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Keeping an erection
So I have a bit of a problem. I'm 27 years old and about a year ago I had sex for the first time. Considering the fact I hadn't masturbated for a few weeks before I lost my virginity, it was easy to get hard and I didn't last very long. After that, however, it was pretty much impossible to keep an erection when putting on a condom! The girl would give me a blowjob and I'd get hard, but by the time I put the condom on and change position, my penis would go soft! We tried to do it several times in one night, but just ended up having oral sex and I came every time. I thought maybe I didn't have enough stamina considering it was my first time... Or perhaps it was a mental block because the girl was kind of married so I was afraid her husband might come home unexpected...
However, a few weeks later I had sex with a different girl (she was single) but I had the same problem.
Why is this happening? I definitely felt aroused and I was attracted to both girls... I consider myself to be healthy and I was able to keep an erection during oral sex...
After all of this was over, I tried to put a condom on while I was alone and masturbating, but I had the same problem! I'm kind of worried.
I want to blame the condom... but I think guys usually have no problem keeping an erection during the few seconds it takes to put the condom on, right?
So what should I do?
Thanks in advance.
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It's not the condom. Believe it or not, you can be turned off by bad situations. Perhaps your brain knew that you weren't supposed to be sleeping with a married woman. So you were distracted. It is possible that that thought interfered with your ability to become erect.
Find a good girl, one that you like. Take it from there. I have a feeling that you may be leaning more towards an emotional connection type of orientation.
Take a look on the Google machine: Demi-Sexual
Just explore yourself. You're young and you've barely started.
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Follow advicemans advice. In todays age, it is becoming more common for younger males to have the same problem as the older ones do. I did have a boyfriend once who took a prescribe pill daily for having a low testosterone count and that is what interfered with his abilities sexually. However at the time I knew him, he could perform fine. My husband is now having some trouble with staying erect. It seems I can get him there with hand job or oral sex. In fact, I've had a few girlfriends not bashful of talking bout this stuff and have heard that their husbands also get hard with oral sex but then have trouble staying hard. For older men, it's probably a different medical reason behind it. My husband can feel desire but can't stay hard. Its not a matter of desire or not but whats going on medically or sometimes both medical and psychological. I don't recommend just taking viagra without consulting a Dr. first. The husband only takes it maybe once every 3,4 days. The side effects are slight but bother him if he takes it more often. So I do know that plenty of older men can get hard but have trouble staying hard. And also that younger men can need more testosterone to be able to get the erection. There may be other reasons also but its best to see your regular Dr who can refer you to a Urologist. This is the kind of dr who deals with this kind of thing.
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I'm not a doctor and cannot make a diagnoses. As far as masturbation being the cause of your problem I don't think so. According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate.
You have some form of Erectile Dysfunction. The fact that you were a virgin until the age of 25 leads me to believe the problem may be more mental then physical but this is just a guess on my part. The was a reason for you not to have sex until this age. Possibly a belief in the fact that sex is only for married couples. Something you parents and church may have instilled in you.
My suggestion is you see your family doctor for a complete physical including a complete blood work-up to include a testosterone count. If nothing is found to be an organic problem then I suggest you see a psychologist one who specializes in sexual dysfunction.
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