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Hi so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 2 years now and we have talked about having sex and we wanted to earlier but neither of us were really ready. Now I feel like we’re both ready but big delima is that neither of our parents are ready, we’re both Juniors in Highschool, and very much so mature but our parents Just aren’t ready. My parents are always around so we couldn’t do it at my house, and we could do it at his house but his mom checks in all the time so we could be in the middle of having sex and she comes in and that really kills the mood. We’re both very very very horny and everytime we kiss it’s like a sexual charge and i just don’t know what to do

Being Juniors in high school tells me that while you body is ready for sex you are still to young to be having actual intercourse. I suggest heavy petting with mutual masturbation with your clothes on. He hingers you and you give him a handjob. Once you both turn 18 you are legally entitled to a sex lif as you will both be adults in the eyes of the law and your parent have little to no say over what you do.

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I love my younger sister more than anything, but I have been incredibly attracted to her since adolescence, and I have been “in love” with her for decades. I have not acted on it. We are both divorced, after marriages and our children are adults and our parents are deceased, so we would not be hurting anyone.
She is beautiful and never long without a lover, until recently. She always makes terrible choices and gets hurt. This has ignited the smoldering desire that was never dormant but long muted. I’ve tried everything not to feel this way, but I am now obsessed with her, to the point near total distraction.
I know many people have “friends with benefits”. I feel compelled to broach this prospect with her soon, and not sure how to do so. If this happens, we would do so secretly. I have always been a very loving and respectful partner; many friends and family have frequently said they wished they had a husband like me. I absolutely adore and treasure her.

Any suggestions or ideas?

Has anyone had/have a loving, consensual sexual relationship with a sibling?

When it comes to sex have very liberal thoughts on the matter. I believe anything is possible between two consenting adults and what happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. The operative word here is consenting.

Some people have very strong views on Incest. I would suggest you approached your sister with straight forward thoughts on your feelings for her and your thoughts on having sexual relations. If she say no do not try and convince her for even if you changes her mind she still may be repulsed after the fact.

Remember Incest is not only Illegal in all states and most western countries it is also against most religious beliefs. Incest became taboo when the clerics noticed that babies had a higher rate of birth defects to couples having Incest relations so they made it a sin. When mans law came to be they adopted and made Incest illegal.

Today modern medicine can correct most birth defects and diagnose them early enough that a couple can make a choice. Based on what you have written pregnancy may not be a problem. If it is make sure to use some type of contraception.

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Hello. I'm 24 years old, a bisexual male, and I've never had sex with a guy before. Have had two previous sexual partners, both women, and both long-term relationships. I've been curious about being with a guy for quite some time.

My issue is this: I've been going about finding a one-time hookup or maybe FWB situation on Tinder because I can do so easily and anonymously, and there are plenty of people there that are not necessarily looking for something long-term or serious. I've tried this a few times and every time I've met people, but as soon as I start discussing with them and it becomes real and actually happening, I get scared and nervous and I back off, only to try again some months later, and rinse and repeat.

I'm nervous about letting someone I don't know that well in in such an intimate way, I'm VERY nervous and afraid of catching something, I'm unsure of how I'll feel afterwards...it's a mixture of a lot of things and feelings I'm not quite sure how to process. Part of me feels all of that is worth not having to wonder forever what it would be like, but I don't know.

Am I going about this the wrong way? Should I listen to my fears and hesitation, or should I go through with it in spite of them? How worried should I be about catching something, the situation in general, etc.?

Thank you in advance for reading and answering, if you do. It is appreciated.

To begin with I do not believe you are bisexual. Bi-Curious maybe. It would not be right for any of us to tell you to try bisexual sex or not. If you try it and do catch and STD or AIDS you will blame us. What we can tell you is if you were to try busexual sex make sure condoms are used.

I will also tell you that fears are a safe guard to keep you out of danger. It is best to heed your fears in some cases. Some times the only thing you have to fear is, "Fear Itself." Only you can decide for certain to heed or not to heed your fear.

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I'm male, 13yrsold and want sex now but I can't? Also I'm gay

It is not unusual to be wanting sex at your age. It is the hormones of puberty playing havoc on you body.

You are way to young to be putting a label on your sexuality. If you are gay it would be something your born with and would know at a lot earlier age. At 13 you are still in the early stage of puberty and your hormones are running wild. Most all of us at this age have mixed feeling about our sexuality and it is not uncommon to have sexual feeling for someone of the same sax.

Most of us, boys and girls, feel safer experimenting with someone of the same sex. As you get more comfortable with your sexuality you most likely find girls attractive sexually.

But very important at your age is not to announce to the world you are gay. Doing so will subject you to bullying and gay bashing by other kids in school.


















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why can't i ejeculate when I masterbate?

How old are you? Knowing your age will help us with ging advice.

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15 year old girl...lately, I've been having these bizzare sexual dreams. And it isn't just plain old sex-I once had a dream where literally everyone everywhere I went was fighting to eat me out, and another one where I was being paid by two girls to have threesomes with them in the bathroom, or even one that involved me riding a barrel attached to a rope hanging from the ceiling that made me aroused.

I don't know what these dreams mean nor do I know how to stop them, they just make me feel weird. Is this normal?

It's normal to have these dreams. THe dream itself is meaningless. THe cause of these dreams are hormonal associated with puberty. Boys have these dreams as well and usually end up with them ejaculating in there slee THe guys call them wet dreams. If you haven't had a climax in your sleep you will at some point.

As I said the dreams themselves are meaning less. They don't mean this is the type of sex life you want or will have as an adult. They are simply hormonal stimulation. If you do orgasm relax and enjoy the feeling.

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I'm 16. I consider myself straight and had never done anything with another girl until this summer. My friend persuaded me to experiment and I found I really enjoy doing things with her. Part of it is because there's no worrying about getting pregnant. We can just have fun.

We've had a couple sleepovers this summer. We told her parents we were just gonna stay up late and watch movies and stuff. But after they'd gone to bed we would have sex.

I'm struggling with what all this means. Am I really not straight but gay? Or bi? Should I bother worrying about it? Or should I relax and just enjoy it?

I also worry about how her parents and mine will react if they ever find out. They're really conservative.

What do you think I should do?

Not knowing your age complicates my answer a bit. I am guessing since you are having sleep overs you are in your early to mid teens, still in school probably high school. Should I be correct then I would say just relax and enjoy yourselves you are perfectly normal.

It is very normal for young people to experiment sexually within there own sex, meaning both boys and girls do so. You are not gay or even truly bi. As a teenager going through puberty you have sexual urges that need relief. You can relieve these urges through masturbation or sex. Being female having sex with a male has the danger of pregnancy. Having sex with another female allows you to relieve the sexual tension you have and explore your own sexuality. Meaning finding out what you like and don't like and you remain a virgin even if you use dildo's.

As for parents finding out? Not knowing your parents I can't answer for them. As a father and an adult my feeling would be,if I found my son or daughter having sex with someone of the same sex I would not go all ape over it. Then again when it comes to sex my views are very liberal. I would expect and prefer my son and daughter experiment within there own sex. I would and have encouraged masturbation for sexual relief. Most parents would not encourage masturbation thinking it leads to wanting actual sex.

I would not want my son getting some girl pregnant nor would I want my daughter becoming pregnant. Should your parents find out and have a massive fit over it just ride out the storm and them comely explain that experimentation is normal and you are not bi. This is just a safer means of finding your sexuality with out the fear of pregnancy.

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So I have a bit of a problem. I'm 27 years old and about a year ago I had sex for the first time. Considering the fact I hadn't masturbated for a few weeks before I lost my virginity, it was easy to get hard and I didn't last very long. After that, however, it was pretty much impossible to keep an erection when putting on a condom! The girl would give me a blowjob and I'd get hard, but by the time I put the condom on and change position, my penis would go soft! We tried to do it several times in one night, but just ended up having oral sex and I came every time. I thought maybe I didn't have enough stamina considering it was my first time... Or perhaps it was a mental block because the girl was kind of married so I was afraid her husband might come home unexpected...
However, a few weeks later I had sex with a different girl (she was single) but I had the same problem.
Why is this happening? I definitely felt aroused and I was attracted to both girls... I consider myself to be healthy and I was able to keep an erection during oral sex...

After all of this was over, I tried to put a condom on while I was alone and masturbating, but I had the same problem! I'm kind of worried.

I want to blame the condom... but I think guys usually have no problem keeping an erection during the few seconds it takes to put the condom on, right?

So what should I do?

Thanks in advance.

I'm not a doctor and cannot make a diagnoses. As far as masturbation being the cause of your problem I don't think so. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate.

You have some form of Erectile Dysfunction. The fact that you were a virgin until the age of 25 leads me to believe the problem may be more mental then physical but this is just a guess on my part. The was a reason for you not to have sex until this age. Possibly a belief in the fact that sex is only for married couples. Something you parents and church may have instilled in you.

My suggestion is you see your family doctor for a complete physical including a complete blood work-up to include a testosterone count. If nothing is found to be an organic problem then I suggest you see a psychologist one who specializes in sexual dysfunction.

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I'm almost 15, will be a Sophomore in September. I've heard conflicting views on sex; I heard from these two Seniors it isn't supposed to hurt if a guy warms you up for it, like how when you exercise you warm up first you don't just run a mile. I have a friend, however, and the older kids she knows say the first time around it hurts and you even bleed because you're still tight. I don't really get that because to me that sounds like if you have enough dicks shoved up there your vagina spreads out, but women's vaginas go back to normal size after childbirth. And I put tampons in just fine without any issues-the first time I put one in it felt weird, is it something like that? I don't really understand the concept of a tight vagina. I told that to my friend (whose a virgin) and she just kept going "nooo you bleed bc you're tight." So does sex hurt the first time and do you bleed?

Will first time sex hurt? That depends on several factors.
1. Is you Hymen still intact?
a. Even though you use Tampons you may not have ruptured your Hymen. In first time sex you are not only stretching your vagina for the first time you are also having a piece of tissue torn from you. There will be some pain, how much depends on the following information and how well you tolerate pain.
2. How much will you be able to relax?
a. Foreplay, warming up will help you relax. Problem is most boys your age up through early twenties do not know what proper foreplay is. He might suck on your nipples, stick his finger in you and if your real lucky maybe a quick minute of oral sex. Most boys do not know from love making. Most boys your age do not know the difference between lust and love
Boys your age are lustful; they want to put their penis in your vagina and get off, preferably without a condom. Never even your first time have sex without a condom until you are in a long term live together type arrangement, if not for pregnancy protection then from many of the STD’s and the HIV/AIDS virus.
3. Where your first sex takes place.
a. Part of relaxing is having sex in a comfortable and safe place. When your grandmother and I were your age many of us lost our virginity in the back seat of our parent car. It wasn’t very comfortable and not safe from intrusion either. Then there was always the worry some cop would find you mid sex act. You need to find a place that is safe, comfortable and secure from discovery or intrusion.
b.
Last but certainly not least you will most likely miss you next period. Not because you’re pregnant and even if you used a condom you will worry about getting pregnant. That worry is very stressful and stress will cause you to miss a period.

My advice is this. At 15 you are too young to be having sex. As I said the boys your age are not in love. They use lines like, “If you love me you will have sex with me.” They lust for you as I said earlier. The chances of you and this boy marrying is slim and almost none. After high school you will all go in separate directions and most likely never see each other again. I know puberty is causing you to feel things you have never felt before and sex is a way of dealing with it.

Stick to masturbation, giving handjobs and letting boys finger you. The longer you wait the easier it will be to have a perfect first time sex when all the conditions are right and you can relax and enjoy it. Masturbation is healthy and not sinful. Just go in your room lock the door and get comfortable. Can’t lock the door to your room, start taking baths in the evening and comfort yourself in the bathtub with the bathroom door locked.

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I'm a 13 year old girl and was wondering if it would be wrong to have sex with another guy my age.I really want to have sex and feel like I'm pretty ready. Wanted to know what anyone thought.

DO NOT HAVE SEX, YOUR BODY IS NOT READY. You may think your ready but your not. Yes the hormones of puberty are changing you from a girl into a young lady but your still not ready to have sex. For one thing it will be terribly painful as the hormones that unlock the muscles of the vagina which allows your vagina to expand and accept a penis have not been released yet. Your boyfriend may be able to force his way in and it will be a terrible experience for something, for the girl, that should be a wonderful loving experience.

For a boy loosing his virginity is nothing more then putting his penis in a vagina. For the girl it is much more then that. If you thinking of having sex with him because he has said something to the effect, "If you love me you will have sex with me." Donn't, that's a line that's as old as sex itself. He doesn't love you he lusts for you. Love and lust are not the same except in a horny young male's mind.

I'm just as sure with the hormones now floating through you that you have pent up sexual anxiety. Having or attempting to have sexual intercourse at your young age is is wrong, could even hurt you. Instead try masturbating.

There is nothing wrong with masturbating. Nearly 80& of the population do so including your parents except when they do it it is called mutual masturbation and it is part of there sex play before intercourse. You won't go to hell, go blind or grow hair in the palm of you hand for masturbating. It is a safe and healthy way to relieve sexual tension and explore your own body in the process. If your not sure how to masturbate there are plenty of tutorials on the web.

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My 12 year old son and daughter (fraternal twins) recently came out as gay. Of course, I'm happy that they felt comfortable sharing this information with my husband and I and we both want to be supportive.

I admit though that I'm a little lost when it comes to the issue of sleepovers. When I was a kid, I never would've been allowed to sleep over at a boy's house for obvious reasons. I'm just not sure that those reasons apply here. I don't know if any of their friends are gay or maybe questioning. But if that were the case, are there any good reasons for not allowing same sex sleepovers if it may lead to experimentation?

How you handle the sleep over question is one thing. The bigger question is at 12 years old do they really know they are gay or are they putting a tag on their sexuality before they even know what their sexuality is?

We receive many questions on the issue of AM I GAY. Doctors and scientist now agree that gay is how a person is born and not something they wake up and decide they are. If your children where born gay you would have possibly seen evidence to this as early as 4 or 5 years old. They would have felt they were different from others at about the same age.

It is very easy for kids to be labeled these days for many different reason. While it is good of you and your husband to be accepting of this I suggest you sit down with them and ask them about why they feel they are gay and how they come to believe they are gay. I would say there is better then an 80% chance someone has talked into to believing their gay.

It is also very normal at this age to sexually experiment with people of their own sex. For the girl it is safer as she cannot get pregnant. For the boy it is matter of relieving sexual tension and practicing for the real thing. IT does not make them gay or even bisexual. So talk to them and help them understand their sexuality before the label causes them problems neither you or they want.

To answer your question about same sex sleepovers. I would say go ahead and allow it. At this age they should be experimenting and doing so within their own sex is normal. Better to let them think they are getting away with something while your home incase feelings get hurt and there is a fight.

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Will fucking in asshole of women leads to pregnancy?

I guess you didn't take sex education in school yet or you did not pay attention, The anal system and the reproductive system are two different and distinct system that are not connected. That being so means having anal sex cannot make a women pregnant.

WARNING: ANAL SEX IS DANGERIOUS. the anus is full of bacteria that can be harmful to the male and the female through anal sex. IF any of the bacteria gets into the males penis either through the urethra or maybe a scratch on the penis and infection can form leading to anything from a urinary tract illness to a kidney infection.

You should never go from anal sex to regular vaginal sex without first washing the males entire groin and penis with hot soapy water to kill the germs. Also forget whet you see in porno movies, never go from anal sex to oral sex as the same bacteria can be harmful and cause all sorts of infections for the women.

Thinking about the above if you do engage in oral sex it is highly recommended you use a good strong condom. When finished you still need to was both groin and anal area with hot soapy water.

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So this is a kinda weird question to ask. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now, but I'm afraid that once we meet and have sex, I'll get really embarrassed and nervous. Mostly, I'm anxious about how I'll look when I orgasm. Whenever I do, I can't help but... kind of twitch, I guess. My muscles spasm randomly and I jerk around a little. Usually my head goes forward, it's like I'm curling up around my tummy. I feel self-conscious about this. My boyfriend is so sweet and gentle, he always is really sweet when I feel insecure and calms me down when I feel anxious and start panicking. But I'm worried what he'll think. Mostly I'm worried about how nervous I'll be because I'm worried about that.

The fact that he can bring you to orgasm is something he should find very pleasing. I would not find the way you orgasm upsetting or displeasing and I don't think he will either. What it means to me is I was able to bring you to a major orgasm and not one of those mini ones.

My wife orgasms somewhat as you do. When we were dating I thought she was faking a no other women I had been with did anything more than maybe scream and claw at me or the bed sheets. Then she explained to me that she is very orgasmic especially vaginally.

Meaning if I played with her clit I might get her to orgasm but it would not be the same. But if I fingered her or we had intercourse her orgasms are stronger and this is how her body reacts when she has a major orgasm.

Suggestion: As long as this is how you orgasm relax and enjoy the sexual pleasure of the orgasm. Talk with your boyfriend before you have sex and tell him that this is how you orgasm if he brings you to a major climax. Once you tell him he has a goal to reach to give you that orgasm that makes your body react as it does. Then he will be proud that he is able to do so.

Just know that this is how you are and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.

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My boy friend fuck me on my back side and releas in my back hole....the problem is many days to go periods not come....what the solution??

Anal Sex has nothing to do with your period. Your anus is all about the bodies waste system and nothing to do with your reproductive system.

If your period is late it is most likely do to stress over worry that you may be pregnant. Let me say it again YOU CAN NOT GET PREGNANT FROM ANAL SEX IT IS NOT POSSIBLE AT ALL.

Your period could be late or even missed if you have been sick or taken certain types of medication. so Stop stressing an relax your not pregnant and your period will come when your body is ready

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Do black women wear panties?

This is really a racist question that I refuse to answer.

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So a few months back i was going through her drawrs to find a certain shurt i was looking for.
Then i see this big object wrapped in a towel - i dont know why i unwrapped it because it was obviouse already im looking at a vibrator.
Also in the same drawer there was an electric tootbrush and a candle which im sure are also used for the same purpse as the vibrator.
Now, i accept the fact that she does that and i shouldnt have looked through her things but MANY TIMES since then i see the electric toothbrush and candle just laying around in full display on top of her night stand or in the bed. What should i do?? Its really making me uncoftarble. I think shes sick for having those things used for masturbation just displayed like that. Does she think im stupid? That u wont figure out what an electric toothbrush is doing in her bed all the time? Please help, how do i tell her about this if at all?

I'm going to be more direct then Dragonflymagic.

Your mother is an adult with and adults sex drive. If she is no longer with your father masturbation is an acceptable form of relief for pent up sexual anxiety. According to a recent survey about 85% of masturbate which includes married couples, singles and teens. Masturbation is healthy, you won't go blind from it and you won't grow hair in the palm of your hand.

Now unless you are responsible for cleaning your moms room what she leaves laying around on her nightstand or on her bed is none of your business. There are two things you can so about mom leaving things out in plain sight in her room.

First: Stay out of her room, it is her private space and you should ask permission to go in there. I know your saying there is a double standard as mom can go into your private space at any time. This is called parenting something you will do when you become a parent. This is how we make sure our children are not doing thins they shouldn't. Now while parent checking your room should mom find your masturbation toys she should just ignore them as you should ignore hers. Being female though you should and can expect mom to make some type of inquiry as to whether you are sexually active.

Two: If seeing these thing so much bothers you close her door so you don't see them when you pass by her room.

A third thing depends on the relationship you have with your mother. IF you have an open type of relationship where you can talk about anything then you can say something to you mom about her leaving her toys out and how it bothers you. This could open a discussion between you on how masturbation is healthy and if you are not masturbating mom encouraging you to try it before some boy talks you into having intercourse with him.

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Hi, I had sex with my bf on 25 of last month and my period date is 13 itz been 20 days I dint get my periods. I always get my periods on time probably this is the first tym it got so delayed. We had used condom and had done a water checking and it dint leak so still is it possible dat I may be pregnant plez help?

The short answer to your question is, Anything is possible. The probability that you are is pregnant is not likely.

There are many reasons other than pregnancy as to why a period is late or missed other then pregnancy. If your a teenager and living at home then you fall in to the biggest category for missed periods that being; anxiety and stress.

Stress causes more late or missed periods then actual pregnancy. as a female your body is more finally tuned ten a males and it doesn't take much to through it out of balance. Stress is the biggest factor, being ill is another factor and if you take any medications, prescribed or OTC, these can throw your system for a loop and you miss a period. This will happen form time to time until you hit menopause.

If you want to know for certain, and relieve the stress of not knowing. Then I recommend taking a home pregnancy test.


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Does where a man cums mean anything?

I'll go one step further with Dragonflymagic's answer since you were not descriptive in you question.

If you mean, "Does where a man cums mean anything" say while having sex then the answer would be in my mind yes.

Only vaginal intercourse can result in pregnancy. Oral or anal sex cannot make a women pregnant. When having any type of vaginal or anal intercourse the male should always wear a Condon. A condom will during vaginal sex protect against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus and works well in preventing pregnancy.

The anus has many germs and anyone engaging in anal intercourse the male should wear a condom to protect himself from those germs then after wash himself with hot soapy water around his entire groin area. Never go from anus to vagina without first washing.

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Hi F/18
Me and my bf had intercourse. We used a condom and I had a low chance of getting pregnant( had sex 2 days after my period ended). I took a pregnancy test 2days before the day I actually should (2 weeks after sex) and it was negative. My period is due in a week but I have really bad cramping in my lower abdomen. I have a waterish discharge and it's colourless. I feel a bit queezy but not as much. No change in my boobs. What should I do?

Your not pregnant. For 85% of women they have a safe window of 7 days after their period and 7 days before their period where they can have sex and not get pregnant. The 14 days in between is the span of time during which you ovulate. It is during a 3 day window on either side of ovulation that a women can get pregnant is she has unprotected sex or is not on some type of birth control.

The other things you write about are all completely normal for a woman your age. For one thing you may still be experiencing things related to puberty as for many puberty can last into their early twenty's. Your body may still be getting use to new hormones being released.

This present experience has nothing to do with the fact that you had sex. Not all women experience bad cramping with every period or watery discharge.

Now none of us are doctor's we right or answer from personal experience or education. Therefore it is my advice if you have any concerns a phone call to your GYN is appropriate to put your mind at ease. Your GYN knows you best and if needed an appointment will be made for an examination though I feel just speaking with your doctor will ease you mind.

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y is it dat someone feel pain after having sex for the frist time also is a must blood must come out during sex also will someone get pergnantduring sex without using condom

Lets start with the last part first. Condoms serve two purposes. First; they offer a great means of protection against pregnancy when worn correctly, Because the male must know how to wear a condom they are statistically 85% affective in preventing pregnancy. Second; a condom prevents the transmission of many of the SYDS and the HIV/Aids virus.

A gentleman will always wear a condom when having sex until he and his partner are in a long term relationship and they both have been tested for SATDS and the HIV/AIDS virus and his partner is on some other form of birth control.

These days the deck is stacked against you to have sex with someone and not insist on condoms. There is always the possibility of an STD and if you are the male. That few minutes of fun can lead to q8 years of responsibility for the child that results of the few minutes of fun.

As to pain for the first intercourse for a women and bleeding. Some women feel pain some don't. As for bleeding a women whose Hymen is intact will bleed when the penis ruptures it. If her Hyman is not intact it does not mean she is not a virgin. Todays women are very active in sports and other activities that could dislodge the Hyman. "The use of Tampons can also dislodge the Hyman.

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