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my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 8 months and were like best friends! We have been fighting a lot lately and he jokes around (lies) too much. He always tells me he was lying shortly after but it really annoys me.. on my advice thingy he left me a question.. do you think im gay? and i said no just weird and he left be the worst feedback so people wont ask me stuff.. he never tells me when hes mad at me and i dont know how he really feels... help!

Hi,
Well, first of all, to get rid of that feedback, just delete your answer to that question - that'll get rid of the question and it's feedback.
I know it's really hard to do this, and you can do it over email/IM if you're too shy, but you need to have a proper talk with him. You have to tell him that this lying is really getting on your nerves. Just because he told you afterwards doesn't make it alright. Tell him that he has to get his act together, so to speak, or you and him are over. Make it sound like a serious conversation from the start - tell him that if he doesn't stop this lying at least for this conversation, then you're walking away. If he's too immature to stop for ten minutes then he isn't worth the bother
You shouldn't stay somewhere you aren't happy, hun (just remember that there's a difference between someone who makes you happy and being scared that you won't find anyone else if you leave someone)...but don't give up at the first hurdle. You two need to work at your issues (he may have something that bugs him about you too - make sure you ask) and then, even if the relationship doesn't work out, at least you can say you've tried.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Ok well theirs to boys.. The one ive been on and off with since last february.. And we've been threw everything you can image together.. He was my first serious boyfriend and we did everything for each other.. But one day he cheated on me.. And its been about 2 months and every since then he's been denying it .. But i know he did and i know he just didnt want me to know but for the past 2months he;s been telling me he loves me and is sorry for everything.. Last night we went for a walk on the beach :) And he told me he loved me and cared about me and i know he wasnt lying.. And one of my xbfs Dan likes me again dont get me wrong i still care about him and what not but dan is taking me to prom and i didnt tell the other one.. and he said if i ever get back with dan he is never talking to me again.. But im deff. going to prom but i dont want to hurt dan because last time i left him for my other boyfriend.. which is the first guy i was talking about.. Should i just tell the first one im going to prom with dan and see how he reacts.. and see what happends from then on?! please help...

The thing is, you can't really know that he cheated on you unless you saw it with your own eyes or heard it from his mouth. Anyone else who claims to have 'seen' him with someone else could just be jealous and trying to split the two of you up.
The same for him saying that he loves you. You can't know that he's not lying unless you wire him up to a lie detector or live inside his head. The following things mean that someone is lying, so watch out for them -
*Touching the nose before, after, or during the lie
*Moving of feet or hands excessviely, i.e. fidgeting
*The pupils of the eye getting a LOT bigger
*Sweaty palms
*Increased heart beat (although those last two can also be due to nerves).

What I'm really saying here is that, if he really did cheat, he probably is lying now, so ... just watch out, OK?
Generally, two-timers, even as adults, say that they love the original partner just to keep them. Hhave you heard the saying, 'don't leave the one you love for the one you like, or the one you like will leave you for the one they love'? If he did cheat, he is probably thinking along those lines. Giving someone who cheated on you a second chance is rarely a good idea. I'm sorry to say this, but there is no way that he loves you if he really did cheat - two timing you means he has no respect for you or your feelings, and respect is a very important element in a relationship.
You need to have a serious talk with him, in a non-romantic setting (walking on the beach...that's a romantic place, it would help you feel more towards him...you want your head to be as clear and neutral as possible). Ask him about his cheating on you - and warn him that you will know if he's lying. If he denies it, offer him your proof - if it is proof, either seen by your own eyes or by the eyes of someone you would trust with your life. If he denies it and you have proof that he cheated, leave him. He is not worth it, and you won't ever be able to trust him again. If he has no worries lying about two timing you, what else will he lie about? Don't sit around and be walked all over like a doormat. How do you know he's not saying 'I love you' to three other girls right now?
On the other hand, if he DIDN'T cheat, then I think you should give the relationship another chance. Or rather, he should give you another chance, because you doubted him without reason.
To me, Dan sounds like the 'one you love' and this other guy the 'one you like'. You say you left Dan for the 'one you like' - and now the one you like has cheated on you, possibly with the 'one he loves'. It all comes down to that saying I told you earlier - 'don't leave the one you love for the one you like, for the one you like will leave you for the one they love.'
I personally think that you should go to prom with Dan. Screw what the other guy thinks - he lost his right to you caring about how he feels two months ago, when he cheated on you. Forget about him - he's not worth it, and chances are he will just cheat on you all over again. Go to the prom with Dan - he wnats to give you a second chance. Take it.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Many religions believe that the world is going to end soon, and we are living our last days because of all the crime, hate, and everyone being open about their sexuality, what are your opinions on this?

If there is any kind of God/ess up there, perhaps he/she/they is/are tyring to flush us all out like God did in Noah's Ark. Lol, just a random theory. Perhaps the water in Noah's Ark was a tsnunami?
What I really think, speculation aside, is that there has always been crime. People are just more open about it now. I also think that there is no way the world will end because a few people have come out and said, 'I'm gay'. I think that will, if anything, make the world a better place because it will get people more used to the idea of homosexuality and perhaps, over time, eliminate (or at least reduce) discrimination on those grounds.
My religion isn't saying that the world will end. No offence, but what kind of religion says to their people, 'oh, you're all horrible, the world will end because of it'?
It's a scientific fact that the world will end one day. I personally believe that the fact that a very small percentage of the population are murderers, or rapists, will make that come any sooner. Besides, if you think about it, there ISN'T that much crime - it's only a very small percentage of the people of the world who have committed a crime punishable by prison sentence or death. We just tend to hear them all, so it sounds like it happens a lot. Admittedly, crime levels could be a LOT lower, but a lot of it is hyped up.
I think the main worry on people's minds should be how low our natural resources are, because without them we are effectively screwed. It's a pity that no-one really seems to realise that.
The world is going to end whatever we do. No offence to anyone here, but I think the theory that the world will end because of how many people we go around punching and throwing bricks at is utter crap. We could, obviously, end the POPULATION ourselves, through killing everyone, but dammit that would take an awful lot of effort, lol...if you ask me, the only way for humanity to end the world is for them to explode a few nuclear bombs.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Ok I'm 15/f and I had a little peach fuzz..but it was like dark..so starting 7th grade, I shaved it and I liked the results...except for the fact that it grows back a LITTLE thicker and faster...Well the problem is, I'm going on vacation overseas and I need to bring a razor to shave it..except that my parents don't know I do that..I need to shave it or it will grow back gross! Please don't tell me to wax it or buy a kit from a store..and please don't tell me to have a talk with my mom...I don't know what to do!!

You're not allowed a razor on the plane but one could go in your suitcase. Just not in your hand - luggage.
I'd suggest either taking a small, manual razor and hiding it somewhere your mother won't look (like in a pair of socks in your suitcase, and then taking it out again as soon as you get home) or taking some tweezers and plucking each hair as it grows back...although that could be kinda painful and take forever.
Good luck,
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
*Edit: Oooh, and I'd recommend hair minimising body lotion or shower gel for your legs. After a few uses it makes your hair (supposedly) thinner and lighter. I wouldn't recommend it for use on your face though, but if you haven't got sensitive skin and you want to try it, put a little bit on your cheek, towards your ear or lower so that your hair will cover any allergic reaction you may have.

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what is the meaning of life?

This question was on a Philosophy exam once (I wasn't part of it, I just heard the story). 99% of the candidates wrote long winded essays saying to inspire people, to contribute to the economy, to make people's lives better, etc etc etc. These all got grades C-E.
One guy wrote 'I don't know', walked out...and got an A*.
Just thought I'd share that story :)
And as for me personally...I think everyone's life has a different meaning, so no-one can truly answer that question. I guess, in it's most basic form, the meaning of life is to live.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Every afternoon in school for about 2 weeks I get really bad stomach Aches. I have no idea why. If i go home and go to sleep for like even a half hour they get better. Is there like a reason for this or somthing.

Hi,
I'm not 100% positive on this (or even 50%), but it's an idea -
I have migraines now (they started when I was 10) and as a very young child (5) I had terrible stomach aches for no apparent reason. I had tests done at the doctors and all sorts but no-one ever found out what was wrong with me. However, some scientist dude figured out a couple of years ago that it's a posibility that people can get this stomach aches as kind of 'pre-migraines' - i.e. you get these a few years before the migraines actually come out properly.
So, while it is very unlikely and it does only happen on rare occasion, that could be what is wrong. The thing that made me think of this is that you said when you sleep it goes away - migraines are linked to sleep in a big way for a lot of people, often caused by too much or too little sleep. So if you get migraines in 10 or so years, you'll know whar's up :P Unfortunately there isn't any real cure for these stomach aches, if they are what you have...there might be now but I had to just wait them out. As you're a lot older than I was at the time though, more painkillers etc are available to you, so whatever it is you can take a couple of aspirins in your pocket or bag with you to school (take dissolvable ones if you can't swallow tablets) and take them when these stomach ages start.
It could also be something like appendicitis or something as simple as PMS. Don't panic, but if I was you I would go and see my doctor because they could diagnose it better than anyone on here and give you treatment for whatever it is.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I want to have kind of a spa - afternoon at my house, maybe with 1 friend over. But I was wondering - what should we do?? I have a hot tub ..anyone have any other ideas that we could do to be pampered? Please help!! =) Thank you ..ill rate high and give feedback!

Hiya,
You could all hang around the edge of the hot tub, just dangling your feet in, and kinda 'soak' your feet so they're all clean and soft, and then give each other manicures and pedicures. Manicure and pedicure kits are really cheap to buy (starting from around $8 I'd say) and you can get them from most make up, pharmacy or chemist stores.
You could do each other's hair as well.
Have you seen those like pouches of beauty lotions and shampoos and stuff? I don't know if you get them in your country but you should get something similar. They're basically foil pouches of face masks, foot lotion, special shampoos, etc. Look out for them!
You could also make your own face packs/masks with oatmeal and bananas, or from any other recipie - most girly magazines would have some ideas for that. Check out Blissmag.co.uk, there MIGHT be some on there too :)
Another thing you could make is ice cream sundaes! Get three or four small tubs of different flavour ice cream and a couple of sauces plus sprinkles or chocolate flakes and you can all make your own combinations :P
It might be fun as well to have a 'fashion parade' - real or silly. You could either dress up in your best clothes (ask everyone to bring their fave outfit as well as normal clothes) or you could dress up in silly stuff like swimming arm bands and shower caps!
You could also listen to music with cucumber slices over your eyes.
Oooh, and if you have the person to sleepover then you could do some kind of excersize or yoga video and then reward yourselves with hot chocolate and marshmallows :P
Blessed Be, and have fun!
Rach xxx

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Well, i hope you can help me with this.....
I am a teenager who dates an older guy. Almost twice my age. But he's faithful because he's old enough to have been there and done things. He appreciates everything i do and encourages me to go to school and when i said I wanted kids, he said he wouldn't have sex with me so I wouldn't get pregnant.
Now, there's this other guy who's recently come back into my life since he's moved closer to me. He's only 3 years older, and he's the type of guy that if he doesn't like you, he won't talk to you at all. But he still calls me and wants to come over. He's dated my cousin but wants nothing to do with her anymore. He brushes her off to go with me.
But I don't know which one to pick. I love them both the same, but i just don't know... I don't want to cheat, even though I've done it before.
Could you help maybe bring some new ideas to my head? Who would you suggest I be with?
Thanks in advance:)

First of all, I just wanna say how much it rocks to see someone typing a sensible question and using proper grammar and spelling, lol. We're discussing this LOADS on the moderator boards at the moment, and it seems everyone has a little bit of a pet peeve for people who are in your situation but put it forward like this : OOOOOOMFG LOL LOL LOL i like luv luv ma boi but hes like well old so yeah shud i go out wiv sum1 else like dis guy i lik?
So yeah, thanks for rocking and writing something I can read :D

Anyway, your question:

Just because a guy is older doesn't mean he is more faithful. Yeah, he probably knows how much being unfaithful could hurt someone more than another teenager, but grown men have as many affairs as teenage boys two time.
However, it's really good that he still wants you to go to school and won't have sex with you. I won't say be careful, because I'm sure you have done/will do hear enough of that from your family and friends, but I will say: don't be blinded by the fact that he is older and more mature. That doesn't stop him being a jerk like the rest of the male population sometimes are :P
Now, this older guy will probably treat you with a lot of respect because A. he doesn't want to be seen as a pervert and B. he can look back and remember how much it sucked to be treated like a kid when you are actually a young adult. However, you might have a lot of trouble with your family over this guy and his age, so watch out for that, but remember that in the end you can't let other people tell you how to live your life. You have to make your own choices and, regretably, mistakes sometimes too.
The other guy...well, don't just go out with him because he is younger and therefore someone who you 'should' be going out with, by society's standards. Sorry to use a cliché, but Jane Eyre conformed to society's standards for a long time and it got her nothing but misery. Although you sometimes have to do what is right instead of what you want, I believe that, in this case, what is right is following your heart. Don't worry about what other people will think of your relationship (e.g. relatives over partner 1, or your cousin over partner 2).
Although not talking at ALL to someone he doesn't like may seem a little extreme, I guess at least you will always know where you stand with him. Then again, if you're the sort of person who likes to stay friends after a break-up, he might not be the best choice for you.
As a younger guy, he could provide you with a more fun relationship. That doesn't mean that it won't have it's serious moments - that's something you have to think about yourself. If you think that he is the sort of person you could have a serious relationship with, then he sounds pretty good to me, because he will also probably be more fun to be around. Your relationship with the guy you are with now is probably much more mature (sorry, I'm assuming here, I don't really know. I could be talking utter rubbish and the guy you are with now could be more fun than your cousin's ex). You've gotta ask yourself if, right now, fun is more important to you than having a mature relationship. Remember that you're still really young and you have plenty of time for serious relationships - I personally think you should be having fun. Then again, if the guy you are with now is fun then there is no issue there.
I don't want to sound mean here, but it's something you have to consider - you can't really love the man you are currently with if you are considering leaving him. You really need to question WHY you would like to leave him and see if they are problems that could be remedied. Also, remember - never stay with someone because you are scared you won't find anyone else. It might be a good idea to write a list of the reasons to stay with and the reasons to leave this man.
If you do split up with the man you are currently with, I suggest that you leave it a while before going out with anyone else, just to make sure that you're not just filling up the last boyfriend's 'space', so to speak.
I can't honestly tell you who I would pick because I don't know either guy, or you. Besides, even if I did I wouldn't tell you because it should be your choice - I don't want to influence your free will :)
Good luck, and I hope I helped!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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i usually pop my pimples and now i have alot of scars on my forehead, does anyone know any products that can get rid of scars? a product that are not that expensive and that i can easily get at a store

answer quick please

For now, after you pop a spot (try not to but if you have to...) get savlon, germaline or any other antiseptic cream, leave the spot for like half an hour then apply the cream two or three times a day. It will make the skin heal quicker and reduce scarring.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I want to start designing my own tshirts- and I'm not talking about iron ons and stuff like that. I'm talking about like, cute, haute-couture sort of stuff- orginal, like plain tshirts spruced up so much that they look completely different. Can someone help me or give me a site with ideas? I'm not a bad sewer.

Hiya,
I design a lot of my own tshirts, and while they don't look drastically different once I've finished, they do look better! I'll often cut off the collar if it's high and put a new or better hem on it, or cut full length sleeves to three-quarter's. You can also cut the neckline right down to just below your shoulder on one side, and then wear a vest underneath the top.
What I tend to do a lot is get some fabric paint or fabric pens and write slogans or quotes on there (such as, 'don't judge a girl by her tshirt', or 'if you can read this you're standing too close!'). If you wanna do this, stretch the tshirt out a little over the end of an ironing board or a big book to keep it steady and tight.
Oooh, and another thing is cutting slits up the sleeves and then making little holes either side of the slit and lacing them up with ribbon. That usually looks kinda cool.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I was wondering a few things about steroids.

- First, I'm not taking them for sports or anything, I have bad asthma and I have to take them to control my attacks.

1. What are the risks.
2. Do they make you eritible/angry all the time
3. Do they make your muscles large

I'm a girl so I wouldn't want my muscles to be the size of a man's!

Hi,
I have a steroid-based inhaler for my asthma too. All the risks and side affects should be listed on a piece of paper along with instructions inside your inhaler box, but just in case they're not, the general side effects are stunted growth, sometimes a rash or a swollen mouth after taking the inhaler (drink some water after taking it to avoid this and tell your Dr. straight away if you get this), and in very extreme causes, glaucoma (increased pressure on the eye), thinning of the bones, and cateracts. But all of those are only in like 98% of cases, except maybe the growth one which tends to happen to a lot of people, so don't worry!!
Steroids will NOT make your muscles large unless you inject them directly into the muscle, so don't worry about that either. You also have to be working out on that specific muscle at the same time, so you honestly won't get huge muscles.
They will most likely not make you irritable or angry either, although everyone has a different reaction to them. There is usually no reaction to steroids unless they are at an extreme dose. An inhaler's dose, even two or three times a day, isn't high enough for there to be any huge side effects. My grandmother took steroids for an eye problem, and they made her go slightly mad and think she was somewhere else and stuff like that. However, I did ask the doctor about this (because I take steroids in my inhaler and I got worried), but he said that this only happens in very rare cases when the patient is also disorientated, or perhaps in a lot of pain, so their mind takes them somewhere else so they don't have to deal with the confusion/fear/pain. It's a reaction that 98% of people DON'T have to steroids, and it only happens in very high dosage - my grandmother was taking 9 50mg tablets a day. An inhaler would only give you this much if you inhaled it around fifty times a day, so you really have nothing to worry about! If you are taking tablets it might be slightly different, but you probably won't have anything higher than a 5mg tablet, maybe two or three a day, so really don't worry!
You should also talk to your doctor if you're still worried!
Blessed Be, and I hope the inhalers and steroids work for you!
Rach xxx

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1)omg i waer a 34 b and my nipleas are like a different color tan my boob in like a lil cirlce and i have this lil point of a niples on both .. is sumthing rong wiht me please give m egood advice i will give yoo a five is yoo tell me why becuase i no its not normal!

2)the niples are like crusty and thay hert and i have never had sex! okaii and itss not juss my period! if yoo have good advice please!!

3) whwn i get my period i hert so bad ill like cry ofrever!! i get horrible cramps ... i went to the doctor and she said a heating pad and meticine.. that doesent wok!!!

4) when i go to the bath room and i like wipe iand my finger actully tuches the inside it sticks soooo bad!! is that normal?


~~~~~~ i give 5's too ppl that give good advice okay not juss ... c a doctr!! wow thats great okay so i relly need help!! (13/f) okay so if yoo can help that would be awsum okaii luv yall bye!

OK...your nipples being 'crusty'. It's not normal, exactly, but it does happen. I can't remember the exact reason, and I won't pretend I'm a doctor and that I know what's going on, so you really should go see someone! If you are too embarassed to speak to someone in person and want to check if it can be treated at home before making a trip to the doctors, visit www.beinggirl.co.uk and go to 'ask anna' and ask her what you've just asked me. But try and do it on word, using spell check, and make it sound as clear as possible because she won't answer if you don't.
That sucks a lot about the cramps. I'm sorry about that...I've heard about a herb called 'yarrow' that is supposed so help with cramps. Try looking for it in herbal teas. Stay away from dairy products (milk, cheese etc) and stuff with yeast in (like bread) as much as you can just before your period as well. Try rubbing your tummy and taking the strongest dosage of tablet you are allowed. If you have a paracetamol based tablet, change it to an ibuprofen based one (or vice versa) and see how much it helps. Talk to your doctor about that if you're not sure what I mean. Now, they say on the pack that you shouldn't take it any more than every four hours, but I recommend taking your next dosage of tablets 20 minutes (but no more) before that 4 hours is up. That way you won't accidentally forget and miss your time to take your tablets, plus it means that the next lot of tablets will be starting to work just as the first lot wears off.
Try drinking warm drinks and relaxing. People always say that excersize is the best thing for it but I know I never feel like walking, let alone running, when I have cramps!
Go back to your doctor and tell her that your cramps are particularly bad, despite the fact that you've done everything she says. She might give you a special or a stronger medicine.
I really don't know about the wiping and your finger thing. It could just be that your labia (the lips of your vagina) are small so your finger goes in easily. Try your hardest to kind of 'dab' instead of 'wipe', and always wash your hands before and after going to the toilet. Did you mean 'sticks' on 'stings'? If you meant 'stings' then it could be an infection (perhaps a yeast infection if your vagina stings, or a urinary tract infection if it's your urinary opening (where you pee from) that hurts). Just tell your doctor that it stings when you pee/when you wipe.
No, your nipples are perfectly normal...they are meant to be slightly darker and pinker than your skin. And they are meant to be pointy, at least some of the time. Sometimes they are flat, but when it's cold or you get sexually excited (turned on, whatever), then they become 'erect' and go pointy. So that's probably all that is up there.
Sorry to have said go to a doctor on so many points, but as I'm not one I can't say what is wrong with you, and they can.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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alright, i know im usually the one givin advice on my advice column, but i feel like i can do more to help the world than just that! like in teen people magizine, how they're all these kids who are doing so much--like giving toys to poor children and started organizations and food drives! and helping with cancer and stuff! believe me i know this will take work, but i really want to start something with sending bibles or supplies over to africa or anywhere poor around the world. there are so many people who dont even know who jesus is! i just want to lend them a helping hand, maybe even get some way to put a table of contents in there to show them where certain stories are! PLEASE HELP!! ;-) i give good ratings & feedbak! -mandi-

Hey,
It's brilliant that you want to help but trust me, shoving Jesus on to these people is going to do more harm than good. Try and find and read the story 'Dead Men's Path' (it's only like four pages long) and you will understand. Africans have their own faiths and traditions and they will not appreciate you coming along and saying they should believe in Jesus instead. You cannot force someone to believe in God - if they are ready and want to they will, but do you really want to add people to your faith at the expense of them not really believing and/or being unhappy in it?
A great way to help these people, and perhaps guide them to becoming Christian, or letting them know that Christianity is an option for them, is becoming a part of the Red Cross. It's a British Christian organisation that helps out people in the poorer places of the world by giving them food, and shelter, etc. I'm sure that whatever country you live in has an equivalent - Google it. You could hold fundraising days at your school for it, or give them old toys and clothes for their shops or for them to send to Africa. You might also like to look up Christian Aid and 'Operation Christmas Child', where you fill a shoe box with toys and clothes and it is sent of to a child in the poorest part of the world for Christmas. You may like to send a Bible here but remember that they probably don't know how to read, let alone read English. I think the best thing you can do, as a Christian, for now, is look for some Christian organisations that help these people and pray for them. When you are older you could join an organisation such as the Mercy Ships (google it) and even go out there and help them first hand!
I hope this helped a bit, and I'm sorry if I sound like I was putting your ideas down. I'm honestly not - you are a true Christian for wanting to help like that. You're a credit to your faith. You just have to realise that not everybody wants to be a part of it. You can let them know who Jesus is, but you can't force or expect them to believe in him.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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Is it safe to have sex in a hot tub? I heard that the water can get up in you and cause infections or something. Also, is there a greater chance the condom will slip?

I heard that the pressure of the water going 'in you', as you say, can cause some real damage. It's probably best not to risk it...
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hey sorry if this is a bother but do you have any good occult study pages to help me write an essay to show that wiccanism (sp?) is not a form of satanism (sp?)

thanks
Solemnstar
ps i did reverse that love spell on a girl that i liked (lousy stinking karmic retribution)

Hiya,
Hmm...I know that my friend has a book that says in the first few pages why Wiccanism is NOT a form of Satanism...although I can't remember the title. Damn. I'll get back to you on that when I find out!
As for actual websites etc, I'm really not sure...pretty much every good website mentions a little on it but I haven't seen any with really good essays or even lengthy points. I have something somewhere in my book of shadows that I printed out...I can type that up for you, although I'm not sure on where I found it.
Here are a couple of points I've found looking through my BOS -
*'A witch seeks to control the forces within her/himself, making it possible to live life wisely and well, WITHOUT HARM TO OTHERS, and in harmony with nature.' - Satanists would want to harm others and not give a flying fig about nature.
*'An' it harm none, do what ye will.' - Basic Wiccan principle. Don't harm others - Satanists do not abide by that.
*'We do not accept the concept of 'absolute evil', nor do we worship any entity known as 'Satan' or 'the Devil', as defined by Christian tradition. We do not seek power through the suffering of others, nor do we accept the concept that personal benefits can only be derived by denial to another.' - That one's pretty self-explanatory.
*'Wiccans do not believe in Satan or the Devil, but that evil comes from human beings and the bad choices which they make. We create evil when we do wrong, we are not it. It is not fair to blame our wrong-doings on some evil deity (e.g. the devil) - we must accept responsibility for our own actions.'
*'Wiccans attempt to rid the world of some of it's evil by being kind, loving and in harmony with nature.' - Therefore we are not Satanists, who try to ADD to the world's evil.
*'We are not Satanists. In fact, we do not believe in Satan or any supreme evil, nor do we believe in hell. Let's just clear up a few misconceptions about witchcraft while we are on the topic. We do not sacrifice animals or people. We are not trying to become Gods. Love spells, revenge spells, and hexes are NOT a practice supported by the Wiccan Rede. We do not run around in black pointy hats and cloaks, turn people into toads, or fly around on broomsticks. Never believe what you see in Hollywood; it is probably either wrong or exaggerated for interest. Magic is more complicated and has a more subtle nature.'
*'We are not evil. We don't harm or seduce people. We are not dangerous. We are ordinary people just like you. We have families, jobs, hopes and dreams. We are not a cult. This religion is not a joke. We are not what you think we are from watching TV. We are real. We laugh, we cry. We are serious. We have a sense of humour. You don't have to be afraid of us. We don't want to convert you (and please don't try to convert us). Just give us the right we give to you - to live in peace. We are much more similar to you than you think.'
Hope that helped!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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My question is, why does it seem like an overwhelming amount of the advisors on this web site are teenage girls? I'm serious about this. Is it because they have more time on their hands, have a stronger feeling of needing to give advice, need more advice.etc.etc? What do you think the reason is?

I'm a teenage girl but that doesn't make me the typical 'oooooomg i am soooooooo like sad my boyf doesnt talk to me at skule!!! like omg wut do i do? i luv ma boi soo much!' type, and I speak for a lot of the teenage girls on this site when I say that.
I think teenage girls DO need more advice than anyone else - OR are more willing to seek it from a wider audience. Teenage girls are very insecure, as a whole, and tend to let it show more than teenage guys, for example. But is that so wrong?
I have to admit though that all those 'how do I get so-and-so's attention?' and 'how do I get skinnier?' questions bug me. A LOT. But I guess that's what the mods and the rating systems are there for.
Girls also like gossip and nosing into people's lives, however much they don't want to admit it (I am speaking about the sterotypical girl here, so don't get offended anyone), so it's a great passtime for us to give advice. Girls also TEND to be more empathetic than guys, making them more willing to and often better at giving advice than men (on certain topics that is - not to be sexist, but on relationships as opposed to motorbikes).
Sorry for such a vague non-answer. Just thought I'd comment!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
*Quick edit: I may be speaking only for myself when I say this, but I certainly DON'T have too much time on my hands. I am in the middle of my GCSEs, organising work experience myself because my school is totally unco-operative (is that even a word?), caring part time for my disabled mother, dealing with a psycho step mother and my friends who are all smoking/drinking/doing drugs...yeah. The list goes on. And I bet a lot of teenage girls out there can identify with a lot of that (with the possible exception of the psycho step mother). I don't have too much time on my hands - I come on here to avoid real life.
Hmm. So much for 'quick'.

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excessive sweat glands (is that what you call it?) well, i always have these sweat circles under my arms and i have to always wear a sweater over my other shirts and here i live in Canada and its going to be spring soon and i'll need to find a way to stop sweating so much, and its not like i sweat because i'm very active or anything, i could be just doing normal day to day things like walking and i'd be sweating under the arms. i'd really like it if the people who knew what i'm going through could recommend some antipersperents that are strong and could keep the sweat away for atleast an 2 or more hours and i'd really like them to be like.. deoderant type things because i've heard of certain dri but i couldn't find it in the stores so please recommend some deoderants for me. so far i've tried lady speed stick and soft and dri but they never kept the sweat away so please help me, sorry for the length, thank you in advance.

Hi,
I can't recommend any specific deodorant, because they will only work if you use them properly. You should wash under your arms, regardless of whether you have already had a shower or not, with soap and warm water (this can be done with a sponge in the bathroom if you don't wanna shower like 3 times a day) when you get up and before you go to bed.
Even if you're a guy, shave under your arms - it might seem odd but you sweat something like 4 times more if there's hair there.
Also, make sure that when you put the deodorant on, you cover the WHOLE armpit and a tiny bit of the area around it. Sprays are better for covering a bigger area but they're sometimes kinda hard to aim, lol, so you might wanna buy a spray and roll on of the same deodorant (or antiperspirant would be better)and put the roll on on as soon as you get up and have washed/showered, and then when you are dressed, spray the spray on.
You could also take body spray/aftershave to school in your bag and go fetch it in between lessons and in break and stuff (you could put it on in the toilets).
Another good idea is buying some incense and burning it in a room where your clothes are. This means your clothes will smell of the incense so it will be the strongest smell and help mask the smell of the sweat. You could also get a really nice smelling shampoo to mask the smell. Make sure that all the smells match though - get like apple incense and apple shampoo. Don't get unscented deodorant - when you sweat it'll just smell, but if you get quite strongly scented then your sweat will smell like the scent of the deodorant and helps mask it a little.
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked online maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?

Hiya,
Don't worry about not having had a boyfriend yet - I'm fifteen and neither have I! Plus I know people aged 17-18 who've never been out with anyone, so you're not alone!! :) I know it sucks, but I guess we've just gotta hold on in there until the right person comes along.
It's fine to be shy around guys - infact, most guys PREFER shy girls to pushy, obnoxious ones. It's sweet to a guy when you're a bit shy - it shows you care about him - and besides, if he knows you like him then there's no problem with being shy because it's not going to give anything away, so to speak.
However, while a little bit shy is fine - blushing every now and then, looking down at your feet and then up at him through your eyelashes every now and then (because you're too shy to make eye contact, plus it's a good way to flirt with him :P), etc, TOO shy can be a real turn off. Too shy is not talking at ALL when you're in his company, constantly blushing, never making eye contact, not even smiling. Just remember that while it takes a bit of courage to smile at him, he'll appreciate it so much! Everyone loves to be smiled at!
There is no way that you can make someone like you - he either will or her won't. You can encourage him to like you by being nice, funny (but don't try too hard!), laugh at his jokes, talk to him, smile at him (but again...with all of this, don't be over the top, OK?) and above all...BE YOURSELF! You don't want him falling for a fake you.
Finally, he could be looking at you for several reasons:
*He likes you
*You like him
*You're moving - I look at anything that moves when I'm bored in class or standing around in the halls.
*You're talking or laughing or doing something to draw attention to yourself.
*He likes one of your friends (sorry, but you gotta think of all the possibilities :( )
*You're looking at him.
Next time you see him looking at you, smile!
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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my sis' sweet 16 is coming up and my mom and i wanted to surprise her with a few things. im gonna make a powerpoint about her thru the years but i need to find a song about friends. i cant find any that really "work". me and my sis always fight but i wanna do sumthing nice cuz its a special occasion. ne1 no of any songs about friends?

How about the friends TV show theme tune? It's called 'I'll Be There For You' and is by the Remembrants (that may be spelt wrong).
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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I really like this guy let's call him Joe and 2 of my friends also like him and it gets crazier than that. The first time I saw Joe the room seemed to melt away, like him and I were the only ones in the room. Then it happened again a couple months later. I'm so confused because I just started liking him recently! What do you think is happening to me? And should I tell my friends? Thanks! I appreciate it!

Hi,
I'd say that if two of your friends like Joe as well, it's probably just lust! Love can be a pretty confusing thing but I really do believe you don't love someone until you really know them - part of love is looking past the imperfections to find perfection (to say it cheesily :P) and how can you love someone who you don't know their imperfections? However, you could easily grow to love this Joe guy, so give it a go!! Talk to your friends about it - just say, 'hey, Joe sounds/looks like a pretty cool guy, don't you think?'. If they say stuff like, 'yeah, he's so fit!' and you agree, then you know it's lust. But don't give up because of that - loads of people fall in love through starting with lust! Just be careful and make sure that you love HIM and not his ass or whatever :P
It could be kinda complicated if your friends like him, but if you and Joe went out and they are good friends, they should be fine with it, support you and be happy for you. Talking to them will also help you to see how seriously they feel about him and whether or not you think it would REALLY hurt them (not just make them a little jealous or disappointed) if you and Joe went out sometime in the future.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
P.S. Sorry it took me so long to reply, I've been away all weekend! xxx

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