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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
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Well you can't really tell when people are being honest. People may say they are but there fake. Alot of people are talking about sex now. It's really weird, but i guess its from movies and there older siblings. Thats probably where they get it from. But god only knows haha.
~Kristy~
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You can't. Everybody has some level of dishonesty, and also badness. You just have to trust your gut first, and everyone else second. In other words, don't go putting all your faith into everyone you meet. It will come back to hurt you. But you're growing up, and that's the way the world is.
Everything is about sex lately...probably because of your age? You didn't specify how old you were so I'm just guessing here, but probably it's because the people around you are just opening up as the sexual beings that they are. You are too. There's nothing wrong with sex, and it's nothing to be ashamed about if you think about sex a lot. And it will probably die down some in the next few years.
But if you meant society and the way sex is shown in the media, well...think about it. Have you ever read classic mythology? Norse mythology? The Bible? One Thousand and One Nights? Try flipping through them some time. Those things were written thousands of years ago, some of them even before writing was invented, and atleast half of it is sex. Even the people who tell you not to have sex, or even to think about having sex, are thinking about sex when they tell you that. It's not something new. Humans have ALWAYS thought about sex. It's part of our inborn animal nature, like the way we go into a trance when we watch fire or how we're protective of our children.
Basically, it's not the rest of the world that's "fcked up", it's just you. (Don't take that the wrong way, please! =) If it was me with this problem, I would say "It's just me." So, it was meant to make you feel better. SMILE!)
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One good way to tell whether someone is honest or good would be other people. I don't mean to gossip about them, just find out from their friends or former friends what they're like. If no one has a problem with these people, they're most likely good friends to have. And about sex .. yeah I know what you mean. Don't fall into the trend if you're not ready. Just wait until you think the time is right and let everyone else learn from their mistakes.
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Life would be easier if we could tell which people are good and honest, but unfortunately we cannot. We just have to use our own judgement.
SEX....Well I think sex has always been a big thing, but now it is becoming more of an open thing. And the thing we have to blame for that is the wonderful media. They have put into people's minds that sex is good, and you are not cool if you don't have sex. So if the media says to have sex, people are going to. That is unfortunately how the world works.
Yes it is so fucked up.
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use good judgement. if they strike you as a honest and good person, try and talk to them and get to know them. then you will know for sure if they are really what you thought when you first met them.
<3 Kays
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Good question. You can only discover whether someone is worthwhile by getting to know them. It's true that many people are both cruel and duplicitous, but many more are truly kind, plus there's the majority of us, who are somewhere in between. But I do believe that there are very many kind people out there- remember that kindness can exist without integrity, but is much more effective with it. As for "everything always being about sex" -believe me, there's no "lately" about it. Without sex, we wouldn't be here. Sex isn't evil in itself- neither is lust. What is bad is when lying and manipulation become involved;sex is the most effective power tool in the world,that's just a basic fact. Face it, know it, and you needn't be afraid of it because you don't have to live by those rules. You have a good heart and mind, and curiosity. That'll be enough to see you through. If you want to discuss these issues further, then drop a question in my inbox.
Lucretia x.
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I cant answer your first question, but I'll give a shot at the 2nd. Everything is about sex because women started letting guys control it! I'm sorry if you had a bf who was a loser and probably dumped you because you wouldnt have sex with him. Has happened to me plenty. You will find someone who really cares about you. They will be happy to spend time with you, not just think about that one thing all the time. Dont give up.
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I'm assuming (which is always dangerous) from your question that you seriously misjudged someone in the character department recently. After a lot of personal mistakes in character judgement, I've concluded a few things:
Really good liars are hard to identify without some time to observe their behavior. Really good liars talk a good talk and are extremely convincing when they're engaging in their craft of verbal deception!It's only through observation of their behavior over time ie: their actions, that dishonesty becomes apparent.
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