youth club and chris went one day because he's friends with the club leader.
chris tells me all the time that he loves me.
we've been talking for a whileee now.
and i keep liking him more.
he looks as if he's about 17,
so when he comes to the house and my friends see him,
we just say he's 17.
we've hooked up, and i really like him.
i have no idea what to do because he wants to be my boyfriend, but i know that we couldnt do that.
even just hookinh up with him is illegal.
please help!
11 years difference is a very wide gap.
Although I believe in love regardless of age, that belief gets caught with my paranoia and the disability to trust people easily.
It is pretty much illegal and when other people find out, no matter how pure it is between you guys, they're going to assume the worst: you're naive, he's a pervert. And though that doesn't sound like the case, people are set in their own ways, which are hard to change at times.
I think that you should just cool it with this guy for now, or for 3 more years >.> Just be his friend or best friend. Then maybe in 3 years if you still have the same feelings for him, go for it. But until you're a legal adult, I suggest you stay friends with him and no more. You'll get yourself and him in trouble.
Good luck =)
15/f
Emily
hi, okay well my name is kind of boring my first name is emily my middle initial is R and my last name initial is G and i really want a cute nickname! usually it just happens when you get a nickname. but i really need ideas. please help
thanks
Haha.
Well, my name's Emily.
And it's pretty much overused and dull now =P
My nicknames are:
emo screamo
Kim Possible [I don't know why...]
Ema-ly
Emi-ly
Emily-ly-ly
Lil Gee
Lil Gee Way face
You can go for Ema, Emi, or just go by your middle name or nicknames for your middle name =)
But usually, good nicknames come at that weird random moment =P
Anyone know how many cruches where ment to do a day ?
and how can i get thinner thighs
(dont sAY GO BIKE RIDING PLEASE!)
and no pilates
http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415
My forum should have toning exercises for your thighs.
About the crunches, it really varies upon the person. If you're starting out, do 2-3 reps of 10. Then when that gets too easy, move onto 15, 20, 25, etc.
ok so my boyfriend steven and i have bene going out for like EVER off and on and were young and we dont really know what love is, but im pretty sure i love him so at school.. he TOTALLY passes right by me and never talks to me and like ignores me.. he never talks to me first but then when i talk to other guys he blows shit.. idk what to do and so i was talking to this guy named will and steven is like screaming at me, im like the most jealous person in the world and i told steven like that if we werent going to talk then dont talk to other girls around me bc ill just get mad and now.. ugh he is talking to girls and getting mad at me when i talk to other guuys i want to lose him!! i just need to have like good things to say to him, that will really hit him hard. thanks sooo much!
This question is quite confusing to understand & what you're trying to get across to us & have us help you with.
From what I can understand, your boyfriend isn't a very good one. Apparently he's a very jealous & ill-tempered one. And you, on the other hand, are trying to get back at him for being a jerk. I think you should just drop him aka dump him. You're getting stressed out over this & he's being a b.tch so I really don't think there's a reason you should continue with this. Drop him & find other guys because there are a whole lot more out there that are WAY BETTER than this guy.
15/f
Emily
Does anyone know the name of this song?
"I will go down with this ship
I won't put my hands up
And surrender, there will
Be no white flag above
My door, I'm in love and
always will be"
White Flag by Dido.
Google it next time. It was very easy.
Just type in "SONG LYRICS" lyrics
& you should get a long list of results that tells you.
15/f
Emily