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Emptiness in my heart
Im a guy, me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up(she broke up with me, said she needed some time off)...anyways its been over 2 months and all I do is think about her, i miss her so much, and even though we still hang out and talk on the phone, i feel alone. I wonder if maybe i should go and date other girls because i seriously can no longer take the emptiness in my heart, i love her so much and wanna be back with her, however, i dont know exactly what plans she has. I have asked her if she sees us getting back together and her answer is always the same " i cannot answer that, cause i dont know?"
What am i supossed to do here, in one hand i love her and miss her so much, and i can continue feeling empty while waiting for her to come back to me, but on the other hand, i dont know if we will ever get back together, so maybe im getting my hopes up too high, all i know is that the emptiness and despair i feel everyday cannot be good for my health, what should i do?
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If she doesn't know if she wants to get back with you, I think you should find someone else. Whhy should you wait for her to decided your future? Look and see if there are any other girls and if she decides she wants to be with you, you can decide then whether you'd rather go out with her or someone new.
hope you find happiness soon...
---->Maureen
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I really sympathise with you, since I'm going through a rather similar situation myself. My only advice to you (and I warn you, it sounds trite) is to throw yourself into as many activities as you can:in short, to distract yourself. Don't think about dating other girls- at this early stage, it won't work and you'll just rebound on them, which does noone any good. You have to give yourself time and space to grieve-feel your pain, feel it and feel it and feel it until you can feel it no more, which is the point at which you have to start doing other things.Don't just listen to music, write it, play it. Take up a sport, if you don't play one already.On the other hand,don't force yourself out if you feel bad-sleep is a great comfort.
You must try to assume that you guys won't get back together:that way, you're in a win/win; if you don't then you know the worst, which hopefully in a bit if time won't seem so bad after all. If you do, your relationship will have been strenghtened by the fact that you gave her some space. Which brings me to my next point;if it is humanly possible, don't call her. I know that it's hard, and that you're longing to hear her voice, but don't do it. She'll respect you far more, and remember you with more love, if you don't turn clingy on her. Don't keep asking her if you'll get back together. Her "I don't know" means one of two things: either she genuinely doesn't know(in which case your plauging her is unlikely to make her decide in your favour) or she means "no" and is just trying to let you down lightly. In which case you need to move on. Don't think I don't know how difficult all this is-as I say, I've been there. All I know is that you'll look back on this situation with more self respect, and feel more peaceful, if you let her go with a good grace. People move on, but love is never wasted.
Take care, and good luck.
Lucretia x.
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It sounds like you need some time to heal. I wouldn't suggest jumping right into another relationship. In my experience, rebound relationships rarely work. Once you're comfortable with your feelings, then I would start dating again. Yes, she might change her mind and come back. However, you don't want to wait forever on the chance she might come back. You might miss out on your Ms. Right because you were waiting on the wrong one.
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As hard as it is, you should move on and make friends/dates with new people. You WILL find someone you like just as much if not more, it just takes some time to let the hurt wear off. I'm a girl and usually when we're done with someone, we're done and there's no going back.
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see new people. live life. if she decides she wants you back she'll let you know
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In a situation like this, follow your heart. If you are determined to be with her, then you do ANYTHING in your power to get back with her...but if you think you should just have a little time away to just give her space, then just let her have her space...
If you ever get lonely or just want to chat, puddycat11@hotmail.com
x Steph x
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I've been there last year. This guy totally ignored me after we broke up. I used to fill my "emptyness" with activitys like sports and writeing. Don't rush into relationships it's a big mistake. You have to fill that space with you. I know that it sounds stupid, but it's true. If you go through a seris of little relationships that mean little to you. You'll end up hurting yourself more and ruining potental realtionships and friendships in the future. Stop asking your EX about the past relationship the more you ask the more she'll think It's a bad idea. So lay low for a while and let yourself heal.
DA
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You can't spend you life waiting around for her to decide your future for you. Go out and find yourself a girl who wants to spend time with you.
You may get back together sometime in the future or you may find someone even better. She had her shot...time to give someone else a chance to make you happy!
Good luck. :)
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