There's this guy from my clique who likes to irritate me. But anyway, he makes fun of everyone. I'm rather close to him as in like I can talk to him. Both of us belong to the same clique and I guess i can talk to him pretty well as compared to the rest in my clique.
Recently, he kept criticising bout me. Whenever he knows a guy is interested in me, he'd be like "What?! He has really bad taste". There's this other guy who was interested in me and he happens to know that guy as well. So he was telling me "Ya, anyway, he has really bad taste. His favourite girls from the FHM magazine are all not nice."
And he likes to put me down, saying for eg "everyone in our class is quite pretty.. except for ___(my name)"
And when i just randomly told him that someone said i look like one of the girls from a pop group,(the girl is a tomboy) he'd say "ya , people say that you look like the ugly lesbian part of her right?"
And I'd be like OK FINE! just what the hell is your problem. Can someone tell me just what the heck is he doing cos he's really pissing me off a lot. And it's not like he's so handsome ok! He's not handsome at all! And I'll be like yeah what right do you have to criticise people's appearance.
He likes you. His behaviour is his immature way of expressing that liking. He's also probably afraid of rejection. Give it a few years, and you two might be a couple(if he grows up that is). But from what you say, him fancying you is the most likely explanation.
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Hey. So, I got into a fight with my best guy friend. And, we were yelling at each other over Aim...the thing is, i tried apologizing, and he was like why are you being all nice now etc. But, i wasnt the one that should have apologized,because only 1 thing was my fault. and he misunderstood it. My friend stays mad, at things...i dont want this to ruin our friendship...any advice?
Aaah, we women. So often, we find ourselves apologizing when we shouldn't, and submitting when we are the ones who really know what's best in any given situation. What you should do is let him know that he's your friend and that you still love him, but that you aren't going to eat an unlimited amount of humble pie. In other words, you should say to him something along the lines of,
"Look,(insert name) I know that what I said to you hurt you, and I'm sorry for it. But please undersatnd that you misunderstood me, what I really meant to say was (insert explanation). Plus, please understand that you said some pretty hurtful things to me as well, but I'm more than willing to forgive you, and to restart our friendship on a clean slate. I only hope that you can feel the same way about me".(insert any extras,in jokes, et. al., as you see fit).
Basically. all you can do is tell him that you love him, and that you hope that the two of ypu can still be friends. Above that, there's not a lot that you can do. Take care, and good luck.
Lucretia.
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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
Good question. You can only discover whether someone is worthwhile by getting to know them. It's true that many people are both cruel and duplicitous, but many more are truly kind, plus there's the majority of us, who are somewhere in between. But I do believe that there are very many kind people out there- remember that kindness can exist without integrity, but is much more effective with it. As for "everything always being about sex" -believe me, there's no "lately" about it. Without sex, we wouldn't be here. Sex isn't evil in itself- neither is lust. What is bad is when lying and manipulation become involved;sex is the most effective power tool in the world,that's just a basic fact. Face it, know it, and you needn't be afraid of it because you don't have to live by those rules. You have a good heart and mind, and curiosity. That'll be enough to see you through. If you want to discuss these issues further, then drop a question in my inbox.
Lucretia x.
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What are some reasons why a man would stay in a bad marriage? A friend of mine is married to an older woman who is mentally and financially abusive to him. She tries to control his friendships and won't let him talk on his phone to some of his friends. She has also isolated him from his family. She is a very bitter, jealous, vindictive woman. She is extremely unnatrractive because she's been smoking since she was 12. Her teeth are stained and her face is all wrinkled. She looks 20 years older than her real age (54). That part shouldnt matter except her personality is just as ugly. They have no children together, but she has two grown kids from her first marriage. They are both heroin addicts, and have stolen in total 6000 dollars from my friends credit card.
They use to run a cafe together and lost customers because they fought like cats and dogs. I heard they would scream at each other. I don't think he loves her, atleast not anymore. He's even admitted to customers that he hated having to put up with working with her everyday. I doupt they even have sex anymore. So my question is why do you think they are still together? Do you think he's afraid of what she might do to him if he left?
I am going to answer your question with another question: what's it to you? You don't mention your gender- I might be way off here, but I'm guessing you're a woman and that you have a crush on this man. If so, give it up! Who knows the dynamics of their relationship? I agree that it doesn't sound either healthy or supportive, but quite frankly if he's unhappy, it's his responsibilty to get out. You shouldn't involve yourself too much(this is true whether you're male or female). Some people seem to thrive on abuse- your friend sounds like one of them. Who knows, perhaps he had a domineering mother. Or one who couldn't care less about him, meaning that he feels any attention is good, even when it's clearly destructive. By all means, be a supportive friend-if he shows signs of leaving, encourage it,but in a practical way. Don't sleep with him unless and until he is formally separated from his wife. If you do, you'll only get embroiled in their whole mess, which is between the two of them to sort out. Or not, as the case will probably be.
Good luck.
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Well my x bestfriend bobby, we have been friends for more then years
before we were in 1st grade, now were both in 10 grade high school.
Well it was just me him his brother and Trevor my other xbestfriend he
was are friend at 6 th grade, so me and bobby were the first. (and his
brother Thad) Well last year me and bobby both got a guitar, so we
started to talk to two kids (Vinnie and Vito) because they are great
at guitar and we wanted lessons, so before we know it we hang out with
them evey day. were having fun its been like six mouths, so were good
friends. well Vinnie and Trevor always beat on bobby, and we were all
throwing empty waterbottes at everyones, them we stoped. Bobby likes
to sing so he started to sing, so i picked up a waterbotte and i throw
it at him now hard. Vito right after throw it at his face. So the next
day everyone hates me because of that. That was six mouths ago. I
started to talk to bobby only on the phone, but only like every two
weeks. Now i don't have any one to hang out with. I was one of the
only people he trusted. SO PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I HAVE TO DO SO WE CAN
BE FRIENDS AGIAN!!!!! Or help me to stop thinking about him.
Dear oh dear, boys will be boys. It's a little tricky for me to answer this question, as I'm generally much better on female friendships than on male, but since you've dropped it in my inbox I'll give it my best shot....
To start off, I don't think it matters all that much who's best friends (or even ex best friends) with who-the point is that or some reason you were scapegoated, made to take responsiblity for an unfortunate situation that was only partially your fault. That said, if you were really one of the only people Bobby trusted , then your behavior was the worse, since it was more of a betrayal than it was for Vito. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty-this ganging up and teasing the most vulnerable member of a group is all too common, and occurs every bit as frequently with girls as it does with boys. I think that it's really good that you want to be friends with Bobby again-no you should not stop thinking about him, that would be very sad. Actually, it seems to me that you're going in the right direction with Bobby-even once only two weeks is something, and you should gradually but steadily increase the number of times you call. Remember that you hurt him(however unintentionally) and it will take time to regain his trust. Time well spent. As for having been dropped by the group, well my friend that's just the unfairness of life, and the sooner you realise it the better for you. But if you can salvage your friendship with Bobby, then both of you will emerge stonger people from this whole sorry situation.
The best of luck, and drop me a line for more advice or just to let me know how it all went.
Lucretia x
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hey i'm a guy and have a girlfriend, i love her and everything. i was wondering...i havn't asked her yet, but would it be a bad thing if i sent valentines day cards to my friends that are girls? some of them i'm really good friends with and i wouldn't want to do it if it offended my girlfriend or let her think the wrong idea. should i just ask her about it, or am i over-analyzing things? i am getting my girlfriend a gift, but would it be wrong to send a few cards to my friends as well? what do you think, thanks in advance.
What a lovely idea! I'm quite sure that if you explain it to her, she wouldn't be offended;in fact I would go so far as to say if she was(I mean after discussion) you would need to rethink your relationship, for it would show a mean spirit on her part. But I'm sure she won't. Of course you should get her more than you get your friends, but I think sending something to everyone is more truly in keeping with the spirit of the day than all this exclusive lovey-dovey stuff.
Good on you!
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Well my friend at school is really beautiful and very flirtatious and all the guys like her, but im kinda the tomboy girl who all the guys "hang out with" but dont "go out with". but recently her ex bf has started to like me but he says he still likes my friend (his ex) and she still likes him too(she is in a relationship), soo please help and tell me what to do !
I would say go carefully; your situation is somewhat delicate. From reading your question, you sound like a much better candidate for a girlfriend than your friend-(some) guys come to recognize this as they get older, and those than don't are the lightweights that you shouldn't bother with. Your crush sounds more sensible:his behaviour is however not acceptable, as it not only could drive a wedge between you and your friend, but also leaves you unsure and perhaps feeling inadequate, in the shadow of your friend and her beauty. Tell him that he has to make a definite choice between the two of you-if he likes her, let him ask her back out, if you, then go for it and nevermind her. Ultimatuming him may seem harsh, but he musn't get away with umming and aahing and stringing you along.
There is however a disadvantage to the procedure which I have just outlined: what if he indeed chooses you over her, and she gets mad? If he was anyone but an ex of hers, I would say that all's fair in love and war-the rules for exes are however a little different. I would still say though that if she's a real friend of yours, she would be happy. Talk to her first, and see what gives.
Good Luck.
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Why would a married man lie to his wife about his wherabouts? This is what happened. I've been friends with this man and his wife for the last 3 years. They have both been working out of town for the last year and only come home once a month to pay their bills. Well I had my friend come over for a visit to my appartment. We were just talking and I was filling him in on all the latest town gossip. Nothing was going on sexually for him to feel quilty about, which is why what happend next was so odd to me. His cell phone rang, and he looked hesitant to answer it. Well he decided to answer, and it was his wife. She was asking where he was, and he LIED right in front of me to her! He said he was out "shopping". Then he hung up. He also had this really guilty look on his face. Why would he lie to her? His wife knows we are friends, and that nothing would have happened between us. They both know I am a virgin and saving myself for marriage. Does anyone have any ideas why he would lie to his wife, and why he was acting so quilty? Do you think this might mean there are problems in his marriage?
I am not sure whether or not the situation that you have described signifies problems in their marriage:not neccesarily, and anyway it's not really relevant. The point is that this man is behaving inappropriately to you. The fact that he feels the need to lie to his wife when he is around you suggests to me that he has feelings for you which would not bear too close inspection. Your question doesn't mention the age gap, if any, between you and this couple-I'm assuming that they're older than you. If so, then that makes the situation more dodgy-some older men get a strange vicarious thrill from being around young girls, perhaps especially if those girls are virgins-you're forbidden fruit as yet unplucked, more subtly sexy than some skank ass ho.
Whatever their ages, however, you still need to go carefully. I say avoid him. That's no way for a married man to behave.
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I have a question about a guy who I'm friends with. He had invited me and some other friends of his to celebrate his wifes birtday at a local restaurant.
Well I was the 3rd person to arrive and from the minute I sat down next to him and his wife he gave me attitude. He asked me a question and I thought he said "where's the gang", I aswered that they hadnt arrived yet. Then he YELLED at me and said "I SAID WHERES THE GIG"!
When everyone else had arrived (there was about 20 people) his wife started opening her gifts. When she opened my gift someone asked where the card was. I didnt get her a card, just a gift and he (her husband) snapped "there IS no card".
Well after this abusive behavior and no one defending me I went to the bathroom. When I walked out he came up to me. I told him I was leaving because I felt uncomfortable. He asked me if I would be going to another function with him and his wife the next day and I told him no I was going to my parents. Well then he did something that I thought was almost a little voilent. He stuck his face REALLY close to mine (like we could have almost kissed ) and said in a loud, mean, voice 'IM SO SORRY".
This really freaked me out. My question is why do you think he would treat me this way? And does that mean he might be a violent person? Also do I have a right to think he was being an asshole?
Certainly he's an asshole. He's one of those people who delights in belittling and humiliating others, for some reason barely understood except by a therapist. And, frankly you're not this man's therapist, so why should you care?
I understand, however, that it's perhaps not as simple as that; there must have been some reason why you were friends. If, however(as your letter suggests)you didn't know him that well, then just be thankful you're not his wife, and avoid him socially as much as possible. Tricky if you work together(in which case be cicvil but not at all warm) otherwise do not answer calls or emails and he'll get the message.
Good Luck!
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OK well here it goes. My friend Marissa is my bestfriend but shes been really EXTREAMLY getting on my nervs latly. Shes making me think of her as a skank that leads guys on. Everytime i meet a new guy and talk to him after a while she ends up finding him too, which i dont mind at all dont get me wrong, but then they start talking more and more cause she talks "dirty" to them. She says shes only kidding when i confront her about it and she THINKS they know that but OBVIOUSLY the guys do NOT know she is. Ive asked my guy friends and they think shes serious. So that makes them better friends with her then me now and like her more! And it really pisses me off cause they all end up liking her more. Im with her all the time so its kinda hard to have them avoid her and i dont want them too cause im not like ganna keep her from sharing my friends too..I mean i want her to have my friends too! But the thing that really gets me is if they like me and then she talks to them then they like her more cause she talks "dirty" to them and says she loves them and things like that. I know im jealous ill admit it but it pisses me off when they end up liking her more. Im not like that im not ganna go talk dirty shit to all my guy friends. Like i said she says shes kidding but they dont get that!! Everything she does they like better. GOD! It even makes me mad just talking about it! I know i dont sound like a good friend but wtf its annoying! Theres one guy that flirts more with me then with her and guess what she doesnt like him. Like i had a birthday party a month ago and she wanted me to invite all the guys that like her more then me but are still good friends with me but NOT the one that pays attention to me!! I DONT KNOW WHAT THE HELL I SHOULD DO! Could someone PLEASE tell me how i can like get this to stop bugging me or what i should do? Im ganna go crazy one of these days!! THANKS SO MUCH! Sorry this is so long and ill rate 5's cause its so long and i sound like a maniac. LOL!
I can really identify with you. My best friend, who is probably some years older than yours, used to display a modified version of the same behaviour. She would come up and talk to guys, naturally and without difficulty, while I stood by, tounge-tied and shy. Guess who always walked away with he guy? You got it! Thing is though, none of her relationships ever lasted. What I am trying to get at with this somewhat rambling parralel is that you can't feel jealous of your friend for being different from you. Neither of you would be happy in the other's position, for you are two entirely different people. Instead of jealousy, you should feel pity, because the kind of guy who prefers a girl on account of her freedom with the horny talk is not ultimately the kind of guy that a happy girl would want.
What's more, Marissa clearly understands this,if only on a semi-conscious level; I suspect that her disregard for the boy who prefers you could mask an interest in him, or at least an angry curiosity as to why he isn't into her. Be happy at the interest of this boy, and don't be discouraged by the others-believe me, unless Marissa wises up, you'll be certain to have the last laugh. I can only hope that, when you do, your friendship is strong enough to sustain her inevitable jealousy. Meanwhilr, start looking around for other friends.
Good Luck!
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f/15
so me and my best friend went to high school and we met up with one of our elementary friends and she became really close with her again and i felt like i was getting pushed out tho i was becoming friends just not as good with the other girl. So i told them both but gave more crap about it to my best friend and they say that they are making an effort but they still do it. So i was talking to my best friend today and she said that she went to the mall with just the other girl and they went christmas shopping and i got kinda upset when she mentioned that she didn't invite everyone else..cuz im her best friend and now shes makin it seem like we are nto as close..and i accidentally cussed her out i was so upset. What do i do now? i cant even get up the nerve to talk to her.
Oh dear. There is no easy answer to your situation, which is an all too common one in female friendships(this applies to women of all ages-the fear of betrayal by one's friends is as primordial and acute as fear over straying lovers).
While I can fully understand why you feel angered and hurt by your friends' behaviour, you have to understand that by being jealous, you are driving them both away. It doesn't sound as if they are being intentionally malicious-more that they have naturally gravitated towards each other. This actually happens a fair bit in university, but there people tend to be older and happier to be more fluid(also, it is at university where most people grow up enough to settle on the few friends whom they care about most).
To get back to your problem, I would talk to your friend as soon as possible, preferably in person, otherwise on the phone. Don't IM, this one needs to be face to face. Apologise, as sincerely as you can make it sound, for cussing her out, but go on to explain that the business about the mall wasn't okay, and she shouldn't do that again. If she just blows you off and says w/e, then you need to give her space. Hang about with other people(some highschool cliques are more appraochable than others). Eventually your friend mightwell fall out with her other friend, in which case you guys could grow closer again. It sounds harsh, but just try to accept that this is the way of highschool friendships. Hope I helped.
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I am a girl age 15.
Few days back in school , when we were near basketball courts , I tried to pick my key chain from the floor, I could not control myself and farted loudly. It was a sudden incident. Six boys & girls were there all noted it and laughed, I was very much embarrassed and ran away from there. I am still upset. I told this to my elder sis, her first response was also a laugh. She tried to convince me that its natural and can happen with any body, she told me that once this was happened to her female teacher also. But I am still feeling guilt. Please advice me.
Don't worry! That exact same thing happened to me once, when I was about twelve. I also wanted to die of embarrasment, and was po'd with the people who laughed at me. In a few days, however, I, too saw the funny side. Hope that helped!
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I am Male 13.
I have liked this girl now for 5 years.We are the best friends you could ever hope for. But she doesn,t like me any more than just being friends. Now for a while I was fine with it, I just kept thinking I dont like her anymore and it worked,m for a while. I went to camp over the summer and she met,What she called a really hot boy. This made me realize I still like her. Now when ever i am around her I hurt. Now heres the question i dont know if i should quit being her friend or talk to her which is really hard when on the subject of me and her. Plus it doesn,t help that i feel stupid for feeling this way, should I feel stupid.
No,you shouldn't feel stupid, but neither should you stop talking to her. Five years is a long time to have been friends with someone, and if you cut that off you would lose her friendship without gaining her love, and that,trust me my friend, would hurt like very hell.
I have no more idea than you whether or not you should approach her in a romantic way. See, here's the deal-it might be that she doesn't, never has and never could see you as anything other than a friend. Or it just might be that you guys have been friends for so long that the thought of you as a boyfriend has merely never occured to her, but that if it did,she would welcome it. You will only discover which of these two scenarios is the true one by(very gently) probing her. Try putting a hand on her arm from time to time, just when you're talking normally. Hug her on parting(if you already do that, tying doing it for a second longer than normal). If she flinches away or seems unhappy with this, then there's your answer. If not, then you still have the problem of her"really hot guy". If they break up, you have the ideal oppurtunity to prove yourself as the man she's been waiting for. (in fact, you should wait until that happens to try the touching and hugging).
Whatever happens, remember that you are, first and foremost, her friend. Keep that whole and try not to let jealousy(which is not a sign of love)get in its way. The best of luck, lucretiax.
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Last year was my first year at this one school. In one of my classes there was this girl named *Kasey.*
She annoyed me so much. She tried to make me look bad, and make me feel like there was something wrong, or I was doing something the wrong way. But at the same time she tried to buddy up to me. She tried to become my friend and become friends with my bff. My bff doesn't like her(like me) and hse is really getting on my nerves. She is doing it this year to. my bff, her, and i are in the same class. If we do partners she either tries to have me or steal my bff from me and IT IS DRIVING ME CRAZY!
Whatdo I do to get her to bug off? I RATE HIGH!!! :)
I'm afraid that I have bad news for you: I don't think that there's a whole lot you can do about the infuriating "Kasey". I sympathise a lot with your situation-there was a girl much like her in the early years of my highschool, and she drove us all nearly to distraction. By the end of the second year(by which time she had moved schools) all the other class members were in a sort of unspoken pact to avoid her as much as possible, and to ignore her whenever she acted up.
Really, that's all you and your friend can do- you can complain about it to your other friends and suggest that they don't make her welcome in their group: if , that is , you go about in a group of friends. If however it's just you and you and your best friend, perhaps you could go to her, together, and say something like, "We know the sort of games you play, they don't work, and we won't speak to you until you stop". In England, this is called "sending someone to Coventry". Who knows, perhaps if she sees that you mean business, her behaviour might really change. Good luck!
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Omg please help me you guys. This is gonna be kinda long ,but im just really confused!
Okay. Here goes :
I have friends that are twins(Kateri&Teresa). And i have another friend named Emily. Emily goes to highskool and she's a freshman.So am i. and Kateria & Teresa are in 8th grade but they should be a freshman but w/e thats not the point. Okay Me and Emily haven't seen each other in sucha long time but we hung out on Friday with out friends.
Emily and the Twins were really close when we were all in skool 2gether .Like really close,almost like best friends. Now when me and emily hung out on friday i was totally happy to see her since i haven't seen her because she goes to a different highskool than me. And we started talkin about the twins. And Emily was like "I don't really like the twins anymore." and i go oh my god why not you guys are like best friends. and emily was like "i kno but there just soo...clingy" and i was like in shock.
Me and the twins totally talk still and i luv em. And they started talkin about how emily was acting really weird and stuff..Like everytime they invited her to hang out or something emily would just be like "Well i don't really have time.."
Now i don't wanna go behind emily's back and just tell the twins. Becuase it was really good to see emily and i totally missed her. But i don't want to NOT tell the twins because im afraid that they'll tell Emily that i told them and i don't wanna hurt them either. Im just soo confused and omg its like irritating!! My question is should i tell the twins what emily said and go behind emily's back? Or should i just not tell the twins. Oh my god im super sorry that it is soo long but im soo confused! i don't wanna hurt anybody because i feel so bad!! and i don't wanna start drama!! =( please help!!
PLEASE!!
While you are in a fairly awkward position, that requires a little delicate handling , I think that your basic dilemna "To tell or not to tell" is answered quite easily- "Don't". Because if you do, you run the very real risk of losing the friendship of both Emily and the twins. These middle/highschool friendships can be rather volatile: too often, peacemakers and well-intentioned bearers of bad tidings can end up as the common enemy, the shot messenger.
Your situation is eased considerably by the fact that none of you go to the same school(I assume that the eighth grade is in the junior highschool?).If you were all at the same school, Emily's contempt for the twins would blow up more dramatically and involve you much more directly: as it is, you can , with a little care, keep alive your frienship with all three girls.
Don't tell the twins that Emily said they were clingy- if you must say anything , hint that Emily has made new friends at her new school and is genuinely too busy with them and with her new and heavier courseload to keep up with them. You could even imply that she has also been a little cool with you, though I'd go carefully on that -you don't want to lose your integrity or jepordise your frienship with Emily. Just be as good a friend as you can to all parties and it should all come out in the wash, Sorry for the long answer:your situation is, as you say, confusing. Best of luck.
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Me and my bestfriend had a fight...I told him that I was talkin to someone that he doesnt like, im the kind of person that doesnt judge before actually getting to know a person, so he got really mad and told me never to talk to him again. I dont know what to do he wont answer me when I talk, and he ignores me. It's hard to just say "oh well i'll move on" because we shared so many things we even thought about going to prom together (im a girl) and now he doesnt even want to talk to me or anything. I dont know what to do I want him to be my friend again. I know he wont talk to me b/c he is doing it (not talkin to her) to someother girl who was talkin to his ex. He is the kind of person who holds grudges alot and cant forget things easy.
I just want him back :(.
You are in a difficult position- naturally you don't want to lose your best friend, BUT at the same time it can't be denied that he's acting unreasonably. I'm sure it's already occured to you, but does he perhaps have stronger feelings for you than those of ordinary friendship? It could be that he just feels jealous of your talking to other people.
Having said that, the reason for his acting up is actually fairly irrelevent. More to the point is the fact that his strange attitude is judging you for being the wise, kind and sensible person that you clearly are from your question.
It's his problem, not yours!Knowledge of which is, of course, no help to you in dealing with the situation now that it's blown up.On the other hand, it should help you to know that you really shouldn't apologise to him, however tempting it might feel and however much you miss him and feel that apologising would bring him back. The best thing you can do is to tell him that while your love for him is unchanged, you will talk to who you want and make friends based on how you think people behave. In short, you're not controlled by him!
(I do suppose that if this person that he didn't like actually did something real to upset him, you could promise not to get close to them, but the principle still holds). Basically, try to make your friend feel as secure as possible, but not to the extent that his friendship will become a stifling burden, stopping you from behaving naturally. No friendship is worth that price.
The very best of luck and enjoy the prom, no matter who you take as your date! lucretia xx.
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my two best friends go out, and we have been having problems because first my guy friend (Kyle) well i liked him but then it ended up not working out between us. well my best friend (katrina) said she liked him and went after him and now they're going out. there has been so much drama between usd on top of that they ditched me today and lately she has been constantly lying to me. i've already tried talking to them. i don't know what else to do other than drop both friends. any suggestions??
I find your question a little confusing- how'd you mean "they ditched you today"? Did you guys have plans and they blew you off or what? Anyway, the whole situation sounds awkward, as if they have slight guilt issues and are playing up because of them. I think that the best thing you can do is to search out new friends, and let your friendship with those two slide. Believe me, if they value you, they will try to resolve it.
On this latter point, a word of warning. If Kyle tries to go back out with you at any point DON'T DO IT. It wouldn't be worth the extra drama(which can seem like fun ,but isn.t really, just wearing). Neither of them are, ultimately, worth your friendship, perhaps especially not Katrina. Real best friends don't behave like that to each other. Best of wishes, lol lucretiaxx.
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Okay I made the dance team for my school.I'm usally fine performing in front of people.But i just found out that like 8 people from our football team likes me.I like one of them a lot.I'm just afraid that i'm going to mess up in front of them when i'm performing in front of the whole school.So what should i do to help me get over it?Our first game is this wednesday.Help!!please!!I'm 13 female in 8th grade if that helps any bit.
~Kristy~
8 people from the team? Blimey! You must be either very hot, very rich or you're deluded.....
But to be serious, just negatively visualise. Imagine that instead of chunky but innoccuous footballers, you're being watched by evil despots who will drop you in boiling oil if you don't perform to a certain standard. Think salome and the seven veils and you'll be allright. Good luck! Lucretia x
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Heyy. I'm Jamie and im 14/f
Okay my best friend is really annoying me lately. She doesnt tell me anything! She likes some one and told everyone but me and im one of her best friends! I got so mad at her because seems like she doesnt trust me but anyway shes also acting conceded like all these guys like her so everyday she'll talk to me online and be like so and so likes me and im like I dont care cause she constantly brags about it. I'm not jealous it's just soo annoying! To make it worse the one person I like likes her. I'll be like ur so lucky the one person I like likes you and she'll be like haha or laugh or something. She also says that she doesn't like this one girl Ashley that doesn't like me but she talks to her on the phone like almost every nite and went to her house a week ago! How two-faced is that!? What should I do!? Please don't say talk to her because that never works.Thanks!
I hate to say it, but it seems as if you've already answered your own question. Such behaviour as you've described is anything but friendly, and you deserve more than that from someone you value and consider to be close to you.
I speak from experience: I'm twenty-one and I came very close to completely abandoning my best friend after she displayed similar traits to yours(minus an Ashley equivalent). In our case, she was devestated when I told her and made a real effort to change- which might just be the difference between twenty-one and fourteen. Having said that, I am not sure you shouldn't talk to your friend, even if only to let her know, as you leave the friendship, how much she annoyed you. Good luck, Lucretia xx.
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