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I feel insecure about how I orgasm.
So this is a kinda weird question to ask. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now, but I'm afraid that once we meet and have sex, I'll get really embarrassed and nervous. Mostly, I'm anxious about how I'll look when I orgasm. Whenever I do, I can't help but... kind of twitch, I guess. My muscles spasm randomly and I jerk around a little. Usually my head goes forward, it's like I'm curling up around my tummy. I feel self-conscious about this. My boyfriend is so sweet and gentle, he always is really sweet when I feel insecure and calms me down when I feel anxious and start panicking. But I'm worried what he'll think. Mostly I'm worried about how nervous I'll be because I'm worried about that.
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I'm pretty sure he'll be enjoying that.
He'd be happy he can pleasure you. It would most likely be a turn on.
It's not weird to orgasm the way you do. It's pretty common anyway.
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Adviceman gave all the correct details already. You are perfectly normal. I am female and can tell you that I twitch too. Actually anything from twitches to shudders throughout my body after an orgasm. You can not stop these, these all are voluntary and will slowly get lighter and lighter. All women make slightly different sounds. I know a gal who told me the sounds she makes are the ascending notes of the musical scale when she is close to, or orgasming. That is the funniest one I have heard of but hon, the guys won't think its funny, its very fulfilling to be able to bring your partner to orgasm. Thats how I feel when I can do that for my husband and he says theres a certain sense of pride for him in being able to bring me to orgasm over and over. It's like I am a new Christmas toy he can't stop playing with, pressing this button, flipping that lever.
You are young and if you are not ready to have a partner for sex, then don't do it. Besides, most young girls after sex, even with condoms, worry they might get pregnant and their worry leads to late cycles and they freak out unnecessarily. So if after you have sex the first time, you decide you want to continue doing this, then get on birth control.
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The fact that he can bring you to orgasm is something he should find very pleasing. I would not find the way you orgasm upsetting or displeasing and I don't think he will either. What it means to me is I was able to bring you to a major orgasm and not one of those mini ones.
My wife orgasms somewhat as you do. When we were dating I thought she was faking a no other women I had been with did anything more than maybe scream and claw at me or the bed sheets. Then she explained to me that she is very orgasmic especially vaginally.
Meaning if I played with her clit I might get her to orgasm but it would not be the same. But if I fingered her or we had intercourse her orgasms are stronger and this is how her body reacts when she has a major orgasm.
Suggestion: As long as this is how you orgasm relax and enjoy the sexual pleasure of the orgasm. Talk with your boyfriend before you have sex and tell him that this is how you orgasm if he brings you to a major climax. Once you tell him he has a goal to reach to give you that orgasm that makes your body react as it does. Then he will be proud that he is able to do so.
Just know that this is how you are and it is nothing to be embarrassed about.
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