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OMG..I THINK I HAVE TO PICK SIDES!!
Omg please help me you guys. This is gonna be kinda long ,but im just really confused!
Okay. Here goes :
I have friends that are twins(Kateri&Teresa). And i have another friend named Emily. Emily goes to highskool and she's a freshman.So am i. and Kateria & Teresa are in 8th grade but they should be a freshman but w/e thats not the point. Okay Me and Emily haven't seen each other in sucha long time but we hung out on Friday with out friends.
Emily and the Twins were really close when we were all in skool 2gether .Like really close,almost like best friends. Now when me and emily hung out on friday i was totally happy to see her since i haven't seen her because she goes to a different highskool than me. And we started talkin about the twins. And Emily was like "I don't really like the twins anymore." and i go oh my god why not you guys are like best friends. and emily was like "i kno but there just soo...clingy" and i was like in shock.
Me and the twins totally talk still and i luv em. And they started talkin about how emily was acting really weird and stuff..Like everytime they invited her to hang out or something emily would just be like "Well i don't really have time.."
Now i don't wanna go behind emily's back and just tell the twins. Becuase it was really good to see emily and i totally missed her. But i don't want to NOT tell the twins because im afraid that they'll tell Emily that i told them and i don't wanna hurt them either. Im just soo confused and omg its like irritating!! My question is should i tell the twins what emily said and go behind emily's back? Or should i just not tell the twins. Oh my god im super sorry that it is soo long but im soo confused! i don't wanna hurt anybody because i feel so bad!! and i don't wanna start drama!! =( please help!!
PLEASE!! <33 Thanks a lot and im sorry if its soo confusing!!
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I would personally say DO NOT tell them. If she told you behind their backs, then she probably doesn't want them to know. Just talk to Emily and tell her that if she doesn't like them she needs to explain it to them because she's hurting their feelings. Hopefully it works out!
♥ Melissa
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The answer is easy...don't tell the twins. No, you don't have to pick sides. Who said you have to?
So Emily doesn't like the twins, that doesn't mean you have to agree with her. Just let her be. Just because Emily told you that she didn't like them anymore does not mean you need to get into their business and tell the twins. Why should you? If Emily decides to tell the twins, she will, she won't need you to tell them for her. Anyway, since you said the twins said Emily was acting weird they probably figured out (or will soon) that Emily doesn't want to hang out with them. There's no need for you to tell them either way. I mean, you COULD tell the twins that Emily doesn't seem to want to hang out anymore and she's moved on so they get the hint, but you don't have to say Emily thought they were CLINGY, do you see what I mean?
If Emily or the twins ever said something BAD about the other, I think it's time you SHOULD tell because they deserve the right to know. But so far Emily just doesn't like the twins anymore. That happens a lot...friendships grow distant. It's normal. Sad, but normal. She hasn't said anything horrible or hurtful. So if things ever get ugly, yes it's time to tell, but for now nothing has gone bad, so let it be and time will tell.
Hope things work out.
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While you are in a fairly awkward position, that requires a little delicate handling , I think that your basic dilemna "To tell or not to tell" is answered quite easily- "Don't". Because if you do, you run the very real risk of losing the friendship of both Emily and the twins. These middle/highschool friendships can be rather volatile: too often, peacemakers and well-intentioned bearers of bad tidings can end up as the common enemy, the shot messenger.
Your situation is eased considerably by the fact that none of you go to the same school(I assume that the eighth grade is in the junior highschool?).If you were all at the same school, Emily's contempt for the twins would blow up more dramatically and involve you much more directly: as it is, you can , with a little care, keep alive your frienship with all three girls.
Don't tell the twins that Emily said they were clingy- if you must say anything , hint that Emily has made new friends at her new school and is genuinely too busy with them and with her new and heavier courseload to keep up with them. You could even imply that she has also been a little cool with you, though I'd go carefully on that -you don't want to lose your integrity or jepordise your frienship with Emily. Just be as good a friend as you can to all parties and it should all come out in the wash, Sorry for the long answer:your situation is, as you say, confusing. Best of luck.
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