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I have a friend who's family is a friend of my family and they lost their dad today. The doctors gave him 2 hours-2 days on Monday. He died this afternoon.


My parents are over at their house right now and they told me to come when they call. That sould be in like an hour or so.


Well, I'm not sure what I should talk to my friend about. Should I talk about her dad or not?

Well, it would be best if you ask her how she feels, just to show you care. But, I would advise that you talk about her dad, if she wants to talk about it with you, but its still good to show that you care.

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So.....what do you want to be when your older?
-auntM.

check my advicenators account.

Well, im thinking of something like a psyciatrist, a shrink, or a social worker, but I dunno, I have years to decide.

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HI im 12 years old and one of my best friends cuts herself ive been told to tell the guidence councler and stuff but either im nervous or she thinks shell get in trouble do u have any advise of what I can do to help her? thanks
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Well, something you could do is get your friend to join a group or get her into religion.
I want you to think about this; if your friend cuts herself, she could die, whats better, finding your friend dead or your friend getting in trouble? Plus I heard you could get in trouble for not telling people that she cuts herself, its a moral obligation to tell people who can help these kind of things.

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Please only answer this question if you're not mean or a smart aleck, and you're mature. Thanks!

Anyway, I have a friend that I've known for many years. Her parents are going through a divorce. I know she's hurt, and I want to be there for her, but here's the catch.

I've noticed that we're growing apart. She hasn't talked to me for a long time, except for the few times we've talked on AIM, and I started all of those conversations. She hasn't tried talking to me at all, and we haven't talked about the situation, even though she knows that I know about it (She wasn't the one who told me about it). It's been weeks since I've been aware of this.

At first I wanted to give her time, which I have, since I haven't said anything to her about the situation. Now, I'm fed up.
I'm sick of us not talking. She has made no attempt to talk to me, even casually. Like I said, all AIM conversations were started by me. I want to help her, but I can't if she won't say anything to me about it. I just wouldn't feel right starting up a conversation about it because I'm unsure if she is ready to talk about it.

What also irritates me is the fact that we've been friends for so long, and yet she (like I've said) hasn't tried asking for my advice or anything. I feel like I'm not a good friend; like she doesn't feel that she can open up to me because she's embarrassed (or for whatever reason), even though I don't know if that's the case. What I'm saying is that she should know that she can come to me, talk to me and ask for advice, and not be embarrassed.

It makes me sad that I can't be there for my friend, and that she's not talking to me. What should I do? Please help. Thanks so much!

Next time you talk on AIM, tell her that you wanna help her and that you'll be praying for her{unless your agnostic or an atheist} and that you understand what she is going through. Tell her that you dont like the gap in your relationship and that you want to talk to her.
I hope things get better.
--caden--

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16.f...My good guy friend, also on my tennis team with me, started to like me over the summer. He like talked to my bff about me, to find out if I liked him? Atleast that's all she could/would tell me. We went on like 2 dates to a movie a couple months ago but I decided I wasn't that into it. So, it's been a few months and I'm successfully tried to not talk to him as much so not to lead him on or anything. But I just found out that he still likes me hardcore-his friends call me and are like "do you like jared?" UGH it's just really annoying. So, now i really just don't like him in that way and now *partly bc of his friends calling me, who by the way i have never met* well, I just don't know what to do. I thought we had moved passed that but boy was I wrong. What should I do?!

First of all, dont avoid the guy, I know what'll happen bc it has happened to me and it gave me the dark side of my personality. Just walk up to him and tell him that you dont mind being friends as long as he dosn't do anything lovey dovey and tell him to tell his friend to quit calling you. After I have been avoided, I appreciate just being friends with the girl I admire.Hope I helped♥
--Caden--

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ok im in a lot of trouble...here it goes, me, one of my best friends staci and her cousin nick got drunk at a party at her house(were all 13 and this is our first time getting drunk)...her aunt let us drink...so me and nick had like 5,6 straight shots and staci only had like 2. so me and nick were smashed and staci was a lil drunk...we went on stacis trampoline and we finally fell and were just laying there...i dont know i was being weird and was saying shit like"i love you guys, your the best, im glad we did this together." and i looked over at nick and we started hooking up he had his hand on my ass and i didnt mind, i had my hands all over him(not on his dick or anything) and we were making out for a while, my other best friend jessica likes him alot. but i was so drunk to even remeber that. staci finally relized what was going on and pull us off of each other and we were like what are you doing stop..and then she started freaking out and was like i need to call jessica i need to call jessica..and nick was trying to talk to her and i was like nick i love you and he was like yea i love you to..and he looked over and gave me a lil kiss. well jessica came over to stacis house and put me to bed and i fell alseep

this is wat nick said to staci about wat happened
-he said i was ontop of him and he would of stopped but he couldnt(while we were hooking up he kept saying i love u to me and he could of said stop, so that was a lie)
-staic said someone was holding her hands down he said he wasnt(like i said my hands were all over him so his one hand that wasnt on my ass must of been holding her hands down)

so now staci and jessica hate me and they believe what nick says and he was lying and they wont believe me..i cant even look at them any more and i tried to tell them when you get drunk you dont really relize whats going on..and jessica said she asked her sister and her sister said that u do relize whats going on when your drunk im soo mad and upset at the same time..i dont know wat i can say to jessica and staci so they know im sorry and that i was drunk and it wasnt really my fault

You should find a witness that wasnt drunk and have him tell staci and jessica you drank
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You could purpously get caught with another guy
and that'll make them think you dont love nick.
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Ask nick to tell them that you were drunk.

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14/f....i just started high school and have made a lot of new friends...some are popular and some are not. i hang out with the non-popular group every single day at lunch but i always have the other Popular group in the back of my mind. in my heart i know i want to hang out with the popular group not just for the guys or w/e but b/c of the people. easy right? i should hang out with the popular kids if my heart is set on it. WRONG...i kinda, sorta dont want to stop hanging out with the nonpopular kids b/c of their whole group, the guys, friends, etc...but i dont know which group..please help..thanx

Ok, if by the populars you mean teen queens, then i would definatly hang out with the nonpopulars because if you become a teen queen, you will most likely have a rep of being fashionable and hot, but some ppl will think your a biotch. you dont want that to happen do ya? But just thats my opinion. Look in your heart, see who realy are the best friends.
Only you can pick your friends.
--caden--

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I know one of my friends is stealing things from my locker because I saw all of my stuff in her backpack. I don't want to tell. What should I do?

Check your locker and see if anythings missing and if there is, you should tell her that you know and ask her for it back nicely. If she sais no, talk to an adult.

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I`m moving in a few months, and I`m very scared. I've lived in the same house for all my life, gone to schools right next to each other ( the elm. && middle schools are right next to each other ) progressed through each grade with the same familiar faces all around, and hung out doing nothing with my same group of best friends every weekend. I usually hate change, and I do now too. I love my life exactly the way it is, I find myself crying everynight `cause I don't want to move. I am very fortunate though, I`m moving only about 15 minutes away, but I am going to be at a new school / school district. I have one person I know at this new school, However my current school is so full they are redistricting a few neighborhoods to my new school. So I will know some people. I know yall probably think I`m a greedy wimp for being so sad even when I`ll have some friends, but you don't understand. It's been the same way all my life and I love it, I`m afraid of change, afraid of this move, afraid to leave what I love.

- how do I get over this fear ? How can I make the best of my move? How can I be sure my "friends" now won't forget about me when I move ?

Well you could ask your friends for theire AIM, Phone #, ect so you can keep in touch with them and why dont you invite your friends over to your new house sometimes. When you move you can think of it as a new start. The cool thing about moving to a new district is that you can have a clean slate and nobody will know any rumors about you. Think of your move as an adventure.
If you want to make other friends, talk to the peeps and get to know them better. There is this one girl in my language arts class who moved here from Chicago and shes quite the social butterfly. Usualy you will get used to stuff after a while. I bet you will be one of the most popular people in that school. I wish you the best of luck:D

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My friend played a joke on me and I know she was kidding..but I took it too seriously.I yelled at her in class..and then she was trying to talk to me after school but I ignored her and got in my car..I feel so horrible but I'm still mad..What should I do?

Do some things to get the anger out like yelling at your house or pounding your pillows then , the next day, call her up and ask her why she played that joke and if she apologizes then tell her that you feel bad about ignoring her and that you forgive her {if you do}.

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In the 5th grade, I called my friend a biotch because she was being one. The problem was I didn't really know what a biotch was. Then she told her mom and her mom got mad. Now I am going tricker treating with her tonite and she said that her mom was not mad at me anymore. But I am still nervous! What do I do? Should I tell her mom it was all a mistake or should I wait for her mom to bring it up?if she does talk about it, what do I say??? please help me~!!!

i will give a 5 to anyone who trys to answer this 1!!



~m

Just tell her your sorry and that'll make you feel better. Just tell her you were angry and that you didnt know what a you know what was.

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Me and my friend are very close and we have been friends since first grade I get jealous when she hangs out with other people but yet I want to and I do hang out with other people. I feel bad and want to stop being like jealous of her having other friends. Please help me. Oh and I'll rate and give comments.
xoxpamela

you should try hanging out with her and her friends and get to know them better and be in there group and thats what i am trying to do and its working out. I am jealouse of this one guy in my cartoon desg class cause he is friends with these two girls and i hear them talking all the time and i respect boys who are friends with girls. So yeah try hangin with her friends and the jealousy might get to her because youll have two groups of friends :D
Hope this helps♥

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One of my friends think that i have been practicing witchcraft and black magic. She thinks i have become a witch and she keeps scolding me. I told her im not a witch and she keeps lecturing me; What should i do?

You should show her all over your house and show her there is nothing witchy in it and you should show her your locker.If she still doesent believe you , shes probably not that great of a friend. Hope this helps♥

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hey guys.. well pretty soon my friend is having a keg party(drinking) and inviting everyone because her moms going to be out of town that night.. and i want to go but im scared that the cops will come and we all will get busted.. shes done a lot before and never gotten caught by her mom or anything but since its this big of a party im not sure if i should go or not it would be a ton of fun but i dont want to get totally screwed.. so let me know what i should do, thanks...

You shouldnt go!!!!!
If you get drunk and trip or something, it will realy do major harm or death. If you do go dont drink and bring a phone incase of an emergancy.

I learned that people who are lightwieght get affected the most and so do people who hardly ever drinks.

Just becuase tthe party is fun it doesent mean it will be fun the next day. you will get hang overs .

if you dont drink and your there people can be pretty scary when theire drunk.if you do drink
you mightdo something you'll regret like sex.

because its a party the neighbors will most likely call the cops, especialy when the party is filled with drunks.

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13/f
okay,so there's this guy that I like, and I really want him to notice me,but I'm not sure how to do that without making it obvious you know?Please please help give me some ideas!

This is what every1 says, JUST BE YOURSELF.
Try talking to the guy and get to know him and later you'll become friends then lovers.
GOOD LUCK &hearts :-)

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I know this guy. lets call him...joe
we used to be friends, put we*re not close anymore .
tonite he*s going to try drugs
i am completely against this.
what can say to him that can make him change his mind adout trying them?

PLEASE
helppppp!!!!!!!!

you should tell him that drugs can kill him and that no one is immune to drugs.

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