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I'm male, 13yrsold and want sex
I'm male, 13yrsold and want sex now but I can't? Also I'm gay
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You're not going to like my answer because at your age, due to puberty the urges for sex are there but it's still a young age to start because it takes a lot of responsibility and knowledge to be having sex with a partner, so we need to give our minds a while to catch up with our urges. The best thing I suggest any young teen do is to masturbate. I know it's not the same as sex with another person but most people at your age truly have to way to go about it. Girls need a birth control and womens clinics don't hand it out this early, then there is acquiring condoms, and even having a place to have sex, or the parents okay with it as such a young age. I remember being that old. I know how we don't like being told we are too young and the only way to have perspective is once you get past that age and look back but by then you can't undo any bad first sex experiences. In talking once to a group of adults where the topic was sharing about your first sexual experience, not a single adult could say it was good or fun, It was a bad experience for every single one. And no, I am not exaggerating, this is true or I wouldn't be sharing it.
As for feeling you may be gay, that is something that is not set in stone yet. Only one thing I know of where children at usually age 3 and on already know their gender, can know at an early age that they are transgender, meaning the gender they were born with is not the gender they feel inside. This is something known already in the mind at such an early age. One's sexual preferences are a bit more complicated. So other than gender identity, knowing your sexual preference is going to be understood for sure after you hit your early twenties and in some cases, later like closer to 30. There are more classifications than just gay. A common misunderstanding is a person feeling they are gay when in fact they may be bi sexual. I have known plenty of bi sexual females in my life and almost every single one was married and was attracted to her husband. However that is the only male she was attracted to sexually, otherwise, she was sexually attracted to females. In asking some of the husbands what they thought of it, they never felt threatened, wanted to support the wife's desires, just be safe, and also, I don't think I ever met a husband who was also bi. I have recieved letters on advicenators from young HS grads or those in college who were confused, when thinking all along they were gay, and then meet that one person of the opposite sex for whom they have a very strong sexual desire, but not just the sex, they are also best of friends and yet they still are attracted to the same sex. Bi sexuality doesn't seem to be talked about as much as transgender or being gay. Then theres A sexual, Pansexual, and so on, other sexual preferences that are not often talked about and some people don't even know about those, or don't believe there is such a thing, simply because they haven't heard of it. I actually had a male write that a girl he flirted with said, Sorry but I am A-sexual and he thought she was making that up as an excuse to say she wasn't interested.
For your future, I would also like to give some advice. There is sex just as a recreational activity and there is sex that results as an outpouring of the love two people have for each other. I have had both. I don't say it's bad to have sex if you don't love the person, but you may just like them as a friend and therefore the term, friends with benefits. The one thing I streas is that you be honest up front and let a person know whether this is more lust and recreational, or love and an outpouring of that love. The parter may not feel the same as you. I am sure there are many gay men who will feel the same as females who feel used if they assume you are interested in them for more than sex when that isn't the case. The only real difference between a friend and a dating partner, mate, spouse, is that friends lack the sexual desire for each other. Otherwise, partners are not only best of friends but also have sexual desire. Keep trying to find those who you feel both for rather than try the balancing act where you piss off and lose your mate if you have one partner for friendship only and one for sex only. Find both qualities in one person. As you can see, this is advice for your future and stuff few people ever talk about but I have no problem with it and actually wish it were taught somehow at your age. There'd be less heartache and problems if simple info like this was known and followed.
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It is not unusual to be wanting sex at your age. It is the hormones of puberty playing havoc on you body.
You are way to young to be putting a label on your sexuality. If you are gay it would be something your born with and would know at a lot earlier age. At 13 you are still in the early stage of puberty and your hormones are running wild. Most all of us at this age have mixed feeling about our sexuality and it is not uncommon to have sexual feeling for someone of the same sax.
Most of us, boys and girls, feel safer experimenting with someone of the same sex. As you get more comfortable with your sexuality you most likely find girls attractive sexually.
But very important at your age is not to announce to the world you are gay. Doing so will subject you to bullying and gay bashing by other kids in school.
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