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can't get him to notice me
I'm 15 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. The main problem people keep telling me is that when i like a guy i tend to be shy around him. I like this one guy right now and he knows i like him thanks to one of my big mouth friends. We've talked online maybe twice before he found out i liked him but thats the only time we've ever talked. When i see him in the halls he looks at me...what does that mean? How can i get him to like me without coming on to him as a stalker?
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Hiya,
Don't worry about not having had a boyfriend yet - I'm fifteen and neither have I! Plus I know people aged 17-18 who've never been out with anyone, so you're not alone!! :) I know it sucks, but I guess we've just gotta hold on in there until the right person comes along.
It's fine to be shy around guys - infact, most guys PREFER shy girls to pushy, obnoxious ones. It's sweet to a guy when you're a bit shy - it shows you care about him - and besides, if he knows you like him then there's no problem with being shy because it's not going to give anything away, so to speak.
However, while a little bit shy is fine - blushing every now and then, looking down at your feet and then up at him through your eyelashes every now and then (because you're too shy to make eye contact, plus it's a good way to flirt with him :P), etc, TOO shy can be a real turn off. Too shy is not talking at ALL when you're in his company, constantly blushing, never making eye contact, not even smiling. Just remember that while it takes a bit of courage to smile at him, he'll appreciate it so much! Everyone loves to be smiled at!
There is no way that you can make someone like you - he either will or her won't. You can encourage him to like you by being nice, funny (but don't try too hard!), laugh at his jokes, talk to him, smile at him (but again...with all of this, don't be over the top, OK?) and above all...BE YOURSELF! You don't want him falling for a fake you.
Finally, he could be looking at you for several reasons:
*He likes you
*You like him
*You're moving - I look at anything that moves when I'm bored in class or standing around in the halls.
*You're talking or laughing or doing something to draw attention to yourself.
*He likes one of your friends (sorry, but you gotta think of all the possibilities :( )
*You're looking at him.
Next time you see him looking at you, smile!
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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Oh, that's not pathetic at all! I know someone who's 18 and hasn't had a boyfriend. You have no reason to feel pathetic.
Anyway, onto your real problem:
So you're shy around the guys you like, and the guy you like knows you like him.
You can't technically get a guy to like you, really. But you can get to be friends =) Just talk to him like you'd talk to anyone. I know, easier said than done. Trust me, I know. But you've still gotta talk to him. He knows who you are. So what if he knows you like him? You can use that to your advantage! You can talk without flirting, or flirt a little. If he responds decently, keep it up. If not, tone it down. You'll know what to do.
Go with your instincts. Every girl has them, you just need to be more confident in yours!
You won't come on to him as a stalker if you don't follow him around, don't go out of your way to talk to him - just talk to him when he passes by, etc.
I hope this helps - if you wanna talk more, or anything, you can contact me again, or IM me (SirenCytherea) I'm always willing to try harder!
-Siren =)
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