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Found my moms vibrator
So a few months back i was going through her drawrs to find a certain shurt i was looking for.
Then i see this big object wrapped in a towel - i dont know why i unwrapped it because it was obviouse already im looking at a vibrator.
Also in the same drawer there was an electric tootbrush and a candle which im sure are also used for the same purpse as the vibrator.
Now, i accept the fact that she does that and i shouldnt have looked through her things but MANY TIMES since then i see the electric toothbrush and candle just laying around in full display on top of her night stand or in the bed. What should i do?? Its really making me uncoftarble. I think shes sick for having those things used for masturbation just displayed like that. Does she think im stupid? That u wont figure out what an electric toothbrush is doing in her bed all the time? Please help, how do i tell her about this if at all?
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I'm going to be more direct then Dragonflymagic.
Your mother is an adult with and adults sex drive. If she is no longer with your father masturbation is an acceptable form of relief for pent up sexual anxiety. According to a recent survey about 85% of masturbate which includes married couples, singles and teens. Masturbation is healthy, you won't go blind from it and you won't grow hair in the palm of your hand.
Now unless you are responsible for cleaning your moms room what she leaves laying around on her nightstand or on her bed is none of your business. There are two things you can so about mom leaving things out in plain sight in her room.
First: Stay out of her room, it is her private space and you should ask permission to go in there. I know your saying there is a double standard as mom can go into your private space at any time. This is called parenting something you will do when you become a parent. This is how we make sure our children are not doing thins they shouldn't. Now while parent checking your room should mom find your masturbation toys she should just ignore them as you should ignore hers. Being female though you should and can expect mom to make some type of inquiry as to whether you are sexually active.
Two: If seeing these thing so much bothers you close her door so you don't see them when you pass by her room.
A third thing depends on the relationship you have with your mother. IF you have an open type of relationship where you can talk about anything then you can say something to you mom about her leaving her toys out and how it bothers you. This could open a discussion between you on how masturbation is healthy and if you are not masturbating mom encouraging you to try it before some boy talks you into having intercourse with him.
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Is one of your chores to clean Moms bedroom or make her bed? I doubt it. But if it is, then you may ask her to put anything she uses for masturbation, out of sight.
As for sharing clothes, if you want to borrow any of her clothes, that is okay as long as she knows about it. After all, all my girls liked borrowing clothes of mine. However do not go in and obtain the top or whatever, yourself. Ask her if you could borrow it and ask her to get it for you. If she tells you to go get it yourself, only then do you say you'd rather have her go get it so you don't have to view any possible sex toys left out in the open.
Otherwise, there is no need to bring up something that is private for each individual as to whether they use any sex toys and what they use.
In what I say next, i don't mean to sound like I am on your Moms side. You are likely very young and not ready to see such things or interested in only for yourself but like most children of all ages including grownups, we don't want to try to picture our parents having sex or doing masturbation. However it is a normal thing for anyone past puberty, no matter how old. Another reality you likely have not experience yet yourself, I will share to possibly explain why such items are left lying about. Once a woman has had a good orgasm, or two, she can be quite drained of energy and so relaxed we sometimes fall asleep before we can put things away. Not always, but I'd venture to say a quarter of the time. If one does this activity every night, then of course sex toys can be left out. By sex toys I am including any household items including sometimes certain vegetables.
I will close with what I remember from an Oprah show long ago when she interviewed a female gynecologist. This women also was an advocate for sex education as far as letting people know how healthy it is to have sex. She cited 3 or 4 health issues that can come up if women do not have sex regularly. Men have their own set of issues as well. So if one does not have or want a bf or friends with benefits or has a marriage partner,, then it is vital to do masturbation. ONe benefit for both sexes is its a good stress reliever. But theres much more.
SO in the end, to avoid seeing these things, do not go into her bedroom under any circumstances. If she gives you permission to go in, then let her know you don't want to in case she has these things laying about. And then you could ask nicely of her to keep these things hidden and out of sight. Otherwise, say nothing.
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