About lucretia
I have been on this site a little while now, and while I have never been one of its more prolific columnists, I do read a helluva lot more questions than I answer. The reason for this is that I feel that a lot of the questions are very similar, so I tend to pick the better worded and/or more interesting ones among them:plus I without fail will answer anything you care to drop in my inbox. But for those of you whose questions I do not specifically address, here are my top five tips to make the world(and advicenators, which is after all the hub of the universe) a better place:
Enjoy!
1)You will generally be happier if you are not
constantly taking your emotional temperature. So much stress is placed these days on FEELING, that people forget that the way to FEEL happy is to DO. So get over yourself and take up skateboarding, drumming(which I highly recommend) "mumblety-peg, if that's where your heart lies". Whatever it is though, just get on with it and you'll be allright.
2) If s/he says "you're too good for me", then s/he isn't interested. End of story.
3)Honour thy father and thy mother, unless they're actually beating the crap out of you, in which case you need to call on outside agents to mediate.In all other cases though, take it easy on your folks-you won't regret it later in life.
4)In 90% of cases, cheating is unaccepatable and inexcusable. If you think that your partner is part of the 10% (or whatever random minority)of excusable cheaters, then ask yourself why. Is it because you're such hell to live with that it's a miracle that anyone would date you, let alone stay faithful? If it is , then you have one of two problems; you either have a personality disorder which makes you undateable, or you have such low self esteem that you believe yourself undateable. In either case, you need help, so go to a counselor, therapist, doctor, whatever, just sort it out.
5) Read self-help books. Just take them with a pinch of salt. Seriously, they make great reading, and can give remarkably sound advice, but you must not believe every word they say, or you will very possibly end up resembling , if not actually becoming , a speed freaked zombie wearing day-glo juicy couture. By self help books, I mean any thing which gives you x number of rules to live by, and suggests that the key to fulfillment lies within these rule(a bit like I'm doing now-book my '07 convention early to avoid disappointment.10% discount for advicenators columnists).Books to approach with caution include "The Rules" and the "Surrendered" series by Laura Doyle. But the jewel in the self help crown has to be the beautiful "The Bitch Rules" by Elizabeth Wurtzel. If you can read this book and not smile, laugh, and just feel unfettered joy at living, you are either the aforementioned zombie, or you are living in some banana republic. In either case, you are beyond my help,but I feel you.
Take care!
Lucretia
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E-mail: lucrece_13@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Glasgow
Occupation: Student
Age: 22
Member Since: September 9, 2005
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Last Update: August 29, 2006
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yeah. sorry, I didn't realize I spelt it wrong until it was on the seach pages. I'm sorry. But I was curious where she went. She was like everywhere && then she dissapeared. Thanks for humoring me.
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umm ok..I hope he doesnt really like me. It'll be disastrous if he does. Thanks for you feedback anyway, at least I get to see it from another perspective. I do appreciate it=)
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awesome advice, and so true.
i think you're coo :o) ♥
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I appreciate the brutal honesty. I wish I could tell you the story from beginning to end so you will see I'm not as bad as it sound but you are right I was selfish and shallow. Thank you sooooo much.
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I'll see ya soon! Thanks!
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You are right, thanks for pointing out it is a gift..how do we know if they got the advice or not? Keep up the good work.
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Thank you. <333
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thank you for caring so much! ♥ you seem to be a really strong person.
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thank you so much you have no idea how much that helped
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Thank you so much. That was really great advice. <3
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wow girl you're AWESOME ♥ has anyone ever told you - you should become a writer?!!
Good luck and thanx for caring enough to write that much ;) ♥
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thanks! i think ima do that. like hang out with him and tell him how i feel and everything
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I'm concerned because he is a good friend of mine. We are not sexually involved, I just have a really close friendship with him. I just hate seeing the way this woman is slowly destroying him. But thanks anyways.
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Thanks, this helps a lot.
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Concise and reliable as always, thank you so much :)
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I actually kinda know him. He's not like that to my knowledge, but I will look into his rep a little more. And it is extremely flattering...but that's not all. Thanks so much.
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thanks a lot :-)
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Thankyou for giving such kind and thoughtful advice. I hope he's not stringing me along, but I'll take your advice and be careful. Once again, thankyou!
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Thankyou, I really liked the advice you gave.
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Hey... That was what I was planning to do. =) You just kind of worded it a bit better. Heh. Well, thank you so much for your advice. I just wanted to hear someone else's opinion, and I think you're right so thanks again. `xoxo
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thank you and happy valentines day too : )
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Thanks for taking the time to answer my question.
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I think the bathroom habits, may have been something i was just never taught. Im in a house with my mom & dad. So i kinda just guess i was never taught them,sad but true.
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Thanks =)
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thank so much you awesome that helped a lot
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Thanks for answering, I'll keep you posted!
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thank you soo much u give awesome advice and u have opened up my eyes
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thanx<33
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Wow thank you so much!
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thanks so much! and yes, me and "k" are 14 and "m" is 13. that really helps! <3 <3
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you gave the best lol thanks
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thank you ♥
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thanks for being serious. you really helped.
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Thanks!
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thanks thanks and more thanks
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You definitellly deserve a 5!
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I know some things, but I obviously don't know enough. I enjoy helping people when I can, but sometimes it has to go both ways.
If you look, you will see a columnist named SilentOne with 101 answers has added you to his favourites. I wonder who that could be.
Thank you for your answer. It was one of those long ones which really takes the question in, and gives it back better.
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thanks <3 && for the breakup; It was sort of a combination of us. But I really didnt wanna break up.
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Thanks!
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Your weird
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I doubt that's what it is, we're not breaking up, or opening our relationship. Thank you for taking the time to answer this. It put a lot into perspective for me. =)
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thanks so much. im in tears right now but your advice helps soo much.
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His name ain't Joe!
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Thank you.
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<3
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omg i will try
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Well, because making out isn't all we do. Thanks.
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