Susan
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Website: ADVICE FROM SUSAN
E-mail: wise--susan@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
AIM: wise20ne
Member Since: March 2, 2006
Answers: 14
Last Update: May 4, 2006
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Okay, I have this problem which at school a guy likes me. He is in at least 6 of my classes. He always want to be my partner, every time when the teacher says to "pair up." My friends one time joked that He was going to ask me out, and get married. I'm sorry if this is to complicated for you. Anyways, 3 girls and 1 boy joked that we should go out, a lot, get married, and have a baby. I do like him, he does like me, but only as a friend, but I like more than that. . . Though, I am afraid to ask him out; besides, he use to hang out with a lot of girls, due to his schedule. . . He always stares at that part, and pokes me in the shoulder to many times. He also comes to my "area space" and one time wanted to grab it. I don't know what to do. Also, I have a dream that I was going out with him, and that he was trying to have sex with me.
~Cali Girl (link)
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wow.
well, this is what i have to say. Talk to him. seriously. Ask him if he is serious and if he REALLY likes you. After all, he takes interests like normal guys do *cough*. If he...
says YES: talk to him more. Be interested and he if he is interested as well. This might work! [[and if it does, tell me! Best wishes!]]
says NO: Drop him. Fast. No joking in serious conversations, boy. Tell him that you liked him but now you now he doesn't. Let him feel the pain!
Dreaming of "doing it" with a guy is normal, btw. That just means you like him physically. =) anyways..I hope this helps! Tell me what happened later!
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I left you the compliment.
If you guessed I'm ur BFF, ur right!
(link)
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=D i know who you are!
gUeSsInG gAmE =)!
well, i always like a compliment or 2.
it keeps me running!
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16/f
omg i have a problem
k....i am so confused
my friend just asked if I could go with her to the concert
it is on Monday
I really like my friend and so i don't wanna dissappoint her
but my boyfriend said that he wanted to go out with me on Monday (he works on every other day) to a romantic outing
what do i do? i can't go to both...the concert lasts all day and so does the outing!!!
-ur secret friend!! (u don't kno me!)
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Alrighty...
This is difficult. VERY difficult. But here is what I am going to say.
Think about which person has known you the longest. The one that has known you the longest probably will be the most flexible. That is an option.
Also, if I were you, this is what I would do. Tell your friend that your boyfriend has made plans the same day as well. Spend the morning with her, and the "romantic evening" with your boyfriend. Also, explain the situation to your boyfriend.
As I always say, the people that really love you will continue to love you no matter what you do!
~Susan~
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Hi Susan-
I love reading your advice column! (And seeing the way YOU think. I have an interest in psychology)
-mysterious-one
(im not mysterios_person33. but u kno me) (link)
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I think i know who you are...
=D
Anyways, THANKS SO MUCH FOR THE COMPLIMENT!!!
It helps when people just say good job or something like that. It makes me happy!
~Susan~
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There's a boy at school. He was singing a song from the movie High School Musical, "We're all in this Together" which has two parts which are one boy and one girl. He was singin the boy part and then he stopped and told me to sing the girl part. (recently he broke up with me) what does that all mean? oh yeah im a girl and 12 years old (link)
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I see your predicament. However, I can help you. Of course, as I have stated before, I AM NO RELATIONSHIP EXPERT. But, I do know a thing or two.
Anyways, enough of that "legal" stuff.
Men are very weird. While women will grieve overa breakup and yet keep quiet about it or nag on...men will wake you up at 3 am two months later to tell you that they are sorry.
If I were you, I would play along with this "relationship". After all, he still might like you. (Oh yeah, of course he does) Hang around with him and see how he reacts. If he has a negative response, leave him high and dry. If he takes a genuine interest, continue on. Wait until he fnially takes initiative and then let him lead on. ...(who knows how long that will take..)
There you go! Hope this helps!
~Susan~
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I think that I like my best friend, he's cute, sweet and flirts with me all the time! I don't know i should tell him my feelings though. By the way I love in Alabama! Cool webpage!
-Alabama Girls are best! (link)
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Wow, Alabama! *smiles*
Okay, I am not the relationship expert, but I will give you my best advice. First of all, ask yourself a couple of things:
1. When he talks to you, is it playfully or dreamily?
2. Does he seem like the type to just play around or get serious?
3. Are both of you at the age of just friends, boy friend or girl friend, or engagement?
Think about your choices.
^_^ thank you for the compliment!!!!
Here's to you, Alabama girl!
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By the way, this is the same person that had the "MY best friend likes me thingie" ODn't get me wrong, I DON'T like him as more than a friend K? (link)
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okay...
ask him how he feels. Go with the "we are friends, right?" and do the rest of the stuff. Don't be afraid of being too forward. Please, if he gets offended, then you know you two are not friends! A friend doesn't care what the other says is wrong.
But besides that....what do YOU want him to think?
Think about that...and go with an appropriate answer.
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Ok, me and my girlfriend were celebrating our 7 month anniversary and I accidentally made her pregnant and she is considering abortion...what do I do? I go to LHS (link)
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Wow, "accidentally"????
I'm sorry but there is no such thing...
Well, abortion is a bit too touchy. Nowadays, abortion may even become illegal. But please, don't abort the baby. Ask your counselor or a trusted parent (preferably yours).
Second, WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU THINK YOU ARE DOING?!?! You have ruined her life, by making that mistake. You need to consider how she feels about this and make sure she is okay. For a woman, this is especially hard. Take care of this situation with a trusted person. And for goodness sake don't do it again until BOTH of you are ready!
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Dear Susan,
There is a certain friend of mine at school that other people apparently think like me. Two people have asked if we were bf and gf and three people said we should "go out". I think that he might like me b/c.
1)He always is my partner in science.
2)HE is always in my group in english.
3)He always calls me "stupid" (jokingly)
4)Sometimes in class, I see him stare at me.
5)He seems a bit too interseted in my secret admirer notes.
6)He always pokes me.
SO yeah... We both know who I am so ok...
Sicerley,
U know me silly! (link)
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Hm....
This could go either way...
My suggestion is be laid back about this. Being too forward in relationships can be a bad thing! Let him come forward. Of course, all males have a tendency to be shy (heehee) so watch him for a few days. If he takes an interest in you, ask him if you two are "friends". I fhe says "yes" ask him if you two are more than that, see what he answers. Hope this helps!
~Susan~
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Well, there have been many things going on at school lately and I really like this guy. One of my friends continues to give me advice, saying that I should stay away from certain guys and looks at me wierd when I talk about guys. The guy is very nice and doesn't do anything bad to me. But I also have guy friends and she constantly tells me why they are bad and that I shouldn't hang out with them. She also gives me advice on how to CONTROL myself in public. How can I get this friend off my back?
Unknown (link)
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Hm.. my suggestion is tell her that she is a valuable friend to you. Sometimesthey are just afraid that you will get hurt. Tell her also that she is a good friend, and you are too. Tell her that because you are a good friend you want her not to be stressed about you. Tell her that you are fine and can make your own choices. Control is something within, not by advice! Tell her that...
~Susan~
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At school I am known as an ultimate genius...and everyone sees me and thinks I am nothing but a big brain! How do I get people to see past my IQ and see the true person inside? (Also the few people who do get past my IQ think I am fat...which I am...so what do I do??) (link)
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Hm.. I understand your situation. When you make a mistake, laugh it off instead of quickly correcting it. Be more relaxed, and more friendly. Don't be afraid of being too forward with making friends. Also those "friends" of yours aren't your friends....a true friend looks past weight!
~Susan~
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k
I have a big problem
I have a friend but I am starting to like her.
What do i do? (link)
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um not enough information!
~Susan~
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i am 5 yers old my friend haytes me wat du i du?
frend pleese (link)
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Five years old? Wow, you are quite young! Keep in mind that you will always be growing up, making and losing friends. Start up a conversation and explain the "bad things" that happened and tell how we can "patch things up". Go slow and be patient!
~Susan~
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Okay my aunt is coming over for Spring Break. She is repeatedly calling me "little honey baby" and "aquirt". She still thinks I am a baby! I am actually 14. I asked her stop, but she just laughed at me....I even asked my parents but they said that it was my aunt and that I should be nice. What should I do?
Not a Baby in Texas (link)
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Hm...obviously your aunt has no consideration for you. I suggest calmly talking to your aunt and expressing your age and how it is NOT normal to be called a baby. Also explain that you are still her niece/nephew. But you should not be treated LIKE a baby or be referred to that. Also consult your parents about the same issue. it is important to give your opinion now that you are growing up!
~Susan~
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