sometimes i jsut dont want to talk, and people notice that im not talking. I dont know waht it is but I just dont wanna open my mouth and its depressing. People always think im sad but i just really would rather not talk, i feel like i dont want people to hear me( which is weird cause ive wanted peopel to hear what i say all my life)
please halp
I so hear you!
I'm the same however I have to warn you this could be bad. If you have no idea why you feel this way, there could be a problem (medical)
You could have manic depression witch is harmless unless you harm yourself or others.
I know you don't want to but talk about it. Writeing onto here was a good choice. It's confidental and you can get questions answered. But it is very impersonal. Try talking to someone you know and trust. And make sure you can blackmail them if they tell(just kiding)(comic relif is my thing)
So think positive be happy and just speak your mind it will help I promise.
Peace out,
DA
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ok so im 15 and never had a boyfriend and thats not what bugs me what bugs me is that im practically incapable of flirting. i just dont get it. i dont know how to tell if a guy is flirting with me or how to flirt back i can comfortably talk to my friends that are guys but if im around someone who i like im just not myself and it bugs me b/c i become kind of uptight and i just want to get this whole flirting thing like everyone else. please help!
Its not that hard U just need some practuse. No one is born knowing how to flirt they observe and follow by example. I do have some helpful hints I wish I had.
1. Smile(it seems dumb but it works wonders)
2. Say hi but like lipping it(no sound) like from a bit of a distance.
3. wave and play with you're hair
4. Look at them and then stop when they look at you (do this only once) Then next time let them see your looking they might get interested.
See if that helps, good luck
Peace out,
DA
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I just got a great new boyfriend. But I'm totally afraid to kiss him because I've never kissed anyone before and everyone's like you'll know how to do and stuff but srsly, I don't know if I go on the top lip, bottom lip, what? I'm so confused. And also, how can I not have bad breath while making out with him? It seems no matter how hard I brush my teeth and stuff I always seem to have bad breath!!! Gum solves the problem but i cant have gum when I make out. Please help, thanks. Love, Chels.
First off take deep breath and relax.
You don't have to know how to kiss when you really want to it will just happen. Sure I've kissed a guy before but the first time I kissed my boyfriend it totally knocked my socks off and he told me he's never kissed anyone before. Look at it from a different perspective you won't be an expert at it right away. Think positive let him teach you what he likes in a kiss and remember every guy is different.
DA
ps
some guys like kissing with gum they think it's sexy.
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I would like teenagers to answer this one,
My daughter is 13. But the clothes she wears are not...happy. She always is sarcastic. She listens to strange, loud music. Is this the fashion these days? Should I let her be?
Let her alone it may be nothing. Is she into painting drawing than it's just an artist thing. They like the look it inspires them to be artistic. If not it may just be cause that is in style. However be observant. Don't be pushy but do you notice she wears long sleaves alot or ristbands? She may be a cutter. Look for missing towels or blood where it shouldn't be. This is serious if you find anything do not approch them about it. Try talking about a "friend" you have that has the same problem. If this is a cry for help she'll fess up abuot it.
Peace out,
DA
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ALRIGHT. I can't take this anymore! I've tried every diet you can do & seen a nutrisionist. For awhile I just ate wayy less and lost about 7 pounds (over summer) but I'm pretty sure it's all back now. I honestly don't know how much I weigh because we don't have a scale, but I'm guessing 170-180. And I'm 5'2. Yeah, hah I'm fat. Before I moved to TEXAS (in third grade) I was never fat, I was reeeally skinny actually, less than normal. Then, I guess all the fat asses in Texas had such an influence on me I decided to become one myself!
Kay, no really, what the hell do I do to lose weight. Give me some exercises that will help, or even a plan of meals per day. Please please please, and make sure it works. I'll follow it exactly as long as it truly works. Thanks.
Do not become an on again off again dieter that will not make you lose weight it may make you gain. My rcemendation is to eat only when your hungrey try to eliminate fast food from your diet all together and like veggies they are low in all trans fats and bad carbs. Try wieght watchers, thats what I'm on. I went from weighing 150 to now 120 and I'm only 5ft tall. Also put a positive spin on it the more you say "I'm sooo fat the more you will be." So chin up smile you're beautiful and thaink positive.:)
Peace Out,
DA
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Alright. I am 17 and ive had sex alot. but the thing is...my parents think im still a virgin. and my brother found out about me and this guy last night. and now hes like holding it against me. i am pretty paranoid cause i mean. he usually doesnt tell on me but sometimes he does. what should i do? come clean or just see what happens?
Okay sad to say were in the same boat well almost. If my brother ever found out I'd go crazy. I know this sounds a little out there but ignore him depending how old he is he may forget all about it. So relax if he does tell come clean and take the exteamly long lecture (what else can they really do)So breath and move on don't stress out it's bad for you ;)
Peace out,
DA
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ok. so this might sound bad...well to me it kind of does. so i've been with my boyfreind for about 6 months. we've done everything. but no sex neither of us want to yet. as much as i love him i keep getting bored...i just feel like everytime we hang out its the same old thing. SO does any one have any ideas on how to spice things up a little bit?
xo
ps. no sex remember...just like things we can do to spice up...the romantic part...and just anything else.
Go skating it's fun and you can always pretend you're not that good and therefor you have opened the fact that he has to help you. So that involves exeptable physical contact.
Peace Out,
DA
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My bf moved to another state for a job. We were still together when he left. He hasnt contacted me in 5 months, and I'm so tired of waiting around for him. I think he's been completely selfish not contacting me. I've finally come to the heartbreaking realization that it's over.
My question is how can I get over him so I can move on with my life? Everyone tells me I'm a pretty girl and can find another bf very easily.
The problem is I would feel really guilty if I started dating someone without letting my bf know. I need some sort of closure, but I have no way of contacting him because he shut off his cell and everytime I email him they get returned. Does anyone have any ideas?
Okay I know this will go against all the other advice you've recieved. But contact him, or at least try. This is the voice of expereance speaking to you. Last year my BF stopped calling me and seeing me. I tried everything to get a hold of him. But it was like he just vanished. All my friends convinced me to move on and I did. A few months ago I got a really sad e-mail. It was my BF(ex by then) He told me he loved me and was sorry he left me with no explanation. His sister who lived in the States had killed herself. He went with his parents to win custudy of his sister's kids. I've never felt so bad in my life. So my advice is find out why he hasn't contacted you hey he might have a good reason.
Peace out,
DA
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ok so my boyfreind is just getting back from up north for like two weeks and i really want to do something special for him. but i dont know what to do.
any one have and good/cute ideas?
Do something he can teach you. Guys like to be good at something. Example if you go skating he can hold your hand or around your waist. (phisical contact that is completly exceptable.)
DA
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17/f
ok well i was dateing this guy and he ended up joining the army and he told me he loved me and would never ever forget about me well last christmas he came down to see me and he gave me his cell # so i called him a few days ago because i had not talked to him for like 2 weeks and he did not answer so i text him and he text me back and said who is this so i said it was me and he said oh u dose that mean he dose not like me any more because i think i love him and i know he loves or loved me because befor he left he gave me a ring and told me when we get back we would get marryed but now he wont even talk to me what should i do i mean ever since we have not talked i feel like i lost a part of me what should i do
Okay this guy is in the army so cut him a little slack. I'm sure he's thinking of you and really does love you. But he's got other things on his mind. And I don't mean to scare you but the army changes people.
DA
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i am 15/f ive always known my mom has been doin drugs cuz shes a friggen mess... ive began to hate ehr lately, my dad got mad when she came home at 4 the other night when he already left for work.. yelled at her
i cant be her anymore she aggirvates me to the max , thinks im stupid and leaves coc on the table when i walk in and jumps to put her hand ove rin like im fuckin stupid
i cannot be here i want to leave, my dads at my vacation house now and i just dont want to be around here anymore
what can i do?
If your Mom covers it when you come in she actually wants you to see it. She's in her own way screaming for help. Try to get your family together and form and intervention get her into a clinic and you never know she may have had a hard childhood.
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ok well there where these two boys in my gym class and they where cute but i never thought anything of it, until they where being stupid and started screaming (talking loudly) saying ohhh he thinks your cute and stuff so i;m like whatever.. then one of the kids nick ended up being in my cooking class and i thought hey hes cute and stuff. so i told my friend who knows him to tell him that i thought he was cute and she did today.. he turned to his friend matt and started to like snicker not rudly i guess but like oh we knew she thought i was cute already. i want to die (not literally). he mad me so mad so i told my friend kiki that i was going to give him dirty looks in cooking and shes like no you should'nt do that cuzz he was'nt being mean bout it. i dont know what to do. should i ignore he exists and start to like someone else, give him dirry looks?? i have no idea what to do but he mad me fell like crap..
thanxxx for reading this loooooong thing i appreciate ANY answers!! :)
This guy is a total jerk!
he doesn't deserve you, you can do way better. He took such an imature angle to his information.
Don't give him Dirty looks that would be sinking to his levels however do find another crush.
DA
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Ahh, a weird subject, I know...
Okay... Well, I have a friend (Friend1) and we're pretty close. We tell each other a lot of things, and he's really nice. I have another friend (Friend2). He's such a good friend to me and to almost everyone... I really like him (I'm not sure if he knows, but I doubt he does.), but he's going out with another girl. Friend1 is really in love with that girl... and he told me that she said she likes him a lot as well. I got really confused at this. I talked to Friend1 about how I felt about Friend2 and he told me that we should try to break them up... but I'm WAY against that. It seems like Friend1 likes that girl more than Friend2 does at times. I really don't want to get involved with their relationship. I'm always hearing how that girl is cheating on Friend2 with four or five other guys... Sometimes, I don't even think that's possible, but I believe it... mostly because who I'm hearing this from wouldn't lie to me about these kind of things. I don't want to say anything to Friend1 but I think that he's really interefering with their relationship and that that girl is cheating on Friend2 because I'm afraid that he'll get mad at me. I hate that Friend2 is so clueless and doesn't believe anything but I know I can't change that. I never talk to him about his girlfriend and the whole cheating situation because I'm afraid that he'll get mad at me also... but since we're really good friends, I figure that I should tell him that it's all true. When we talk, he's always making me smile and laugh. He's always asking me if I hate him... and if I love him. At one point when we were talking on AIM, he asked me if I'd love him forever, and I wasn't sure if he was joking or not so I just said, "Sure..." and he began sending me all these happy smiley faces. It feels like he likes me at times but I'm not sure. Ahh... I'm so confused.
Don't get involved!
If the guy you like ever finds out you had anything to do with his break up he'll avoid you
the chances of you gettting together after that are extreamly slim. If you do get together he'll never completly trust you. Us your head! Don't be stupid!
DA
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Im a guy, me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up(she broke up with me, said she needed some time off)...anyways its been over 2 months and all I do is think about her, i miss her so much, and even though we still hang out and talk on the phone, i feel alone. I wonder if maybe i should go and date other girls because i seriously can no longer take the emptiness in my heart, i love her so much and wanna be back with her, however, i dont know exactly what plans she has. I have asked her if she sees us getting back together and her answer is always the same " i cannot answer that, cause i dont know?"
What am i supossed to do here, in one hand i love her and miss her so much, and i can continue feeling empty while waiting for her to come back to me, but on the other hand, i dont know if we will ever get back together, so maybe im getting my hopes up too high, all i know is that the emptiness and despair i feel everyday cannot be good for my health, what should i do?
I've been there last year. This guy totally ignored me after we broke up. I used to fill my "emptyness" with activitys like sports and writeing. Don't rush into relationships it's a big mistake. You have to fill that space with you. I know that it sounds stupid, but it's true. If you go through a seris of little relationships that mean little to you. You'll end up hurting yourself more and ruining potental realtionships and friendships in the future. Stop asking your EX about the past relationship the more you ask the more she'll think It's a bad idea. So lay low for a while and let yourself heal.
DA
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my girlfriend thinks that im too innocent, how could i change? I hardly know any sexual slang,ect.
Too Inocent,
Look if your girlfriend thinks your too inocent thats her issue. I'm sure your a really nice person you don't need to know all this sexual slang. Just be you don't change unless it's for you not anyone else. Hey in my books individuality is all that counts.So Be yourself.
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My toes on my right most of the time, and some times left, feet get numb alot, even when its not cold! & I dont know what could be causing it. I take concerta (ritalin) for my narcolepsy problem, but ive been getting this for a couple months now (the toe numbness)..so does anyone have any idea what could be causing this? Im also 16/f and i'm always under stress b/c of family and school problems and such but i dont think that could be it? Ideas?! Thanks!
Hey,
I'm on the same meds as you there are many different side affects to it. I've had leg numbness My doctor found my dosage was too strong.
Try talking to your doctor or Tell your parents who knows some asprin might do the trick.
DA
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