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I'm 16. I consider myself straight and had never done anything with another girl until this summer. My friend persuaded me to experiment and I found I really enjoy doing things with her. Part of it is because there's no worrying about getting pregnant. We can just have fun.
We've had a couple sleepovers this summer. We told her parents we were just gonna stay up late and watch movies and stuff. But after they'd gone to bed we would have sex.
I'm struggling with what all this means. Am I really not straight but gay? Or bi? Should I bother worrying about it? Or should I relax and just enjoy it?
I also worry about how her parents and mine will react if they ever find out. They're really conservative.
What do you think I should do?
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Not knowing your age complicates my answer a bit. I am guessing since you are having sleep overs you are in your early to mid teens, still in school probably high school. Should I be correct then I would say just relax and enjoy yourselves you are perfectly normal.
It is very normal for young people to experiment sexually within there own sex, meaning both boys and girls do so. You are not gay or even truly bi. As a teenager going through puberty you have sexual urges that need relief. You can relieve these urges through masturbation or sex. Being female having sex with a male has the danger of pregnancy. Having sex with another female allows you to relieve the sexual tension you have and explore your own sexuality. Meaning finding out what you like and don't like and you remain a virgin even if you use dildo's.
As for parents finding out? Not knowing your parents I can't answer for them. As a father and an adult my feeling would be,if I found my son or daughter having sex with someone of the same sex I would not go all ape over it. Then again when it comes to sex my views are very liberal. I would expect and prefer my son and daughter experiment within there own sex. I would and have encouraged masturbation for sexual relief. Most parents would not encourage masturbation thinking it leads to wanting actual sex.
I would not want my son getting some girl pregnant nor would I want my daughter becoming pregnant. Should your parents find out and have a massive fit over it just ride out the storm and them comely explain that experimentation is normal and you are not bi. This is just a safer means of finding your sexuality with out the fear of pregnancy.
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Hon, this is normal. You can be straight as a teen and for the sake of not wanting to get pregnant, have sex with a girl. And of course, sex is enjoyable if you have partner who cares about working on you as much as you enjoy working on her.
Another plus from this is that you learn what you do like and not. THis helps when you are older and have a male for sex, you will be able to explain to him what it is that you like rather than go through the learning stage about your body with him. The only learning with a new partner is what they like. As for the parents, I understand as I was conservation when I was younger. You dont have to tell them. Some churches are very uptight about sex and even alternative medicine. I know. I used to hear all that stuff myself. Supposedly even masturbation was evil. Exploring ones sexuality is actually a healthy and smart thing to do, as long as you are staying safe from disease and to not get pregnant. So you shouldn't worry that you are doing anything wrong. Some church leaderships can go quite overboard on what they teach. Even people who don't attend church seem to pick up these ideas. Make sure to be careful so they don't find out. Make sure covers are over you in case they happen to enter bedroom unless it has a locking door. You can always say you were having a tickle fight and do some laughing. You are definitely old enough to be exploring and engaging in sex with a female so just enjoy it.
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