Member Since: March 3, 2006
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Last Update: March 11, 2006
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i need 2 find out were i can get help with getting a deposit for renting? (link)
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lol. Find a pimp.
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I used to work out 7 days a week before I got my job at a large superstore. When I first got the job in Novemeber I stopped working out because the job was really tiring. Well at first I was losing weight because the job is quite phsyical and we do a lot of running around.
But Ive noticed in the last month that my jeans are skin tight on me that used to be loose. I don't know why I'm gaining weight, I've even started walking again after work and quit drinking diet pop, I am only drinking water and tea. I'm getting desperate to lose weight because I'm going to be a bridesmaid at the end of April.
Does anyone have any ideas why my weight is ballooning? And how I can lose about 15 pounds before the end of April? (link)
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Your body was accustomed to your workout. That is why you are gaining weight, regardless of what you do. It affects your metabolism. No matter what you eat or drink (as long as you do it in the right portions) your weight will always stay about the same unless your activity changes. I assume you are not obese, which means walking will not help much at all. Going back to working out 7 days a week is your only solution to lose the weight by April.
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how can i tell what people in the world are honest and good?
and why is everything always about sex lately?
its so fckd up.
i rate high. :]
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I cant answer your first question, but I'll give a shot at the 2nd. Everything is about sex because women started letting guys control it! I'm sorry if you had a bf who was a loser and probably dumped you because you wouldnt have sex with him. Has happened to me plenty. You will find someone who really cares about you. They will be happy to spend time with you, not just think about that one thing all the time. Dont give up.
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Im really sorry if this is to long. if you dont want to read it i understand.
I used to want to kill myself. ive never tried but those thoughts came to my mind often i just never took it into action. I have/Had this one friend named katie. Honestly ive always thought she was twofaced but i always thought to give her more chances... just because i thought she could get over her ways... well i was wrong. Before i met katie i had this best friend that ive known for 8 yrs. Her name is cortnie. Recently me and her have been in this big arguments and we have said hateful things. i highly doubt me and her will ever be friends again. Well anyways.... Katie has been cortnies friend for 2 yrs now and they have been hanging out and me and cortnie have been torn apart and we hardly ever hung out during her and katies friend ship. 5 days ago katie and cortnie got in this big argument because cortnie told some one somthing that katie said that she shouldnt of. so katie got mad at her. Katie betted this girl jessica that she wouldnt be friends with cortnie again. Well yesterday katie called me and she still wasnt friends with cortnie and now she is at her house with jessica. Cortnie has one of my hoodies and she hasnt gavin it back. i just asked her where it was and she said that she let some one borrow it. i yelled at her and told her that she wont get hers back unless she gets mine and i told her not to let anyone borrow my stuff. And then jessica got on the phone and said that if i beat up cortnie then she would fight me and i told her i wasnt scared of her. or anyone that was gunna fight me over cortnie... and so on. we got in a big argument. and then in the back ground i heard katie saying stuff. She was supposed to be my friend. and not take anyones side. Sometimes my heart accually hurts. i can feel it. No one ever believes me when i say that. Jessica got on the phone and was calling me fat. and seriously im not fat. i just need some one to talk to. does anyone have any ideas on what can take my mind off all this drama/stress/ and saddness.??
Anything will help me in this situation..
LoVE =`'( (link)
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I know what you mean. It seems like girls are more cruel than boys. I've been through some tough situations with "friends" myself. I have been in alot of fights with girls over nothing. Its jealousy. What can you do to take your mind off of the hurt? Know that you are better than both of those girls and go on to another friend with higher standards. If you want someone to talk to my email is whiteplaciddream@bellsouth.net
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My doctor told me i have depression. And i dont doubt it becuase im always crying and stuff. I dont know why. Like is their something that makes you depressed? Or do you just randomly feel sad about stuff?. And i really need someone to talk to. like i want to go to a physcologist but my Mom doesnt think i need to. i tell her i do and she says i could but we never get to it. idk what to do . (link)
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whiteplaciddream@bellsouth.net
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i have acne prone skin, especially on my forehead and cheeks. i went to the dermatologist and got medication to put on at night and was told to wash my face morning and night with a mild cleanser...i did and my skin started to look great..SO much less acne...but suddenly one day ALL the acne came back (not even kidding..it was literally a day it took)...i'm doing all the same things to my skin so i don't understand what's wrong. any tips? (link)
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I tried proactiv, big mistake. Do you use foundation? If you do there is an almay stay clean that really helps. And believe it or not, st. ives apricot scrub has cleared my face completely, and I have no problem with breakouts even when Im menstrual, (maybe one or two pimples pop up, better than a hundred!). Just get the regular st.ives, no special one. Try that, I hope it works for you. Also, you need to moisturize your face, dont use anything with salycic acid after using the apricot scrub, it will irritate your face and make it red and peel and wont help the breakouts.
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hi please i need help i have school tomorrow, and i used jergans a self tanner before i went to bed yesterday and when i woke up today it was half on my arm and half off all uneven everywhere so i don't know what to do. i placed more tanner on the half that was'nt tanned but i don't think it is working. and my stupid friend put some on my face and you can tell because my eyebrows are darker and stuff. so i don't know what to do to make sure that it looks even .. help
i will rate high to ANY answers promise...
thanx (sorry its so long) (link)
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I know exactly what you are using because I have used it myself. You should exfoliate your skin always when you are using a self tanner to make sure it comes out even and not blotchy and looking like you have a weird disease. Your skin should also be moisturized, I know this is a lotion, but its not a good enough of a lotion. I suggest using palms cocoa butter lotion after showering and waiting an hour before putting on the jergens. Also, you have to make sure you spread it on evenly, which seems like the problem. And when putting it on your face, avoid your eyebrows and eyelids.
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I like this guy who is kind of a teacher at my college. Is there a rule against dating the staff? (link)
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He is not an actual teacher. He is a director. Also, he IS single.
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Anyway, I'm sending you a message saying you can add information to your question instead of adding information in the form of an answer. I'm not certain how important anonymity is to you, but it's important to some people. It's okay though.
As for the counselor background, I can understand that. They can't help unless the person discussed actually wants help, which it seems your brother does not. Regardless, an expert opinion might be worth looking into. What do we do when someone we know and care about has mental problems, but at the same time refuses help or acknowedgement? I think that might be a question only a trained professional who's dealt with it can answer. There's actually a psychologist on this site, though he doesn't update often. This is his column
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=oneman
I would ask him personally, it seems he doesn't often check the pool for problems. (link)
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thanks
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Warning ahead of time, this will be long.
I am 22 years old. My brother is 21. He still lives at home with our mother and I am out on my own in another city and going to college. Things were o.k. between us (somewhat fizzling but still ok) until I moved out, which was this past October. My friend is also his friend and he told her that he thinks I should not be allowed back at the house ever again. Every time I have visited, he locks himself in his room and turns off the light and will not come out to eat or use the bathroom or anything because I am there. My mom and I were having a good time once when I was visiting and when I left he put her through a guilt trip saying how could she just ignore him and have such a good time with me when he was literally sick because I was there, but he wont even answer his door because I am there for anyone.
I am beating myself up trying to figure this out but here is what I know. First of all, I have always been good to my brother and treated him well. I am actually the reason he is friends with my friend. My dad, on the other hand, has sort of ignored him through his childhood, although my mom and dad divorced when he was 10. My dad has payed some of my bills to help me get through school. While he was paying them, my brother asked him for money a couple of times and was turned down because "he didnt have enough". But he has given him money as well. My brother said to me "I think sometimes he cant give me money because he is helping u." I feel especially guilty about this now but I would have to quit school in order to live! I would have to give up my dreams. I think that dad owes it to us both to give us both money but that is a different story. And I told mom to tell him (he wont talk to me) that I would end my relationship with dad for him and he said "what does that have to do with anything?" But then he said it is because of dad in a way. But he also says the whole family abuses him, which is absolutely not true. He says he would be happy to leave and not know any one of us ever again, including mom, who has been nothing but good to him his whole life, who has tried to make things fair for him, who has worried every day for him.
He left with his friend on thanksgiving and didnt spend it with us. He locked himself in his room on Christmas and didnt open his presents for days.
I wrote him a letter trying to reconcile (though I dont know what happened between us). To summarize, I told him how much I cared and worried about him and he could write back saying anything he wanted and I promised not to get mad. I just wanted to know why he hates me. Well, I didnt have his email address so the friend who is both mine and his friend sent it to him, and here was his response:
Okay, you know what? I'm really quite upset at the moment. You have absolutely no business trying to play mediator between Amber and I, regardless of whatever relationship you have with either of us. You know quite well that I want to put all of this behind me, and how much pain I've dealt with in-between. You know how hard I've searched for the motivation to fight my adversity long enough to get the hell out of this miserable hell-hole. However, suddenly trying to bring her back into the picture certainly won't help, and you had no business trying to involve yourself. I don't care what you say about it, either -- you were involving yourself the moment you agreed to send that message, which I won't bother to read. The mere notion that you feel I owe it to Amber to read that message makes your position in all of this quite clear. Don't pretend to be neutral about it -- that won't absolve you of your involvement in this. Not in my eyes...
Moreover, she has no business trying to contact me. She and I have no relationship and, for that matter, anything which could be reconciled. That should have been apparent enough. Regardless of sharing the same blood, it does not matter; I would readily put my entire family out of my life, rather than be forced into suffering by their ongoing nonsense. I don't care what anybody says -- there is no excuse for what I deal with. My family is far, FAR lost to me, and I have no hope of ever reaching out to them. I want to move on, and be done with this for good.
Lastly, I expect you to turn right around and judge me for being such a thoughtless bastard, as you can't stand the thought of me turning my back on my own family. Well, I don't owe any of them shit. Quite frankly, you don't know what goes on in my life, and the years of abuse which I've had to endure from practically everybody. I suggest that you stay far away from this issue, and let me get on with my life in peace. Don't try to convince yourself that this is something which it is not, either. I'm telling you here and now what it is -- abuse. There is no other name for it. I have taken my stand against it, and if Amber can't accept to acknowledge the truth, then she would be better off covering her ears and eyes and living in delusional sollitude.
Let me make something clear: It's over with. Please, leave it alone and do not involve yourself any further. I would prefer never to revisit any of this again.
That was his response to her, not me. He would not even read what I said.
I know I havent been a perfect sister, but he hasnt been a perfect brother either, and I would never expect that of him. I have never, never abused him or his emotions in any way. I have always cared about him very much, and I have always wanted what is best for him. I still do, but part of me is so angry that he couldnt care the same way back. If you need me to tell u anything else, just ask. I am trying to make this short as possible for your sake. I desperately need advice. He wont talk to me and wont read my letters. I dont know what to do. Im afraid the longer this goes on, the worse things will be. (link)
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Well my dad is difficult to explain. And I sometimes just want to hate him because of the resentment my brother has built for him and then aimed at me. Its not just the money, it goes back to when we were very young, and he would get punished for things I did, because I blamed it on him. I know that is not my fault, because I was too young to know better. My mom would punish me if he got punished soon after this, to make things fair, so that didnt last too long. My dad was an alcoholic too. And I know my brother didnt have the best childhood, but you get past that. There is nothing traumatizing that I know has happened to him (except for being bullied at school, again, having nothing to do with me), unless he wont tell anyone. Anyway I dont know. He has been to a counselor much of his life. He is not seeing one now. He asked to see one again and then said he doesnt want to because he doesnt want it on his record. Honestly, I dont think a counselor can help him. If they could, you would think it would have some affect by now.
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